Be careful: That babe you’re eyeing may not be as nice as she looks. New research in the journal Psychological Science finds that attractive people tend to be more self-promoting,needy, and less concerned about others than their lesser-looking counterparts. The problem? You’re more likely to view a “10″ as a successful, social butterfly than a pompous conformist.
Blame something called the “halo effect”—your instinct to associate
outer beauty with inner good—for why you’re fooled into thinking she’s
perfect.
So before you make your approach (and start idealizing fallacies),
here are five things that you actually can tell about her in 5 seconds
or less.
1. If she looks out of place, she could be there on purpose. She’s savvy enough to know the proper dress code for a dive
bar. So if she’s dressed to the nines, she’s probably not there for the
beer list. Women go
places all the time specifically to meet men. Check out how she walks, is she looks very confident with a strut.gives you a light glance.There’s your green light.
2. If she’s drinking red wine, she could want more sex.
. . . Or maybe she just likes the taste. Italian researchers found
that women who drank two glasses of red wine per day craved sex more
frequently than women who drank less often. They credit the polyphenols
that may improve blood flow down below.
3. If she’s wide-eyed, she could be adventurous. Check out her pupils to see if she’s feisty. Florida State University
researchers watched a woman and a man alone in a room and found that
when the woman looked at the man with wide eyes, lifted eyebrows, and
sidelong glances, she had higher levels of sexual openness.
4. If she’s sporty, she’s not too concerned about your looks.
Meet a cute woman at the weight rack? Don’t worry about being sweaty.
Athletic women tend to be less choosy when it comes to a guy’s look, say
Polish researchers. Why? Heavier women (who don’t have an athletic body
type) have more body fat—and thus more estrogen—which makes them more
likely to seek out a dude with great genes, like symmetry in the face
and a strong jaw.
5. If she seems like an ice queen, she may have been around the block a few times.
Psychologists say standoffish women aren’t as inclined to form romantic
connections—therefore they have more hookups. But don’t worry if she’s a
little icy: Villanova researchers found that ladies with cold
personalities tend to have more sexual partners than those with more
mild personalities.
Read Her Body Language!
THE GIRL AT THE BAR SEEMS INTERESTED
Do this: Glance at her feet. People
subconsciously move toward their desires. Her upper body might not be
turned toward you, but if her feet are pointed at you, she's
subconsciously positioned herself in your direction. Go on, say hi......
YOU WANT TO MOVE IN FOR A KISS
Do this: Take a look at her lips.
She'll touch and lick them more than usual. And, if she's into you, it's
perfectly okay to stare—just make sure you're staring at her eyes, not
just her lips. Now, quick, seize the opportunity!
Wait did you move too fast?
SHE SAYS SHE'S NOT MAD, BUT YOU SUSPECT OTHERWISE
Do this: Watch her jawline. She'll
instinctively close her mouth and tighten her jaw when she's angry. If
she's perfected her poker face, check her hands. If she's clutching her
knuckles or something else, let her cool off...
Fellas try and follow me on this one, Ladies tell your fella to read this if you agree. Discover the things she's hiding from you— Marriage is a Miss-take if it works. Don't get me wrong I'm pro marriage - I was married for 25 years. some of those Years I was happy, however the following rings true more at this stage because I lived it and now I remember things.....that make me go hmmmmm.
First moment, and maybe only moment of equal happiness
MARRIAGE Definition: the social institution under which a
man and woman (in love) establish their decision to live as husband and wife by
legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc., and live happily everafter... or...
Fact or fiction (you make the call):
1. Marriages are made in heaven. But so again, are thunder and lightning.
2. After marriage, husband and wife becomes two sides of a coin...they
can't face each other, but, they still stay together.
3. Married life is very frustrating.
In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman
listens.
In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens.
In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.
4. When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one
thing:
either the car is new or the wife is.
5. Marriage is when a man and woman become as one. The trouble starts
when they tryto
decide which one.
6. Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about something she
says. After marriage, he will fall asleep before she finishes talking.
7. Every man wants a wife who is beautiful, understanding, economical, and a
good cook. But the law allows only one wife.
8. They say when a man holds a woman's hand before marriage, that is
LOVE.
After marriage, that is SELF DEFENSE.
9. A wife becomes a "SEX OBJECT" when every time the
husband asks for sex,
she objects.
10. Marriage is the only war where you get to sleep with the enemy.
11. There are two four-letter words that are offensive to men in
marriage –
"don't" and "stop",
unless, they are used together one word following the other in the same sentence .
12. Marriage is an institution where the man loses his Bachelor's Degree and
the woman gets her Master's Degree.
13. In marriage, a man can have words with his wife, but, a woman can have
paragraphs with her husband.
14. Marriage is love. Love is blind. Therefore, marriage is an
institution for the blind.
15. There are 3 stages of SEX in a married life: Tri-weekly, try weekly
and try weakly.
16. LOVE is a long sweet dream; MARRIAGE is the alarm clock.
17. When a newly married man looks happy, we know why. But, when a
10-year married man looks happy, we wonder why.
18. Marriage is not a word. It is a sentence ... a LIFE SENTENCE.
Testimonials:
A long married couple came upon a wishing well. The wife leaned over, made a
wish and threw in a penny.
The husband decided to make a wish too. But he leaned over too much, fell into
the well, and drowned. The wife was stunned for a moment but then smiled and said,
"Wow! This stuff really Works!"
Son: Is it true Dad? I heard that in ancient China , a man doesn't know his
wife until he marries her!
Dad: That happens everywhere, son, EVERYWHERE!!!
Last night, my wife and I were sitting in the living room and I said to her, 'I
never want to live in a vegetative state, dependent on some machine and fluid
from a bottle. If that ever happens, just pull the plug'. She got up,
unplugged the computer, and threw out my beer!
The great question.... which I have not been able to answer... is, what does a
woman want? -Sigmund Freud
"Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a
restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and
dancing. She goes Tuesdays, I go Fridays." - Henry Youngman
"I don't worry about terrorism. I was married for two years." - Sam
Kinison
"There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic
banking.
It's called marriage." - James Holt McGavran
"I've had bad luck with both my wives. The first one left me, and the second
one didn't.." - Patrick Murray
A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong. - Milton Berle
My wife and I were very happy for twenty years. Then we met. - Rodney
Dangerfield
Send this to the men who need a good laugh ... and to women with a good
sense of humor.
"The Single-Married Woman…… She Does Exist." Yeah, it’s an oxymoron, however we all know folks dealing with this status.
While growing up I had a hero, someone other than my Dad. He was a close family friend. This gentleman treated me like his son, maybe because he only had daughters. He was a dedicated father and husband that was at home every night, Never drank Alcohol with the fellas, never gambled, never did anything that would make you think he was living a double life. But the signs were all there but no one saw them. I sure didn't. His wife was the great Pretender, as I later found out, so was her husband. He had a routine that never made anyone question his behavior. He was home by 4pm every day of the week from work. Had his dinner by 7pm and went to bed by 8pm, in a separate bedroom. Here was that one thing that would make anyone think. He got up at 3am and went to work everyday including Saturdays. His wife had her own life , her own profession (made her own money). But something was missing in this marriage, they did not sleep together, because Mr. Perfect had another family,he was leaving one home at 3am and going to his other family.
As a man who ran his own business, he set his hours to fit his lifestyle.
How did I unravel the story, as a teenager. Being a player at a young age. LOL. I would walk girls home after school carrying their books and talking up a storm.This one afternoon as I was walking this new girlfriend home. I got busted by, you guess it, Mr. Perfect. He was coming out of an area that just did not make sense to me that he would be in that neighborhood. He looked at me and my heart skipped a beat. he never said anything to me, Not "what are you doing in this area," not "aren'tyoufar away from home," not "what are you doing talking to this girl." Nothing!
I thought I would hear it from my mother when I got home. because I was later than normal, I hesitated going home right away. But is was our secret. Mr. Perfect was the one who got busted. And he knew it. So making an issue would have exposed his double life to others.
I found out years later that he father at least one more daughter who blessed him with a grandson, who grew-up and became a doctor. Just in time to tend to his dying Grand father.
So I saw first hand that someone close to my family was "Married in public and Single at home." I always thought that they slept in separate bedroom because he snored really loud. But that wasn't it. His wife would keep up the pretense just as long as he came home every night and no one would see that she was "The Single-Married Woman"
Many couples these days have so many different stories, check out this Trailer.
If he's unhappy with his wife, he'll cheat, right? Not necessarily. According to a Rutgers University study, 56 percent of men who have affairs claim to be happy in their marriages. They're largely satisfied with all they have and aren't looking for a way out, yet they still find themselves in bed with other women—and in hot water with their wives. Here, experts explain this phenomenon and dispel other popular cheating myths.
Fact #1: Most men are still in love with their wives when they cheat.
Men who cheat haven't fallen out of love; they've become unsatisfied with the current state of it. "Cheating usually occurs in the phase of companionship love, when couples begin to settle down, have kids and solidify the life being built together," says clinical psychologist Andra Brosh, PhD. While they're fulfilled in some areas, like being a provider, the romance may be missing. "We more often think of women complaining about a lack of romance, but men feel it, too," says Dr. Brosh. "They frequently suffer in silence, believing they can't get what they want from their spouses." To avoid this in your marriage, plan nights out together, set aside time for sex and discuss hopes and dreams—not just workdays and your son's last soccer game.
Fact #2: Men usually cheat with women they know.
Cheaters don't generally pick up random women in bars. "My first husband cheated on me with a childhood friend," says Diane from New York City. "His family was close to her family, so they never lost touch." Intimacy expert Mary Jo Rapini explains, "A lot of women think that all cheating women are floozies—not true. The relationships are usually friendships first." A good idea: Make sure your husband feels more connected to you than to his business partner. "Spouses go to work, take care of their kids and do separate things at night. That has to stop," says Rapini. She suggests always going to bed at the same time and cuddling. Fact #3: Men cheat to save their marriages
"Men love their spouses, but they don't know how to fix their relationship problems, so they go outside their marriages to fill any holes," says licensed marriage and family therapist Susan Mandel, PhD. Men want it all and have the skewed notion that another woman will make the longing for something more disappear. Then, they can live happily ever after with their wife—and their mistress—without confronting the real issues. Fact #4: Men hate themselves after affairs.
You may think of cheaters as men without morals, but while they may like what they did, they tend to despise themselves after their indiscretions. "If he puts his ego to the side, he'll feel like a piece of garbage," says relationship expert Charles J. Orlando, author of The Problem with Women...Is Men. "After all, he's betraying another human being who he claims to care about, so that takes its toll on every part of his psyche." A cheater can feel as though he's failed as a man.
Fact #5: Cheaters often get friskier with their wives when affairs begin.
Just because a husband's touchy-feely doesn't mean his marriage is on firm footing. "When a man starts cheating, he becomes hyperactive sexually," says Rapini, explaining that his sex drive has been awakened, and his wife is still the one with whom he feels most comfortable sexually. If you notice a sudden change in your husband's sex drive, it should raise a red flag. Be on the lookout for the switch to flip off again. "After the affair is solid, he may begin to pull away," says Rapini. Fact #6: Women cheat just as much as men, and their affairs are often more dangerous.
An Indiana University study shows that men and women cheat at the same rate. But "the reasons the sexes cheat are different," says Orlando. He explains women are more likely to cheat for emotional satisfaction. "Online cheating—without any physical contact—is the most damaging type of infidelity," says Orlando. Becoming emotionally invested in another person means you've likely checked out of your marriage. But if it's just sex, it's less about attachment and more about a hurtful mistake.
Fact #7: A wife often knows her husband's cheating.
How could Tiger Woods's ex, Elin Nordegren, and Arnold Schwarzenegger's ex, Maria Shriver, not have known what their high-profile husbands were up to? They probably did, but couldn't bear to acknowledge it. "At one level, I knew, but my denial was so strong," says Lily* from Toronto, Canada. "The pain, had I accepted it at that time, would have been too horrendous, so I had to process it slowly." According to Dr. Brosh, the jilted celebrities were likely doing the same thing: choosing what they could live with for the sake of their kids or to avoid humiliation and the fallout.
Fact #8: A couple will never work it out when the husband is in the midst of an affair.
They could agree to work on things, but it won't matter. If he's still in the throes of a hot, new romance, nothing a woman does will drag him out of it. "He's got such positivity happening, without all the drama that exists in the established relationship," says Orlando. The marriage will likely fail, unless he decides on his own accord that life isn't better with the other woman. So the key is prevention. Continue to be the woman he first fell for throughout your marriage. "Women often turn from a loving girlfriend into a nagging wife. Men aren't attracted to that." Dole out compliments and surprise him with sex—don't just yell at him about that towel on the bathroom floor, suggests Dr. Mandel.
Fact #9: Affairs can sometimes fix a marriage.
Is infidelity the kiss of death for a couple? Not always. Although a new relationship is exciting, "an affair can rekindle the marriage," says Orlando. "Men realize who they want for the rest of their lives and that the new relationship isn't as perfect as they thought." But think hard before returning to a cheater. "Flings can highlight how little self-control someone has," explains Orlando. Still, if it was truly a one-time slip, it's possible to get back on track.
Fact #10: Even after rebuilding the marriage, a husband may still miss the affair.
Sadly, he might love his wife and want to salvage the marriage, but he doesn't totally forget about the affair. "He might miss the great things about the other woman—fun, zero responsibilities, sex, the rush or the chase—but oftentimes he misses how he feels about himself when he was with her, which is more damaging if he's trying to return to his marriage," says Orlando. Again, acting as you did when the relationship was new could help.
Fact #11: A cheater knows he's hurting the woman he loves, tearing his family apart and sacrificing his honor.
A man may realize the negative impact on his wife, family and himself, but still continue an affair. How? "It's all in the perception of the cheater," says Orlando. "If he feels unwanted, undervalued and taken for granted, his personal needs of being wanted, valued and appreciated will win out."
Fact #12: The wife is not to blame if her husband cheats on her.
Realize this: If your husband is unfaithful, it's not your fault, no matter what people say. "When a man cheats, he's making a conscious choice to do it," says Dr. Brosh. "The idea of being pushed into the arms of another woman is an expression, not a reality." Orlando echoes this sentiment: "Men don't cheat because of who she is; they cheat because of who they're not," he says. "The 'fault' is that the signs of disconnection have been ignored by both parties."
In the end we men just need to declare that we are sorry then say "Here I am
I decided to do some research just to see if what I'm thinking is what experts say is the normal re-action we men have when we read a Ladies profile on Social networks and online dating sites. You might disagree with what you read in the following 10 point, but I have to tell you coming from a male perspective I have to concur with most of these, if not all.
If you thought the competition was stiff finding a job? It may be even fiercer
to find a mate online. A recent study by MBAPrograms.org found that over
49 million people per month look for love on eHarmony and Match.com
alone. Much like HR directors men go through resumes looking for reasons to
remove you from the running, potential mates scan dozens of profiles and
easily can be turned off. Here are statements women often make in their profiles
that chase away eligible bachelors.
What men really think of your online dating profile. Men read between the lines to find their version of the real meaning of what is being said.
1. You say: I want a financially secure man. He hears:I'm not financially secure, and I believe men should take care of women.
"Is she looking for a sugar daddy?" asks Eli*, a 41-year-old from Orlando, FL, who's used online dating sites. You may only mean you don't want a financial wreck for a boyfriend, but this request is a red flag for men. "People who live a comfortable lifestyle want someone who can do the things they do, but it's not necessary to say that outright," says eFlirtExpert.com founder Laurie Davis, whose book, Love at First Click: The Ultimate Guide to Online Dating, is due out in 2013. Instead, Davis suggests searching for people within your income bracket (which is an option on many sites, though a study by dating site OkCupid revealed that people typically inflate this number by 20 percent) or looking for other clues in their profiles, such as similar favorite travel destinations.
2. You say: I want an honest man. He hears: I've been burned, and I have major trust issues.
Isn't everyone looking for someone honest? "You're not going to scare off the liars," cautions Evan Marc Katz, a dating coach and author of I Can't Believe I'm Buying This Book: A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating. You might, however, scare off an honest man who fears you're carrying baggage from a previous relationship. "Good guys may think you sound angry and bitter," says Katz. You'll need to look for other clues, like whether he contacts you when he says he's going to, to gauge trustworthiness.
3.You say: My kids are my world. He hears: I don't have time for you.
If your world revolves around your child, where would a guy fit in? That's the question Davis and Katz both say men ask themselves when you emphasize your relationship with your kids too much in your profile. Katz suggests showing, and not telling, that you're close to them by giving an example of something you do together. "Use one sentence to describe what you do for your children, like throwing a birthday party for your 13-year-old or playing Legos with your 3-year-old." No doubt your kids are an important part of your life and you want someone who respects that, but Katz says, "Don't spend more than one or two lines on any topic."
4. You say: I'm young for my age. He hears: I'm older than my profile says, but you won't date me if I tell you my real age.
"It's a little 'thou doth protest too much,'" says Katz. "It comes off as defensive, insecure and trying too hard." Rather than worrying that your age doesn't accurately reflect you, use examples of activities or hobbies that illustrate your youthful side. You want someone whose lifestyle complements yours, not someone fixated on the birth date on your driver's license.
5.You say: I'm independent/driven/ambitious. He hears: I work 60 hours a week, teach yoga on the side and am taking classes to learn seven different languages.
Women tend to use words like "independent" and "ambitious" to prove they're not clingy and have their own interests. But our experts agreed that they make men wonder if you have room for them in your life. "The best profile indicates what the reader gets out of being with you," explains Katz. Give examples of trips you've taken or weekend activities you enjoy. These show him you have free time and that you use it to have fun. Online dater Eli suggests saying you're equally passionate about your career and maintaining relationships outside of work. "I think it's attractive that a woman has achieved professional success, but I want to know that she hasn't done it at the expense of her personal life."
6. You say: I'm extremely picky. He hears: I have unrealistic expectations for potential partners, and it's unlikely that you'll make me happy.
Men fear rejection. Telling him right off the bat that you're fussy significantly decreases the chances he'll contact you. "Men are going to be too intimidated to reach out," says Davis. While she admits women receive far more messages than men on online dating sites, she warns you may miss out on a guy who otherwise likes your profile but is turned off by your statement. "It shows you're close-minded," says Davis. "Negativity attracts negativity." So keep this one out of your profile and simply screen messages to see if the men meet your standards.
7.You say: Don't worry, we can lie and say we met in real life. He hears: I'm embarrassed that I'm on this dating website and would never want to tell our friends or family. In fact, I don't think I can actually meet you.
"If you feel like you have to say this you're probably unsure about online dating to begin with," says Davis. That means he might worry he'll invest time messaging you only to find you won't meet in person. He's on there too, and likely so are some of your friends and colleagues, so there's no need to be embarrassed. Besides, "starting your relationship based on a lie isn't the best way to begin 'happily ever after,'" says Davis. "If he's willing to hide how you met from friends and family, what might he hide from you?"
8.You say: I'm laid-back/easygoing/down-to-earth. He hears: I don't have strong opinions about anything or I spend a lot of time on the couch in my sweats watching movies,or using my laptop.
The problem with these adjectives is that they can evoke a whole host of images, not all of them good. "Is she so laid-back she's never going to care where we go or what we do?" worries Eli.
"I picture her on the couch in sweatpants with a box of tissues watching Lifetime movies,”"says Christopher, a 37-year-old former online dater from Milwaukee, WI.
"Let me determine if you're laid-back," says David Wygant, a dating coach and author of Always Talk to Strangers: 3 Simple Steps to Finding the Love of Your Life. Give examples of how you spend your time, he adds. Davis agrees. "The buzz words themselves aren't telling; the activities you enjoy are. That's what will resonate with someone."
9.You say: I'm old-fashioned and have traditional values. He hears: I won't have sex with you until we're married.
Again, you're being too vague. "You could mean you like having the car door opened for you," says Wygant, but men read into this terminology that you don't believe in sex before marriage. Even if you don't, both Wygant and Katz say not to mention it in your profile. Don't worry about wasting your time on men only looking for sex. "These guys always expose their true intentions," says Wygant. How? He'll engage in sex talk right away over email, so watch for suggestive language, recommends Wygant.
10. You say: I want a man to sweep me off my feet He hears: No Blue collar worker need apply.
Again, you're being too vague. "You could mean you like having a gentleman who opens doors for you, and pulls out the chair for you. So men read into this terminology
that you don't believe in dating guys who aren't Denzel Washington Classy.
My quote of the day:
“I always use the
word 'fabulous.' If you know me, you know that when I say it, it's not a
lie. If I say 'that’s nice,' I’m lying.”
If you want to prove you are macho just jump from the edge of space, like Felix Baumgartner,who hit Mach 1.24, or 833.9 mph, according to preliminary data, and
became the first person to reach supersonic speed without traveling in a
jet or a spacecraft during a record 24 mile skydive over the New Mexico
desert.
I have to say I love a thrill as much as the next guy. But this kind of thrill is nuts.
This other dude decide he needed to prove he can walk on water so he tried to crossed the Irish sea.Maybe
this guy just showed us mortals males that if you want to please your
woman you will find ways to do it. Even if it means crossing the Irish
sea to get away from her.
Thirty-five year old Chris
Todd has attempted to “walk” across 106 kilometers (66 miles) of open
sea in a giant hamster wheel-like raft dubbed Tredalo. Unfortunately,
the plan to cross the Irish Sea – leaving from Wales and arriving on the
east coast of Ireland in the South of Dublin – didn’t quite go to plan.
Harsh weather conditions forced Todd to abort the mission after
approximately eight and a half hours and 42 kilometers (26 miles) into
the journey, when he encountered rudder problems.
Trust me he will try again.
What's my point?Men will try things they are obsessed with until they succeed or die trying.
On the other hand women do things like this one come out wearing an outfit that just makes every man in the same zip-code exhale, " Oooh baby"
Malia Jones is a surfer (so she is a risk-taker) I never would have guest it. However she does look beautiful in this gown.
Instant thoughts of "4 Moves Every Man Must know about and Try in Bed" pops into my minds.
Whether you like the slow and steady pace of missionary, or the
exotic view you get when she’s riding you reverse cowgirl, every man has
his favorite sex positions.
Study up, and this could be you big chance.
But when it comes to showing her what you’ve got in the sack, there’s
a time and place for everything. And if you plan on keeping things
adventurous behind closed doors, it’s essential that you go above and
beyond your favorite go-to moves.Master the five moves in this sequence to have the hottest sex of your life—guaranteed. Deciphering what she wants in bed isn’t easy. Especially considering a
recent Johns Hopkins University study reporting that women often
struggle to express what they want in the bedroom, and many even have
trouble recognizing their own sexual feelings.
Great, right? If even she doesn’t know what she wants, is there any hope for us men? Actually, yes.
Give her a hint, say something like: "I will Fly you to the moon and we will play most the stars."
When
she says “don’t stop,” for example, don’t change anything—at all. “When
a woman says, ‘Don’t stop,’ she actually means, ‘Don’t vary what you’re
doing,
What
if she goes mute? You might think she’s not enjoying herself. But
that’s not the case at all. To find out what she really means when she’s
mum in bed,just Google FREE PDF Translate Her Sex Sounds. If She Likes It, Keep Doing It and by all means don't quit.
Updated: Never Stop Experimenting
Her body's sensitivity changes as her arousal level rises. Experiment
and retrace your steps, so that instead of becoming fixated on one
point, you visit a series of sensitive points regularly, Set up simple
codes she can use: "up" or "down" for where to move your hand, for
example. Or ask her, "How's this feel, one to 10?" then vary the
pressure.
Fantasy is for the Lonely
Updated action: She Needs the Distraction
During sex, men focus on the oncoming climax (or baseball stats).
Women's minds wander, often into fantasy. To reach orgasm, she needs to
clear her head and turn off her brain's fear center. Fantasy is a way
for her to disconnect her mind, and it becomes an important part of
deactivating her fear center,you can whisper provocative sentences to
each other in turn, building a story she can get lost in.
Let her Control the Pace
Who should Control the Pace?
Updated action: Let Her Take Over
In almost every culture's history, the man takes the lead in sex. But
that's a patriarchal hang-up, Let her control the pace
and intensity (either initially or totally, depending on the mood), so
that you both know what's best for her. The more fun she has, the better
for you. Encourage her to be on top: It allows her to take advantage of
a full range of positions—facing you, facing away, even sitting
cross-legged on you. There's a lot of value in just being a still
object of resistance,
3. You need to discover "the U spot. "
Erotic Spots are Predictable
Updated actions: Different Touches Bring Different Results
Her clitoris, vagina, and urethra are interconnected, and researchers
believe that stimulating any one of them may contribute to overall
arousal. branching out and teasing what some call the
U-spot—an area between her clitoris and vagina, located near the
entrance to her urethra. Use soft, circular motions with your finger. Urethral nerves are very sensitive, so stimulation here creates a
particular kind of arousal—a soft, melting form of climax, Make sure your hands are clean, though—the area is
infection-prone.
4. Speed Thrills!
Updated action: Slow Down, not so fast Junior.
Pulling back when she's near climax and then resuming can enhance her
orgasm. Suspense raises the psychological arousal level, . Ask her to tell you when she's near the top (yet read the signals), and then pull back
for a few minutes to kiss and concentrate on other parts of her body.
Repeat several times—build up, back off—until you take her over the
edge. Don't fear ruining a moment. It takes 5 to 10 minutes for arousal
to really subside, so even if she thinks she's "lost it," you're
probably equipped to bring her back. And then Bang she hit that high note and shatters your glasses.
As a man and husband to the same woman for 25 years and a personal Fitness trainer. I have talked to many women who have issues mainly with their personal body weight and body shapes. I have decide to do this blog on 7 point that I see as problems that can be solved , this may help a few of you to understand what a man sees, but he may not talk to you about it.
1. Don't Talk Yourself Out Of What You Need
It's too easy for women to convince themselves to settle for less. You're so helpful and accommodating, so eager to please and afraid of rejection that You're quick to give up the things you need, including when it comes to sex.
What women need to see is that doing this will leave you chronically frustrated. While it's true that every relationship requires a certain amount of compromise, going without the things that women really need just doesn't work. You end up unhappy in the relationship or resentful toward your partner.
The bottom line is, women need to know what they can't live without, sexually or in other areas, and what you just can't live with. Women ignore these non-negotiables at the expense of a fulfilling personal life. 2. Share Your Needs And Feelings With Your Partner
If you can't ask your man for what you want in bed, you shouldn't be sleeping with him. Good sex happens when women feel safe and at ease. If women are afraid to ask for something or to tell their partner that they don't like something, sex will never be more than mediocre.
This second tip follows from the first one, in that once women identify what they want and don't want, women have to express these things clearly. It's unfair to expect your partner to be a mind-reader and "prove" that they care for you, and most importantly your happiness, by somehow knowing what women want without you having to tell him. Healthy sex comes out of healthy communication.
3. Accept Your Body As It Is Now
Women need to be in touch with their bodies; with what feels good, what feels not so good and what feels wrong. Women also really need to stop judging themselves in terms of their weight and their shape. Only a superficial dope would give herself a hard time over her imperfections. If someone makes you feel bad about your physical self, this is more a reflection of his inadequacies than of yours, Ladies.
Your negative self-talk has to stop. The running commentary on how fat you are, how much cellulite or how many wrinkles you have is guaranteed to kill the mood, often before it even starts. Feeling good about your bodies is crucial if you're going to let go and enjoy yourselves. Being physically self-conscious will keep women from experiencing the joyful abandon of great sex.
4. Never Refuse Sex As A Punishment Or Use It As A Reward
In the bad old days, some women were led to believe that the way to get a man to toe the line is to offer sex for good behavior or withhold it when the man has displeased them. Most of us today recognize this as hateful behavior and a recipe for disaster.
Men don't want to be controlled or punished, especially around sex. We don't want to be made to feel like little boys. When women are hurt or angry at their partners, They need to share their feelings with him in an adult way. Women can even say that they are too upset for sex, right now. What women mustn't ever do is make us feel like we're deciding when we get to have sex, based on whether we've been "good" or "bad."
On the other hand, using sex as a reward turns women into sex objects and makes sex into a commodity for your partner to "earn." It's no longer two people being intimate or enjoying each other. Commodifying sex makes it into a business transaction and our bodies then become objects for trade.
5. No Pets In The Room ( this is my biggest Pet peeve)
You might love Fluffy or Rover, but they don't belong in the bedroom when we're being intimate. Your pets are very territorial and could get jealous or want to play, too. Dogs might bark or even growl. Cats might jump onto the bed and start walking around. You can avoid these disasters by remembering to shut the door and leave your four-legged friends outside. 6. Have A Sense Of Humor
Sex is about connection and intimacy, but also it's about having fun. It can be mind-blowingly great or occasionally, things can go wrong. Having a good sense of humor about sex will keep things in perspective.
Being able to laugh at yourselves and at the comical aspects of sex will take the pressure off the whole experience. We might love and adore our partner, but we don't have to be so serious about making love to them. Humor relieves pressure and is a great way to connect. Hit him with the pillow and watch him react, with that look, Oooh she is in the mood.
7. Enjoy The Give And Take
The best sex is the kind in which each person is trying to please the other one. The sharing in sex is one of the things that make it great. It can be technically amazing, but when one person gets the impression that the other person really isn't there with them, it can ruin the whole experience.
What makes someone a fantastic lover is not their technical ability or their repertoire of moves but their attentiveness and their efforts to make their partner happy.
When both people show that they really care about meeting their partner's needs, sex becomes something wonderful. You will be experiencing that Oooh, Aaaah feeling continuously.
Check out her pupils to see if she’s feisty. Florida State University
researchers watched a woman and a man alone in a room and found that
when the woman looked at the man with wide eyes, lifted eyebrows, and
sidelong glances, she had higher levels of sexual openness.
