Reasons Why Most Men Can’t Handle A Strong Woman These Days

What makes a strong woman in this 21 century? Among many factors, her struggles, sacrifices, and selflessness play a huge part. A strong woman has endured pain, overcome heart-wrenching experiences, and has allowed herself to be led by forgiveness. A strong woman has swam in deep and treacherous waters and held her breath as long as possible. This type of woman is self-sufficient, independent, loving, and has little/no fears of showing her vulnerability. If the woman you love fits the above description, consider yourself very privileged. The strong woman knows that one moment you are the teacher, and the next you might be the student. She understands and is okay with this, but sometimes the man in her life fails to share this understanding. So, how does a strong woman keep a man like this happy? Fellahs can you handle a strong woman in your life? 1. A STRONG WOMAN DOESN’T NEED A MAN TO FIGHT FOR HER. Most men needs to feel wanted. Men need to know that they are battling for the eternal love and admiration of his woman. A strong woman will show you that she loves you, but she’s also independent and can manage on her own. The strong woman is willing to fight for both of you, but she doesn’t need a man to fight her battles for her. If she has a problem, she triess to deals with it. A strong woman doesn’t sit and wait, as a victim, for a man to find the solution. Some men can’t handle this strength. If you choose to remain with this type of woman, be willing to walk beside her . . . not in front of her, pulling her to where you think she should be. 2. A STRONG WOMAN KNOWS WHAT SHE WANTS. Strong women know what they want, how to attain it, and remember all that they had to endure to get whatever they have. A woman like this knows what she wants. If she likes a man, she will go after him. She will not wait for the man to make the first move on future plans. Strong women have tenacious personalities that can be extremely intimidating for some men. They aren’t submissive. They love wholeheartedly and also can continue exploring the world with a man or not. It takes a self-confident man to allow this type of personality to take charge from time to time. 3. A STRONG WOMAN WILL REQUIRE HONESTY AND VULNERABILITY. Many men have a hard time opening up to difficult questions. Strong women dive right into the depth of hurt, traumas, and life-changing experiences. They require a man who can be honest and vulnerable, because they have endured so much in their lives and want to believe they are not alone. They need to know that their mate can be available to navigate the ocean of uncertainties and travel the edges of madness. Strong women don’t fear the past. They excavate and search for those things that make us human. The strong woman will always find a strong man to stand tall with her in the face of adversity. Men tend to avoid vulnerability because it makes them feel weak. If you want to gain the admiration of the strong woman in your life, do not fear moments of vulnerability. 4. A STRONG WOMAN IS NOT INTIMIDATED BY INTIMACY. The strong woman will challenge a man in the most intimate of ways. She will require intimacy in all forms, from conversation to making love. She will hold nothing back. Because a strong woman is comfortable with her femininity, she will expect her man to also be open to all aspects of intimacy. She requires passion and desire; she wants to feel like she’s the one. 5. A STRONG WOMAN CAN SEE THROUGH LIES. Strong women are honest and expect complete trust in a relationship. They can sense lies in an instant, so don’t try to sugarcoat a white lie. Don’t give the strong woman in your life any bogus explanations. She has the ability to act as a human lie detector. Being in a relationship with a strong woman requires no holding back. She will never tolerate a sense of falseness and selfishness. If you can’t be with her completely, she will have no problem moving on. 6. A STRONG WOMAN REQUIRES INTEGRITY AND CONSISTENCY. Women who have inner strength cannot tolerate irregularity or indecisive personalities. They want to know that the man they love has integrity and respect, and is a man of his word. If they start to feel that their man is pulling away, they will react accordingly and have no problem letting him go if they feel they are being played. They want to feel like they are loved unconditionally. If they feel disrespected, they will have no issues setting that matter straight. The worst thing you can do to a strong woman is make her feel weak. 7. A STRONG WOMAN CAN BE INTENSE. A strong woman has endured extraordinary challenges and obstacles in her life. In other words, she is strong for a reason, because she has had to be powerful during extremely dark moments. Having come through, she knows she can endure anything else in her path, but this kind of intensity is oftentimes difficult for a man to understand. It’s intimidating because of all the emotions and thoughts that come with this type of persona. The strong woman is willing to share her scars, and expects you to do the same. There are no secrets in her world. 8. A STRONG WOMAN WILL NOT WAIT FOR YOU. This type of woman will follow you to the depths of hell if she knows you are committed to her. However, the moment you start to pull back, she will let you go. She will not wait for a man to decide if he wants her or someone better. Strong women don’t play little, girly games. You are either in or you are out. They will face hurt, heal from their wounds, and get back up ready to conquer whatever is next. 9. A STRONG WOMAN WILL LOVE YOU UNCONDITIONALLY. The love you receive from a strong woman is faithful. Just like mothers with their children, the strong woman will nurture and love her man fiercely. When she feels that love in return, she will do anything she can to make him feel loved. The strong woman in your life will support you, help you, and fight for you to get what you deserve. Some men can’t handle this kind of unconditional love. They get frightened by the intensity and depth of giving. Many times it is in this stage that men flee from a strong woman. If this happens, regardless of how deeply she loved you, she will also let you go. She knows her worth. 10. A STRONG WOMAN WILL SHOW YOU WHO YOU ARE. It’s hard to accept the things we don’t like about ourselves when someone points them out. A strong woman will speak up about those parts in her man that need addressing. She will also be there to help show you how amazing and powerful you are. She will stand by you and show you pure acceptance and confidence. Some men cannot handle the emotional chaos that comes up with this type of demeanor. For this reason, strong women will find strong men; the weak ones won’t make it past the first few dates. Weak men don’t know what to do with the honesty, strength, intelligence, and independence that is portrayed by a woman of strength. A strong man, on the other hand, was likely raised by a strong woman. He knows how to either deal with the dark nights of the soul that arise in any relationship, or leave. Barry Paul Price writes, “Dating a strong woman is not something every guy can handle. He has to be confident in himself as a person, and as a man. Men must feel capable of meeting a woman’s needs. Traditionally, we did that providing financial security and physical protection. More recently, as women have expressed themselves with more independence and toughness, men aren’t sure how or when they’re needed by their woman. He ends up feeling unsure of his value and significance in the relationship. Many women tell me their man’s emotional support is just as important as financial and physical contributions. Unfortunately, men are not used to identifying masculinity with giving emotional support.” Fellahs...... Do you have the strength to support your woman of strength in the way she most needs it? Strong women have no time to play games. If you can handle the intensity, love, and honesty she will provide, you might just be the man who can complement this type of woman.

Love is tricky.

Why do men leave women when it takes so much courage to fall in love in the first place? For men, it might be more difficult to deal with falling in love than for a woman. When a man falls in love, he must take into account the suffering that might occur by opening up all of himself to her. Is the risk worth it? A man rarely dives in fully but steps little by little into the world of second-guessing and ups and downs. Men know they are not born with an innate understanding of how women operate. Sometimes a few simple factors can go a long way in increasing understanding. This can go both ways. 1. HE FEELS THAT SHE’S TRYING TO FIX HIM. When a man starts to feel that he’s not enough, that his flaws are huge, or that he cannot be himself without judgment, he starts looking for the exit. Women, often without realizing it, tend to emasculate men by making them their projects and by trying to change or “improve” them. Albert Einstein said, “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.” What a man really needs is a woman who offers wholehearted encouragement so a man can discover who he truly is. This is what we all need in a relationships. A man can grow and mature with the help of a loving and supportive partner. 2. HE IS THREATENED BY THE WOMAN’S SUCCESS. In a study conducted by the University of Florida, men experience a huge blow to their self-esteem when their female partners experience success, even when they are not in direct competition. A woman’s success also negatively impacts how the man views the future of their relationship. If the man has not been able to attain the success he feels he deserves, this is often a pivotal reason he might leave a relationship. He cannot join her in her success or support her because he is inwardly comparing her success to his failures. 3. HE FEELS BOTHERED TOO OFTEN. Men can zone out sometimes, but not more often than when a woman is saying the same thing to him repeatedly. Constant bothering and belittling can destroy a relationship. Men may play like children, but they are not kids. They rarely tolerate constant whining and complaining. Men need to feel appreciated and uplifted. They will ignore and avoid this type of ‘nagging’ because it adds to negative reinforcement, or even passive-aggressive conflict. If he knows she is going to give him grief, he will not respond well to requests or comments. If he feels she will complain no matter what he does, he realizes there is no satisfaction in doing what she wants. To a man, a nagging woman is not a supportive or enjoyable partner to have. .4 HE SUFFERS A LACK OF INTIMACY. Believe it or not, men crave intimacy just as much as women. If a man has to beg for it while the woman withholds it to get him to do things, he may leave the relationship to seek that connection with someone else. A man will not stand by too long with a woman who will not participate in intimate encounters with her partner. A man falls in love with a woman for many reasons, but he also needs to feel that he is the most desirable person in her life. 5. SHE COMPARES HIM TO OTHER MEN. There is nothing more annoying to a man than listening to a woman talk about past relationships. When the woman starts to compare him to an ex, that’s the beginning of the end. Men do not want to analyze their partner’s past relationships and intimate connections. A man wants to believe he is the only one that matters right now. He doesn’t want to hear that a previous lover did this or that. He wants to know that what he is doing right now is enough. 6. HER EMOTIONAL CO-DEPENDENCY. Men need their space. Men also need their friends. A man doesn’t want to be treated as a possession or feel like he is a babysitter. When a man begins to feel that he has lost his freedom to participate in sports, outings, or social gatherings with his friends, he just might choose to leave. A healthy relationship requires that both parties have their own set of friends and hobbies. Co-dependency tarnishes the spark of a relationship. Men don’t over-analyze this feeling of being imprisoned. The moment they feel their lives have drastically been high-jacked, that’s when they breakcamp . A Man deeply fear losing his freedom. FINAL THOUGHTS ON WHY MEN LEAVE WOMEN THEY LOVE Men fall in love with the expectation of being appreciated, respected and supported. If a man no longer feels like he is the hero of the story, he will naturally face a serious decision in whether or not he should change his relationship status.

Signs You’re Destined To Be Together

 

5 SIGNS YOU’RE DESTINED TO BE TOGETHE

Being crazy in love is one of the most magical experiences in our lives. Questions rise when you meet someone new: 

To stay or not to stay? Is s/he the one or not? Are we compatible? Can this be my soulmate? You don’t always know if you are 

“meant for each other.” So how do you answer those questions? Sometimes the answer is just as simple as stepping back and

 opening your heart to what’s in front of you.

HERE ARE 5 SIGNS THAT YOU ARE DESTINED TO BE TOGETHER:

1. YOU CAN BE VULNERABLE.

When you allow yourself to open up, you are living authentically. You get to be raw and real. There is beauty in accepting 

your flaws and those of your partner. Owning each other’s full stories is freeing. It’s in that vulnerability that

 true love flourishes. If you can share and bear your soul without feeling scrutinized or criticized, this person is a keeper.

“What happens when people open their hearts? They get better.” ~ Haruki Murakami

2. YOU RESPECT EACH OTHER.

Mutual appreciation requires a mature level of trust and respect. Respect requires honesty. The truest form of love is how 

you behave with another in a relationship. In that state of respect, you get to share things that you wouldn’t tell anyone. 

Respect is earned. When you are in a relationship that provides safety and security, you have found someone special.

“The moment you put someone on a pedestal they will look down upon you. The trick is respecting each other equally.” 

~ Teresa Mummert

3. YOU ARE NOT JEALOUS.

You crave time with each other, but also require ample space. There is no jealousy in the relationship because you still 

remain individuals. There is no strain about past insecurities because you feel at ease with (and without) each other all the time. 

You spend time apart with friends, and each time you reconnect, it is rewarding. There is no co-dependency or possessiveness. 

You crave to be with each other, but you recognize it is important to have freedom of expression and separate interests.

“Insecure people only eclipse your sun because they’re jealous of your daylight and tired of their 

dark, starless nights.” ~ Shannon L. Alder

4. YOU LAUGH TOGETHER.

Being silly comes naturally. You can poke fun at each other. Laughter is ever-present in your relationship. Many times,

 these type of relationships start as friendships. You value each other enough to be yourself. It’s a healthy place. 

If you can laugh at yourself with your partner without holding back the sarcasm, you have something that is beyond special. 

These types of relationships are destined to endure.

“No one can be your sun, moon, or stars until you have your own world.” ~ K. M. Docherty

 

 

5. YOU RAISE EACH OTHER UP.

The two of you help each other reach the best possible versions of yourselves. You become explorers and adventurers 

in finding ways to bring joy to one another. You accept everything about each other without feeling judged or judging.

 It’s in these types of relationships that the best is enhanced. If your relationship is based on admiration and inspiration 

for each other, you have found a gem.

What exactly is squirting?

 

One of the biggest urban legends in the history of sex is the concept of “squirting.” This has sparked some of the most consistent inquiries such as: Is it real? Can all women do it? Is it pee? The list of questions is endless. When it comes to squirting people tend to fall into one of several categories; those who’ve experienced it, seen it in porn, or simply heard about it. In fact, according to data collected by Pornhub, from 2010 to 2017 searches for “women squirting” drastically increased. Which means you’re definitely not alone in your curiosity about squirting.

What exactly is squirting? It's not twirking!

So, let’s break it down! There is a lot of debate surrounding what squirting actually is, but one thing that we do know is that it involves the Skene gland. The latest research found that squirting is actually a gush of fluid coming out of the urethra created in the Skene’s gland. The Skene’s glands are located on the upper wall of the vagina, near the lower end of the urethra. 

So now we know why people would ask, “Wait, so is squirting pee?” 

Some researchers say yes while others say no. What’s been proven is the fluid released during squirting does contain traces of urine and other fluids.  

Can all women squirt? 

Well, that’s unclear. It’s estimated that between 10 and 50 percent of women squirt during sex, according to The International Society for Sexual Medicine. Some experts believe all women can squirt, with the right technique, amount, and type of penetration. For a lot of women, squirting often goes unnoticed. Unlike in porn, some women only squirt a small amount of fluid. According to a 2013 study of 320 participants, the amount of fluid released can range from approximately 0.3ml to more than 150ml. That’s anything from a few drops to half a cup.

How do you squirt?

Some women squirt involuntarily, while others can do it on command. Some experience it with every sexual encounter and others once in a blue moon — or not at all. No matter where you fall on the squirting spectrum the key to squirting is the G-spot. 

Stimulating the G-Spot is the secret sauce to squirting.You can find your G-spot by sticking a finger in your vagina and making a “come hither” motion. You’ll know you have located the spot if you feel a small ridged area along the front of your vaginal wall. You can also use a toy. G-spot toys are perfect for both solo or partnered exploration because, let’s be honest, fingers get tired, and rarely are penises enough (just saying). 

G-spot toys are specifically made with a curve that hits your G-spot in a nice pleasurable way.  Being on top also helps when trying to squirt. Woman-on-top positions—whether you’re facing or reverse cowgirl-ing it — helps you control the angle of the penis and helps to hit the spot just right.

Fun fact: 

You don’t always need internal stimulation to make yourself squirt, you can squirt solely from clitoris stimulation. The G-spot is part of your clitoral network, which means that when you’re stimulating the G-spot, you’re actually stimulating part of the clitoris. So when you touch your clitoris you will be indirectly stimulating your G-spot as well. 

Squirting is a fun addition, it’s not the end all be all to sex. It’s important to remember to not get fixated on it if it’s not coming easily for you. Plenty of people have extremely satisfying sex lives to inlcude amazing orgasms without ever squirting. 

final thoughts

Always be careful  who you are trusting  with personal information!

Try Sexting, which  can be a bit awkward if you’ve never done it before, don’t know what to say, or don’t know what your partner likes. Fortunately for you, as your Fairy Sexting Godmother, I have you covered on how to sext successfully. Sexting is indeed a skill, but like most skills in life, it can be learned. In fact, most adults are already doing it. According to American Psychological Association, 88 percent of adults reported sexting in the past year. Sexting just isn’t for teenagers anymore. I am a firm believer that if you’re going to do something might as well do it right. So here are some tips on how to sext with confidence. (You’re welcome.)

Always Get Permission

Make sure your partner likes to sext. Unsolicited dirty texts can be a turn off if your partner is not into it or if it’s an inappropriate time–read the room. If you’re not sure what your partner is up to, send a simple “Hey, you busy?” text to let you know if it’s a good time. So be sure to get consent first. Consent is always key.

‍Use as sexting as Foreplay

‍Sexting is an excellent way to add some spice to your relationship. Sexting can build anticipation until both of you are together in person. Think of it as one long session of foreplay until you get to touch each other. Get the build up going until it’s time to go down. 

Protect Your Yourself      It’s important when sending compromising text or nudes to always protect yourself.  There are multiple apps nowadays such as Snapchat that automatically delete messages after they are read. You can use apps that store your nude pics in a separate folder. Use the “no face, no case” rule to safely send nudes. If you are sending photos, avoid identifying features like your face, tattoos, birthmarks, or unique jewelry.

Red flags from past relationships, Truths About Women Who Put Up Emotional Walls,

 

Does she want to live in a Glass Castle?

Here are four (4) reasons why dealing with women who put up emotional walls is the worst and one that

smart men are openly, willingly and continually working on dealing with.

1. She wants to manage what happens next.

But this sense of control is a myth. Because in reality, things play out like they’re going to

and you have far less power over other people than you imagine (or you’d like).

There’s a sense of If I ___, then she will ___ that’s such a myth. You just can’t predict or control other people’s behavior.

(let that sink in for a minute)

2. She has an easy defense mechanism.

If she cuts you out of her life or deem your relationship not “real,”

you can’t hurt her. Approaching relationships like this means that she misses out on vulnerable,

wild abandon in love. It’s actually not that easy, is it? People are intricately connected and blocking

off one relationship usually affects another. And the pain factor is high on all counts.

3. When women put up walls today, she's acting as the person she once were.

And the reality is, that person doesn’t exist anymore. So your old mechanisms are protecting someone

who doesn’t exist and the today you doesn’t need someone else’s armor.

(And this new person in your life isn’t the one who hurt you. What worked then won’t serve you now.)

4. Emotional walls come from a legitimate place.

The reaction to avoiding hurt — physical, emotional, or mental — can be to shut down and to shut others out.

This can be exhausting, entrenched habit and reaction and one that takes hard, uncomfortable work

to undo and then even more hard, uncomfortable work to learn new ways.

And this hard, uncomfortable work, can only be done by her.

Trusting everyone, is not really the opposite to trusting Nobody!

 A woman with trust issues is a woman who has heard the promises ‘I will never hurt you’ too many times with actions that showed otherwise. It feels like having trust issues is like one of the biggest roadblocks you can face in your life. Not only are we always skeptical about trusting people but we start to become negative in our head too.

We live in a world where we are continuously surrounded by media in some form or the other. This is what gives us the unrealistic expectation of love and relationships. Our expectation of love doesn’t come from our parents or family, it is based on the fiction we see in movies, television, and books. This is what makes our perception of love unreal and naïve. However, this naivety lasts only until your first major heartbreak. It is only after that the reality of the situation starts to hit that you tend to realize reality is far from what media portrays. It is important to have standards so as to not end up settling but we also need to be mindful and realistic on what we expect from love and relationships.

I was that person once. Young, naïve, and living in my own fantasy of what love means. Then something fantastic happened, I fell in love or at least I thought I did. It felt amazing and magical somehow at the beginning like I own the world and nothing can go wrong. It was at that exact time when reality hit and things went down south. I didn’t understand what had happened, I mean there’s always a happily ever after in TV right? Well, that is not the case. I was hurt, confused and jaded in a certain sense. I told myself that if this is what love feels like, I never want to fall in love ever again.

Then, the inevitable happened; she falls for someone again. She was scared of course. She didn’t want to get hurt again. She  is guarded but she eventually gave in and it was at that very moment that she saw her trust being broken.

Trust is like paper, once it’s crumpled, it can never be perfect and smooth again.

A woman with "trust" issues is like an onion, you need to peel it one layer at a time; you can’t just cut through with a knife and expect to be in. Rather than being excited at a prospect of a date or meeting someone new, women tensions are high. It’s not fair to anyone but they are a product of their past experiences and women will continue being this way until someone shows them a reason to feel otherwise. We need to understand that women weren’t born with trust issues. We may not think their past was a big deal but the baggage women are carrying is what is putting them down. They don’t think they  need men to fix things; they just need us to be supportive while they are trying to fight themselves. Their hearts have been played with, they have been cheated on, and they know how shitty it feels. So rest assured, if we are in it with you, we will give you all we have.

That being said, there are a few things you can do to get someone with trust issues to actually trust you.

1. First and foremost, make sure your intentions are genuine. If not, please don’t waste their time and yours. Over a period of time we have become very intuitive on who we should and should not trust.
2. Fellahs. Learn to be patient. Women will take their sweet time until they are sure about you. You will need to make the first move because they are going to be cautious for a while.
3. If you actually care, take the first step. Don’t sit around and expect us to do it.
4. Listen when they talk. I know most guys aren’t good listener but at least try. They will surely acknowledge the efforts.
5. Please be honest with her. Understand that women were lied to a lot and it will always hurt. You really don’t want to be the person to add to their pain.
6. Actions do speak louder than words so complement your words with actions.
7. Don’t break their trust again. It has been a hard enough for us just to get ourselves to trust you again so don’t be that person who makes us doubt our judgment again.

I truly believe that women only need that one guy to make them realize why it didn’t work out with anyone else. They want  that guy. It’s harder than you can imagine for a person with trust issues to start trusting again, so when she says ‘I trust you’,  confirm it by acting correctly, don’t make her regret it.

figuring it out

 A woman with walls, has been burned, betrayed, forsaken. The hardest job is to figure out , which wall is the highest, and most sturdy and hardest to penetrate, or totally impenetrable.... read her eyes, to figure her out!

You eyes speak volumes!

Women who have roots often have walls.

Every step forward starts with a foot firmly planted in the past.  

These days loving someone who has walls up should  not be a careless decision. It takes a conscious commitment to assign yourself as the one to take the first strike at the concrete surrounding their heart. These are people who have painted over their fragile skin with instant-ready cement, blocking out the feel of fingerprints and the echo of empty promises. They tell themselves that all the little nuances that make them secret romantics have to stay hidden away.

But despite it all — despite the walls and the “do not enter” sign they hang around their neck,  you might just fall for them. And in some miracle of ways, they might fall for you, too.

For them, loving you will be like walking into a construction zone: messy and just a little bit dangerous. But it all will come with the promise of tearing down old walls to make room for something open and stable.

They won’t promise that they’ll be able to hit some magic switch and all of a sudden, they’ll act differently than they always have. To say so would be a lie, and both of you know it. It’s going to take some time. Walls are a stubborn sort of architecture, and they won’t come down without a fight. Just know that the first few nights you spend together, they really will want to cuddle up close to you and burrow themselves in your arms. They’ll want to, more than anything. But they also won’t want to seem needy. They’ll sleep with their backs to you, and they’ll pray that you’ll be more courageous than they are. They’ll sleep with crossed fingers and an anxious heartbeat, hoping that eventually you’ll pull them back to you and you’ll show them that it’s okay to be endearing.

They are going to shut down. All people do, at some point or another. But for the ones who have gotten used to a life of distance, the first sharp bite of unpleasant reality is going to sting the most. During your first fight, they probably won’t say a word. They probably won’t even look at you. But they’ll come around, eventually. And they will apologize for being so distant and stubborn.

Can I trust you to keep me a float?

They will try not to punish you for their past, and at first, they likely will fail. As hard as this unplaced punishment may seem, try not to lose your temper. If they’ve let you know that they’re making the attempts to work with you, instead of against you like they have most others, you’re on your way. All love requires work. You may be paying for someone else’s mistakes at the moment. And it may be inherently hard. But if you’re fighting together, you’ll soon reap the rewards of someone who has ventured farther into their heart than anyone else dared. A little patience goes so far.

At the heart of it all, if a person with walls has decided they love you, they mean it. To have walls means to block yourself out, and when love nestles itself in the basement of your heart, it becomes a permanent resident banging on walls and demanding to be tended to. So although at times it may seem this fight is a one sided battle, do not forget that just because you cannot see the war raging on does not mean it doesn’t exist.

Final thought

If you’re smart, you know a good thing when you see one. And this person with the walls seemingly unbreakable just might be the best thing you’ll have seen in a long, long time. So when the break down and the fight seem too much, remember what you’re fighting for. Remember than underneath the layers of doubt and distance is a person with a heart that could have been molded just for you. Loving someone with walls is never easy. But sometimes, if you’re lucky, the fight is more than worth it. 

You are all I need to get by.