What does she see in this guy? I know He is playing her and will mess up in due time.
Do I even have a change with her here?
Why is she dating This jerk of a guy with a huge ego who told her he usually doesn’t date any woman bigger than a size six, although sometimes he’ll go out with a eight if she’s tall and can pull it off. Then opens the hood of his vintage shiny mustang and tells her the only eight he know will perform like he wants is this V-8 engine.
When you find out you are in a 3-way relationship. Ask yourself the question: "Is this possibly that a 4-way relationship is just waiting to happen?
What about that person who is waiting patiently for the dust to settle.
The notion that another person doesn’t have other options is just fooling oneself.
The energy of the other person might just be attracting a person you are totally unaware of.
When a person seems stuck in a relationship they might just have options they themselves are not aware of… People just don’t know what is happening outside of their control. A woman who thinks she is the outside side-chick may not know that she is the one someone else has been patiently waiting for her to free herself up from the relationship she’s in. Very often the evidence is not staring them in the face. While listening to women talk with other women about their past experience while on an OWN dating show “ Ready to love” I began to understand a few things better.
So which guy will pick the right woman for him out of all of these ladies? Even the ones standing in the back rows can have a shy smile that can grab some dudes attention.
Women still expect men to be lions, where they jump out of the bushes and grab the female out of the pack and talk to her about things that could bring them together. But when the odds are stacked against them because others are also pitching their best possibilities. It seems different if you are not in one of these mixers, then you may have to rely on catching each other’s eye, can be tricky . Guys in the minority know they have chance to make a connection because the number favor the men. Women, in the majority, on the other hand need to see that they have to step up their game and not just be an option. They want to be chosen. When a man chooses one from the beginning, the other women may respect his choice and start making themselves available to other options. But wanting to be the first choice, and not being the first one chosen might still bugs them… Questions like why did he make his choice so early, and over look “me”? Now I’ve got to settle for the next available dude, who may lacks the attributes she saw in the first choice she made. But if a guy can’t make up his mind and “dissed” the woman he didn’t choose, she might “diss” his butt back, if he want to come back around to choosing her, after failing to make the connection, with the woman he thought was ideal for him.
Her relaxed state of mind of waiting for the right energy might come her way…. might just be what he saw but now he has an uphill battle to get over the walls she has put in place as an obstacle course for him to go through. The process could be slow, because she is seeing herself as the option he first ignored.
He checked for you because he felt you were the one who would have his back!
The initial energy drew the two of them together, however they have so little in common.
Her choice of him having an investment bankers style of dress made him the choice however her choice of nail polish is not working aesthetically for him. and she has a need to wear fake hair and too much makeup….. What is she covering up, her scars maybe very deep, requiring a make over daily. In sharp contrast a lady that is calm and satisfied with her status is not in a hurry to jump into another relationship. She possesses that natural look some guys might prefer.
My initial attraction to her is beginning to wear off.
A woman who does not mind being single, has no one to answer to but her dog. Who will not complain if she did not feel like cooking, her dog will get his dry dog food and be happy. She can eat cheese and cracker for supper. Do her yoga. And when she takes a ride on her bike along the shoreline on a weekend. Her dog would be happy to tag along or stay at home and sleep. If she has to work late. Her dog never complains one bit.
“The caged bird may be happy and feels safe, however if the bird escapes, the cage gate should be left open so that the bird can return!”
Hmmm, is my mystery man checking me out from a distance?
He surely most see me holding hands with my sometimes on sometimes off date.
Final thought
Figuring out who might be the ideal match for you need not be all that complicated, unless you make it complicated. Reaching for the star could be what you believe you can handle but that star might be too self promoting, thinking s/he needs a someone who matches their criteria “as all that!”
The notion that “opposite attracts,” is just physical, but emotionally they are not compatible, often. His ego will clash with her need for glamour. So he might look elsewhere for someone less flashy and some one he might be able to have harmony with. Her need to shine will put him in a head space that might have them fighting as the other “still guy waiting” looks on from the shadows, patiently waiting for his turn. She may notice him looking at her with that look, of desire.
