So what infuenced you the most about what someone said regarding how the feel about you

 One of the most common derisive taunts thrown at feminists – and one of the oldest – is “manhater”. It’s been around since the days of suffrage, and still gets used today, though its a pretty anodyne insult. Most feminists,  shun the label and work to convince people that despite the stereotypes feminists absolutely, without a doubt, do not hate men.

 "they don't Hate, hate you.. They just don't like you. like you! So what?

When women hate men, they intend to hurt their feelings. When men hate women, they intend  to kill them: mass shootings have been attributed to misogyny, and sexual and domestic violence against women is often fueled by a hatred for women.

we can't like everyone, but we should, let's face it some folks are just not likeable.. But to just decide you just don't like someone for no reason seems like you have a serious problem with your radar.

Fellas hunt women that look the way we want them to look, regardless of their history. But after we have the facts about her history we might just retreat to a better place.

wow she had a baby for another guy not too long ago, or she had been in too many relationships that failed. the signs speak volumes.

when  men judge a woman we are often judging based  on the women who have been part of our passed.

women play innocent because it work best for them. We’re talking about playing innocent. Does your loved one ever do that? I'll try get into the details, and I do believe you’ll be able to relate. It’s so common, and knowing how to handle this is essential. And if you’re thinking, “Oh  gosh, boring! Covert aggression? What is that? Sounds too technical. Not interested.”

So, let’s dive into the first sign of covert aggression.

 Here we go. It’s playing innocent, pretending to be ignorant, or pretending to be confused. This is covert aggression.

It’s playing dumb when something is awful, or when something awful they did is called to their attention.

A covertly aggressive reaction would be them acting surprised that you really wanted them to go. 

They would say something like, “I had no idea how much it meant to you.” Or, “I didn’t realize how badly you wanted me to join you.” When in fact you had made it very clear to them many times that you were excited or that it was important to you.

Men seldom accuse women of having double standards, but they do, don't they

 How crazy does it sound when a woman says she will not compete/fight for a man, but she wants men to compete for her affections, isn't this a double standard?

she has two  men on the hook

Gender Double Standards That Remind Me How Much Toxic Masculinity Destroys Society.

Let me first say the thoughts for this post popped into my head while watching "Ready to Love" on BET.

in the process of selecting each gender can pick one or multiple persons of interest to move forward with in the show.  One woman made her two choices, but she kept the 2nd guy in a limbo status, after he thought they had made a solid connection. Now I can hear women say "hey finally women get a chance to do this". But women have always had the same chances to pick between two men to battle over her.

Let not get to deep into history, just note that this not new. 

As a man I have lived the life of multiple choices, now that I think back it was crazy of me to keep doing it for the many years  before I finally got married. But I never dealt with two women in the same city, same state even on the same Island. I kept them as far apart as I could. I was keeping it safe.  Now shows like "who want to marry a millionaire" are fizzling out. new shows like "ready to love " are playing a different type of game.  each gender by committee get to send a person or two home who group (male or female) have not felt they wanted to keep in the mix (maybe they are not aggressive enough). a new comer could join the show without having to gone through  what those who were sent home had to go through from the beginning. OK the tables  are somewhat  better balanced.  But no man or woman want to be a 2nd option. Not even in basketball or football. The game is played where the one with max game potential  will always be the best selection  option

women who look this good have options of which man to choice is limitless.

Final thought..

So, what is a double standard, really? A double standard is a set of principles that applies differently (usually more rigorously) to some people rather than to others. Because of how ubiquitous and deep-rooted gender biases are, double standards have been prevalent in women’s professional/personal lives. A woman needs to be friendly, but not too friendly; ambitious, but not too ambitious; successful, but not too successful… Society applauds men when they’re ambitious, yet when a woman is ambitious she is deemed unlikeable, ruthless, or abrasive.  hmm! does this make us wonder how in the 21st century this still playing out as it does. a man who has choice between two men, is not seen as favorable as a man with two women.

Smart men think that there are good reasons why men prefer emotionally intelligent women for long-term relationships

 Some men are very particular about their women. There is the kind of woman you date, and then there is the perfect someone to enjoy life with for the long haul. The difference between the two is the maturity of emotionally intelligent women.

her eyes speak volumes

Everybody wants to have fun and enjoy a fling or two, but when it comes to settling down and building a life with someone, you want it to be a person of substance. You want a woman who gets you on a different level and is mature enough to have children, a job, and keeps your relationship alive.

we are force together

Why Do Men Prefer Emotionally Intelligent Women?

Have you ever heard that men are interested in some women because of their brains? Part of that is true that there needs to be some intellect to make conversations interesting. However, there are many reasons why intelligent women are so much more appealing than most.

For starters, they can maneuver the World of emotions and use their feelings to get positive results rather than negative ones. Not only is this trait an asset in a relationship, but it’s also good to have in the workplace too.

These ladies know what it takes to live a balanced life and empower others to be a better version of themselves. Here are some other reasons why an emotionally intelligent woman attracts more men.

Emotionally Intelligent Women Do What They Say 

and Walk the Walk

Emotionally intelligent women don’t just say all the right things; they make it a habit to practice them too. They’re anything but hypocritical as they practice what they preach. They are not a dictator who doesn’t follow their own lead, as they have no qualms about living the lifestyle they represent.

They’re Not Afraid of the Future

It’s effortless to worry about the future when you don’t have control of the here and now. However, men like that the emotionally intelligent gal isn’t worried about tomorrow because she doesn’t need a scripted routine. She’s flexible, open-minded, and up for the adventure.

 They Embrace Mindful Living

Some folks live each day with the mentality that they hope they make it through. However, this is not the attitude of those who are emotionally intelligent. Every single day is another blessing and something to learn. They embrace mindful living and don’t want to waste one minute they’ve been given.

They’re Fascinated by What Makes Them Tick

Emotionally intelligent women like to people watch, as they’re mesmerized by human behavior. They embrace diversity and find something in each person that makes them unique. They’re also observant as they watch body language and facial expressions.

 Emotionally Intelligent Women Have Excellent 

Communication Skills

You may be a stranger when you meet the emotionally intelligent woman, but soon she will act like she’s known you forever. They find conversations easy, as they can talk to anyone. They don’t care what you believe, where you live, or how much money you make because they embrace the diversity that makes people so amazing.

They are Aware of Their Strengths and Weaknesses

One thing that a guy likes about this lady is her strength. Sure, she knows she has weaknesses, and she’s working on them. However, she doesn’t talk about all her problems. Rather, she prefers to work on her issues without making a public announcement about them, as she would rather let her good qualities shine.

They are Skilled Active Listeners

This strong woman has mastered the art and knows the difference between “hearing” and “listening.” To ensure that she’s engaged in the conversation, she will re-phrase your statements to ensure she gets things right. You never have to second guess if she’s truly listening to you or just nodding her head and hoping the conversation quickly ends.

They are Always Willing to Lend a Helping Hand

Emotionally intelligent women don’t have to have a reason to help those around them, as she’s just a kind soul that loves to do this sort of thing. She wouldn’t hesitate to help an older man with his groceries or work in the local soup kitchen. Her warm personality is endearing to all who meet her.

Emotionally Intelligent Women Have a Desire to Achieve

One thing that men love about these strong ladies is that they are success-minded. They won’t stop until the hits her goal, and they are not quitters. No matter what comes their way, the will keep going and striving till she succeeds.

Emotionally Intelligent Women Make Peace with the Past

Sure, she has a past, and some parts of it are more complicated for her to handle. However, she ditched that emotional baggage long ago. She’s ready to have a new relationship because she’s not letting her past dictate her future.

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Final Thoughts 

After looking through this list, it’s easy to see why men are attracted to emotionally intelligent women. When you’re looking for someone to have a long-term relationship with, you want them to be intelligent, assertive, compassionate, and have empathy towards others. Anyone that displays just a few of these characteristics is a breath of fresh air and someone worth investing time in.

An amazing Fact “Why Younger Men Often Prefer Over 40 Older Women”

 

We are the queens and those youngster 
 don't have anything on us.

Relationships between men and older women over 40, are on the rise. Younger and older men can have different desires from women their age, so they are part of why older women attract younger men.

Some men prefer dating older women because they feel equal. Relationships like these are more common than most people think, and they’re also more successful. There are a few reasons why young men like older women.

Over 40-year older Women Have More Intellectual Ability

having those good feelings of not looking over 40
and still looking like I'm way younger.
 being able to smile about it

Men want a more profound connection where they can talk. Because older women are more mature and better at holding intellectual conversations, so younger men are attracted to them. According to anthropologist Helen Fisher, eighty-seven percent of men would date a more intelligent woman and more educated than them.

Women, who are Over 40 years young know what they want this can attract men.

this jog was what I surely  needed today

Older women have more life experience and know what they want out of life. Men like women who have meaningful and fulfilling goals are sure of themselves and know what they want. With a plan in life, a woman has more time to invest in a relationship, making women more attractive to men.

As the over 40 year or older Woman you are, the more experience you have ever been

Having one offspring will not cause me
to take myself off of the market for younger men

Women with more life experience have knowledge that younger women do not have. This can help mature men in their relationships. People tend to gravitate towards someone who gives them a realistic outlook on life and helps them grow intellectually. An article on Today.com interviewed young men about how they feel about older women and found that most acknowledged that “older women have more life experience, emotional stability, grounding, and can offer honesty and different perspectives.”

Young men can attain emotional maturity

a green smoothy is a pick me upper every day.

Over 40-year older women are more mature emotionally, too, in many ways. Older women will share their feelings with their partners, something men like. Older women can help younger men process and express their feelings.

Men Want Mature Behavior, not childish antics

No need to chase him, he knows where to find the good thing.'

A mature woman will know how to handle her emotions and behavior. The calming nature of older women is appealing to younger men looking for a more serious relationship. Most men are attracted to women who can behave maturely in relationships and life. It also helps them mature in their own lives as well.

Over 40 women have Confidents which appeal to men

Most mature women can feel confident on their own, but some younger women need constant reassurance and attention. You can do anything with grace and maturity if you’re older. Men like it because older women know what they want and don’t play games with them. In a Today.com story, men said the attention of an older woman gave them more self-confidence and self-esteem.

Final thought.

Mutual respect is essential to both partners.

Older men and younger men want a relationship where men feel respected and respect their partners. 40+ Older women are respected because they have life experience, are mature, and know they can learn a lot in the relationship. Allowing each other privacy and not pushing the other person to do things they’d instead not do can make a relationship happier since it builds trust. It’s easy for men to respect an older woman once they realize she’s trustworthy.