There Are a few of You Destroying Your Relationship Without even Knowing It?

Have you suffered continual failures in relationships? Maybe it’s time to explore yourself and your behavior. Sometimes we are our own biggest enemy, ruining relationships. After one relationship ends we do the same things in our new relationship. Do you know why? Because most of the mistakes that destroy our relationships are done unknowingly.

Here is a list of what you might be doing that is easy to change:

• Mind reading
We often expect a lot from our partners without expressing what exactly we want. This usually occurs because we think our partner should know what we want without being told. This toxic behavior pattern can ruin a relationship.

Water is the right temperature, isn't it?

My BAD perspective: I often tell  women I have a 6th sense, not a crystal ball... this can be a BAD thing and a good thing... meaning I can feel what you are dealing with and may be able to help. It has failed me a few times as women Need an emotional crutch sometimes... so after I have spoiled her by being willing to  listen and offer comfort it becomes the New normal ... which I'm not always in the mood for, so when I say not today, or not tonight.... She start thinking I've had enough and want out. I may have had enough of the same issues. but not that I'm done with you.    

• The blame game
If you have been unfairly blaming your partner while ignoring his/her more positive traits, stop doing it or you will ruin your relationship. Saying things like, “This is all your fault!” “You should have done a or b not c,” is non-productive, hurtful, and damaging.

My BAD perspective:  i.e. it's unnecessary "drama"  remember the old adage. As you point one finger at me, the  rest are pointing  back at you. enough said! . Stop sending text msgs.  

• Becoming unattractive
There is no doubt that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, but to some extent how you appear matters. Caring about your appearance lets them know they are special and deserve you at your best. Quite often opposites attract, sometimes we like people similar to us, keep in mind what they first found attractive about you, the colors they like, and other things that help you stay attractive. If your sense of humor attracted them make sure you get chances to laugh together.

My BAD perspective: Folks see you at you best when they first are attracted to you, this may be a bit superficial but it's the image that linger in the persons mind. So if you change to a less attractive "you" and say things like "  this is also me" you throw the person for a loop. Yes I don't expect you to look at your best all the time, especially if I've seen you in the morning before your combed your hair. But don't send me pics of you looking like Broom-Hilda and expect me to still think of you as beautiful, and want me to tell you a lie about how great you look..

  

• Constant competition with your partner
A successful relationship can develop when you support your partner instead of always competing. Competition implies you are opposing forces of your partner and don’t consider yourselves a team. A little can be healthy and fun, but competing about everything, including who is in charge and makes the rules, will induce jealousy and arrogance in your relationship which can ruin it.

My BAD perspective: "OK so who's wearing the pants here?"  this is what happens when two people refuse to compromise.. Men want to lay down the law, and women want to re-write the law... as a result. People get confuse. because men still want to be like the men of old ( the BOSS) and women are saying " I'm not my mother " " I'm the Boss too, and you are not the Boss of me!"  .

  

• Being dependent on your partner for your happiness
If you are dependent on your partner for your happiness or wait for them to make you happy, you are making a big mistake. If you are not happy within yourself then you can’t be happy in a relationship for long. Be happy in your partner’s happiness, don’t rely on him for yours. You will be disappointed when he/she can’t always make you happy.

flower bloom in bunches because of all the seeds that were spread!  

My BAD perspective: I would like to interview Bill Gates, and ask him just a few questions: " how did you give away half you fortune and still remain  The Richest man  in the World,  and worth more than you did before you started giving your wealth away."  Now what does that have to do with happiness? People think they will be happiest when they are being self-centered, Me, Me, Me!  so what will it take to make you happy. try giving more, and the  more you give without expecting anything in return  the more happiness/Joy will come into your life.  expecting too much  results in disappointments big time. 

• Spending out of your means
It’s good marriage advice to make a budget and stick to it. Constant complaints about not having all the luxuries and lavish lifestyle you want are going to hurt your hardworking and faithful partner’s sentiments. Big ticket items should be discussed and agreed on, and you should each have an agreed upon amount of fun money to spend as you please. Running up a lot of credit card debt is stressful on any relationship.

My BAD perspective:  Facts vs Fiction... People live above their means because of the Jones family... I have to  out do and out spend my friends, I have to make my friends jealous that I can go to China First class (with the whole family). and they can't.... But you are still unhappy when you return and can't do it again every year for years after year. Your become that couple that is up side down! 

• Dull sex life
Most of us crave physical interaction, when you repeatedly decline physical intimacy it negatively affects your relationship. Don’t use sex as a tool to control your spouse. Make time for romance and intimacy, intimacy does not always require sex. Consider giving each other massages, foot rubs, cuddling near a fire, or whatever works for you.

My BAD perspective: LOL, wanting  to have a  Porn star sex life requires a lot more energy than you have.  But when your lady says "No" repeatedly , take the time to try and figure out what's wrong. communicate  the issues that might be hampering your once very good sex life.  

• Doubting your partner
Stop speculating about your partner. If they have been busy lately it does not mean they are having an affair. Support your spouse, full faith or no faith. Doubts can put your relationship on the verge of divorce, probably not what you want. Work together and believe in each other.

My BAD perspective: If you want it all, you might not get any in the long run.  If you want attention all the time,  get in line marked "priorities", a busy and ambitious man or woman, does not  have time to baby sit your neediness. busy is as busy does.   If the person is that busy they don't have time for  an affair.  unless they are great actors.  

How often can a man fall in-love in a normal lifetime.

Assuming that a man committed to one woman in his early 20(s.) got married had kids and all that good stuff. ( no more falling in love for you dude) that was meant to be it!
Is it likely that Love  will happen for him again  , will he never fall in-love again... with another woman? If we assume that he will make a new start at some point during his more mature years. what will the difference be..... between how he felt in his early years and how he would feel in his more mature years.
in the mature  years lyrics like these  will be very likely  applicable:

Started out good .We started out so good. To end up so bad Where did we go wrong
What happened to the love we once had It’s slowly slipping away I feel it slowly slipping away How can we let it end This love was so right. From the beginning How can love so right be so wrong now How can love so right be so wrong now

Could light up a room

Thinking of yesterday

When love was in full bloom

The fires from our love

But somewhere along the way 
We made a jagged turn 
The plans we both had They’re beginning to burn.   
How can love so right be so wrong now
 How can love so right be so wrong now 
 How can a love so good turn out so bad 
Tell me what happened to the love we once had 
Too bad, so sad, too bad, whoa, how 
 How can love so right be so wrong now 
 One day your love is glad 
The next day you end up sad 
Ooh, babe, what a thin line It’s enough to drive you mad 
 One day our love was good and hot 
Next day running cold 
One day we had a new love 
But now it’s old ( happened pretty fast)

In a man's more mature years. (maybe the second time around at finding Love, he wants to go the distance with that person ........

he find himself questioning everything. If what he experienced in the early years was real.  
Because unconditional Love, it wasn't, for sure. 

Conditions got set and set somewhere along the way. security, became insecurities, comfort, 
became uncomfortable situations.....then fears became, nightmares.... 
as a mature man we remember all that went wrong.  

Apprehension becomes the new Normal.. 
We just don't want to make another mistake, feel like we can't afford another........... blunder. 
Because in Our Mature years we just don't recover from these types of mayor set backs quickly. 
Starting all over again becomes a mind set of let it all go and don't bother,
because you have concluded that it's too late to be like this smiling couple (above) anymore.

Shake a tail feather, to get a clue on her interest in You!

Dancing has a way of getting people out of their minds and into their bodies. Put on some of your favorite music, close your eyes and sway your body to the rhythm. Focusing on the music and allowing the music to penetrate your mind will help to ease tension caused by over thinking. Once the mind is relaxed you will be able to become aware of what your body is doing. Your sexual energy can be awakened through dancing seductively by moving your hips; men and women can benefit from these movements. Dancing solo is great for releasing nervousness, but dancing for your partner can also act as a form of foreplay and intimacy.

Spark you attraction by dancing!

 

When I was in my very early 20(s) I learned that  if a woman would slow dance with you up close and personal.. you had a good chance that she wanted to get close to you by feeling your body close to hers, so if you held her close and she responded you could start whispering your best comments in her ear.

However, if you are not a dancer. and  Can’t tell if she’s into you? Look down below while talking to her: “The legs and feet are one of the last body parts that we consciously control, so they give us invaluable information about what someone is really thinking, their attitudes, and how they feel.

The Center for Nonverbal Studies reports that the way people stand reveals how open they are to new experiences. This is especially true in matters of the heart—or loins: Before we've consciously processed whether we’re attracted to someone or not, our demeanor has changed and our body has already sent out signals giving the green or red light.

So how do you know if she’s giving you the go-ahead? Spot these five signals from her lower half.

Her stance: Feet facing you

What it tells you: We point our feet and legs toward what we like and move away from what we don’t, which means you can tell almost everything from the direction her feet are pointing. So pay attention to whether her toes are toward you, the guy in the next group, or the exit.

Her stance: Legs apart with weight on one foot

What it tells you: This is perhaps the most promising indicator of her overall personality: “This stance is adopted by high achievers worldwide and indicates confidence and openness to new encounters,” . Plus, it’s more likely to be adopted by extroverts. Studies have also shown that because this stance highlights a woman’s hips and waist, it makes her more attractive—a fact she probably knows and is using on purpose: “Women have learned to consciously adopt poses that attract attention and accentuate their assets, which is why you’ll see models adopting this pose of confidence and attractiveness in magazines.

Her stance or her seated position: Legs crossed toward you

What it tells you: “The leg twine is the most common leg position women use to indicate their interest in a guy, when a woman crosses one knee over the other, it shows off her muscle tone and allows her to get closer to you. Slow, purposeful crossing and uncrossing of the legs is a game of peek-a-boo and classic courtship technique used to draw attention to her legs and signal interest.”

Her stance: Pigeon-toed

What it tells you: If her knees and feet are turned in, it’s often a sign she’s introverted, insecure, or closed off both physically and emotionally. But some people are just naturally pigeon-toed, so be sure to look for other clues before jumping to conclusions: If she has limited eye contact and closed body language, like arms crossed and hunched shoulders, it’s pretty safe to assume her turned-in toes are a red flag. 

Her stance: Feet turned at a 45 degree angle

What it tells you: Your stance not only shows who you’re keen on, but also whether you want to invite other people into the conversation. “Standing with both feet directly facing the person they are speaking to suggests that they are fully focused on the conversation. On the other hand, standing with one foot facing the person and the other pointing outward indicates that while she likes what you’re saying, she’s also looking for others to join in. And while this sounds like she does not want alone time with you, it is also a great indicator that she is open, approachable, and excited to interact with you among her or your friends.

Her walking away: On the other hand, if she walks away and looks back at you, this  indicates that  she liked what you were  saying, but she has to go somewhere in a hurry! But this could be act of "I'm going to play hard to get for a little!"  . And while this looks like she does not want any alone time with you, her turning and looking at you and smiling,   is also a great indicator that she is open, and approachable, but NOT  right now. Hurry up, (but don't run after her) and ask for her contact info.... or you may not get another chance!

Are You Being Unfaithful to Your mate and not even Know It

Foreword: I've been guilty of all these at some point in my life. this not a disclaimer or and excuse. I will counter each point from my Bad perspective . 

Relationships  can be tough. Having to deal with someone else’s needs on a daily basis, and often having to prioritize them above our own, can create some wear and tear. Naturally, we seek relief from other outlets in our lives. But…what’s normal and what’s encroaching upon your marriage? These are 10 ways that people are often unfaithful, without even realizing it.

1. Talking about significant others behind their backs.

This one is so common that it often creeps in without us even realizing it. The problems start to arise when we do this with someone that we consider attractive. This can become a very dangerous situation, so be extremely mindful about sharing your relationship woes with someone. 

My BAD perspective: there is talking and there is bashing. talking is not necessary bad..... what if the person you are talking too is a therapist.... who can help you solve your issues that seems to be up setting your mate. If you are in a relationship with someone who keeps things internal, lives in their head. you may need to talk to someone outside the relationship to get a different perspective. I would suggest a person of the opposite sex. 

2. Finding yourself in an inappropriate situation.

Inappropriate situations can occur in the blink of an eye. One likely setting is the classic business trip. On business trips, a lecture or meeting can turn to drinks, thus setting up a tempting situation if there is a co-worker that one fancies. A recent study revealed that 36 percent of men and 13 percent of women cheated on business trips.

My BAD perspective: I travel for work all the time, and my then wife worked for the airlines so we were often in different parts of the country.. Since we trusted each other we could do this for years and not have any problems. If I traveled for work she knew she could join me  if  she want to, and sometimes would.   

3. Developing intimacy with an attractive friend.

Do not send constant emails or text messages about your life to an unattached friend who has feelings for you.

My BAD perspective: Now here again we have that trust issue, My best friend was a female I went to college with. She had a secret. she was gay and didn't want her family to know. So we hung out all the time. She  was fine as all heaven. but was not into men. So when  we went to  a club she would scan the room and tell me who was checking me out. After I left N.Y. and moved to Chicago ( got married) we would communicate all the time. she was my friend I could tell anything to, so I did.and she told me everything . who else could give you advise about women....than a woman. We had an intimate one night  stand just a few months before I became engaged. so our relationship was now complete. we could relax and share, things few people could without wanting more from each other. . 

4. Dressing up like you’re “on the make.”

This goes for both men and women. Certain ways of wearing clothes can send out signals to others that you’re available. Don’t be that person.

My BAD perspective: I have been a suit and tie guy from my teen years. So I would always wear suits to work and therefore  almost every place else. except to the beach or a ball game. My ladies (some liked me that way, while other felt I should stop trying to look GQ all the time)   the  thought that women would be  attracted to guy in suit, just did not make sense to me, so I dismissed the idea that I was dressing to attract..  

5. Getting an online boyfriend or girlfriend.

In addition to taking away from your marriage, this can also pose a potential physical risk. Just don’t do it.

My BAD perspective: LOL. who lives in a World were online friendships can be a physical risk. texting and chatting is common ... but you never get to tough the person unless you go out of your way to hook up. Believe me it is safer than  people think.  

6. Having an office boyfriend or girlfriend.

Such relationships can pose a huge threat to marriages. People at work are often at their best…well-dressed, humorous, intelligent. Just remember that their behavior at home may not necessarily be the same. It’s not worth risking your marriage for this fantasy.

My BAD perspective: Here is where my "guilty as charged" moment comes in. folks spend more time together  in an office than they do at home when you have a high stressful job. Working hours and hours of overtime .... can become a problem...... a simple shoulder rub from a co-worker can spark that "why don't we make out" thought and if the moment got acted-on you have trouble. . 

7. Becoming addicted to online porn.

This is a really common modern predicament, as highlighted in the film Don Jon. Constantly watching porn causes one to disassociate from the real world, often leaving a spouse to feel neglected and abandoned. It won’t be long before they’re looking outside of the marriage for some TLC, but for them it will be in real life.

My BAD perspective: there is not much chance for addiction if your partner would watch it with you and start wanting you to do the circus acts they saw in the flick. If you become realistic about your abilities to do this stuff. you stop wanting to see it.  

8. Flirting too much.

All people can enjoy some flirting from time to time, but you have to realize when it’s gone too far.

My BAD perspective: what's that, people smile and they get accused of flirting, people lick their lips after eating something tasty and they get accused of flirting. People respond friendly and they are accused of wanting to hook up with the person. this just  silly. OK but if you have their number you might be tempted to call.

9. Constantly prioritizing everything else above your spouse.

Whether it’s a constant stream of boys’/girls’ nights out, or an addiction to Real Housewives or football, you have to realize when it’s time to put down the martini or the remote control.

My BAD perspective:  OK, guilty. In my defense I always like to do the thinks I like to do, and if my partner  is not into it. then I will say go do your thing. I want to watch the game, I don't hang out in bars , so that was never a treat. But if I'm home and there is a good game on.. don't make me choose, you might loose. think about it. the game is in real time. I will not be able to see it in real time again. I can always have an interaction with you afterwards. So don't make me choose. 

10. Not being intimate with your partner.

To be faithful means that you are being considerate of your partner’s needs. Sex is a very important part of a marriage, so don’t leave it by the wayside.

My BAD perspective:  One word K.I.S.S 
Keep It SeXXXy Silly        (3 pointed pitch-fork) . Just like woman know that men are like microwaves. we heat up in a matter of seconds. Men should  know that women do not. If you are not aware of the difference in the gender needs, then you better take a course..  

On a final note: I just  borrowed the following from a facebook friend  initials A.L. 
I didn't feel like writing another blog post but thought it was worth sharing
her version of not cheating:
 Some couples like to watch their spouse with another partner... Is that cheating to me?
 No.

Some couples like threesomes, is that cheating on each other? 
No.

Some couples have overseas relationships, and God damn it sometimes we need to get off. If we agree to it while we are apart, is that cheating? 
No

Sometimes your wife is pregnant and can't stand the sight of you and actually sends you pdf to a whore house.. Is that cheating?
No.

Maybe a spouse has a sickness that doesn't allow them to be able to perform and agrees for the other to outsource sex. Is that cheating?
No

In all of those circumstances, both partners are aware of the act.


Now do any of those.... Behind my back, that's cheating. TO ME ......ANYWAYS.

Everybody has issues!

…Well not exactly. Yes we have all experienced things in our life that has likely created some issues at some point. However, some people have taken the time to address and resolve them. While others may have ignored them or delayed resolving them , they seam to have  moved past them on the surface. The latter can lead to two people coming together in a relationship and experiencing a greater struggle. Continuing to ignore the issues will not make things better, and it’s time to truly start resolving  the major ones. This is a journey that can be done together, but only if you embrace these  key points:

Let's Be Honest!

"The truth shall set you free!"  Issues are hard to address when people aren't being honest about them. In a relationship this requires both individuals to point out what they see, and both have to be open to receiving it. That doesn't mean you can just lash out and breakdown your partner. You have to deliver your honesty with love, compassion, and positive energy. Getting things out on the table will help you both see things more clearly, and properly set the stage for effective resolution of these issues.

Remember how I said earlier you shouldn't just lash out at your partner. Well not only should you be mindful of how you deliver your honesty, but you also need to avoid coming off as judgmental to your partner. Speaking down to your partner and being judgmental will likely cause them to shutdown or lash back out at you. Fear of being judged is why so many do not open up to their partner about deeper issues that exist within. You have to create an environment where you both can feel comfortable being honest and talking about things. It will truly open the doorway to progress.

When couples struggle, many well will wishers suggest going to counseling. I believe it is a great idea to take that step, however don't just do it as a couple. The reality is that many of the issues you face today stem from issues that existed way before you entered into this relationship. So being able to get some one-on-one time with a counselor or relationship coach can help with your process of healing and being able to come together and have a more effective session as a group. Talk about what you both learned individually, and embrace the process your relationship needs to experience success.

At this point you have talked about things, you may be getting the assistance of a third-party, and you have agreed on the changes that need to be made to make the relationship better. Well understand that Rome was not built in a day. Your path to a great relationship is a marathon not a race. That doesn't mean either one of you should use that as an excuse to slack off. It just means that you focus more on constant progress being made rather than perfection. We all have our off days, and the last thing you need to do is to use that to think "nothing has changed". Look at the bigger picture, and if things are getting better, then you are moving in the right direction.

Last but definitely not least, don't fuel the negative cycle. In every step towards resolving your issues together, you have to find the strength to take a loving and positive approach. Even if your partner has a negative moment, don't make the mistake of feeding into it. Because any progress made will take several steps back. I know it's not easy, but staying positive is what is needed. If each individual focuses on their actions, and holds themselves accountable in making sure they put their best foot forward, then trust you will be well on your way to an amazing relationship. 

Ideally, I would love to see more people address lingering issues before they get into a permanent  relationship. I believe it will create the best chance of having success in relationships and also increasing their overall quality of life. However, I know that many have already crossed that line, and being able to work through this together isn't impossible. So embrace these key points, and give yourself an opportunity to experience the amazing and fulfilling relationship you and your partner desire... Maybe I will take my own BAD suggestions. 

how do you heal if things did not work out! Know the difference between Love and Lust.

"Pretty bird,  pretty bird."

My loving cousin in Europe sent me an email for my birthday, stating that now I'm at that stage where I have so many stories to tell that I'll be like this guy repeating them over and over and over again. I guess I do have a lot of colorful things to say some of the time. 
"Pretty bird,  pretty bird." a Parrot often repeat things it hears over and over again. 
But if you tell a story multiple time, people get sick of hearing it. even a joke get's stale  when repeated to often.  If you can't laugh at joke over and over again then why do you cry over a broken heart over and over again. the simple truth is  what "happiness" does to words is a temporary feeling. where as what hurt does to an experience is longer lasting. and every time you hear a tune or feel an emotion, tied to an experience. you relive it again and again! 

So Know the difference between Love and Lust.

Love or  lust: it's easy to confuse the two, especially in the early stages of a relationship. Both emotions make you feel a kind of bliss that you may have  never experienced before - which is wonderful and joyous and something to celebrate - but make sure you know the difference between the two. Here's a few clues:

she looks so HOT the place will be on fire
when she walks into the room!

1. When you’re in lust, you dress to the NINES. Maybe even the TENS (in red) . Obviously, there’s no harm in trying to look good for your significant other, especially when you're first courting each other. But we all know dressing (and looking) like you’re going to Fashion Week each time you step out for a date takes a sh*t-ton of effort, not to mention money! 

Dude's perspective: When you’re in love, you might forget to wear pants. Are you wearing a shirt? Check. Shoes? Check. Pants? Oops! On those exciting Friday nights where you end up pacing the aisles of Costco (Cost-U-less) to stock up on frozen pizzas and Lucky Charms cereal, comfort = love.<smirking> 

2. When you’re in lust, you look past their foolishness. Things are so hot & heavy, it's easy to look past minor "annoyances" (that laugh, that money problem, that MOTHER) that may turn into larger issues down the road.

Dude's perspective: When you’re in love, you point out their mistakes. You love them, which is why you want them to be a better person. And if they love you, they'll accept the (constructive) criticism and try to be a better person not just for you but for themselves, too. 

We're different people. And that's okay!

3. When you’re in lust, you say what they want to hear. You constantly aim to please. When they ask you a question, you're more apt to reply with a "safe" answer, even though it might not fully express how you feel. (You figure you'll get to that later, right?) 

Dude's perspective: When you’re in love, you keep it real. You don’t agree with everything they’re saying and you clearly state that. Having different views and opinions from your significant other does not necessarily mean you’re not a good match; it just means that SHOCKER: You're different people. And that's okay. Healthy debate is good and normal and helpful at seeing things from another perspective.

4. When you’re in lust, the person you're with is a Greek God/Goddess. Or rather, try this analogy: a perfectly-shaped cookie with no dents or chipped corners. But hate to break-it-to-you: even perfect-looking cookies have burnt sides (even if they're not visible at first).

Dude's perspective: When you’re in love, they're more like a Greek God/Goddess statue missing it's arm. Perfectly imperfect, just like you! Pretending to be anything other than that is exhausting and oh: A LIE.

 intimate moments are key

5. When you're in lust, you don't really know them. Sure, you know their favorite color is blue and their favorite food is macaroni and cheese. But that's surface level-stuff. You haven't dug down deep , that tunnel is LONG.

Dude's perspective: When you're in love, you know small insignificant details. Their favorite color is blue because when they were little, it was their mother's favorite color to dress them up in. Their favorite food is mac & cheese because it's the comfort food their Grandma always made them when they went to visit. These small, seemingly insignificant details are intimate parts of their past and who they is. And you know all these little, beautiful factoids because you took the time to really get to know them - and better even, you still want to know more.

We are dancing and still talking

6. When you’re in lust, you don’t feel comfortable talking to them about your problems. Talking about your problem can help ease stress and tension. But you prefer to talk about them with someone you trust. And let's face it, you're just not at that ride-or-die stage yet.

Dude's perspective: When you’re in love, you’ll talk to them about, well, basically everything. You know you love someone when you can trust them with the most minor (and major!) issues you're having, not matter how weird/trivial/embarrassing they are. You know that they'll listen without judgement. That's love.

7. When you're in lust, silence is awkward. Which is either filled with rambling or make-out sessions. No objection to make-out sessions, of course, but the fact that you both find the silence awkward is a sign of discomfort.

do you hear that silence?

Dude's perspective: When you're in love, silence is welcomed.  When you run out of conversation topics, you don't feel like you need to fill the silence with something else. You just let the silence sit comfortably. The void is welcome.

8. When you're in lust, the future is unknown. Yes, you're enjoying every moment you have with them right now. You love their attention, the dates, and the feeling of pure bliss. But when you look at the long run, you have absolutely no idea what the next few months (or years!) will hold. It's a little scary.

Let happiness reign!

Dude's perspective: When you're in love, you welcome thoughts of the future. Whether you marry or not is up to you both, but can you see yourself sitting side-by-side on matching rickety rocking chairs? Does the idea of that give you something to look forward to? Do you picture bad vacations, fights over trivial things, and (gasp!) baby and can't imagine anyone else taking this journey with you? Then, you're totally and utterly in love.