This is how mature men think about establishing healthy relationships. You Attract What You Are!

The following made me think, about a few things. 

A Michael Baisden Commentary: You Attract What You Are!

For some people cheating is a big game! “It was just sex!” they tell you. But cheating is not a game. Some people actually expect you to mean what you say.

  A man's word, or a woman's, is taken seriously by mature adults, and maybe that’s the problem, most people lack maturity. 

If you want to attract healthy people into your world start by getting rid of negative thoughts, gossiping friends, and dream killing associates who are in your life now!

It might also be a good idea to stop having sex with married or emotionally unavailable men and women. And by the way, cheating emotionally with inappropriate flirting and texting is just as bad. Why would the universe deliver a good person into your life when your choices are so toxic? Karma is real!

But the best advice I can give you, if you’re serious about attracting a significant partner is, stop expecting to attract what you are not!

People kill me with their laundry list of what their ideal mate should be, they expect him or her to be intelligent, attractive, physically fit, be financially stable, be compassionate, honest, affectionate, patient, open minded, have a great personality, etc.. But what they neglect to ask themselves is, “Am I bringing to the table the same qualities I’m asking for?”

Ultimately, all we end up attracting in our relationships is a reflection of who we are…or the person we were too lazy and undisciplined to become.

Food For thought!  I echo these thoughts by Micheal Baisden!

I would like to add my two cents. by giving an example... If you love dancing Salsa, someone who knows the steps is  your ideal partner on the dance floor. I would not want to dance with someone who has two left feet and has no rhythm. The old saying : 'opposites attract... 'may sound good in theory but 'opposite values'  is a terrible combo. Just like a dancing partner who steps on your toes! I think this is the most important things you need to establish in a relationship.  Find someone who avoids stepping on your toes!

You must enjoy spending time with someone who likes and loves the same things you do to make it work.

IT'S TIME TO PLAN A NIGHT OUT ON THE TOWN.(mature folks style) Get dressed in BLACK {hers dress} and [his watch.] He just wears a black watch because he wants to make sure he has the right time to pick her up, while she wants to make sure that he only has eyes for her all night long.Fabulous  black dress is all good, but quick and sexy is better long term. But that's just my opinion!

From a mature man's perspective! There's nothing more frustrating than waiting hours for a woman to get ready to go out. I'm not talking about special occasions, but just to make a quick run to the store or hang out for a hot second with friends at an outside cafe.
Yes, we want our women to look their best, but sometimes the coolest thing in the world is to have a woman who can throw on a pair of fitted jeans, a nice blouse or Tank top, pull her hair back into a ponytail and walk out the door! 

Just try and remember what worked in the beginning does  change over time. Remember when you wished the first rose you bought would last forever. But it wilted in a week or less. a golden rose would have lasted  forever, but it does not have any fragrance... 

So try something else original. 

Here is how to Have Zero Regrets

Decisions relating to love bring about more regret than those involving work, a new study finds.
Researchers performed experiments in which more than 500 men and women rated the intensity of life regrets. Across the board, disappointments involving romance or family—ending a relationship, cheating, or not spending enough time with relatives—were consistently rated as more intense than education or career regrets—quitting a job or dropping out of college. In fact, love regrets outnumbered work regrets by more than 2 to 1 in some comparisons.
simple advise: Make Monogamy Hot
Have date nights, have a "honey you are so fine" weekends.
Listen up, workaholics: You’ll feel much worse about forgetting your anniversary than making a mistake at work. Don’t let your regrets fester. Instead, try to do something to fix them, Use the lessons from the past to avoid making the same mistakes the next time a similar situation arises. Regrets can serve to make you a better, wiser person.” Luckily, it takes only a little effort to keep the romance alive.
Three pointers.

1) Step Away from the Phone and Computer.
OK, you can take some advice from someone who knows, head home from work early to be with your partner. But then don't spend the night G-chatting with friends instead of talking with your partner . Relationship happiness decreases as cell-phone usage increases,  Unplug and unwind together and watch something you can talk about after. You don't have to agree that she is just scandalous in her behavior. You just need to have and open mind and listen to your partners point of view.
2) Be More Attentive
When it comes to romance, forget the box of chocolates and long-stem roses. Instead, just say these magic words: “Tell me about your day.” Wives care most about how affectionate and understanding their husbands are.

3) Get Creative (plan a get away)

Another dinner-and-movie date? Yawn, not very orignial. It’s time to spice things up.  The couples that said they were the most bored in year 7 were significantly less satisfied with their relationship 9 years later. Can’t think of any great new ideas?  Let me help you out! One on One dinning in the Caribbean on the beach. the Surf, and some background music might just do the trick.... and she will remember this quick get away, for many years.