They want attention, but from who?

Most women know that the attention they receive has nothing to do with their smarts, education, or good genes... men pay attention to what men want from a woman... he might not like her very much because he sees her as a potention sex partner. However if he would tell her "the truth" that he noticed, and admires all of other beautiful qualities she has.. she might not feel it's the ultimate compliment. She simply might expect her packaging is enough to get her over on him. Women who work toward what they want are never stuck in a rut, because she si ready to go at it on her own. Men who expect women to see men as the next M.J. (money Jockey) and providers and contributor to her desired lifestyle will findout that nothing will last if it is built on "false beliefs" in the superfical wolrd.

Men like to have options to pick what they like, women likes to be picked by the man who has the resources to grant her the many desires she has.... Eve did not expect Adam to give her the World..... women who believes that men will be the ones to provide her with her likes, that he is her "rich daddy," will findout that a smart man, who does not have daughters will not fall for that super fictional charter she is dreaming to become. A man gives his daughter and sons his lastname at birth without knowing if his name will continue in the manner that he will be proud of. Many women want her new lastname will be the name that will Name her Queen, and man as to be a king to make a woman his queen... if he does not already have throwm he can give to her. a Prince can not make a woman his queen unless she is already a queen. A prince (in his mind) might be willing to grant a woman he desires a princess title.. but do not expect to become a queen. He cant give what is not in his power to grant you.

Final thoughts. One of the worst things the world has enbraced is the concept of living in a fairtale world. It's simply not realistic. Utilize your smarts to build what you want, do not expect to benefit from others hard work and efforts... You will become disappointed if the other person cannot fullfill, or is not willling to grant you..... your dreams and fantasies.

Her eyes will tell you the real story.

I used to think that beauty was stricly in the eyes of the beholder, but since almost everyone is wearing masks these days, I see smiling eyes, that are soft as she looks at me, her eyes are not just beautiful her hidden smile is also, we men need to focus on a woman's eyes to see if she likes us or not. Because if she does not it will show in her eyes and the way she looks at you. sometimes you will see a woman looking at you and then turn her head away to avoid eye contact with a man. this could be her being shy or she just does not want to engage in an encounter with that man.

But if she is mad at you she might keep staring at you without blinking and the dislike is instantly evident. Good luck to you if you miss the signs.

The following are a few things guys need to understand:

1. Guys who don't ask any good questions about a woman at all, means  who cares. You are not Halle Berry  and he is  not Denzel Washington. I think that's clear, right? Right! So then why are you answering all my questions like I'm interviewing you about the new Avengers movie instead of you asking her questions because this is a freaking date and ideally you'd care about who she is as a person, why?. 

2. When the woman is in the middle of a conversation and the man looks constantly at his phone. Like, "Oh, I'm sorry. I had no idea you were the King of Nothing and had to respond to "your many subjects" who all desperately need you to respond in the middle of her story about her grandma dying last year from COVID-19. Pardon me!!!"

3. Guys who never really laugh.  well I know some women do this also.... but seriously, what is this??? I swear we guys don't expect every single person on earth to think we are hilarious, but people who don't laugh at all ever or barely laugh like it's a kitten sneeze that escaped their mouth are confounding. Plus, if you never laugh at anything a man says, I feel like you hate me or you hate fun, and either way, that's a total turn-off. 

4. Guys who look anywhere but in her direction when women are talking to them. This would be borderline funny if it wasn't so insane. Like, are you checking out someone behind her? Is one of your contacts acting up and you're trying to move your eyeball around so it adjusts itself? Or are you just unable to look at her for more than 30 seconds at a time? Either way, call me crazy but if you're hanging out, it'd be somewhat chill if you looked at her even once. 

5. Guys who can't stop talking about one thing that honestly doesn't matter to the woman. Like it's great that you(as a guy) love your job or you love Crossfit or you love your WiFi response, but anyone who has one kind of "who cares" hobby and seemingly zero interests outside that one hobby is maddening to a woman. Because if the woman loves Crossfit too, then Wow yay, let's keep talking Crossfit. But if she don't and the only source of conversation you have is Crossfit, she's dying. You are  dead to her.

6. Guys who smell like they gave up on the concept of showering. I know everyone's body smells different and no one's perfect, but women have all gone out with that guy who is like, "Hygiene? What's hygiene? I am too lazy to shower," and women want to run from the table because the guy smells like a feral cat in a dumpster. And then it's also super sad because it's like, "We could've had something if you'd taken five minutes to wash your filthy, dirty body."The best  biggest compliment I received from a woman was that "my natural scent was very sweet" 

7. When he says "You're not like the other girls because _____." Whatever fills in that blank is always misogynist as hell because what are you even saying? "Most girls" aren't funny or cool or smart or into comic books or whatever other thing you're trying to compliment her on? Because guess what? All her friends are pretty much all the things she is, and you sound like a turd right now. 

8. When he asks you to hang out with him and his friends, and then makes no effort to include you. So then you're just stuck wondering if this guy even likes you and trying to talk to his guy friends who have no idea why you're there anyway.

 
9. When he calls his ex "the crazy b!tch." Like, dude, we know that the odds that your calling your ex crazy actually being code for you calling all women crazy b!tches at some point (meaning you'll one day call her crazy and a b!tch) are pretty solid. So women will not mess with you after you say this. 

10. When men give zero care about the way he looks. Okay No one is perfect, but some women  know so many guys who wear stained T-shirts they got as a gift when they were 13 that hold zero sentimental value and say some junk like "Corporate FunRun 1988" when they didn't even run in a FunRun, and it's not worn ironically. It's just a T-shirt and they don't care, which usually also translates to their poor-fitting jeans and janky New Balance dad sneakers with barely tied laces. Again, it's fine to not like fashion or want to just be yourself, but guys who just couldn't care less about being presentable on a date (especially when women are expected to do a ton of date prep) is a no.

 
11. Long, dirty nails. Ooooh HELL No. Not only is it just gross but also your chances of getting anywhere near her body with your dirty animal claws just went down to negative zero. 

12. When he lists all the movies/books/music he likes, and there's not a single woman on the list. Or he lists one woman out of 50 men and it's like, "Beyoncé," and you're 98 percent sure he just threw her on there so it would look like he also likes "girl stuff," which almost makes it even worse. Art made by women is the best and how do you not know this?!  

Unconscious biases can be a greater problem than we think

Unconscious biases are social stereotypes about certain groups of people that individuals form outside their own conscious awareness. Everyone holds unconscious beliefs about various social and identity groups, and these biases stem from one's tendency to organize social worlds by categorizing.

This is the real world... we are part of multi-cultural over laps. Men and women of differenct culturs come in contact with eachother, sometimes we fall for people we have an unconscious biases about. Then we fall in love with the person or maybe we think we do. But it could be so different if society was not caught up in biases and think that these connections are fedishes. These days, you can find numerous dating sites offering you a chance to meet your Asian soulmate.Huh These sites offer different functionality, prices, and variety of women. To make your search for your ideal Asian girlfriend the experience of lifetime.

Let's think about this for a second. Are there many Asian men flocking to these sites or are there more men of other ethnicities flocking to these sites.  so why am I writing about this? since the many attacts on Asians lately I started thinking about why this has become such a thing..... Maybe hearing the former President of the USA blaming the COVID-19  virus on Asian  mainly China.  but then again he blames everything on folks who do not look like him (thank goodness that not many people look like him) he will not wear a mask but he should because he is not that good looking. Just like many who admire him so much they are not the creme de la creme  either.   

Reasons Why Most Men Can’t Handle A Strong Woman These Days

What makes a strong woman in this 21 century? Among many factors, her struggles, sacrifices, and selflessness play a huge part. A strong woman has endured pain, overcome heart-wrenching experiences, and has allowed herself to be led by forgiveness. A strong woman has swam in deep and treacherous waters and held her breath as long as possible. This type of woman is self-sufficient, independent, loving, and has little/no fears of showing her vulnerability. If the woman you love fits the above description, consider yourself very privileged. The strong woman knows that one moment you are the teacher, and the next you might be the student. She understands and is okay with this, but sometimes the man in her life fails to share this understanding. So, how does a strong woman keep a man like this happy? Fellahs can you handle a strong woman in your life? 1. A STRONG WOMAN DOESN’T NEED A MAN TO FIGHT FOR HER. Most men needs to feel wanted. Men need to know that they are battling for the eternal love and admiration of his woman. A strong woman will show you that she loves you, but she’s also independent and can manage on her own. The strong woman is willing to fight for both of you, but she doesn’t need a man to fight her battles for her. If she has a problem, she triess to deals with it. A strong woman doesn’t sit and wait, as a victim, for a man to find the solution. Some men can’t handle this strength. If you choose to remain with this type of woman, be willing to walk beside her . . . not in front of her, pulling her to where you think she should be. 2. A STRONG WOMAN KNOWS WHAT SHE WANTS. Strong women know what they want, how to attain it, and remember all that they had to endure to get whatever they have. A woman like this knows what she wants. If she likes a man, she will go after him. She will not wait for the man to make the first move on future plans. Strong women have tenacious personalities that can be extremely intimidating for some men. They aren’t submissive. They love wholeheartedly and also can continue exploring the world with a man or not. It takes a self-confident man to allow this type of personality to take charge from time to time. 3. A STRONG WOMAN WILL REQUIRE HONESTY AND VULNERABILITY. Many men have a hard time opening up to difficult questions. Strong women dive right into the depth of hurt, traumas, and life-changing experiences. They require a man who can be honest and vulnerable, because they have endured so much in their lives and want to believe they are not alone. They need to know that their mate can be available to navigate the ocean of uncertainties and travel the edges of madness. Strong women don’t fear the past. They excavate and search for those things that make us human. The strong woman will always find a strong man to stand tall with her in the face of adversity. Men tend to avoid vulnerability because it makes them feel weak. If you want to gain the admiration of the strong woman in your life, do not fear moments of vulnerability. 4. A STRONG WOMAN IS NOT INTIMIDATED BY INTIMACY. The strong woman will challenge a man in the most intimate of ways. She will require intimacy in all forms, from conversation to making love. She will hold nothing back. Because a strong woman is comfortable with her femininity, she will expect her man to also be open to all aspects of intimacy. She requires passion and desire; she wants to feel like she’s the one. 5. A STRONG WOMAN CAN SEE THROUGH LIES. Strong women are honest and expect complete trust in a relationship. They can sense lies in an instant, so don’t try to sugarcoat a white lie. Don’t give the strong woman in your life any bogus explanations. She has the ability to act as a human lie detector. Being in a relationship with a strong woman requires no holding back. She will never tolerate a sense of falseness and selfishness. If you can’t be with her completely, she will have no problem moving on. 6. A STRONG WOMAN REQUIRES INTEGRITY AND CONSISTENCY. Women who have inner strength cannot tolerate irregularity or indecisive personalities. They want to know that the man they love has integrity and respect, and is a man of his word. If they start to feel that their man is pulling away, they will react accordingly and have no problem letting him go if they feel they are being played. They want to feel like they are loved unconditionally. If they feel disrespected, they will have no issues setting that matter straight. The worst thing you can do to a strong woman is make her feel weak. 7. A STRONG WOMAN CAN BE INTENSE. A strong woman has endured extraordinary challenges and obstacles in her life. In other words, she is strong for a reason, because she has had to be powerful during extremely dark moments. Having come through, she knows she can endure anything else in her path, but this kind of intensity is oftentimes difficult for a man to understand. It’s intimidating because of all the emotions and thoughts that come with this type of persona. The strong woman is willing to share her scars, and expects you to do the same. There are no secrets in her world. 8. A STRONG WOMAN WILL NOT WAIT FOR YOU. This type of woman will follow you to the depths of hell if she knows you are committed to her. However, the moment you start to pull back, she will let you go. She will not wait for a man to decide if he wants her or someone better. Strong women don’t play little, girly games. You are either in or you are out. They will face hurt, heal from their wounds, and get back up ready to conquer whatever is next. 9. A STRONG WOMAN WILL LOVE YOU UNCONDITIONALLY. The love you receive from a strong woman is faithful. Just like mothers with their children, the strong woman will nurture and love her man fiercely. When she feels that love in return, she will do anything she can to make him feel loved. The strong woman in your life will support you, help you, and fight for you to get what you deserve. Some men can’t handle this kind of unconditional love. They get frightened by the intensity and depth of giving. Many times it is in this stage that men flee from a strong woman. If this happens, regardless of how deeply she loved you, she will also let you go. She knows her worth. 10. A STRONG WOMAN WILL SHOW YOU WHO YOU ARE. It’s hard to accept the things we don’t like about ourselves when someone points them out. A strong woman will speak up about those parts in her man that need addressing. She will also be there to help show you how amazing and powerful you are. She will stand by you and show you pure acceptance and confidence. Some men cannot handle the emotional chaos that comes up with this type of demeanor. For this reason, strong women will find strong men; the weak ones won’t make it past the first few dates. Weak men don’t know what to do with the honesty, strength, intelligence, and independence that is portrayed by a woman of strength. A strong man, on the other hand, was likely raised by a strong woman. He knows how to either deal with the dark nights of the soul that arise in any relationship, or leave. Barry Paul Price writes, “Dating a strong woman is not something every guy can handle. He has to be confident in himself as a person, and as a man. Men must feel capable of meeting a woman’s needs. Traditionally, we did that providing financial security and physical protection. More recently, as women have expressed themselves with more independence and toughness, men aren’t sure how or when they’re needed by their woman. He ends up feeling unsure of his value and significance in the relationship. Many women tell me their man’s emotional support is just as important as financial and physical contributions. Unfortunately, men are not used to identifying masculinity with giving emotional support.” Fellahs...... Do you have the strength to support your woman of strength in the way she most needs it? Strong women have no time to play games. If you can handle the intensity, love, and honesty she will provide, you might just be the man who can complement this type of woman.

Love is tricky.

Why do men leave women when it takes so much courage to fall in love in the first place? For men, it might be more difficult to deal with falling in love than for a woman. When a man falls in love, he must take into account the suffering that might occur by opening up all of himself to her. Is the risk worth it? A man rarely dives in fully but steps little by little into the world of second-guessing and ups and downs. Men know they are not born with an innate understanding of how women operate. Sometimes a few simple factors can go a long way in increasing understanding. This can go both ways. 1. HE FEELS THAT SHE’S TRYING TO FIX HIM. When a man starts to feel that he’s not enough, that his flaws are huge, or that he cannot be himself without judgment, he starts looking for the exit. Women, often without realizing it, tend to emasculate men by making them their projects and by trying to change or “improve” them. Albert Einstein said, “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.” What a man really needs is a woman who offers wholehearted encouragement so a man can discover who he truly is. This is what we all need in a relationships. A man can grow and mature with the help of a loving and supportive partner. 2. HE IS THREATENED BY THE WOMAN’S SUCCESS. In a study conducted by the University of Florida, men experience a huge blow to their self-esteem when their female partners experience success, even when they are not in direct competition. A woman’s success also negatively impacts how the man views the future of their relationship. If the man has not been able to attain the success he feels he deserves, this is often a pivotal reason he might leave a relationship. He cannot join her in her success or support her because he is inwardly comparing her success to his failures. 3. HE FEELS BOTHERED TOO OFTEN. Men can zone out sometimes, but not more often than when a woman is saying the same thing to him repeatedly. Constant bothering and belittling can destroy a relationship. Men may play like children, but they are not kids. They rarely tolerate constant whining and complaining. Men need to feel appreciated and uplifted. They will ignore and avoid this type of ‘nagging’ because it adds to negative reinforcement, or even passive-aggressive conflict. If he knows she is going to give him grief, he will not respond well to requests or comments. If he feels she will complain no matter what he does, he realizes there is no satisfaction in doing what she wants. To a man, a nagging woman is not a supportive or enjoyable partner to have. .4 HE SUFFERS A LACK OF INTIMACY. Believe it or not, men crave intimacy just as much as women. If a man has to beg for it while the woman withholds it to get him to do things, he may leave the relationship to seek that connection with someone else. A man will not stand by too long with a woman who will not participate in intimate encounters with her partner. A man falls in love with a woman for many reasons, but he also needs to feel that he is the most desirable person in her life. 5. SHE COMPARES HIM TO OTHER MEN. There is nothing more annoying to a man than listening to a woman talk about past relationships. When the woman starts to compare him to an ex, that’s the beginning of the end. Men do not want to analyze their partner’s past relationships and intimate connections. A man wants to believe he is the only one that matters right now. He doesn’t want to hear that a previous lover did this or that. He wants to know that what he is doing right now is enough. 6. HER EMOTIONAL CO-DEPENDENCY. Men need their space. Men also need their friends. A man doesn’t want to be treated as a possession or feel like he is a babysitter. When a man begins to feel that he has lost his freedom to participate in sports, outings, or social gatherings with his friends, he just might choose to leave. A healthy relationship requires that both parties have their own set of friends and hobbies. Co-dependency tarnishes the spark of a relationship. Men don’t over-analyze this feeling of being imprisoned. The moment they feel their lives have drastically been high-jacked, that’s when they breakcamp . A Man deeply fear losing his freedom. FINAL THOUGHTS ON WHY MEN LEAVE WOMEN THEY LOVE Men fall in love with the expectation of being appreciated, respected and supported. If a man no longer feels like he is the hero of the story, he will naturally face a serious decision in whether or not he should change his relationship status.

Signs You’re Destined To Be Together

 

5 SIGNS YOU’RE DESTINED TO BE TOGETHE

Being crazy in love is one of the most magical experiences in our lives. Questions rise when you meet someone new: 

To stay or not to stay? Is s/he the one or not? Are we compatible? Can this be my soulmate? You don’t always know if you are 

“meant for each other.” So how do you answer those questions? Sometimes the answer is just as simple as stepping back and

 opening your heart to what’s in front of you.

HERE ARE 5 SIGNS THAT YOU ARE DESTINED TO BE TOGETHER:

1. YOU CAN BE VULNERABLE.

When you allow yourself to open up, you are living authentically. You get to be raw and real. There is beauty in accepting 

your flaws and those of your partner. Owning each other’s full stories is freeing. It’s in that vulnerability that

 true love flourishes. If you can share and bear your soul without feeling scrutinized or criticized, this person is a keeper.

“What happens when people open their hearts? They get better.” ~ Haruki Murakami

2. YOU RESPECT EACH OTHER.

Mutual appreciation requires a mature level of trust and respect. Respect requires honesty. The truest form of love is how 

you behave with another in a relationship. In that state of respect, you get to share things that you wouldn’t tell anyone. 

Respect is earned. When you are in a relationship that provides safety and security, you have found someone special.

“The moment you put someone on a pedestal they will look down upon you. The trick is respecting each other equally.” 

~ Teresa Mummert

3. YOU ARE NOT JEALOUS.

You crave time with each other, but also require ample space. There is no jealousy in the relationship because you still 

remain individuals. There is no strain about past insecurities because you feel at ease with (and without) each other all the time. 

You spend time apart with friends, and each time you reconnect, it is rewarding. There is no co-dependency or possessiveness. 

You crave to be with each other, but you recognize it is important to have freedom of expression and separate interests.

“Insecure people only eclipse your sun because they’re jealous of your daylight and tired of their 

dark, starless nights.” ~ Shannon L. Alder

4. YOU LAUGH TOGETHER.

Being silly comes naturally. You can poke fun at each other. Laughter is ever-present in your relationship. Many times,

 these type of relationships start as friendships. You value each other enough to be yourself. It’s a healthy place. 

If you can laugh at yourself with your partner without holding back the sarcasm, you have something that is beyond special. 

These types of relationships are destined to endure.

“No one can be your sun, moon, or stars until you have your own world.” ~ K. M. Docherty

 

 

5. YOU RAISE EACH OTHER UP.

The two of you help each other reach the best possible versions of yourselves. You become explorers and adventurers 

in finding ways to bring joy to one another. You accept everything about each other without feeling judged or judging.

 It’s in these types of relationships that the best is enhanced. If your relationship is based on admiration and inspiration 

for each other, you have found a gem.

What exactly is squirting?

 

One of the biggest urban legends in the history of sex is the concept of “squirting.” This has sparked some of the most consistent inquiries such as: Is it real? Can all women do it? Is it pee? The list of questions is endless. When it comes to squirting people tend to fall into one of several categories; those who’ve experienced it, seen it in porn, or simply heard about it. In fact, according to data collected by Pornhub, from 2010 to 2017 searches for “women squirting” drastically increased. Which means you’re definitely not alone in your curiosity about squirting.

What exactly is squirting? It's not twirking!

So, let’s break it down! There is a lot of debate surrounding what squirting actually is, but one thing that we do know is that it involves the Skene gland. The latest research found that squirting is actually a gush of fluid coming out of the urethra created in the Skene’s gland. The Skene’s glands are located on the upper wall of the vagina, near the lower end of the urethra. 

So now we know why people would ask, “Wait, so is squirting pee?” 

Some researchers say yes while others say no. What’s been proven is the fluid released during squirting does contain traces of urine and other fluids.  

Can all women squirt? 

Well, that’s unclear. It’s estimated that between 10 and 50 percent of women squirt during sex, according to The International Society for Sexual Medicine. Some experts believe all women can squirt, with the right technique, amount, and type of penetration. For a lot of women, squirting often goes unnoticed. Unlike in porn, some women only squirt a small amount of fluid. According to a 2013 study of 320 participants, the amount of fluid released can range from approximately 0.3ml to more than 150ml. That’s anything from a few drops to half a cup.

How do you squirt?

Some women squirt involuntarily, while others can do it on command. Some experience it with every sexual encounter and others once in a blue moon — or not at all. No matter where you fall on the squirting spectrum the key to squirting is the G-spot. 

Stimulating the G-Spot is the secret sauce to squirting.You can find your G-spot by sticking a finger in your vagina and making a “come hither” motion. You’ll know you have located the spot if you feel a small ridged area along the front of your vaginal wall. You can also use a toy. G-spot toys are perfect for both solo or partnered exploration because, let’s be honest, fingers get tired, and rarely are penises enough (just saying). 

G-spot toys are specifically made with a curve that hits your G-spot in a nice pleasurable way.  Being on top also helps when trying to squirt. Woman-on-top positions—whether you’re facing or reverse cowgirl-ing it — helps you control the angle of the penis and helps to hit the spot just right.

Fun fact: 

You don’t always need internal stimulation to make yourself squirt, you can squirt solely from clitoris stimulation. The G-spot is part of your clitoral network, which means that when you’re stimulating the G-spot, you’re actually stimulating part of the clitoris. So when you touch your clitoris you will be indirectly stimulating your G-spot as well. 

Squirting is a fun addition, it’s not the end all be all to sex. It’s important to remember to not get fixated on it if it’s not coming easily for you. Plenty of people have extremely satisfying sex lives to inlcude amazing orgasms without ever squirting. 

final thoughts

Always be careful  who you are trusting  with personal information!

Try Sexting, which  can be a bit awkward if you’ve never done it before, don’t know what to say, or don’t know what your partner likes. Fortunately for you, as your Fairy Sexting Godmother, I have you covered on how to sext successfully. Sexting is indeed a skill, but like most skills in life, it can be learned. In fact, most adults are already doing it. According to American Psychological Association, 88 percent of adults reported sexting in the past year. Sexting just isn’t for teenagers anymore. I am a firm believer that if you’re going to do something might as well do it right. So here are some tips on how to sext with confidence. (You’re welcome.)

Always Get Permission

Make sure your partner likes to sext. Unsolicited dirty texts can be a turn off if your partner is not into it or if it’s an inappropriate time–read the room. If you’re not sure what your partner is up to, send a simple “Hey, you busy?” text to let you know if it’s a good time. So be sure to get consent first. Consent is always key.

‍Use as sexting as Foreplay

‍Sexting is an excellent way to add some spice to your relationship. Sexting can build anticipation until both of you are together in person. Think of it as one long session of foreplay until you get to touch each other. Get the build up going until it’s time to go down. 

Protect Your Yourself      It’s important when sending compromising text or nudes to always protect yourself.  There are multiple apps nowadays such as Snapchat that automatically delete messages after they are read. You can use apps that store your nude pics in a separate folder. Use the “no face, no case” rule to safely send nudes. If you are sending photos, avoid identifying features like your face, tattoos, birthmarks, or unique jewelry.