It could have been a big deal if she knew the details of something that was small, like mine, in my case I wanted to stay married for as long as my parents had been 40+ years. My mother died right after I got married, 3 months to be exact. I had a very hard time dealing with losing her, my mother in-law was such a supporting person, but I am sad currently because we lost her also just in the past couple of weeks.I don't know how I would have handled it without her. I had promised my mom to remain married for as long as my dad and mom had been married. I also promised to have one set of children born in wedlock. NO outside off-springs my mother was very serious about that. You see her dad was an International player to the max and had multiple sets even my grandmother had 4 of his children including my mother but my grandfather and grandmother never married. My mom(RIP) did not want multi-sets of grandchildren. I promised her I would do the right thing but she died before my wife and I had our first son. So neither of my sons ever met their grandmother/ my mom. This is why I have only 2 sons and they came from the same mother and I, we all carrying the same last name . The thing that makes me most proud is that I was able to stick to my promise to my mother. I believe that it would have made my mother proudof having her two gtandsons,and one great grandson with the same last name.
Final thoughts!
I really resented my ex-wife for a little while after she filed for the divorce. Because I was obligated to start over with another woman who might have wanted a child or two from our union. But luckily that did not happen, because the women I dated already had children, except one and she could not conceive. Needless to say I remain single to this day.Well it wouldn't happen because I had made a promise to my now dead mother to not have MULTIPLE SETS of children, so "no girls" for the Daniel family up to this point.
Yes I was blessed with 2 sons and now a grandson but no daughters, no baby girls.
I always wanted a daughter but my ex only wanted 2 kids (and we had sons). If any of my sons have a daughter,I may get a grand daughter eventually. I can only hope, because I have no control over that!
To stick to a family plan, is to not put yourself in situations where things or other people messes up your plans. I have 2 sons and neither of them have kids with other women other than my eldest son with his current wife. So whatever example I showed them, may continue! I may have messed up by only staying married to their mother for 25 years, instead of 40+ years, but I did not have an extended family of multiple sets of offsprings for them to have to contend with when I am nolong alive.
