Ask Your Partner These Pertinant Premium Questions!

Do you really want answers to these questions? 

Ask for Some good relationship advice before considering a
committed relationship, if the answers give you "pause!" .

The smart thing to do is to take the time to ask questions that plunge
into the inner depths of your partner’s personality and psychology.
Here are eleven questions you can ask to his or her suitability for a
marriage partner:

Why do you love me?

This is a questions that lovers have asked each other from the beginning
of time, but it does provide real information about their psychological
and social needs in a mate. If the focus seems to be on what you have
or what you can provide materially in the marriage, you might need to
look elsewhere for an authentic commitment.

My take is: You need to note ....if you are expecting some
specific answers that are pleasing to your ears, you might become disappointed.
Each person is different and gender specific expectations can lead to
misinterpretations of "what was said" VS "what was meant"
ask for clarity, for example: "what is love in your view" &
"can you love me unconditional" or "
will you fall out of love as soon as I get you annoyed about
something I did or didn't do?"

What are you goals and are you willing to adjust them
for the relationship?

This question can reveal what priority the relationship has in the
overall life plan. If the individual is more to achieve life goals and
expects you to do all the adjusting, it could be an unfavorable sign.

My take is: Goals can become illusive as change will happen,
your goals when you are single, will become different when you are
a couple , and add children to the mix and the goals will change again. ....
anyone who understands that goals constantly changing as times
is constantly changing the World is constantly changing,
people are constantly change... I think you get the Pic.

Do you know how to compromise?

Compromise is the essence of a good marriage. A person who
shows an inclination to feel “it’s my way or the highway” is not a
good candidate for the negotiations and compromises that
marriage requires.

When does anyone voluntarily compromise? The word says it all,
You compromise when you don't have a choice... Most of us
would like to have our own way. We are only willing to
compromise when having our way is no longer an possibility.

What’s your relationship with your family?

A bad relationship with family can indicate issues that
could affect the marriage. Similarly, someone is too close
to his or her family may be so enmeshed that the marriage
may not come first. Relationship counseling can help to
resolve these issues.

My take is: What does that have to do with you and me?
After we are joint we need to forsake all others... Just you and me.
If I like my family you might not. If I don't you might like
them just fine. So how do we compromise on who's
family is the best fit for both of us? Family are like the package
you are given on your journey through life, some you want
to take with you....others not so much.

Why do you want to spend your life’s journey with me?

This answer can tell you about the expectations of your partner and
whether relationship therapy might be needed to create healthier
expectations about your role in the marriage.

My take is: most folks do not want to take their life journey alone
we roll the dice and hope to hit the luck 7.
a) Her/his looks matches our taste.
b) their potential income looks promising to add to mine.
c) our off-springs can look like either of us or both... or an ancestor...
d) Our spiritual connect works, maybe it was meant to be!
e) Socially I'm not embarrassed by us being out in public....
f) The height difference is not an issue, too tall or too short.
g) Not too fat not too slim... almost perfect or just perfect.

Can you keep the romance alive?

Someone who understands the value of keeping romance alive
will actively work to invigorate the relationship over time.
First define Romance.. If it meets my version then we are on our way
If not then it could be a deal breaker!

My take is: This is the most difficult question to answer because
it is predicting the future behaviors as we just don't know what
will cause us to keep being romantic no more than we can
predict the future that will cause us to stop being romantic.
Let's just assume we should find good reasons to keep it hot.

Can’t you work through the rough patches

Someone who dislikes conflict or who cannot work out
differences will make a poor marriage partner.

My take is: First let's examine what rough extreme patches look like
Then we will see if they are too rough or just rough enough to be
worked through.

What are your parenting skills?

If you intend to have children, the previous family experiences
of your partner can have a significant effect on his or her ability to parent.


My take is: Parenting depends on your parent/ child relation you
experienced. I had dad that did not believe in spankings, My mom
on the other hand did. So I copied my Dad. because his style worked
well enough for me.

Can you commit to grow with me instead of away from me?

This answer can tell you whether the person understands the
nature of close relationships and the constant maintenance they require.


My take is: Hmmm! If someone is committing to a relationship
they should know if the expiration dates are going to be based on
circumstances which is unavoidable or will loose interest down the road
because it is just boring to continue being with someone for a long long time.

Will you continue to grow in the relationship?

A person that continues to have hobbies and interests that are
separate from the marriage will make a more interesting
and independent partner.


My take is: I wonder who will really answer this truthfully
somethings are just not possible to answer up front... If "I will try"
is a good enough answer then we are good.

If My Life Is Cut Short, Will You Honor My Memory Forever?

An individual that will continue to hold that relationship in
memory as a valuable experience, rather than close the book on it, i
s likely to make the most of the time you have together.



My take is: Who's to say one of us will live longer than the other
Avoid living a life, if you can, where you are always going
through changes, "living in confusion!"

So what titles are you comfortable with?

"Baron will do!" That is my name.

I believe the term "treat him like a King" is a statement that gives most modern-day women a momentary "Pause!" Most will think that they are making the man superior in the union,  by declaiming him "a King," it's as if  he is being put in that position of being her "King" To reign over her.
Where as men do not hesitate much, since calling a woman a "Queen" still allows him to maintain the dominant position, if he choses... it's always his choice, at least in his mind, thinking it''s still his Kingdom to reign over.
As a titled "Queen" a woman feels strong so much so, if something’s going on between the two sexes, she won’t hesitate to have a conversation about it so the problem can be resolved quickly, if she is confirmed as an equal.


KINGS AND QUEENS THEY LOOK AT A RELATIONSHIP AS A TEAM.

They can’t have anyone slowing them down in life, so they only choose someone who they can see building a stable life with in the future. A Queen doesn’t want anyone to control or anyone to control her; she wants someone who will grow with her and whose future can be intertwined with hers. She wants someone who has her back and who she can protect as well. A self appointed  Queen doesn’t need someone in order to feel better about herself; she just wants someone to celebrate all the wins in life with, and someone to support and encourage her through the losses.

That right "self appointed Queen!"

QUEENS  DON’T GET JEALOUS EASILY

Trust is a big deal for a strong woman, because she doesn’t just hand trust out. It has to be earned over a period of time, and even then, she might still need some more time. So, if you have "her trust," don’t do anything to lose it, because you most likely won’t be getting that privilege back. If she trusts you, then she doesn’t worry about the friends you hang out with or where you go after work. She doesn’t get seriously jealous of the other people you spend time with, because she gave you her heart and knows you will protect  the Relationships



“I believe in strong women. I believe in the woman who is able to stand up for herself. I believe in the woman who doesn’t need to hide behind her husband’s back. I believe that if you have problems, as a woman you deal with them, you don’t play victim, you don’t make yourself look pitiful, you don’t point fingers. You stand and you deal. You face the world with a head held high and you carry the universe in your heart.”  – C. JoyBell C.

Strong women know more than anything else that taking care of themselves is a must, and to not look upon anyone else to swoop in and save the day for them. They have been battle tested, and learned what independence truly means. Strong women have never known what’s it like to need anyone, because they had to fend for themselves at a young age. Any strong woman you meet has had a few crappy hands dealt to her in life, but she’s risen above like the champion she is at heart, not allowing one misstep or misfortune to hold her down.

Strong women are fierce, courageous, resilient, and beautiful. If you’re the lucky guy or gal that gets to call her yours, you’d do well to keep the following points in mind so you know what to expect in your relationship with your strong

 QUEENS AREN’T LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP TO SAVE THEM

No, they learned as a child that no one would come to save them – they had to save themselves. They never had the pleasure of relying on anyone for anything, so why start now? The person there for them at the end of the day was always staring back at them in the mirror before they laid their head down at night, so they see no reason to give that duty to someone else.

In relationships, strong women do not view you as a means to an end – a way to become more financially or emotionally stable, or to cure themselves of loneliness, etc. They don’t have any ulterior motive to being with you, so you don’t have to worry. There’s a lot more security in a relationship with a strong woman, because you don’t have to walk on eggshells around her in order to keep her happy. You don’t have to bring home a six figure income to keep her satisfied, and you don’t have to babysit her emotions. There is both security and freedom in being in a relationship with a woman who needs no hero to save her.

 QUEENS KNOW WHAT THEY WANT

Because of this, they don’t approach relationships the same way those who are just wading in the dating pool might. They dive right in and know their target long before they’ve even hit the water. In other words, these women have been  ready mentally for years.

In the final analysis "Know what you want" ladies!

You need to recognize if you are in an unhealthy relationship.

 You Love Someone Who Doesn’t Deserve You....

So tell me again, how much you love me!

It is very hard to be in a relationship with a person who does not appreciate your love and does not do anything to make you feel loved and tries to make you happy. Loving a self-absorbed person can be devastating because they will not give anything in return no matter how much you give to them.

You will keep trying to please them constantly but they will never let you know they see what you are doing for them, neither they will feel the need to do the same for you. If you feel like you are in a similar situation, this article can help you find out more about whether your partner is the person you should spend your life with. Here are the signs you should pay attention to:

They  lie and are cheaters

The fact that the question is being asked confirm it!

Nobody deserves to be lied to and cheated on, and this shows that your partner disrespects you entirely. It is a never ending circle that he/she will keep doing no matter what you say or do. If you let them get away with it once, be sure they will do it many times. A partner that lies and cheats is not worthy of your time, because with this behavior they show your feelings are not important to them at all.

They are always taking and never giving

Relationships are about giving and taking in a balanced manner. Sometimes one partner might provide more, but both partners should be at the same point after a while. If you feel like you are the one who is giving and your partner is never looking to give back, then you are not someone they want to be with. Regardless of your personality, if you love someone you will do everything to make them feel loved and happy if you truly value them. A partner that does not do anything for you will make you feel exhausted and empty.

They belittle you

This behavior is one of the worst because they will do it to make you feel inferior and it is more than just a passive issue. Don’t try to make excuses for this kind of person if they are hurting you with words constantly and making you cry and feel miserable. Never tolerate such toxic behavior, and do the right thing for your own good and leave this kind of person.

They are unreliable

How much can you rely on their help and support when you really need them? If your partner usually lets you go through hard times by yourself, do you really need him/her? Being in a relationship with a person that does not support you is pointless. Someone who deserves you will never make you feel like an inconvenience when you turn to them for their help.

They are selfish

Relationship is also a partnership no matter how long you have been together. Both partners should work to achieve the next level and succeed together. However, you should also both be selfless and do things for each other even if you don’t have any benefit from them. A person who does this for you is the one who really deserves you, and never settle for anything less than that.

Final thoughts

If one or more of these signs are familiar to you, then you should reconsider your relationship with your lover is on a BAD track, of train that will eventually derail. Dealing with your own issues is much better than staying with someone who will never make you feel loved and appreciated.

no amount of time invested will ever
make it reverse and become right.

You know it's right when you can say the following

Nothing Has Ever Felt Like This!

Things men don't get any credit for, when she has a long awaited orgasm!

The proof is in the pudding, hmmm!

Single women can sometimes be extremely judgmental about who they will and won’t date. But let’s face it, ladies, "your perfectly imperfect man" could be right under your nose, but you may never know it because you’re looking at all the wrong things. There really is such a thing as being “too picky,” I have readers who fit the bill. But don't worry, I can help you. Take this advice and open up new possibilities.



Guys. stop upsetting yourselves about her orgasms and her blaming you for not reaching one.  

my suggestion is to Let her mind wander: Fantasizing during sex may help her orgasm, found in a recent Belgian study.

Great to know!

  

Women who reported regularly experiencing "the big O" were more likely to imagine sexy scenarios while getting it on than those who had trouble finishing. 

For more about what’s on her dirty mind, read: Is She Fantasizing about Other Men? keep your ego in check, fellahs! You do it all the time fantasizing about Halle, Beyonce, Jenny Lopez from the Bronx

Yes, your fantasy works for me!

So let her  have a moment of fantasy, where  she thinks you're Name  is "Alezado" from Milan, or Edris Elba.

It’s possible that her erotic thoughts help keep her focused on feeling good. Women who have a hard time getting off tend to be more distracted during sex, according to the paper, while those who orgasm easily may be more tuned into their sensations. May know a thing or two about their "G- spot" and will encourage you to do it just right . 

A cube projector could come in handy!

It’s possible that her erotic thoughts help keep her focused on feeling good, the researchers say. Women who have a hard time getting off tend to be more distracted during sex, about things that should not be important at that moment , while those women who orgasm easily may be more tuned into their sensations. 

So encourage her to fantasize.

 Many women feel guilty about it, so make sure she knows you’re glad she has a dirty mind.

Even better yet, you can help engage her in the moment and take a starring role in her script by ramping up your dirty talk. Start by whispering, with a deep voice, how much you want  to make her feel good. From there, grunts, moans, groan, or any sort of verbal reaction can help put her over the edge.

Final thoughts

The first thing my mother ever taught me about sex is: "Sex creates an emotional connection, even when you don't think it will." The act of intercourse produces all sorts of chemicals in the brain associated with bonding, love, reward, and pleasure. When you add to that the fact that sexual intercourse is physiologically intimate, you start to realize that it's impossible to have sex without triggering a psychological bonding response. If mind and body connect.... this.....should cause her to have an Orgasms

"Always"

Who feels betrayal more Men or Women?

You promised you would never betray me! but you did!

Why do we feel emotionally betrayed if our partner sleeps with another person, even 

though we all know that sex does not necessarily involve love? There are two kinds

of cheating: physical and emotional. The author of the above question is clearly asking

about sexual cheating, however I will address both because in my opinion neither is 

worse than the other (but then again I'm a man).

Sexual (Physical) Cheating

Sex is a biological function. While for the majority of people it is most satisfying when
emotions like love and affection are involved, emotions are not necessary at all for sex
to happen, or for sex to be physically pleasurable. Anyone who's enjoyed casual sex
or had a one-night stand can agree with this.

Couples, whether they're dating or in a long-term committed relationship, pretty
much always involve their emotions in the bedroom, back seat of a car, bathtub,
even kitchen counter.These romantic relationships thrive not just on sexual intimacy,
but also on the core needs of honesty, trust and respect between partners.
Two poeple can have an amazing sex life, but if they don't trust and respect
each other, they will encounter some  suffering and pain in their relationship.

Cheating is not about the physical act of sex. Cheating is about lies,
deceit, and betrayal. A cheater is not simply defined as someone who is intimate
with a person who is not his/her primary partner. A cheater is someone who
establishes a boundary of sexual/emotional monogamy with one partner,  
then gets intimate with a different person anyway, and lies about it.

A cheater betrays their partner, deceives them, and lies about what they've done.

There's a plethora of non-monogamous couples who walk this Earth,
and successfully maintain their romantic relationships while having sex
with other people who aren't their primary partner.

Emotional (Mental) Cheating

You can also call this emotional transference.

Can you keep what we just did a secret?

Emotional cheating is when one partner

begins to bond emotionally with a third party
in a way that feels, to the other partner, like an
act of betrayal. This is cheating just as much
 as sexual infidelity is cheating - but it's much

less discussed, because everyone seems to
have this idea of cheating being a solely
physical act of betrayal. Emotional cheating could be a girlfriend repeatedly revealing her
personal issues to a guy who's not her boyfriend, while she discusses her personal issues with
her actual boyfriend less and less. It could be a husband spending more quality time with a
co-worker than he spends with his own wife. Emotional cheating is more about the way
it makes the cheated-on partner feel betrayed, than the method of betrayal itself.
Sometimes one partner cheats on the other emotionally, without even realizing they're doing it
-- and that stems from a breakdown of communication and/or trust in the relationship.
Anyone who has experienced the effect of emotional cheating, anyone who's felt betrayed
because their partner was "transferring" their feelings of affection or closeness to another,
will tell you that it's just as hurtful as sexual cheating. Emotional cheating comes
from the same place as sexual cheating: there is a basic lack
of trust and respect for each other between partners. One party feels it can't
be honest with the other, or maybe the feeling is mutual.
The method of cheating is different; the result is the same.

We don't feel emotionally betrayed simply because our partner is physically intimate
with another person. We feel emotionally betrayed because our partner does something
that we feel communicates their lack of respect for and trust in our relationship.

Boundaries are different for every couple, especially
these days.
The concept of betrayal can run
the gamut from a years-long affairs,

to a girl's boyfriend stealing a glance
at another girl's ass.
On a very basic level, cheating is betrayal in any form, and betrayal is a symptom of
a relationship that lacks trust and honest.Many couples will disagree on what
constitutes betrayal -and this itself is problematic, because if you don't understand
your own boundaries in a relationship, you can pretty much guarantee you're going
to hurt your partner, or get hurt, whether you intend to or not.

So which woman would a  modern day man do this for? 
The betrayed woman  as he apologizes!
Or  the other woman, as he is trying to impress her?

I will end on this note:

How you feel about cheating depends a lot on your gender.  
Our nature has evolved to ensure the survival of our species
by two distinct roles: man and woman.  

The man impregnates the woman and protects her while she
comes to term, and provides for her throughout the
nurturing process (many decades, ideally).  

The man expects the child to be his and will
fight any man trying to copulate with 'his' woman.
The woman expects the man to support her in this way

and trusts that she is the only priority in his life
(otherwise, in the wild,

she is a bit screwed).

If either the man or woman break this fundamental
trust, then they have big problems: the male is raising a child
that is potentially not his and the female is facing raising
a child with no support.  If you look at this from the view

of optimizing genetic reproduction: ideally, men would be
the sole mate of as many females as possible and women
would have both the best genetic material from the father
as well as the support of the best protector/provider.  

In both cases, polygamy is probably the best way to
achieve it It is literally impossible to overstate the
importance of honesty, trust, and respect

in any partnership.
Do it, "Just Once" and it can become a good habit!