Ways Women Act When They Don’t Love You Anymore

Most relationships are far from perfect, because people are not
perfect to begin with. Our imperfections reflect on our relationships
which can often cause our bond to break and we separate with the
person we have loved in the past. It is important that there a lot
of factors to take into consideration if we want to make  relationship
work, and love is not the most important one. In fact, it takes a lot
of time, effort, hard work, commitment as well as a little luck.

Sometimes it even happens to people to fall out of love with each other,
and it is always painful. Heads up Fellahs! The sad truth is, this happens
very often,and the best thing you can do if it happens to you is to
stay strong and learn how to move on alone.

Get a puppy who will love you unconditionally!

Spotting the problems in the relationship earlier can be helpful for resolving
them without negative consequences. If you want to find out whether your
woman is falling out of love with you, take a look at these 10 signs.

To sample and deal with her pepper is to build up a tolerance for hot and spicy.
If you can't handle it don't try, watering her down, because she will only get hotter! 

She doesn’t seem like she cares anymore!

You feel that no matter what you do to gain her affection, she simply doesn’t
have interest in you anymore. She may still be vibrant and full of life, but these
things are not happening around you.

She no longer compliments you on your looks

Physical attraction is the force that brings two people together.
At the beginning of a relationship
she might tell you how good you look, but over time these compliments
fade away and even completely stop. She might not feel physically
attracted to you anymore.

She stops putting in effort to make your relationship work

She is aware that your relationship is dying, but she doesn’t
are enough to make an effort to save it. Even if you spend
most of the time fighting, she lacks the patience to resolve your issues.

You rarely communicate

Every healthy relationship is based on healthy communication
which helps the relationship survive and last longer. If you stopped
having deep and meaningful conversations,
she probably does not have any interest in you anymore.

She acts on her own accord regardless of how you feel

Your feelings and thoughts don’t matter to her, and she will do
what she wants no matter how that makes you feel, even if it
means she will hurt you. If she doesn’t care about hurting
you anymore, she might have stopped loving you first.

She doesn’t express gratitude for your gestures

She used to be surprised and extremely happy whenever
you showed her little signs of affections, whether you bought
flowers or brought her the favorite meal. However, if she is
indifferent to these gestures, she has lost interest in you.

You are always the initiator of conversations

We need to talk!

You should definitely be worried if you are always the
person who initiates conversations. If she loves, you she
will want to talk with you about anything and everything.
She would
also ask for your opinion on the things that interest her.

She doesn’t make an effort to make you feel special

If she stopped doing sweet and romantic things, she does
not care about making you feel special anymore. It’s not that
she is evil and that is why she wants to make you feel miserable.
In fact, she does not feel happy anymore and she is not willing
to make you feel happy either.

She stops asking for and giving you attention

She used to ask for a lot of your attention in the past,
and she considered you the most
important person in her life. However, she stopped
acknowledging your existence and she
does not ask for your attention because
she doesn’t need it anymore.

Physical intimacy is a rarity

Physical intimacy including kisses, hugs and sexual
intercourse are something you
no longer remember. When you lack physical intimacy,
your relationship is certainly not on a good path.

We are not a good place!

When you want  her to communicate what's not working and what has gone wrong   a guy should say 

 " show Me!"  

Toxic living is more than just words!

First you need to identify, what it is,
before you can Remove Toxic Love effects.

We’ve all been there. We find someone, fall in love(we think), break up
for whatever reasons, and still cannot let each other go. Do not always
take your inability to move on from a person as a sign that you are meant
to be together.( question your brain again)

Some relationships are just planned toxic. Here are three signs that you are
in an unhealthy relationship.
We can't resolve issues that are chemical reactions, that become toxic.
Many folks stay in the wrong situations because they become comfortable
in their lack of comfort.... this just makes no sense, all toxic relationships
are Toxic first and the relationship second. If you combine bleach with
other chemicals the fumes can become deadly. A set of Burning tires is not a fire
you want sit to and inhale. Move on from this or it will destroy you.

You don’t really  like each other.

True, you can love someone but not like them, but that should never …
ever be the case with your significant other. What sense does it make to
commit to someone that you absolutely cannot stand?
Understand that the one who is right and good for you will be a joy to be
around even during moments of tension. If you do not like the person you
are with, chances are you are together for a reason other than love.
When I hear women say this it makes my blood crawl. " But I love him,
I can't leave him, he needs me!" --- First he does not need you, he needs what
you are providing him with... second you can leave him, he might become dramatic
but that is his problem ....
and third he does not love you, you think you love him because you have become
hopeless and can't find you own happiness. Leave him and see.... you will recover
because you can't really loose something that you was never good for you to begin with.

Communication is non-existent.

While it is normal to go silent during tense times with your mate,

not talking ever is a no-no. If all you do is appear to pass each other like
two ships passing in the night, then you might be with your mate out of
comfort and familiarity.
This is the most 19th century situation I have ever seen, that era was where women
lived with the burning desire to leave a bad situation and got stuck because
they felt "they could not." This is 2 centuries later and women have greater
options now. Women are smarter that their counterparts they feel they are
stuck with.... but their self esteem is so low they feel like the bottom is where they belong.

You constantly break up.(then making up)

If your first resort to solving a relationship issue is to breakup with your
significant other all of the time, then you’re in deep trouble in my opinion.
Ending a relationship not only weakens the the connection, but reinforces
the notion that your mate is not invested in your union. If breaking up
becomes an endless cycles, you will undoubtedly begin to wonder if you’re
with the right person.
Figuring this out is not Rocket science, your math can't be that bad that you
need someone to tell you this is not a good place to be in. If you want to grab
his attention
breaking up will do it for a minute. As he (if he has any self pride) walks away and never returns.

"I tried"

Women need to also understand the basics of establishing a solid relationship!

Dating is gambling, you  are sometimes taking a serious chance, because you never know who you are going to meet or whether they truly are the person they are presenting to you. This uncertainty can make you feel very uncomfortable  about a possibility of someone new in your life, maybe even hopeless, if you don’t know what to do next. However, you must always know that no relationship is real without genuine trust. Trusting the unknown is very much a risky affair. And in order to trust your new partner, you need to learn how to look beyond what they say, and sometimes what they do. Even if you have had bad previous experiences, you should learn through mistakes, and if you pay close attention to these things you can easily find out if your love interest is honest or not. By you establishing the following:

Both of you have to have equal say in the relationship

A dishonest love interest will always steer things
into the direction that suits them best, and that means this love interest might try to manipulate you not to make any of the big decisions. You should also be cautious if they tells you that they knows best. A person that has no hidden motive will never do that, they will never keep things from you and will be straight forward about everything.

They never lets the fights get dirty

Every person is different, and it does not mean your love interest is is the one who is always right. When you are having an argument and they wants to have things their way even if they are  wrong, it means they only do it for the sake of fighting. An honest love interest will never wander from the original point of the argument, they will only try to resolve them in a way that works for both of you, without hurting your feelings or dignity.

Establishing your relationship is your new
love interest priority

If they are  honest about their  feelings,
they will show it by letting you know you are
their priority. However, this doesn’t mean
they will abandon everyone in their life just
to be there for you. In fact, they will most
likely not leave you alone when you need
them the most.

Your love interest is upfront about everything
(most important thing)

I told you I'm tall

Every person has different requirements and expectations from a relationship. Most people keep these a secret, while others are open about them. A love interest who is honest in a relationship will let you know what they expects from you and they will ask about your limitations.

Your "love interest" is always open to  conversations

Talking will be easier if you can remember my name

Dishonest people will never
feel comfortable when having
deep and meaningful conversations
and will try to avoid them. However,
if they really care about you they will
always hear you out and try to
understand how you feel. They
will never let you feel like you
are not being listened to.

Final thought

To all the fine elite woman you have earned your place at the table.... now get some love from the kind of man who compliments you best....

While he is listening....to your heart....
you can always here his special song.

"Baby hold on to me!"

Black men, we need to acknowledge that we are the problem in relationships.

I cannot pinpoint the exact moment I began to question the masculinity of African-American male as toxic. At one point I found myself constantly attempting to live up to the standards presumed from my Black male counterparts. Acceptance from my Black male friends was something that I sought out more than accepting my own point of view as to who I should be. References of BAD boys of their era.O.J. Simpson, Jim Brown, Fred Williamson, Jim Kelly, Richard Roundtree  to name just a few were guys I admired growing up. Now it seem like I should have know better because these guy mistreated women on the regular. Now even guys like Morgan Freeman.. are getting a bad rap.

I play the roll of a bad-boy!

It might be best to start this conversation with my experiences at 17 years old. I had just left  a small Island and moved to NYC to attend the University scene and was entering the Big apple environment. The sights, the rhetoric, the style of the students were drastically different from what I was used to.

Girls that I was getting to know had  become full-blown women after their first semester, guys that I once recalled to have toothpicks for arms now sustained muscles that were covered in art, and everybody had adopted a new way of talking which was known as slick “lingo!”

It took quite some time for me to adjust and adapt, which showed just how out-of-touch my little Island World  had made me, with my new had to join in on "code switch" experiences.   One of the major topics that  caught my  attention during my assimilation  into my new University life was how everyone was uncovering their sexuality.

Virtually everybody was sexually active, in one way or another. This concept was so foreign to me, considering how committed I was to saving my best  sexual experiences for a special lady. I found out that every new girl I met could be a  special lady a potential  marriage material (in my naive mindset) While the sexuality between both the young men and women in my school was being uncovered, I observed how gender operated to determine one’s sexual journey.

Men were praised for accumulating the most “bodies” (meaning the number of people somebody has slept with). The more bodies the man had, the more acclaim he got from his peers. In some instances, women would be more willing to mess with that man who had the most bodies because it showed he had experience. Not necessarily  pleasing women, but using them for their pleasure.

Meanwhile, women were criticized for having sex with multiple men. The more bodies a woman had, the more slander was thrown her way. Rhetoric such as “sluts”, “thots”, or “hoes” were passed around as if these women were deserving of these labels. They did not question the logic behind why men can have multiple partners and women cannot. That was just how it was!

When my friends asked me, I told them I was not a virgin, but  I had limited experience with women,I didn't consider girls I had sex with as  women, so I was green. Then the questions became how was I still so green, with the tone escorting that question being affiliated with a level of available shock. This shock gradually transitioned into straight disgust, as I saw girls I liked having been with a few guys I knew were pure  slimy dogs ( I didn't want flees, so I didn't look at those women as potential prospects).

Instead of truthfully stating that I was saving my best experiences for someone worthy of marriage, I made up an excuse about  women refusing to “put out,  because I was an Island guy..." My story got a resounding “MAN WHAT? THESE GIRLS BE TRIPPING!” from of my audience and progressively transformed into a suggestive “you just gotta start finding the easy joints bro. The dumb joints who would let anybody hit.” In My mind I had no intentions of finding these “easy joints” but just to solidify that I was “down” with the idea of fornicating with women, who had been with most of these dude that had no standards, I made sure to tell my fellahs to “put me onto, the list of easy hits.”


At that moment, I did not think much of this incident. Sure, I had just compromised my integrity to fit in with my ASSociates.  WelI hasn't every teenager done that at some point in their lives?  What made my case any more different or immoral than–say a 16-year-old white girl lying to her friends that she smokes weed?

And ultimately that was the problem.

The problem was that I saw no problem with what I said about my fallout with  a young women I really liked... who dropped me, like a hot potato, after our first date, because I took her to what she consider to be a boring  " Caribbean culture show and dance." She was nice about wanting to leave.... So I called her a cab. My night was over.... but I was not leaving with her, to get a hand shake "good night" at her dorm room door. Since  nothing was going to happen, between us,  I saw no reason to be a gentleman in this environment  of macho-ism. I let her go home by herself.. (not really my proud)

I viewed my actions as a normality between men and women who didn't hit it off in the African-American community. We be little the women. These discussions  were held frequently, at the barber shop  and I was just taking my part in it.  What I was supposed to say. I have heard my barbers, my peers, and random men in the streets use such explicit tongue to describe women or their encounter with them.

The fact that not much  changed since by Post teen years in NYC. every part of the country that I visited or lived in,  after that it was pretty much the same... The  loose morals behavior that I  now question..... when it will ever change. Women deserve better... But even good guys fall into the trap of wanting to fit in with the low-life bad-boys. baby-face guys need to act like the nice guys they are. 

making songs: "I said I love you!"

So how hard is it to undo, what's been done, by others!

"It's hard to trust, when all you have from the past is evidence that you shouldn't!"
~ unknown
 When I read that quote my mind just flipped. triggering thought about so much stuff I could write about. 

Hmm! being too HOT.. can also cause loneliness!

Well here goes:
I have always contented that Love is a tricky business in today’s day and age. Women start out so young and innocent, ready to jump in with both feet and believe in the fairy tale. That naivety lasts as long as their  first real heartbreak, and then women begin the process of becoming more guarded. They try again and again, and their hearts become more closed off with each bad experience. After being cheated on, lied to, ghosted, and just generally treated like dirt, women naturally become jaded and develop some major trust issues.

As women, you want to love. Compassion and nurturing is in your nature, but battling trust issues changes the game completely for you and for our prospective future partner. When women meet someone new, for example, rather than reacting with pure excitement like they did when they were younger, more mature women are skeptical. What does he want? How quickly.... can you find out his true motives so you don’t waste your time or get hurt again? It’s not fair to anyone, women know, but it’s not totally their fault. If you want someone to blame, how about all the losers who made you this way? Here are some of the main ways in which women love differently, and how we as men can help break down those walls if you want to be the one she does end up trusting.

WOMEN WILL BE EXTREMELY CAUTIOUS AT FIRST. They won’t give you too much information or let you get too close to them, but they might communicate from a distance while observing you astutely to determine if you’re trustworthy or not. The best thing you can do is understand their boundaries and communicate clearly if you do want a first/second date, because women will never assume that you do, unless you communicate your intentions.....

WOMEN WILL HARDLY EVER BE THE FIRST ONES TO CALL/TEXT YOU IN THE BEGINNING. This is especially true if they really like you, because some women been ghosted by several douche-bags who thought it was desperate or needy of a good woman to send a simple text. If a guy really like a woman, he'll have to be the first one to call or text for a little while. Eventually, by proving that a guy really do want to be there with her, She’ll trust you enough to send you that cute good morning text without assuming that the consequence will be never hearing from you again.

WOMEN WILL NEVER REALLY BE THEMSELVES UNTIL THEY ARE SURE IT’S FOR REAL. They won’t fully misrepresent themselves because they do want to be with someone who likes them for who they are, but, like most people, they probably have a few skeletons in the closet that only a handful of trusted friends know about. You’ll have to work your way into their inner circle before they'll feel comfortable enough to discuss things like financial problems, depression, anxiety, suicide attempts, or past arrests — you know, things that make people realize you’re not perfect and run away.....

Man that was too much for me!

WOMEN WILL INSIST ON TAKING IT SLOW, COMMITMENT-WISE, BUT THAT DOESN’T MEAN YOU SHOULD FREELY BANG EVERYONE IN TOWN,.....FELLAHS. Every step of building a relationship with someone new is terrifying to a person, who has trust issues. From the first time women actually feel like they are to the point where it’s getting serious, they are going to be silently freaking out on the inside because it’s all so scary and they’re still expecting you to either turn into a loser or bail on them at any moment. If you want it to turn into something real, the best thing you can do is show them how patient you can be and not go out hooking up with tons of other girls/women just because they haven’t had the exclusivity talk yet (that will just confirm in their heads that you’re another douche-bag who can’t be trusted).

WOMEN ARE VERY AWARE OF THEIR TRIGGERS AND THEY LISTEN TO THEM, HOPING TO AVOID REPEATING PAST MISTAKES. Trust issues are far from uniform: everyone has different experiences and triggers. If you’re dating someone who’s been cheated on with an ex who was “just a friend,” they will not want you to have a close relationship with your ex. Someone who’s been in an abusive or controlling relationship will see a great big red flag if you raise your voice to them or attempt to control who she spends her time with. You may see it as paranoia, but women see it as a necessity to protect themselves from getting hurt again.

Suspicious!

IF A MAN STARTS ACTING SHADY, WOMEN WILL NOTICE.If you used to leave your phone lying around unlocked, and suddenly it’s in your pocket blowing up with texts, a woman will notice and assume it’s probably another girl/woman. If you go to drop your kid off to your ex and end up staying out all night “hanging out with the guys!” it looks an awful lot like you spent the night having sex with your ex. It’s not that women don’t want men to have a life, but we men can’t wave red flags in their faces and expect them to look the other way (she may have done that, and that’s why they have trust issues). The solution is to be open and honest if it’s really your sister bombarding you with texts about her birthday party next week or if you had plans to get a few beers with your friends after you dropped Junior off (honest communication will put her at ease).

EVEN AFTER WOMEN ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP, THEY WILL STILL CONSTANTLY EVALUATE IT. It’s not enough to just “get the girl.” You still need to work to keep her. Don’t stop trying once they’re seemingly comfortable enough with you and you’re getting everything you want. Women with trust issues know that move too, and they know that they are worth some actual continuous effort.

IF THEY WANT A FAMILY, THEY’LL MAKE ABSOLUTELY SURE THAT YOU DO TOO BEFORE THEY GET TOO SERIOUS. Just saying that you want to get married and have kids isn’t good enough, because they’ve heard that line from plenty of horny guys before. You’ll need to prove it by having serious discussions about the time frame in which you want this to happen, how many kids you want, parenting styles, finances, religion (or the lack of it), and how it will affect both of your career paths. Obviously this conversation doesn’t need to happen right away, but before things get too serious, you should be ready to discuss.

THEY’LL INTRODUCE YOU TO THEIR FRIENDS AND ASK THEM LATER WHAT THEY THOUGHT OF YOU. We can’t be too careful when deciding who to trust with their hearts. Women's closest friends are most likely the only people in the world that they really trust, and these friends know them well enough to help them discern who’s trustworthy and who isn’t. It’ll be worth your while to connect with them. Not only will their support help you gain her trust, but you’ll be seeing them a lot more in the future if things work out.

GET A WOMAN TO TRUST YOU WITH LOVE IS ABSOLUTELY WORTH IT.Those women who have trust issues are at a place in life where it’s all or nothing. You start out with nothing, but you have the opportunity to have it all if you are patient, genuine, and kind. Once women trust you and let you in, they will love you with the purest love that exists. Just ask their closest friends how loyal they are.

Maybe you are just too hot?

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Your Partner Wants You Just For Sex, Not Love!

Your place or mine?

These are some strong indicators:
1. THEY HAVE A HISTORY OF NOT BEING ABLE TO COMMIT
2. A LACK OF COMFORT WITH EMOTIONS
3. YOU SOMETIMES HAVE SEX WHEN YOU DON’T REALLY WANT TO
4. YOUR PARTNER IS UNAVAILABLE FOR MOST OF YOUR PLANS
5. YOUR CONVERSATIONS USUALLY TURN TO FLIRTATIONS OR YOUR PARTNER SHUTS DOWN.

Your partner may be an experienced good lover, but if the love that you get all seems to be physical, you might be wondering if it’s a sign that your partner wants you for just sex, not really interested in love.

You might think that the stereotype is for men to be the ones  more likely to be in it for just sex, not love, but researchers in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology say that women are just as interested in casual sexual hookups, these days.

Gender differences in men and women’s ideals about romantic love versus sex were studied by researchers in the journal Personal Relationships. The scientists say ‘Men were more sexually permissive than women (this was consistent with previous research), although women and men similarly endorsed other aspects of sexuality, including sex as an emotional experience. Men and women differed on several relationship variables (e.g., women were more oriented to friendship-based love, and men to game-playing--- love.)

Knowing that a woman might be into a sex-only relationship if it lacks friendship and men might be in a sex-only relationship if it lacks some playful pursuit may help you to identify the signs your partner wants you explicitly for sex, not real love.

Your sex partner is someone that you enjoy being intimate with, but you want to know that you aren’t being used. No one wants to find out that the love that they thought they had was just lust. Let’s look at the most compelling signs that your partner just wants you for sex.

Are there a lot of short-term relationships in your partner’s past? Maybe he or she has always been the one to leave their relationships in the past rather than getting their own feelings hurt?

The signs that your partner isn’t capable of making a caring, long-term connection with you or anyone else before now is also a sign that they want your for sex, and nothing else.

Not feeling comfortable expressing frustration, sadness or worries can be a problem, because it also means that your sex partner doesn’t know how to show you love either.

In his book The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy Is as Necessary as Love and Sex, David M. Buss says that men and women have different expectations about sharing emotions and fidelity. For example, a woman is more likely to be upset if her sex partner has an emotional affair with another woman.  Men, on the other hand, says David, feel that actually having sex with someone else is a more terrible betrayal.Someone’s sleeping and doing the nst on my home turf.

Emotional cheating is real and if your sex partner won’t open up about his or her emotions to you, it’s a sign that your sex partner may just want you for, you guest it, just sex. Possibly, your partner is sharing their emotions with another potential romantic partner.

Emotional bonding, especially over positive emotions, is important for a romantic relationship that is based on love, not just sex. If your sex partner is emotionally distant or suppressing emotions, it’s a sign that they are in it for the physical sex, only.

When your sex partner is just using you, it’s more likely that you are having sex a lot, and maybe more than you would personally want. In fact, more than once, you have probably told your sex partner that you were not in the mood, but they insisted, and you ended up having sex that you were pressured into.

Feeling pressured into sex straddles the line on being rape (if you are a female) and is very concerning. If you have told your sex partner a verbal ‘No’ when it comes to sex, and your partner had sex with you anyway against your wishes, that is what constitutes rape in most states, regardless of your marital status.

Dinner? Sorry, your partner has a late meeting, but maybe you could come over later after 10pm. How about a picnic in the park, or at the beach? No, your partner has other plans that don’t include you, but maybe some snacks between the sheets later?

If your partner starts missing birthdays, holidays and anniversary plans, you can be certain that your relationship is not deep. You begin to get the hint that the only part of your partner’s life that you’ll be involved in is in the bedroom between the sheets

If you refuse to talk dirty with your partner and he or she refuses to talk to you because of it, it’s a sign that your partner wants you for sex only.  Clearly, they see the relationship talk and texting as foreplay, not intimate bonding of forever after.