When Being Single Is Not So Great

I finally made it, but who do I share my success with?

The following points were taking out of a book titled: "Strong Women intimate weak Men."
~ Dr. Farrah Gray
My perspective  is written  in Italic below each point..

• When you accomplish something spectacular. Sure it’s great to call mom and pops or your BFF. But it sure would be nice to have your guy to share it with. It’s just not the same – the affection from family and friends can’t compare to that big kiss and warm hug from your man.
But there are also times when being single, well, sucks.
A balance perspective: When spectacular accomplishments are make, sharing it becomes more than just telling others about it... sharing it is sharing your joy and you're finally  able to exhale that you have reached that platform of  success,  and having someone to lean against and feel  how  proud that person is of you and they were able to  be there for you when it all came together  for  you!  

OK this is going to the right time to fine someone
to share my success with 

Another  balance perspective: the above  reads as if only women accomplish great things .. and that women who are single do not have anyone to share their success with. I would like to note that this also applies to a guy who has been putting the pedal to medal and  after hitting pay dirt....comes home to an empty dwelling. In sharp contrast guys may just be waiting to hit it big...before  going  out and find a woman to share it with...(there are plenty of good women willing to share in a man's success)  Women on the other hand  have to be very careful that a new Love interest is not a scammer.     

I'm almost at the top , it's going to be great.

• When you visit your family. They wants to know when you are going to settle down, and most importantly, when you are going to have babies.
A balance perspective: This is a tough one, many successful women have to work twice as hard to become successful.... there are many women now hitting the trail to becoming  entrepreneurs and climbing the ladder of success... Just picture climbing the ladder with a baby in your arms.... I'm sorry to say that it's just your  family members not fully understand what it takes to be successful in today's world.  The window for growth is very small.. as a woman the glass ceiling is not easy to break through. Having the added pressure of having kids without a committed partner that is willing to be her right hand in the parenting area makes it not just tough but almost impossible.....to accomplish    

Strawberry or grapes, Just call it and I feed it to you 

 When you bring home a lot of groceries. Wouldn’t it be nice to yell to your old man and say, “Honey, will you bring in the groceries?” Instead, you have to labor back and forth until you get it all in on your own. By then, your makeup is running and the ice cream has dripped on your new silk blouse.
A balance perspective: OK so he will not only be  willing to carry the heavy stuff....etc. But isn't it  even better if  he prepares you a plate of your favorites and feeds you while you unwind after a long day? Believe me there are men willing to do that...    

• When you are sick. There’s no one to bring you chicken soup, walk the dog, bring you a glass of juice, get your prescription or bring you a box of tissue. It’s awful.
A balance perspective: the great bedside manner of a loving person is always most appreciated.. even if that person is just  a phone call away, because you have not committed to live together, yet. Having someone on speed-dial is always a good thing.  

• When a great movie comes out. We’re not talking about chick flicks. You and your BFFs can handle those. We’re talking about the scary ones you can’t go see without a man to grab on to.
A balance perspective: Oh Lord, this can be painful, ear plugs, long sleeve shirt, padded forearm protectors.... this is just not my idea of a fun evening. but a woman may want to have her a man who is willing to make that sacrifice.  

this was some journey!

• When you see a couple having a super time. It especially hits home when you see an elderly couple walking hand in hand at the park. If you’re in your 30s already, it makes you wonder if you are ever going to find someone to grow old with.

A balance perspective:here is where people need to understand, that the best years a couple has is the amount of years they have to enjoy the fun things, because  they have endured the tough things   over the years and now they  still have their  best years ahead of them. They are smiling knowing that they can deal with anything ahead because they invested in each other.   

• When you accomplish something and you are on your way . Sure it’s great to call all  your BFF(s). But it sure would be a whole lot nicer to have your guy to share it with. It’s just not the same.

A balance perspective: I will quote my long time hero Billy Dee Williams, in the movie Mahogany " success is nothing without  someone you LOVE to share it with!" 

To be successful you must take risk, see what no one else sees, believe in yourself when no one else does and pick yourself up when you’ve been knocked down over... and over...and over again. I know because I’ve been there. And yes, I wanted to quit. But my motto is, you may be smarter than me, more talented than me, but you'll never be more determined than me. That’s my mindset. If you have someone working with you with this same mindset you will make it together.

Alone again, there has to be something better
 than this in my future. 

• When things need fixing or moving. It’s great to have a man around when the DVD player needs to be hooked up or your car is making a gurgling noise. And when you feel like rearranging your place, a man and his friends sure would come in handy.
Meanwhile, enjoy the single life and stay away from Grandma’s house and hope the sink will unclog itself when you pour hair spray down it!

A balance perspective: some guys are  naturally Mr. Fix it, but not all guys  are, so don't expect it from just anyone, Just like guys should not expect all women to be great cooks. If you want that person in your life make sure they know what you expecting from them.