Act like a lady but don't think like a man

I fell for you the moment I saw you! 

(this is just  a dream, I know I will wake soon)

I often wonder How many folks read the book “Act like a lady but think like a man” and got totally confused, thinking that a comedian could give relationship advise that was “Not Tongue in cheek”.

My guess is, too many have thought they would gain some insight that would explain the opposite sex and why behaviors are often gender specific.  Let’s assume that some of what’s in the book is correct. And our actions are often gender specific. By thinking like a man a woman will not behave Naturally like a man... Women who think they can do the things that men do, are often delusional because when “push comes to shove, they can’t do it and still sleep at night, they will be  too worried about the consequences.” Now what am I referring to, exactly? Men can have multiple sex partners on a rotation, men can be in a relationship seperately with each one of the women and have an easy time at it. Conscience free!  But women, unless they are sex workers, have a hard time doing it. Usually it takes a whole lot of soul searching before a woman can do what men can do, as far as having multiple sex partners. Men can emotionally detach themselves from the feelings of having multiple partners and avoid feeling guilty … simple because men put things in boxes in their brains makimg sure these boxes don’t touch or overlap. We can keep our emotions, for each woman seperated.. However Men can not handle being emotionally attached to woman who has him in the sex rotation, with multiple men. Men become possessive when we consider the woman “My woman”. So what’s the difference…. The differences  are that woman can form easier attachment and stay faithful, while men can only become attached after we have fallen in love.. And have bonded with a specific woman. Once a man has bonded with her….. he is not willing to share her,  with another man! Women are often not crazy about sharing either but they will… due to circumstances beyond their control. A woman would shrugg her shoulders and say to her girlfriends “I know he has another woman, but what can I do about it?”    Her girlfriend will tell her: “girl just leave him, and find someone else who  will  be monogimus!” really? It’s simply  not that easy, for women to find someone else just like that. Women who have been “cheated on” will have that emotional resentment burning in them for a very long periods of time. Every new man she meets becomes “that guy( who will most likely in her mind  cheat on her … even if he is not going to” Trust once broken will take a long time to be regained. 

Now you might ask isn’t it the same way for men also? Yeah but it does not happen the same way. Men think that women will not cheat easily, where as women feel  men will cheat easier men can do it like just rolling the dice in a crap game. If he rolls a 7 he will roll again. Again and again until he  loses  all that he has. SMDH. You need to learn when to quite gambling…. but it’s hard to do when you are on a roll and become addicted. Variety is sometimes the spice that some men crave. Where as women do not crave variety on that same level. This is the major difference.

 I have seen women who are happy in relationships admire other men. But will not entertain the possibility of getting with that man she admires, because she is in a relationship that satisfies most of her needs. It will take a whole lot for her to stepout and cheat on her man. Once we understand that “Women can NOT think like a man and still act like a lady” we will get the full picture. 

    

We simply  can NOT think alike!