How do you become the Side Chick if you where not planning to be one!

You think HE Loves you, but HE Loves you Not!
How delusional are you women when you finally realize that the treatment you have been receiving was not due to his Love for you.

So you pack-up and leave, only to continue the illusion that he wile some how miss you, an d wish that you will return , and feel that he will some how decide to treat you right!

Here are some questions you should asking yourselves:

•  Have you ever felt ignored in a conversation , at a party, with his friends. 
• Have you ever wished you could have a said something, to your so-called man, that would motivate him to treat you the way you deserved or wanted to be treated?
• Have you ever given and account. report for actions , and found that he never really cared enough to discuss much with you? 

If you've had those wishes, and are still wondering if he will miss you to the point where he would feel like he could not live without you?  Then you are hopeless!

Here are few things to think about after you leave..... 

You and him are Never out in public together.

I know his place  may be cozy and comfy where you can let your hair down and watch “Netfix and chill” but the cons to this are, nobody ever sees you out in public. You are not diversifying your experiences together. 

You don’t have to be available every time he calls.

It's understandable sometimes it gets lonely and you have developed feelings for this man. When the phone rings and that favorite photo of him that you have stored by his name appears, your face lights up and butterflies begin to flutter in your belly. 

Develop some hobbies and interests.

When the phone does ring, it would be nice to actually be preoccupied with things you find interesting. The reason for this is two-fold: The first is to develop a level of scarcity so he understands there is life beyond him. But also when you do get to

Share some of your interests and invite him into the mix.

Yes ladies it’s OK to ask a man out on a date or even bring some ideas to the table. Sometimes, you end up at the house because you’ve gotten comfortable and neither of you are bringing your dating A-game.  Think about the memories you would like to create with him and write them down so when he suggests coming over, you can interject with, “ I would actually like to go to dinner or a show tonight.  I have this cute little red dress I have been waiting to wear for you.” Get the drift.