She is Tall. tanned and a Tantalizing Lady.
This description has me picturing a certain type a lady.
I have seen women like this and I felt that my turn will come if I make her aware that I was available.
Ladies that know they have it together
Why are most women not attracted to really intelligent men?
In prehistoric times, where our sexual behavious still very much originate, men were generally hunter/gatherer types. Whilst women were heavily protected in central society to ensure the continuity of our species. The reason for this is, in part, due to the fact that women are born hypoagent, whilest men are hyperagent. This is precisely why the law of attraction, for most species, assigns males the role of “competitor" and females the role of “selector". Since the very beginnings of humanity, sexual selection powers have lied very much in the firm grip of females. Females have “Hypergamous” instincts, which means they target their sexual preferences towards the highest status available men (in relation to the social hierarchy). Beyond that, women also all share the same intrinsic value as “breeders”. This is how they were able to assume a state of protection in prehistoric villages. However, males remained largely expendable to women and other males. In these times men could be taken down a valley and beaten to a bloody pulp for even challenging a woman.
able to assume a state of protection in prehistoric villages. However, males remained largely expendable to women and other males. In these times men could be taken down a valley and beaten to a bloody pulp for even challenging a woman.
To answer your question, the reason “intelligence” is undesirable, is due to a females need to outsource risk to a man (so that it might be easier for her in undertaking pregnancy and motherhood). This requires attraction to a trait called the “Willingness to Emote”. The “Willingness to Emote” is found, to a greater extent, in men with lower levels of intelligence. On the other hand, in a prehistoric environment, higher levels of intelligence were associated primarily with the trait “Introspection”. This essentially means ‘thinking before you act’ to reduce risk. It is therefore much easier to outsource risks and provision to a less intelligent man who will 'act before they think'. Women are the proprietors of sexual selection and have assumed this power through a biological function known as “automatic own group preference “. This means they prefer to associate with other women socially, and adhere to ideas that primarily serve women above men.
In summary, “intelligence” is not a sexually desirable trait, because through sexual selection women are aiming to achieve maximum benefits. They achieve this by exploiting the “willingness to emote” (acting without thinking), and social status (material wealth) of men. The top answer, which indeed was very feminist suggested that “feminist views” helps a man to be attractive. Though I agree that men holding feminist views is not especially “intelligent” of them. On the contrary, its men who could plausibly display a logical opposition to feminism that women would inevitably remove from the selection process.
Essentially, a woman will not typically select a man who has autonomy over his own beliefs regarding women. Or is intelligent enough to avoid the manipulation of their carnal instincts in the favor of female interest. Intelligent men ARE NOT attractive to women per se. Rather intelligent men, with high status and willingness to be manipulated into taking on additional risks on behalf of a woman, ARE. This is fundamental human evolutionary theory. Without an ability to provide for a woman, a man becomes too easily expendable to justify as a long term option. More simply put, in the absence of “willingness to emote", intelligence becomes undesirable
Final thought
Do men like intelligent women?
We do, but most men are not aware of how badly we need someone intelligent.
I was in love (or i supposed i was) with a beautiful girl for 2 years before she accepted my proposal and then we were in a 1 year relationship before i found that she was also going out with another guy.
I was heart broken and was not getting over her.
Then I met this other girl, normal in terms of looks back then and we clicked.
Like any other new generation friendship, it started with messenger and whats App and after a few days we started talking.
Till this time, I used to think that I love my ex-girlfriend and I can never forget her.
When she asked me in a normal conversation about what I look for in a girl. I was counting all the qualities that I saw in my ex.
After naming the top five qualities that I wanted, she asked me to tell something other than the looks and i could not believe that all I could come up with, about my "true love" was her looks.
I realized at that moment (or she made me realize) that i wasn't actually in love with her personality as much as I was in love with her looks.
The realization went further when it occurred to me that its so easy to converse with this girl than my ex.
And this was only because she had vast knowledge about politics, policies, gay rights, housing, travel, singing, dancing, studying, reading, feminism, and whatnot.
None of our thoughts matched, but the debates used to go all night long.
She is still my friend, and I can easily say that only after I met her did I realize how important it is to have an intelligent partner.
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