9/27/2023

what are the Most Important Qualities Women Look for in a Younger Guy

Ask not what
 makes me love you,
Ask why should I not love the good person you are





Psychology Explains Why Younger Men Often Prefer Older Women


It is becoming more common for younger men to prefer older women. I had my share of these relationships in my younger years

Fortunately, psychology explains why this is the case. This relationship may be hard to understand if you aren’t in one, but the reasoning is pretty legitimate. Even with negative stereotyping and judgment, younger men are going after older women frequently.

It may be more life experience that draws a younger man to an older woman in some instances. In other cases, it is due to their level of maturity. Whatever the case may be, it is becoming increasingly common for these types of relationships to flourish.

Men want different things from relationships than women of the same age want. Older women want different things than younger women want. These different desires are part of what attracts younger men to older women.

Understanding these mindsets and relationship preferences is the key to understanding why some younger men are drawn to mature ladies. There are many reasons, and they all align with what a man is looking for in a woman. Also know that these are generalizations–not every statement applies to every person, just as not every younger man prefers a mature partner.

What Men Want in a Relationship


Before understanding why younger men often prefer older women, it is important first to understand what a man wants in a relationship. Most men tend to look for the same things, whether they realize it or not.



Men look for strong attraction in a relationship, and they want the attraction to last. This can occur if you are yourself right from the beginning. If you start changing soon after the relationship starts, they will stop being attracted to you.

2 – An Emotional Connection

While men don’t always show their feelings as often as women do, they want to open up to their partner. If he breaks down in front of you, he will want to know that you won’t judge him for it or stop loving him.

3 – Respect

A man doesn’t want to be belittled by his partner, so he will look for someone who doesn’t do this. He doesn’t want to be overly criticized, either. You should also avoid comparing him to other men or treating him like a child.

4 – Praise

Men want to know when they did something well or when you appreciate what they did. They will look for a woman who praises them because it makes them feel good about themselves.

5 – Acceptance

Men don’t want a woman that tries to change them. They want a partner who will accept them and love them despite their flaws.


6 – Security

Men want to know that their relationship is secure. They want someone reliable, honest, and dependable.

7 – Maturity

Men want a mature relationship, which means acting like a child is 

completely out. Throwing a fit, making threats, and refusing to 

communicate are all signs of immaturity.



8/16/2023

We men sometimes have to make a choice between two women!

The choice is never as easy as women may think, simply because there are feelings that will be hurt... one woman will have to deal with not being the one chosen. Which can cause major ill feelings for a long, long time.
These eyes may cry many tears for years!

What is often not understood,  is, that male rejection can scar a woman for a lifetime. Men get rejected often by women, it is part of life for most men,  the scars men received are seen as battle scars,  no big deal, men often think the scars are worth it,  but women do not expect to be rejected by men. This is when a woman understands that the man made a choice, that the rejected woman does no longer feel like the trophy with the red bottom shoes, and expensive jewelry, the man told her it is over.... she was in his eyes the prize, but then turned around and dumped her. First runner up, second place, never feels like a  winning end result.
Well try walking in the man's shoes... since men often have to deal with not being the one chosen by the trophy woman.These days men get rejected or NOT chosen based on material possessions. Which is not any easier to deal with, especially when the other guy does not look any better than you do, except his material items place the other guy in a higher value status, in the womans view, simply because he has more stuff that the woman wants to have as the trophy woman's disposal.
Having a villa along A private beach,  with a pleasure boat, in the Tropics and being able to enjoy it when one wants  is labeled " living in Paradise". Even a quiet walk on his private beach can be thought of as "Heaven on Earth"

Final thought
We may all want more than a few luxuries at our disposal, but the question one might ask is it really worth rejecting and hurting another person to enjoy them?




So what happens when a man has two women who are both inlove with him

Is someone else ringing his doorbell?

A man's ego gets very inflated when both women want him for themselves. But since it is against the law in most states to marry two women he has to settle for marrying only one of them.
Why is he taking so long to answer his phone and his door I know he is home his car is in his parking spot.

I Don't care how good a player you think you are, as a man the two women will force you as the man to pick one of the two.
So when you is done playing games only one will walk down the isle, and have the ring placed on her finger, and hear "I do". The other will be miserable for a longtime after. Maybe!
I know what I'm talking about, because I experienced it and lived to regret it   since my marriage to one instead of the other resulted in a divorce. The upside is that I have two sons from my marrying to the one woman, and the second woman has  one daughter as a result of her having married someone else.( I still wish I  could have convinced my now ex-wife to try and have a third child it could have resulted in a daughter) but having 2 sons is great, no regrets on that level

FINAL THOUGHTS
I did a Google search on the first name only, and Wow a face from my past popped up in the search result. I had not seen this woman in decades. She pretty much looks the same, needless to say my guilty feeling came rushing back because I always felt I had done her wrong! She deserved better.