Here are some reasons why men leave the women they love.

News flash: It takes major courage to fall in love....voluntarily. For a man these days, it is more difficult than when a woman falls in love. When a man falls in love, he is taking into account the suffering that might arrive from that person because he will open up all of himself to her (maybe/ maybe not) . we don’t dive in fully, but steps little by little into the world of second-guessing and ups and downs. We Men know we are not born with the innate understanding of how women operate. Sometimes it’s just a simple fact, we need more than hints to understand what you want. .

So how do I fix this one!
 I'm more successful than he is!

1. He feels that she’s trying to fix him.
When a man starts to feel that he’s not enough, that his flaws are too huge, or that he cannot be himself without being judged, he begins to find the exit door. Women tend to emasculate men by making them their "fix you" projects.

Albert Einstein said, “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.” Men do not change, and no one truly needs to – they only need to discover who they truly are. A man can grow and mature with the help of a loving and supportive woman.

2. He is threatened by the woman’s success.
In a study conducted by the University of Florida, men experience a huge blow to their self-esteem (ego) when their female partners experience success, even when they are not in direct competition. A woman’s success also impacts in a negative manner how the man views the future of the relationship.
If the man has not been able to attain the success he feels he deserves, this is a pivotal reason for him to leave the woman. He cannot join her in her success because he is comparing his failures.

Should I bug him now or save it until later?

3. She bugs him all the time.
Men can zone out a woman’s voice most of the time. Unfortunately, the constant bugging and belittling can take a toll in a relationship. We men may play like children, but we are not kids. We do not tolerate the constant whining and complaining. Men need to feel appreciated. bugging forms a negative habit that eventually is ignored and avoided. It adds to negative reinforcement which becomes passive aggressive.

If we know she is going to give us grief, we will not do it. Either way, men feels that she will complain. If there is no appreciation, there is no doing what she wants. To a man, a woman who bugs him is the least sexy creature on the planet.

4. Lack of intimacy.
Believe it or not, men crave intimacy just as much as women. But, if a man has to beg for it while the woman holds it hostage to get him to do things, he may leave the relationship to seek that connection with someone else.

A man will not stand by too long with a woman who will not participate in intimate encounters with their partner. A man falls in love with a woman for many reasons, but he also needs to feel that he is the most attractive person in her life.

5. She compares him to other men.

I so wish his name  was Denzel instead of......!

There is nothing more annoying to a man than listening to a woman talk about past relationships. When the woman starts to compare him to an ex, that’s the beginning of the end. Men do not want to analyze their partner’s past.

A man wants to believe he is the only one that matters right now. He doesn’t want to hear that a previous lover did this or that. He wants to know that what he is doing right now is enough.



6. Emotional co-dependency.

Why is she following me around  I need some space

Men need their space. A man doesn’t want to be treated as a possession. Men need their friends. Men do not like to feel like babysitters. When a man begins to feel that he has lost his freedom to participate in sports, outings or social gatherings with his friends, the man will leave. A healthy relationship requires that both parties have their own set of friends and hobbies. Co-dependency tarnishes the spark of a relationship.

Men don’t over analyze this. It is a feeling of being imprisoned. The moment they feel like their lives have drastically been high-jacked, that’s when they break up. Men truly fear losing their freedom.

Men love women. They fall in love with the expectation of being appreciated, respected and supported. When he no longer feels like he is the hero of the story, he will make a serious decision in changing his relationship status.

The Mindful Marriage requires maturity acceptance!

surprise!

Try looking at everything with a new sense of curiosity, and stay open to discovery. That’s when real surprises and magic happens, new never gets old.

Distractions are everywhere, but learning how to be mindful will deepen your relationship with your mate.  Just try really hard to tune out the distractions, because the will never materialize into anything worthwhile.
Your partner starts telling you about his day and suddenly your mind wanders back to work and that email confirmation you forgot to send. Next thing you know, he asks what you think about so-and-so, and you have no clue who he’s talking about. It’s a commonplace scenario, and an oft-cited complaint of couples in therapy: a partner who doesn’t listen.

We don't need phones out here! 

All relationship problems stem from poor communication.You can’t communicate while you’re checking your BlackBerry, watching TV, or flipping through the sports section. If simple distraction, and not something deeper, is keeping you from really hearing all your partner has to say, learning how to be present will enhance your listening skills and your life.

Be right here right now. Anytime you’re swept away in thoughts about the past or future, notice that your mind has drifted and gently bring yourself back to the present moment by focusing on an anchor, such as your breath, a specific part of your body (like the space between your eyebrows or the way the soles of your feet feel on the ground), or sounds of a distant bird in the trees.
Be aware when you judge. Practice paying attention to your thoughts and the judgments your mind tends to make. Don’t try to stop or resist them; just curiously notice them, then usher them out. The point here is to become aware of how often you render judgments, on others and yourself. Awareness of your tendency to judge is the first step to stopping it.

Practice patience. Be willing to see how your experience with mindfulness unfolds. Be patient with yourself when it’s uncomfortable and your mind would rather rush to the next item on your list. It’s just the wandering nature of your mind. Treat it as you would a puppy being trained to sit; bring patience, affection and a sense of humor to the task.

This just  feel brand new!

Be kind to yourself. Mindfulness allows you to recognize and even turn toward some painful thoughts and emotions. When you do, be compassionate toward yourself, just as you would turn with warmth and kindness to a friend having a rough time.
Find beginner’s mind. Sometimes the mind likes to think it has seen all there is to see and knows all it needs to know. Try looking at everything with a new sense of curiosity, and stay open to discovery. That’s when real surprises and magic happens. and Magic has it's surprising moments, which will make you say Wow!

Begin to trust. Tune into your own basic wisdom and intuition. This doesn’t mean always trusting your thoughts. Mindfulness will help you see that thoughts come, go and change. Being mindful is being sensitive to your own  feeling and your partners also.

Don’t strive. Sometimes we come to mindfulness hoping to solve our problems or change and improve ourselves. In fact, wanting things to be different can be an obstacle to truly experiencing mindfulness. Mindfulness is not about being somewhere else, but rather just being with what’s here now.

I accept what your eyes are telling me/

Try acceptance. Accept that things are the way they are in each moment. That doesn’t mean they won’t change or can’t be changed. A wise Buddhist once said that all suffering comes from desire (which is longing for what you don't have). When we desperately want the things in our lives to be different than they are, we feel pain, and it’s that resistance that leads to suffering. If you can stop railing against the way things are (your boss is an idiot, your partner steals the covers) you can calm your emotional waters, which will allow you to be more present.

Let it go. Practice releasing ideas and thoughts that you cling to ; try letting go of the desire for things to be a certain way. Notice what it feels like in your body when you cling versus when you let things go.

This is the kind of Love commitment I've been looking for.

Commit. Mindfulness is a practice,  it’s not just meditation. You can take mindfulness into all aspects of your life. But as with every significant life change, the work is yours and yours alone. There is no question that by becoming a better listener you’ll become a better co-worker, parent, friend, and partner, not to mention how zen your internal world will start to feel. Before you can use mindfulness to improve communication between you and your honey, you’ve got to become a confident practitioner yourself. Make a commitment to meditating and mindfulness as a way of living/being.

7 Reasons Married Men Enjoy Cheating – New BAD Analysis!!

Cheating is wrong, I am not in anyway trying to justify it. However, as a man, I must put myself in some men’s shoes and then try to rationalize...

Let's share every bite!

1. Neglect of the man
Most married women tend to neglect the men when the kids start coming. No more love up evenings, no more hanging out. The wives always claim to be tired even when they have maids. Men tend to seek solace outside because they need someone to hang out with, to watch movies with and to share romantic moments with. Unfortunately, many girls out there are willing to fill this vacuum that is create by wives who don't see the need to be the women that  would feed their man with what he wants and needs.

2. She  Neglects  herself
Give most women 3 to 5 years of marriage and you would see the majority of them are no longer that sexy chic they used to be. No more doing up her hair regularly, no more trim figures, no more keeping up with the fashion scene. The sexy woman you married now looks like your auntie. We all understand that kids are a handful and make you tired but the problem is that they are so many sexy hot girls out there that makes your husband remember the old days. For men who are easily tempted or those who married their ‘spec wife’, they start looking for another spec substitute since you are no longer the "spec perfect" chic they married.

This in not having my back!

3 Reduced Intimacy
A lot of men consider intimacy and sex as a big factor in choosing a wife. If a woman has a good character but is poor in bed, most men would look somewhere else for a wife. However, many men married their wives because they used to get satisfaction from her. After marriage, most women don’t care about pleasing the man like they did in the beginning. A lot of women always claim tiredness. For those men who have a high libido, expect these men to look elsewhere for satisfaction.

4 Nagging
It’s easy for a single woman to be loving, caring and understanding. After marriage it becomes a different kettle of fish for some women. they nag you over every little thing. For a man who can’t stand it, he seeks solace outside, mostly in the loving arms of another single lady.


5 Variety

I can't fight this feeling anymore.
 I just have to have you!

This is a point that has no justification but many men cheat because they want different variety. They claim that you can’t eat one soup forever, hence they seek out a different ‘soup’. This is bad and is totally the man’s fault. However, it is one of the major reasons most men cheat.

6 Temptation
These days some women come at a man with full force even when they know he is married. There are lot’s of single girls out there ready to claim another woman’s husband. Sometimes, it’s difficult to resist a sexy girl who wants you and is offering herself willingly. Most men fall for this. Even pastors have fallen for this reason. That’s why couples should be prayerful and men should pray against falling into temptation.

7. Some men are just dogs
Some men are really dogs. They cheat for the sake of cheating . They act like they are under a spell. They would sleep with their maids, secretary, bread seller, in short anything in a skirt. Give them a model wife who gives them everything and they would still cheat. A lot of men who have many wives (culture of one to many)  and girlfriends usually fall into this category. No justification for such men. They are cursed, but feel blessed that they can do it, and enjoy it..... until they can't anymore. Nature catches up with them eventually.

A few reason why women really cheat! In their own words.

Psychologist says both men and women have reasons for cheating.... it boils down to a lack of keep their word.  Women cheat for the same reasons men do, such as lack of discipline to keeping their word on commitment, lack of integrity to be honest when they are unhappy, and lack of courage to leave and start fresh.
I just SMH....When I hear women say things like :" "I never really knew him, and I never let him really know me. I tried to be this woman I thought he wanted - very passive, letting him lead. He told a friend of mine he was going to marry me and take care of me. I knew I wouldn't get anything better than that from him, so I believed it."

All the aforementioned are a big  lack of a backbone to do the right thing. the following are a few examples:

woman #1. in a marriage  says she benefits from cheating.

Why would I waste this body on one guy?

"I cheat not because I don't love my man, but truth is love is not enough. My other guy is taking care of things that my man can't afford. I ended up in a situation where I started cheating because one man came into my life and introduced things I never used to get  from my husband. the man I was cheating with was also married but he gave me enough attention, made me feel special bought me clothes, took me to places I never went to before. Once a man shows you they can do everything your man can't, those things attract you to them. He took care of me the way I wanted to be taken care of and loved.

In my view... women who see themselves as having perfect  attributes feel they have a window where they can cash-in based on their looks. When that window start closing they might not be able to exploit  men  anymore so they need to grab as much as they can when the giving and the getting  is good.


Woman #2 who does not cheat but has a friend who is involved with two men says women are more dangerous cheats than men. "when women cheat, they are not easily caught. They are actually more dangerous, I know a close friend who is cheating with her man's best friend and they have been keeping it a secret for years. I don't cheat and will never do it. It  is easier for a woman to say no to cheating that a man."

I can't  stay all night!

 In my view.. other women who will keep the secret of their girlfriends, who is stepping out on their men are aiding and abetting their actions. These women secretly wish they had the guts to do what their girlfriends are doing. So they will call and notify their friend when they might be running out of time. Given her a heads up via text that it is getting to late to be out with the girls. (fake night out) 

Woman #3  says she cheated because her man was too busy to give her attention.

This should grab some attention!

"I wasn't getting enough attention. My man was too busy when I need him. I turned my time to someone who gave me all the attention. I did not have to ask him to call, visit  or sms to remind him that I'm his woman, he was willing to sacrifice his weekends and time with his friends just to be with me, I eventually broke it off because of guilt, it's not really in me to cheat. On the other hand, the truth is women never consider other women's feelings. they just don't care. When an opportunity to cheat comes, they will cheat."

In my view..She is thinking a busy man is married to his career he can provide for her very well, but she needs more than just material things. She  needs a boy-toy who will give her what she she is missing in her committed relationship. 

Women #4 says she once cheated on her four-year relationship with her ex boyfriend to give him a taste of his own medicine. I cheated because my man was cheating. I just wanted to feel how it's like to not consider your partners feeling."
She added: " he caught me and it's funny how he was shocked that I could do the same thing, I did not feel good about cheating instead it made me feel unhappy. " the guy I was cheating with was also cheating on his woman. she found out and called me pouring out her heart and at  the end, I felt guilty  because I had been through the same scenario."

In my view... payback affairs are the worse because they are calculated, designed to hurt the person you are with for things they had done in the past.  Now it's her turn to be the witch. SMH. 

This is so intimate!

Woman #5 had a one night stand with her ex boyfriend whiles in a relationship because she still found him attractive. " I was attracted to bad boys and my ex was exactly that.  i was always  somehow into him even though we were not together. One time we hooked up with old friends and he happened to be there. I simply cheated because I was attracted to him and wanted an intimate experience with him since we never went that far during out time together

In my view.. ex boyfriends that were bad boy, and are still b-a-a-d-d brings something to the table that no other guy can, in her mind. She has experience him and all his badness, she know what he will do and that he will blow her mind every-time, because he has done it in the past.   


Woman #6  has been having revenge sex with a man at work for two years.

It may sound like a mess, but my husband cheated first. I found out two days before we got married that he had been sleeping with the mother of his son. She was the one who told me, hoping I would cancel my wedding. I didn’t give her the satisfaction. We were together for about 18 months before we got married and he was still having sex with his baby’s mother during almost a year of that time.
I was devastated, but I agreed to go ahead with the wedding. About a month later, I decided to flirt back with this much younger man at my job. I am 39, my husband is 42, and the guy I cheated with is 27.  My young “boyfriend” is actually my coworker.
Bae really gave me my life back. It was like something on TV. One of us would text and then we would meet up and get it on however, wherever - my car, his car, hotels, motels, his garage, the small company bathroom in the basement. This man rocked my world. I always told my husband I had “work emergencies.”

Secrets you  definitely can keep from your Spouse!

In my view....Revenge sex, caused by a previous indiscretion by her man,  is a "catch me, in the act, if you care" type of soap opera. The fact that it was done with a younger man, makes it even more exciting and exotic.

The term "putting in Work at  work" now has a  new  erotic meaning. She can now  really live out her fantasies,in  a way that erotic books are written about. Living in the moment, was having her " cake and eating it too."  Her revenge was truly " sweet revenge."  Women who do this offer  their younger  boyfriends the max access to them because  their encounters have that dirty, low down. do it till you are satisfied feeling to it. Love and revenge is like lust and hate. there is a thin line between them. 

   

Not everyone should be in you boat! keep it Rocking!

Oops, did you  loose your balance, and fall over board?

Once upon a time, being assertive meant asking for trouble; today, you most likely need to stop worrying what the neighbors think. you might want to read the  book.
 On the Origin of Species,

For two decades, Charles Darwin suffered crippling anxiety whenever he so much as imagined publishing his theory of natural selection. The quiet naturalist agonized about how his true beliefs on specialization would affect his standing among his Victorian peers and super pious wife: "It is like confessing a murder," he wrote to a friend. Only when the young scientist Alfred Russel Wallace nipped at his heels with a nearly identical theory did Darwin set aside his work on barnacles and publish On the Origin of Species, securing his place in history with the slenderest of leads.

The greatest thinker of the 19th century came close to being remembered as a footnote in the study of arthropods, solely because he feared disapproval. Like us, he was designed to skirt the danger that is social scorn. Public scorn has risks, but we greatly exaggerate them. Fear of others' judgments is a necessary human adaptation, but it is a clumsy and imprecise mechanism. That's why we worry so much about risking the boss's wrath in requesting a promotion, defying dad by forsaking the family business or breaking with our colleagues by publishing a paradigm-shifting theory of evolution.

We avoid conflicts and are hyper-conscious of other people's opinions of us, especially people we deem important. We like those who like us. Problem is, we go overboard and freak out if we make an inappropriate remark or otherwise jeopardize our status. We all worry about others' approval, regardless of our place on the food chain: Abraham Lincoln's antidote was to accept that he could never get more than middling approval no matter what he chose to do.

Every social encounter is a subtle dance of dominance and submission. Asking someone to clarify a remark, taking your time to answer a question, suggesting a date—or saying no to one—require an intuitive understanding of the dance steps. Assertiveness is taking the lead. Chances are, even the most forward among us err on the side of submission. (After all, outlaws commit crimes in only a fraction of the instances where a crime is possible!) So unassertive becomes, for many of us, the default. Implicit self-instructions like, "when in doubt, shut up and go along," this  sometimes keep you in a default position, and kept your ancestors, out of trouble. But you want to thrive, not just survive.

To some the uncomfortable pillow is still their inner default place!
Why do you feel like you can't do better?
 Is it because your pain in the neck has began to feel natural,
and just the thought of change is more scary
 than the pain of being broken over and over again.
You have have got used to it
and can't image what it would be like if you got away from it completely.  

Today, we have a luxury most humans never had. We can pursue more than just survival and reproduction—we now search for meaning, contentment and fulfillment. In theory, we know we're free agents, but when we tie ourselves in knots about how to tell the in-laws not to overfeed the baby or agonize about requesting a raise, we're really grappling with a Neanderthink siren call: Sit tight and don't rock the boat.

Being in lockstep with the family or tribe made sense for our forebears. Human prehistory likely exposed our ancestors to only a couple hundred people in the course of their lifetime. On some level, everyone's opinion did matter. Timidity didn't make our ancestors happy, but it helped them to avoid murderous conflict, especially when dealing with strangers.

In a world with written laws and police (not to mention the option to relocate, find another job or remarry), we needn't be hyper-cautious about every social encounter. But most of us are still saddled with this brand of Neanderthink—an overly developed concern for how we're perceived by everyone. In fact, most people are pretty preoccupied worrying about what you think of them. We have less power over others' opinions than we think, so we might as well discount them if possible. When the Nobel Prize-winning physicist Richard Feynman was hunkered down at Los Alamos, his ailing wife, Arlene, sent him personalized pencils inscribed, "Richard Darling, I love you! Putsy." When she found out that he didn't use them because his famous colleagues might laugh, a stunned Arlene asked, "What do you care what other people think?" Her words became his assertiveness maxim—and the title of one of his books.

Being assertive does not mean you must always get your way or proudly flout social norms. The golden mean of assertiveness resides between the extremes of passivity and aggression. Straightforward communication always beats cowering or commandeering.

Don't let your past control your future! 

Try monitoring the social risks you avoid, and note the times when you act either passively or angrily. Then look for the assertive alternative. Push yourself to act assertively even if it feels alien and uncomfortable at first. For your ancestors, conditions were often either "safe or sorry." Today, you'll be sorry if you're too safe.

Try getting closer to someone worthwhile

Signs That she is Losing Interest

High five!

• 1. No more physical contact: If your girlfriend used to love cozy-ing up to watch a movie or would spontaneously grab your hand in public, chances are good that being physically affectionate is an important part of the way she shows love. If she’s stopped doing those things and seems to react with a little resistance if you put an arm around her at a movie theater or do something else that was once standard practice, she might be losing interest. Having to plan a special time to be together physically instead of letting it happen naturally may also indicate dwindling interest.

Couples who have been together for a good while get less and less touchy feely, so if she is not being as affectionate it may not mean she is loosing interest.  It could just mean she knows you  are not going anywhere, you are committed to make it work. So a high five now and then is all that is necessary in her mind. If a man understand the woman he is dealing with he will not read into things that are not really a problem. 

You are driving  me crazy!

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  2. You're constant fighting: An occasional argument is no big deal, but if neither of you having a strong opinion on where to go for dinner can suddenly escalate into a full-scale fight, you can bet you’re not really fighting about your date. Tension has developed in the relationship, and it’s reared its ugly head via little spats and huge blowouts alike. A girlfriend who is losing interest is more willing to hurl epithets and get nasty over little things if she doesn’t see long-term relationship potential.

Ok! maybe she just has a combative personality. a good fight now and then may just prove to her  that she has not handed over her power to her man  completely. When in doubt a good fight might just be a reminder of "I still have my  power."   Read the signs carefully  because you might miss read her, and over react and that can lead to more problems. 

Is he sleeping or  just pretending...? don't ignore me, dude! 

• 3. She is only talking about other people: If Kurt from work is suddenly a key player in every anecdote your girlfriend is sharing, she might not be as invested in the relationship as you are. Although some people choose to start dropping the name of a new potential crush in order to generate drama and create interest from their partner, some genuinely start moving on while they’re still in a relationship. It may not be conscious, but in either case, it’s not a great sign.

Any man who trips over a guy with the name "Kurt" , may have other problems. If she is talking about another guy she works with it could mean that her interest in him is about the comparison that she is drawing between  you and him. He pays attention to her, while you just turns unto your side and it's lights out. Talk to her about what is so great about Kurt. Call him Clark (compare  him to Clark Kent)  and see what she says. 

I want to live in a tree house in Wash. state!

• 4. She is leaving you out of her future plans: “When I go to Macchu Picchu” might not seem like a problematic sentence, until you realize that you two used to talk about going together. If your girlfriend is talking about future events in a way that leaves your presence at those events as an ambiguous variable, she might not see you in the picture a few years down the road.

OK I would not sweat too much on this one. People want to take trips with out their partner for different reasons. If she's talking about moving to a tree home in a city that you just will not even consider... then I would be concerned. Then she is planning a move that does not include you..... period.  

Great wine  choices

• 5. Anything else is more important: Work, a night at the wine bar with Susan, dog-sitting for a coworker who had an appendectomy and researching garbage disposal repair companies shouldn’t all exclusively and constantly take priority over your relationship. If your relationship has gone from high contact to constant blow offs, your girlfriend may be losing interest and hoping you take the hint.

Well this one can  just be a trick to get you to start seeing her in a different light. If a wine bar is a major attraction for her, just because her  life at home with you in the evening is just boring. She want to feel alive. and you are not contributing to her feeling alive. think about how you have been coming home and just flopping down in front of the TV and falling asleep, and there are no wine choices at home for her to  get buzz on. 

You make me feel like I made a big mistake!

• 6. She is Nitpicking constantly: This can lead to #2, constant fighting. If habits that never seemed to irk your lady before are suddenly driving her straight up the wall and she seems to be irresistibly drawn to comment on them, she may be losing interest. The rose colored glasses with which she once saw you have been replaced by the harsh glare of reality, and she’s questioning whether she can live with some of your less endearing habits.

Finger pointing can be misread  often! when she is pointing her finger at you she is also pointing 3 finger at herself. Don't ignore what this might mean.  It could mean she is thinking that you misrepresented  who you are, initially.. and that she should have seen your flaws earlier. She might be blaming herself for not recognizing that you are not the maintenance man she want. "Mr. fix it all" could be what she wanted. and let's face it no man is ever "Mr. fix it all"

Telling Signs Your Relationship Is Meant To Last!

Despite those fleeting moments of our lives, we all want a relationship with someone special to last. But how do you know if yours will?

Between adult responsibilities, raising kids, and taking care of ourselves and our partner, it seems that staying in a relationship comes with more challenges than ever before. So, what makes the difference between relationships that only last a few months and those that stand the test of time? Well, trust, respect, and true love must exist for it to last, of course, but you can go by the signs listed below to know if you have a serious relationship or not.

We just have to make time for each other.

The many challenges that this world, we now live in presents, can sometimes require that the man has to become superman and the woman has to become wonder woman (you just hope she does not wonder too much about you) . There are so many war-fronts to deal with, most couples have to balance work, raising children and having time for each other... This  can wear down both individuals to a point where you both start expecting the other to do more than is possible, which can cause resentment. Family life can become  too demanding. 

1. YOU HAVE VIRTUALLY THE SAME OUTLOOK ON LIFE.

I'm looking at the best thing
that has happened to me in my life

In the “talking” phase of your relationship, you probably talked to your partner about your hobbies, interests, favorite memories from childhood, and what your family is like. Sharing these things with your partner helps them get to know a little bit about you as a person, and likely set the stage for a second date. Somewhere down the road, you probably wanted to know them on a deeper level and get an idea of their core values and morals. If both of you have very different interests and hobbies, but connect on a deeper, spiritual level, you will have a higher chance of making a lasting connection than two people who have no core values in common. In other words, the way you choose to live your life should match up with how your partner chooses to live theirs. If both of you have the same outlook on how to handle finances, how to raise children, where to live, have similar spiritual practices, and have the same general outlook on life, you will probably be able to maintain the relationship in the long-term. The main point to take from this is that hobbies and interests change, while core values and beliefs usually don’t. Having these in common is key to making relationships last.

 Look at the same things and seeing the same things can be a challenging in more ways than one. Women are from Venus and men are from Mars.  Let's not expect the impossible. When  you see special things the same, then you know you have something special.  

2. YOU STILL LAUGH AND HAVE FUN WITH YOUR PARTNER

Problem solved!

If you can still crack jokes and roll on the floor laughing ( OK this  part is expecting a bit much) with your partner after months of being together, your relationship will definitely stand the test of time. The key is that you two don’t get bored with  each other after extended periods of time. Even if life gets in the way of you spending time together, the time you do share is spent laughing, having fun, and simply enjoying the beauty of the world together.

Usually when a couple is thinking together they are solving problems together, when you think alike only one is thinking and the other one is along for the ride and is avoiding to add anything to the process. Because it is almost impossible that a man and a woman can ever think alike....it is best  to be a diverse couple and contribute equally. Now they can always laugh at the same things. 

3. YOU LOVE ONE ANOTHER UNCONDITIONALLY

This one should go without saying, but we thought we’d include it anyway because it’s a key ingredient to a lasting relationship. You can love each other’s flaws and perfections equally, and have each other’s backs no matter what. You don’t put conditions on the love you share, in other words. You don’t stop loving your partner if they gain 15 pounds or lose their job or anything else temporary in life. You love them, support them, and stand beside them through life’s storms and sunny days.

Catch  me if you can!

Hmmm..! I had to think about this one a little, it's extremely hard to find unconditional Love these days, so many channels flowing (like cable TV) into the brain, makes this very difficult. These everyday distractions often are the worst at bringing  about doubt. which can cause the most confident person to  question if  Unconditional love is even really possible. 

4. YOU ACCEPT ONE ANOTHER WHOLEHEARTEDLY

You don’t try to change each other, no matter what. You accept them with all of their little annoyances and habits, even if they get on your nerves sometimes. You understand that no one can be perfect, so instead of continuing to search for something that doesn’t exist, you accept your love without question, and focus on their positive traits. Also, you help them work on the “negatives” if they so choose. You don’t want a plastic relationship – you want the real deal – so therefore, you’ve chosen to accept everything about your partner, and not try to force change upon them.

These moments are so special.

Once two people know what they want for themselves, then they are better able to evaluate what their counter part wants. The word "wholeheartedly" is a bit strong in my view. People seldom do anything wholeheartedly when it involves someone else.  Think about this statement for a minute " accept them with all of their little annoyances and habits, even if they get on your nerves sometimes."  When things get on your nerves it becomes an  irritation the longer it continues  this will not suddenly stop being irritating. Only ear plugs can help you when your partner is singing off key in bed and in the shower. 

5. YOU HAVE NO DESIRE TO BE WITH ANYONE ELSE

If you think about being with other people, it immediately disinterests you. You feel so happy and complete in your relationship now, that you wouldn’t dream of being with anyone else. You feel satisfied, alive, and thrilled about your relationship, and want to stick things out for the long haul to see where it all leads. You see endless opportunities in your partner’s eyes, and everything just feels right with them around.

A daily walk bring us closer!

Hmmm! OK. It is not a  big challenge to be faithful. It, however, really takes greater effort to cheat, having to scheme, lie, plot, find a co-conspirator, setup a location, synchronize cheating time, collaborate your story with your co-conspirator .... Wow all that conniving and scheming takes so much work.... ask yourself which is easier! Being fateful or cheating. Having said all that it does not mean you will not admire other people and think to yourself if you were available what would the possibilities be with that other person who has many of the attributes I like. It does not mean you are  unhappy with the person you are with. it just means  you are human and you eyes can make you wonder from time to time.