5/13/2023

is it The End Of The American Male?

The average man who is not fit avoids fitted shirts like the plague… these days it seems.

 

Just to hide his squishy man boobs and flabby beer belly from the world.

 

He can’t run 2 blocks without gasping for oxygen…

Let alone defend his wife and daughters…

Which is why ladies are tossing these husbands around in bed like ragdolls (if these fellahs get “lucky” at all).

 

In fact, some men are wearing dresses and calling themselves metrosexuals.

 

So what the heck is going on?

 

According to an article I read, this isn’t propaganda on social media or the news. Its  bcomin a mor popular thing.....

 

It’s REAL and happening right now.

 

And it’s all due to a new form of “male birth control” lurking in your bloodstream…

 

Inflating your gut.

 

Robbing you of your libido.

 

And tanking your energy levels.

 

It doesn't stop there…

 

A New England Research Institutes reported that men’s testosterone levels are plummeting with every new generation.

 

That’s why men today seem literally to be HALF the men their fathers were.


I am thankful that there are some exceptions!


Final thoughts

I first be came aware of guys wearing dresses when "Will Smith's son" was in a fashion show wearing one. I thought 'thank God my sons don't subscribe to this nonsense.'

Im considering teachng a course in "How You Can still Be an Alpha Magnet and Attract High-Quality Women - " Training.

And It's not about being physically attractive or having a lot of money.

It's about embodying the traits that make a man somewhat irresistible to women which I'll share.

But what if I told you that you can become the type of man that starts attracting high-quality women effortlessly?



I think the wordings on some things on SOcial Media are being mis-interpreted.

I REST MY CASE!



5/11/2023

Things an Attractive Man IS MADE OF.

 It's more than his Looks


Everyone finds different things attractive, and it isn’t only about looks. While finding someone who looks good is great, many other things can boost a man’s appeal.

While there’s no definitive answer to what makes a male attractive, there are some things that many people agree on. Most people will identify with at least a few things on this list, preferring men with those qualities over others.

For a relationship to work, both partners must accept one another as they are. It means that some things a man does will be unattractive to potential partners, as not everyone is a match.

Men aren’t the only ones with attractive qualities other than their looks. Women are also beautiful for more than their looks; you can read about it in a separate article.

What the Experts Say

Research from the University of California supports attractiveness as involving more than looks. Their experts indicate that positive personality traits and societal markers play a role in physical attraction. It explains why you might be attracted to people your friends aren’t.

Looks and facial attractiveness may play a role at first, but it can’t deepen without other qualities. Personality traits often contribute more to who a person likes, helping people find a partner to share an emotional connection with.

The traits people are attracted to vary based on individual preferences. However, the most common things an attractive man is made of include several things.

What Happens When There’s no Attraction in a Relationship Besides Looks

When you see a physically attractive person, you might want to get to know them better. Once you do, you’ll seem to hit it off before things eventually go wrong.

After getting past the physical attraction, one or both of you might realize that there’s no real connection between you. You might get tired of one another or drift apart until the romance fizzles out.

What an Attractive Man Is Made Of

If you’re a man reading this, you don’t have to have all the qualities. Everyone prefers different things, and you’ll find someone who finds your traits attractive. Women reading this might not agree with all the aspects listed, but you’ll likely identify quite a few that you do.

Some of the things an attractive male is made of include the following:

1 – An Attractive Man Has a Sense of Humor

People love a man with a good sense of humor and tend to be drawn to him. When a male can make someone laugh, they tend to like him more than before. They’ll also be drawn to him more than males in the same space.

Funny people know, maybe subconsciously, that it attracts others, so they often tell jokes and funny stories. Laughing easily is another plus, while those who don’t laugh frequently are less attractive.

2 – Spending Time with His Friends

Hanging out with others can make a man more attractive. They’ll look better and have a better chance of catching a potential partner’s eye in groups. However, if you’re a man reading this, you’re not as approachable in a group. Make it a point to separate yourself from your group if you keep catching someone’s eye.

3 – An Attractive Man Smells Good

A man who smells good is more attractive to potential partners. Their natural scent helps people detect hormones and bacteria. Cologne can attract partners, too, as it can complement natural odor and boost confidence.

4 – Being Sincere and Having Integrity

When someone shows sincerity, they are open and truthful. They won’t lie or become hypocritical about things within your romance. A sincere man will show sincerity as he interacts with a partner at all points of the relationship.

A man with integrity tells the truth, even when it’s hard. He might receive more benefits from lying about a situation, but he’s honest anyway. When a male is like this, he becomes more attractive to potential partners. Not only do people know he will tell the truth, but they’ll also assume infidelity is less likely.

5 – He Owns a Dog

Owning a dog suggests that a man can commit for the long run and take care of someone. It also makes him more approachable and feel confident. These signs make him more attractive to potential partners.

6 – Being in Touch with His Feminine Side

Men that do things that aren’t traditionally viewed as masculine, some people find them more attractive. It shows that they are confident in their sexuality and want to show who they are and what they like.

Some men won’t take the time to focus on their grooming because it’s viewed as a feminine habit. However, studies show that men who focus on grooming are more attractive. Grooming involves spending time on their hair, choosing their clothes carefully, or wearing nice cologne.

Additionally, men who do things that people associate with females tend to get liked more. These tasks include cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the children.

7 – An Attractive Man Has Great Passion

A man can be more attractive when he shows passion for something specific. It’s when a hobby becomes something more and helps them feel fulfilled.

8 – Being a Good Storyteller

When a male can tell a good story, people will think he’s more attractive. Being a good storyteller means getting involved in telling the story, using narration and descriptions. It shows they have good communication skills, which appeals to someone looking for a romantic partner.

9 – Being Gentlemanly and Kind

Opening doors and pulling out chairs aren’t the only behaviors that make someone a gentleman. It also requires using basic manners and being respectful to others. When a man exhibits gentlemanly behavior, it makes them more attractive.

Additionally, engaging in selfless acts makes people like a guy more. Men that do this will do things for others without expecting anything in return. Volunteer work is one example, but there are many other things these men can do.

10 – An Attractive Man Enjoys Similar Music to Your taste in music

People are likely to find a man attractive when he has favorite songs that aren’t on the top hits list. You won’t have to share musical interests to be attracted to someone because of it.

A diverse interest in music can make all the difference, but playing musical instruments is even better. For some, even seeing a man while music plays will make him more attractive.

11 – Confidence

Men who are shy and indecisive appear weak and unattractive. However, confident men are attractive to most people. When they feel good about themselves, others will feel the same. Self-confidence also makes potential partners more confident in them.

When someone walks hurriedly without looking at others, it shows a lack of confidence. A confident man walks boldly and like he has a purpose. People view the confident one as someone who knows what he’s doing and is sure of himself.

12 – Playing with Babies

A male who interacts with babies tends to be more attractive to potential partners. Since carrying, playing, and caring for babies are often viewed as a woman’s task, it’s different when a man does it. People take notice and enjoy the view, with potential partners thinking of a future with him.

Playing with babies shows that a man could make a good father and partner. Even if a romance is new and marriage isn’t possible, a baby with a man triggers feelings of attraction.

13 – Physical Activity

A male doesn’t have to have huge muscles to be attractive but being active makes him more attractive. Going hiking, playing an active sport, or engaging in another activity can improve how people view him.

14 – A Good Work Ethic

While someone might not want or need to be taken care of, people tend to like men with a good work ethic. It shows that the man can provide, even if unnecessary, which is a good feeling going into a long-term relationship.

People are often more attracted to men who have a high societal status. It gives a sense of security knowing that a male can provide and won’t become dependent. Knowing a man works hard also shows what he’s capable of. It highlights his skills and passions, making him even more appealing.

15 – An Attractive Man Has Intelligence

An intelligent man is an attractive one. When he knows things about life and the world around him, it can improve how people view him. He doesn’t have to go overboard with spewing knowledge but being able to hold an engaging conversation goes a long way.

As an intelligent man speaks, he’ll give bits of information to deepen the conversation. He’ll also ask questions to gain understanding. Both examples increase his attractiveness.

Final Thoughts

Now that you know the things an attractive man is made of, use them to your advantage. Men, you can use these tips to improve your likelihood of attracting the partner you want. While you shouldn’t change who you are, you can work on implementing some of these positive qualities.

5/08/2023

newsflash: LOVE is very different from LIKE.

To LIKE is not to love. Liking can get in the way.When we like someone it is to put our liking first and then make allowances that are not wise for fear of hurting a relationship. In a book that I read they defines love as "the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing ones own or another's spirtual growth'.Love is a deliberate choice and involves effort: an attitude of mind translated into action physical, mental or spirtual,, or a combination of any of the three.
There’s no such thing as a one-size-fits-all solution to Love. 
Personalization is the key to an optimal Love relationship
Is it the way she looks at you that tells the story or is it her smile, her style of dress?
Why does it matters: While there are signs that there is interest.



5/07/2023

women aren't instantly impressed like men are with looks.




Women often complain that chivalry is dead and that no true gentlemen are left in the world. But, chivalry is a concept from the medieval period that dictated the behavior between two warriors.


The code of chivalry only relates to women in that women were a man’s property (either daughter or wife) and what a warrior needed to do so as not to offend his host or liege lord by not taking liberties with the women of the house.

The idea of the gentleman grew out of the aristocracy and the chivalric code when firearms made the knight obsolete. With their purpose (waging war) taken away from them, the aristocracy had to justify their existence and maintain their warlike demeanor even though they were rarely called upon to fight. Out of this grew the idea of personal honor and the willingness to fight at the drop of a hat for any offense, real or perceived. Throw women into the mix, and men fought, killed, or died to protect a woman’s honor.

Remember that this time period had very little law and order, and women in particular had very few rights as they were still seen as property. During this time, minstrels were touring Europe and singing ballads about the deeds of chivalrous knights and their romances with (often unavailable) women.

These stories were very different from the actual state of things and were essentially romance novels, songs, and poems of the period.

What does this history have to do with the modern world? Those same warped ideas about chivalry have been passed down through the generations through stories, books, plays, movies, and television. The intersection between this romantic fantasy and the modern world where men and women are equal leads to the ten reasons why most women don’t find a true gentleman.


FINAL THOUGHTS 

The tale of ‘Prince Charming’

Women were/are raised to expect a prince charming to sweep them off their feet and carry them into a magical land where they are rich and royal and live happily ever after. As fantasies go, it isn’t bad but completely unrealistic on almost every level. This is beyond the means of 99.99% of men on the planet, yet movies, TV shows and books sell this plot line to women relentlessly.

Why?

Because it sells. It is a fantasy that women want and when reality doesn’t come close to meeting this fantasy, some women become embittered. Especially when women fall for narcissistic manipulators pretending to be Prince Charming who use those women and cast them aside.

The idea that women need rescuing

Men, on the other hand, are expected to rush to a woman’s aid at the drop of a hat only to be shuffled off into the friend zone. Sometimes a man goes out of his way to help a woman, only to be told, “I don’t need your help, I can do it myself.”

Women have been told for the last fifty years that they are equals and can do anything a man can do. If you want knights back, then you ladies have to encourage it. Men know that women are their equals already


The pay-to-Play fallacy

Gentleman should always pay for the date except for when a woman is specifically taking the man out, and that is established before the date commences. But, it is generally understood that the man will pay for everything when on the date, no questions asked. Dinner? Sure. Dancing after? Absolutely. Movie? No problem. After years on the dating scene, gentleman will be able to tell the difference between women who are sincerely interested in a relationship, and those who are using men to subsidize their lifestyles(there are a lot of them these days).

With the proliferation of dating apps, a woman in a reasonably sized city could get a date every night of the week. That is hundreds of dollars a week in free meals and entertainment. A gentleman isn’t stupid. So, these women are left with those men who are just as shallow, materialistic and selfish as they are and complain that chivalry is dead. It isn’t dead. A gentleman isn’t going to be your next sucker either. If you want a nice gentleman, you must be a lady in return. Be sincere, gracious and honest with yourself about why you are on that date.


4/14/2023

Emotional Wounds Daughters Will Unloving Mothers Carry Into Adulthood

My mom can really become scary sometimes!

 In a perfect world of parenting, mothers are the eternal nurturers who will sacrifice all for their children’s safety and well-being. Perhaps those are the fond memories you have of your mother. Or maybe you bear the emotional wounds of a toxic mother-daughter relationship.

Although our world is far from perfect.... the prevailing myth of ideal motherhood remains. Decades of family-oriented television shows have done much to promote the misconception. Everyone wants that loving, demure TV mom who always keeps her cool, knows all the answers, and dresses in her finest clothes and jewelry while cleaning the house.

Most mothers may be fallible in our society, but they still try their best to be good wives and parents. For single mothers, parenting is often double duty, yet many do the job well. Even in the best mother-daughter relationships, differences of opinion and strained moments are commonplace.

If you’re a male reading this, these scars, of course, may apply to you as well.

As a baby and into childhood, girls see themselves in their mothers’ faces, and they bond with them. When mothers are compassionate and attentive, it assures their daughters that they are loved. This bond of love provides the foundation of the girls’ self-esteem and confidence in other relationships.

12 Emotional Wounds Daughters With Unloving Mothers Carry Into Adulthood

12 Emotional Wounds Daughters With Unloving Mothers Carry Into 

In a perfect world of parenting, mothers are the eternal nurturers who will sacrifice all for their children’s safety and well-being. Perhaps those are the fond memories you have of your mother. Or maybe you bear the emotional wounds of a toxic mother-daughter relationship.

Although our world is far from perfect, the prevailing myth of ideal motherhood remains. Decades of family-oriented television shows have done much to promote the misconception. Everyone wants that loving, demure TV mom who always keeps her cool, knows all the answers, and dresses in her finest clothes and jewelry while cleaning the house.

Most mothers may be fallible in our society, but they still try their best to be good wives and parents. For single mothers, parenting is often double duty, yet many do the job well. Even in the best mother-daughter relationships, differences of opinion and strained moments are commonplace.

If you’re a male reading this, these scars, of course, may 

As a baby and into childhood, girls see themselves in their mothers’ faces, and they bond with them. When mothers are compassionate and attentive, it assures their daughters that they are loved. This bond of love provides the foundation of the girls’ self-esteem and confidence What happens to daughters who needed a “Mrs. Cleaver” mother and got “Mommy Dearest” instead? The emotional wounds run deep when girls have a distant, critical, cold, and cruel mom. It creates a skewed sense of herself and the world around 

4/12/2023

When you disapprove of her thug choices in boyfriends it becomes harder to remain a fan of hers.

 There’s no class in high school on how to not be with a shitty boyfriend or girlfriend. Sure, they teach us the biology of sex, the legality of marriage, and maybe read a few obscure love stories from the 18-19th century on how not to be.

But when it comes down to actually handling the nitty-gritty of relationships, we are not given  pointers… or worse, women are given advice columns in women’s magazines.

Yes, it’s trial-and-error from the get-go. And if you’re like most people, it’s been mostly error.



But part of the problem is that many unhealthy relationship habits are baked into our culture(girls are into bad boys, who is than stable good guy, she thinks is a nerd. Women worship romantic love — you know, that dizzying and irrational romantic love that somehow finds breaking china plates on the wall in a fit of tears somewhat endearing — and scoff at practicality or unconventional sexualities. Men and women are raised to objectify each other and to objectify the relationships they’re in. Thus our partners are often seen as assets rather than someone to share mutual emotional support.

FINAL THOUGHTS

I often tell folks I have two sons with good moral character, it's something  Im really proud of. But these days I'm happy that I don't have a daughter. IF my daughter brought home one of these street thugs, that was abusing her. I would go to jail for murder... it would be his last act on this Earth!

A King is a King of KINGS when he has a Queen

We can and should endorse this. Queens are princesses if they are not engaged to a crown prince or a King.