Never question a woman's motives during an argument

Let’s face it—if you’ve been married long enough, and even if you not married, you’re bound to argue with your woman about something. And it doesn’t matter how big or how small the disagreement is. It’s not a question if it will happen, but when, but how you choose to argue that can prevent a molehill of a disagreement from turning into a Mount Everest of an argument. Here are some things you should never do during an argument with a woman—especially your wife. 1. Hit her hot buttons. The reason little disagreements with our wives easily escalate into full-blown arguments is we both know how to hit each other’s hot buttons. These are buttons that usually trigger a negative emotion. And we know what they are because we know our wives’ secrets, struggles, and scars. To push her buttons is like “hitting below the belt” in boxing, and in boxing, it’s illegal. So the last thing a man should do in an argument with his wife is sucker punch her by touching on her fears, doubts, insecurities, father wounds, or trauma from past relationships. 2. Involve the innocent. One of the easiest mistakes we can make in an argument with our wives is to involve innocent bystanders. This means you should resist the urge to tell the people closest to you, especially your parents (or siblings), about the argument—at least until you’ve had some time to cool down. This is important, because if you let your emotions get the best of you and you accidentally tarnish your wife’s reputation, the people you tell may not be as willing or ready to forgive your wife as you are. When you run to the people you love, their first reactions, typically, are to protect and defend you, not to protect our wives’ reputations. Remember, that’s your job. 3. Share it with immature friends. The only thing worse than jeopardizing your wife’s reputation by telling innocent bystanders about your argument is sharing your argument with immature friends. And when I say “immature,” I’m not talking about age. I’m talking about friends (especially other women) who don’t have your wife’s best interest at heart. My rule of thumb after any argument with my wife is only to share our conflict with people who are part of the solution and who will fight for our marriage as if it were their own. Also, being careful and discerning about who you share your arguments with also can prevent unnecessary arguments in the future. 4. Raise the dead. When you’re in the middle of a heated argument with your wife, resist the urge to drag an old issue into your present discussion. Yes, I know she may do it to you, but like Gandhi once said, “Taking an eye for an eye will leave both people blind.” In other words, two wrongs won’t ever make your relationship right. Bringing up past issues from past arguments potentially can trigger emotional wounds in your wife that may not have fully healed. This is especially true if she’s still feeling the guilt and shame of a past mistake. Instead, try to keep the current issue the main issue and let the past issue rest in peace. 5. Sit and save. One way to avoid bringing up past issues in an argument is to avoid sitting on the issue and saving it for later. Men who are conflict avoiders or “people pleasers” usually struggle with this the most. Ignoring, wishing, and hoping an issue with your wife conveniently goes away is a recipe for a relationship disaster. “Fight for your relationship, not with each other.” Avoiding tough conversations only will lead to escalated arguments because of the tendency to stockpile anger, bitterness, and frustration toward your wife. So instead, wisely confront the issue early, because if you don’t, that proverbial elephant in the room potentially could turn into a lion and devour the both of you. Arguments, disagreements, and conflicts are inevitable in any relationship, but they don’t ever have to destroy your marriage. So, fight for your relationship, not with each other.

Is she or is she not smiling, is it her secret weapon?

Most women shudder at the thought of leaving the house without a carefully applied layer of foundation, lipstick, and mascara. Spending hours in front of the mirror and splashing on expensive cosmetics, as it turns out, however, could all be a waste of time. According to research, wearing makeup does little to boost a woman’s attractiveness. In fact, scientists say that the trick to appearing more attractive to others have more to do with a person’s facial expressions and natural looks—particularly their smile. If they have dimples they look youthful for many years into the future.

Studies show that people think they already know someone if that person smiles at them,from behind a mask, even if it's an absolute stranger. The theory: Scientists believe the need to bond is rooted in our evolutionary past. Survival was more likely when people combined forces, so humans acquired the smile as a way to signal friendliness and to induce an agreeable sense of shared history, whether there was one or not. Today, when someone smiles, a glum mood is lifted, an apology is accepted, a person's shaky self-confidence gets a boost, a deal is struck, a physical attraction is communicated. But change the cast of a smile and the consequences shift. A rival grins to get under your skin; a bully smirks to unsettle his mark. Understanding the nuances helps ensure that you send—and receive—the right mouth message. Here, some intriguing insights about this familiar gesture. Outer Smile, Inner Darkness Ironically, a smile can express contempt. Bullies—whether they're on the playground or in the office—may want the recipients to see their glee and realize their malevolent intent. The result is a conscious disconnect between outward expression and inner feelings. Other times, the disconnect may be unconscious, the result of pushing aside negative feelings. A person may have heard as a child that enraged feelings should never be expressed, so even the slightest inkling of anger is covered with a smile. The Most Powerful Expression Even a fleeting smile has the capacity to burrow deep into the subconscious of the person who sees it and set off positive changes from within. For example, a smile of just a mere four-hundredths of a second (what researchers refer to as subliminal priming) is enough to produce a mini emotional high in others; it makes people see things around them in a more positive light. Boring material becomes more interesting, or a nondescript picture seems to have more flair. Indeed, researchers have found that some foods even taste better when preceded by a subliminal smile. And what's more, these expressions are contagious: In one study, when participants were exposed to these smiles—even though they couldn't remember seeing them—their own faces mirrored what they "saw."

Tell her your truths.

A lot of times, men experience shame and shame is a part of disconnection. When we men feel that we are not good enough, which is an illusion, the idea in order for connection to happen, we have to let ourselves be seen. So vulnerability is scary, especially when we feel like you’re going to judge us. Let me repeat this. Shame is a part of disconnection. When you feel that you’re not good enough, the idea in order for connection to happen, we have to let ourselves be seen. So, vulnerability then becomes scary because underneath you being seen means that they’ll see thatwe are not good enough. They’ll see that you believe that you are not good enough. So then that shame causes your disconnection. So then that shame is the mask of inauthenticity, so we follow tactics. So we follow things that are going to be on the surface level, but don’t get down to the root, to improve who we are overall, so we can be the best person that we can be in our lives. but not showing our truths. The ability to feel connected is why we’re all here biologically. Life shows this. The ability to feel connected is why we are here. It shows. .wwomen often talk so much about conscious vulnerability and vulnerability. as a man I've not talked a lot about conscious vulnerability , especially with other men. I’m not going to say “talk sbouy all your feelings, show the girl how you romanticize her, bring her roses, bring her this,” heck freaking no. But what I will tell you is that if you have that underlying feeling of shame as part of your disconnect because of some trauma, failure triggers, things that you have hidden because you don’t feel good enough abou them, but it is alright to admit that your previous relationships have bombed but yet you think you have to shine, bling, get a great car, get a great job, be seen with these really great women and show off. If something inside of you is still not connecting because you haven’t been able to let yourself be seen because vulnerability seems scary and you are afraid you might come off as needy. So, what makes someone become vulnerable and connect to you? You may ask, and again,The courage to be imperfect, you have compassion to be kind to yourself more than others. The truth is if we can’t be compassionate towards ourselves, we can’t be compassionate towards others. There’s no way. So, I ask you today to choose courage to be imperfect and to figure out why you are hiding behind this? Especially if it’s hard for you to connect and be vulnerable, especially if we’ve already made the decision to think that vulnerability is a weakness.... because it’s not. Actually, vulnerability is a strength. I’ll tell you one thing here. I know what vullnerable feels like. You will feel relieved when you tell her what she should know about your secet pasts

How to Stop Being Needy and Get The Girl You Want by being vulnerable!

There are times where you’re probably wanting to share emotion and you’re scared that if you say something that you’re going to come off as being needy dude and that this is not going to get a woman to like you. In this post, I’m going to talk about exactly how to emotionally connect with a woman and how to really own your masculine power by understanding what conscious vulnerability is and how to not be needy. Because neediness comes from a place of scarcity and conscious vulnerability comes from abundance. I want you to not judge and have an open mind when reading this.

So if she is looking you in the eyes it shows you have her full attention So fellah What vulnerability is not, it is not a sign of weakness, but instead it might be your greatest strength. Now, there is such a difference between vulnerability being shared at someone’s expense or the expense of someone else sharing their vulnerability to be informative. So, vulnerability does not mean that you have to spill all your deepest, darkest secrets. That’s not what vulnerability is. Vulnerability is not that one thing that keeps us out of connection, it’s that we feel that we are not worthy. Vulnerability is that one thing that keeps us in connection. And then the reason why we sometimes feel like we can’t connect is because we think we may come off as needy and then we don’t feel that we’re worthy. We have this facade or this feeling or this dynamic or this mindset that this thing vulnerability will keep us out of connection and it’s not true. When we discuss vulnerability, a lot of times we look at connection as though I want to connect with this person, I just don’t know how, because we try to mask our vulnerability because we believe it may make us look needy. So, if we mask our vulnerability, one thing that keeps us out of connection is that we are not worthy of connection, and we feel that we’re not worthy of connection because it’s hard for us to open up. It’s hard for us to share vulnerability and with my friends, I always tell them, Share vulnerability in minor doses, especially if it’s not something that you’ve done before.

Is She Playing you?

If you find yourself asking yourself, “Is this woman playing with my emotions?” The answer is probably YES. Now, there are times where you can be in a dating scenario and a woman’s not calling you back. She’s saying she likes you, but then she doesn’t show any affection towards you and you’re thinking to yourself, “Is she playing with my emotions?” Well, in this case, she is just inconsistent and she’s probably not ready. The number one key takeaway here guys in regards to a woman playing with your emotions is understanding that you are capable of giving your emotions to the right person. When we start to give our emotions to the wrong person, it’s because we’re not doing the necessary work, because we’re not setting the tone, because we don’t know our standards, because we don’t have boundaries, right? And so we underhandedly try to prove to a woman that we’re the right guy, or we underhandedly try to fix the situations, try to resolve her issues, but yet we haven’t resolved what we needed to resolve inside, which is self-love, which is why are we giving yourself to someone who won’t appreciate us? Right? That’s the question. I Got Played! What Do I Do Next? There’s so much advice out there that’s like, “Oh, she’s playing with your emotions if she doesn’t call back.” Look guys, it’s literally just surface-level stuff. This is real simple shit guys! And I’m telling you this because I don’t want this to happen to you anymore. I want you to be in a vibrant relationship. I want you to be in a happy relationship. I want you to conquer the woman you want, get whatever it is that you want, and be the healthiest person that you can be. Now, if a woman is taking a step back and says, maybe you’re a little bit too much or too… she doesn’t want the same things you do at that moment. If she says something along the lines of, “we’re going too fast”, this is not playing with your emotions. This is being upfront. This is being very deliverable in her communication with you and that’s a sign of something you may need to work on with yourself in order to pull back as well. I’m not saying that you’re always the one to blame here, but the only thing is we are in control of our actions and how we enable other people. If the question “Is She Playing with My Emotions?” has crossed your mind before, and if you find yourself in scenario number one or number two , I challenge you to really dig deep within yourself and figure out if you’re putting yourself first. Or you are putting her on too high a podium.

"Hey beautiful You still look great."

Word to the wise, fellahs,

never use the word "still" while complimenting a mature woman i.e. "Hey beautiful You still look great."SMDH. If you think "40 is the new 20" is merely a cliché or a platitude, think again. At 40, life feels like it's truly just beginning for many people who spent their 20s and 30s mired in relationship and career quagmires. It may be that 40-somethings women find themselves in their sexual and fitness primes. And they may love themselves—and know themselves—better than they ever did before. Since hitting 40 looks good on some people, it's easy to give out sincere compliments that nod to the ways in which they're really living their best lives. Here are 40 totally spot-on things you can say to make a woman over 40 feel good. Being a great communicator requires nuance, finesse, and a gift for connecting with people. You can pay someone a meaningful compliment by telling them that they're great at it—that your words serve as a comfort to mature women. "If someone gives you advice, the best compliment that you can give them back is that their advice has been heard. Saying the right thing, that speaks to women at the right time, is not to be taken for granted, sotel that lady know!" Let a lady know that her individual viewpoint at 40-plus helps you see the world in a new and productive way. It's a well-known adage that great minds discuss ideas instead of people, so when you're able to have a stimulating conversation with someone, let them know, It's a wonderful thing to open your mind to new ideas, and when someone helps you do that, you should thank them for it. Let them know that their knowledge, life experience, and perspective is valuable to you. Just because someone hits 40 hardly means they're no fun anymore—though popular narratives would sometimes have you believe that. So pay them a compliment that shows them you know just how lively and magnetic they really are. Nobody wants to be perceived as the bore of the group. With this in mind, let people know that you enjoy their company. This is a great compliment for all ages because people like to know that their presence is valued. When you tell someone that their spirit is palpable when they walk into a room, you're letting them know they have a powerful impact on everyone in it. Everyone has energy associated with them. And there's a bonus in it for you, too. Complimenting someone on being positive and uplifting has a ripple effect, elevating your own mojo. When you tell a friend or a loved one how much you appreciate them, it can mean more than any material gift. Nothing is more heartfelt and genuine [than this] compliment that can be given in business or in your personal life. Expressing sincere gratitude for someone in your life is powerful at any age. Make your expression of gratitude even more meaningful with this phrasing. The reason I like this compliment is because it is more humanizing than saying, 'I appreciate it,' which just acknowledges a person's actions. Seeing people's intrinsic value is seeing who they are, not just what they do. By 40, people know that friendship is not just a happy accident. Meaningful friendships endure as a result of nourishing generosity, attention, compassion, and mutual love. So telling someone they're a good friend is an acknowledgement not just that you had the good fortune to meet them, but that you know they've worked hard to maintain and nurture an important and long-standing role in your life. Even a small dose of kindness can revolutionize someone's whole world. When many people are (or act) too busy to respond to others with active kindness instead of terseness, let those who are the exception know how much it means to you that they stand out on that front—and that you've always noticed. After 40, many people have finally liberated themselves from the pressures to conform to other people's expectations. Pay someone a compliment that acknowledges just how good they are at being true to themselves. When you do this, you're saying, "You hold no pretenses and I know what I see is what I get with you. This compliment is great because it celebrates and honors them being exactly who they are. In a glittery social media world, everyone at their core wants to know that they shine at simply being themselves." 'You are the whole package ladies.'

So how are we different..

a man might build a sauna just for his woman. Men and women display their love and affection in different ways. Most women say, “I love you,” profusely and often, while most men show their deep affinity in their some days to day actions. It can be confusing at times, but that’s because the truth is, men and women think differently. So, I decided to research for you and come up with a list of seven common sets of behaviors that directly demonstrate that the man is in love with you, even if he doesn’t say it. We truly believe that love is in what you do, not always in what you say. It’s easier to say, “I love you,” but true love is demonstrated in action. at least that is how men think. You know? 1. HE ISN’T AFRAID TO MAKE SACRIFICES FOR YOU. Making sacrifices for other people is easier to do when its for someone we care about. It takes selflessness, maturity, and most of all love. Relationships need a balance of mutual sacrifice or one party is left unhappy. Men who are in love feel tremendous discomfort at the thought of their lady being unhappy, and if it’s something they can prevent, they will. Sometimes they will even go above and beyond to make something work out, just because it’s really important to their partner. If your man can make sacrifices for your happiness, that is just one way he is saying, “I love you”, without actually saying it. 2. HE LISTENS TO YOU. Mmm hmm! Studies have found that women are much better listeners than men. So, when a man not only hears you but actively pays attention and responds – a skill called active listening – you can have confidence that he cares. 3. HE SHOWS HIS VULNERABILITY. Men are generally cautious when it comes to showing any behavior that can be perceived by others as a weakness. They feel that they need to keep a perfect facade of strength. But when a man is in love, he begins to let his guard down, a litle ast a time. He becomes more comfortable and allows his real feelings to show. Vulnerability can take time, but if he’s shown even an ounce, he trusts you enough to let his guard down around you. Taking it a next step further, if he acts on your conversations, he’s smitten. 4. HE LOVES HOW YOU LOOK EVEN ON YOUR “WORST DAYS”. Most people put effort into looking their absolute very best during those early dates. Women want to look and feel good when meeting up with a potential life long partner. But, once the actual relationship spawns and a woman spend more time with her man, comfort levels build, and their need to impress declines sharply. Wome are free to wander around in their pajamas, no makeup and messy hair. The big take away here is that when a man loves a woman, he’ll think she is beautiful no matter what she looks like. So when he tells you, “You’re beautiful,” when you feel like a mess, take it for what it is and remember that is the equivalent to saying, “I love you!” 5. HE’S PROUD OF YOU. When a man really loves a woman, he shows it by bragging about her. Yep, that’s right a real man isn’t shy about saying how proud he is of his woman. Whether you’re a fantastic mother, a hard worker, or achieving your goals in corporations, you can rest assured that your efforts don’t go unnoticed to the man that is in love with you. So when he tells you, it’s his way of saying, “I love you.”

6. HE STICKS UP FOR YOU. This one’s obvious one, but very important. First let's be clear, if he doesn’t stick up for you, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. This is a hard one. Most of the time drama and controversy can arise with a close family member or friend, therefore his loyalty is split. Most men like to avoid controversy, so if he defends you, that’s big and it’s definitely his way of saying, “I love you.” 7. HE TREATS YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS WITH RESPECT. This is the last one, but it is surely one of the MOST important. It’ s a given that in any relationship, a man should automatically show you, your family and friends respect. The reason is simple; he cares for you and he needs to properly treat them with care as well.