SxmPerspective

4/26/2015

A women strength comes from what she experienced!

Ladies ladies ladies.... I have known many strong black women in my life maybe more than many other men, starting with my grandmother, my mother, and aunts. my female cousins they were all married (but yet very strong) because of who they were raised by and married to, a husband/father who made them all self starters. My grand father had 7 daughters. they all have the same type of strengths, even though they are not all by the same woman. I would say many strong black women these days are that way because they have to be assertive...... Men (especially black-men) are now having to step aside because assertive women run things. they are BOSS .

Look at Jada Pinket Smith, she is a strong black-woman who is not single. She compliments her husband's strengths. she did not have a good father- figure in her early life....so she married one But how many Mr. Will Smith's are there out there with his charm and earning capabilities these days. For black women to not be single they have to make a few choices, either settle for man earning less than them, and lead them (men with great pride might have serious problem with this one). because there are fewer male leaders who know how to treat a good woman, they may have to settle for a whole lot less than they would want. Just look around at who the pack of wolves are following. these are Not men who are setting good examples, period. so unless women are willing to be prey. they will have to avoid the wolf packs....
Father's should be around to help their daughter make wise choices. If your real Dad isn't around then make sure you find a male figure that has a better than average character to help you.
So who really invented the Games?

the first rule of courtship... Play hard to get? Right! Well that worked in the early years, but as time floats by like clouds on windy days. the "playing hard to get" is no longer a smart move.
the fact that single women have to play in an arena with competition . where the big time games are played, competing with other single women and even married women. this can be best explained in a cause and effect essay.
Start Distinguishing between cause and effect. To determine causes, ask, "Why did this is happening?" To identify the effects, ask, "What happened because of this?" The following is an example of one cause producing one effect:

Cause:You are out of gas, because you didn't tank up when you should have.
Effect: Your car won't start.

4/02/2015

She is a Ticking time bomb!

One minute she's fine and life is good, then she set the time on the bomb.. The next minute it is as if the World is ending; your woman/girlfriend is crying, screaming and stamping her foot like an overly pampered brat. How did this happen? To us men , women will always be complex creatures and there’s no point in thinking that one day we will understand their ways. However, here someone covered 10 key things that women say and explain to you what they really mean. followed by my BAD perspective:

When a women says: ‘I’m not upset’

When a woman says that she is fine, she often is far from OK. What she really means is: “the issue we were just talking about is still upsetting me, but I’m too embarrassed or too angry to continue with our ‘discussion’ (AKA argument)”. When she says she is fine, tell her that: ‘I know you too well and I know you are not fine. I want to help you and sort this situation out, but I can’t until you let me know what is wrong.”
My BAD perspective: AS a man you want to help, but if you are an experienced man, you know she's more upset with you for breathing in her space than whatever is upsetting her. It might me you being a man that is all she needs to hate you for at that point in time We are Mr. fix it and she is thinking I don't want you to fix nothing here, Junior, you should have prevented from happening in the first place.!

When a women say: ‘It’s up to you’

Careful; you’re in dangerous territory if your girl says that ‘it’s up to you’. This is a test and your decision is going to be judged. The chances are if she says it’s up to you, you have two choices; the first will be the choice that you want to do, like going to a bar with friends and watching the game. The second choice will be something that shows you are a committed, caring boyfriend, but won’t be something you particularly want to do. To make a decision you need to weigh up the consequences of doing what you want against the pleasure you will get.
My BAD perspective: Let me explain something here. IT'S NEVER UP TO YOU! you are given enough rope to hang yourself. the branch is already there, for your lynching, Whatever you do she will be upset with you for making that choice. NO matter what it is unless, you have the ability to take her to that dream spot she has been looking at in that travel magazine she left on the coffee table. and you ignored.

When women say: ‘It did not mean anything’

If the love of your life cheats on you and says it did not mean anything then she’s lying. She’s realized her mistake and knows that you’re the one that she now wants, but for women sex rarely, if ever, means nothing. She may have slept with that guy because she had feelings for him, or she may have slept with that guy because she’s miserable with you, but either way there was a reason and it is a big deal.

so you did someone else?

My BAD perspective: Wow, how do you swallow your pride and deal with this one Fella... she let some one into your zone, he might have hit her "G spot" and she had a blast of an orgasm. These are now things that will be sterling around in your mind for day and days on end. any man that forgive and forget is man who has no problem walking away. Simply because he could turn off his emotions or he did not really care!

When women say: ‘I’ll just pop in’

If you hear the words ‘I’ll just pop in’ cancel all your plans now because for the rest of Saturday afternoon you’re going to be stood outside the shop that your girl’s just gone into. Even if her intentions were pure, once inside she will get distracted and, because she knows you’ll be too uncomfortable and embarrassed to ask the shop assistants if they’ve seen you or wander into the fitting room, she knows that she’s safe and can spend up to an hour and a half buying the same skirt / shirt that she owns already.

so much good stuff to choose from.

My BAD perspective: Which guy loves shopping...? (maybe online) this is an area of extreme boring painful punishment. What did you do to deserve this... is all that will be going through your mind. "She hates me and is doing this to me to prove it," this test is one that a good tablet and a WiFi connect for streaming videos can let you off the hook ... Because you can find things to do while you wait for hours. She will see you as patient. But you better answer when she she asks how do she looks in that outfit.

When women say: ‘Of course you’re not fat’

Damn this still fits

If you ask your girl whether you’ve put on weight or if you are looking a little older, you cannot trust her answer. Although your girl wants you to look good, for women body issues are such a sensitive topic that they would never tell you that you were fat and piling on the pounds or that you were going grey. If you need an honest opinion on your looks, ask a guy friend.
My BAD perspective: Think Reverse science here... if you are stupid enough to ask, you deserve the answer you get.. you don't want to hear that you've gotten fat. This is elementary Dear Watson.... she want you at home and not in the gym watching the Zumba ladies doing things she should be doing. Now your mind should be working over time. find ways to change how you look and surprise her. You need to become self motivated. Then surprise her as you pull out that vintage suede jacket that could no longer fit you and say to her: " remember when I use to wear this." and watch her eyes instantly follow the lines of your body, as it ow fits you just like back in the day..... Now that's PRICELESS!

When women say: ‘You don’t care’

No matter how many times you hear this it still hurts. Of course you care. However, she knows that you love her; when she says ‘You don’t care’ what she actually means is that she feels like you haven’t shown you care about her in a while. Next time she says this shower your girl in love, kisses and hugs and she’ll feel reassured.
My BAD perspective: Maybe you don't care but you better play it off as if you do care..... validation is very important.. end of subject!

When women say: ‘Am I fat?’

When she asks whether she is fat or not a simple no answer will not suffice because your girl isn't actually asking whether you think she’s fat or not. What your girl is in fact asking is whether you think she’s attractive or not. The next time your girl asks you this question tell her – without any hesitation – that of course she’s not fat and that you find her so hot you sometimes can’t think about anything else but her.

Zumba classes!

My BAD perspective: SMH.... in other words LIE..... I figured out a long time ago. that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder only if you have 20/20 . so admit to your Lady that you are the worse at assessing her beauty now because, You fell blindly in love with her a long time ago. and that image that got stamped in your brain is not erasable. your eye sight is no longer perfect because the image in your mind over rides all incoming views of her. Women love to be remembered the looked during their best years.

When women say: ‘We’ll see…’

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If the words ‘We’ll see’ are spoken to you at the end of a conversation then you should know that what your Lady partner really means is that she doesn't want to continue this conversation, but that the answer is a definite no. When your Lady says this to you she’s secretly hoping that she’ll delay you enough so that you’ll forget about whatever it was that you wanted in the first place.
My BAD perspective: Lets get the rules of the game on the table, right now. You were dealt the losing hand fellahs. If you want to win, you better forget it. Even if you reload the deck it will always give you the same losing hand. So get your blocking pads out and defend the areas you value most.

When women say: ‘I don’t feel like having sex with you right now’

Now, this phrase is a lot different from its close relation: ‘I don’t feel like sex right now’. If your woman says that she doesn't want sex right now but puts the emphasis on the ‘with you’ part, then you know that what she actually means is that she is unhappy and that you've done something wrong. Unlike you, if your girl is angry or upset with you she won’t want to jump into bed and will keep you away until you've made it up to her.
My BAD perspective: Go figure you are angry at a person and someone ask you to do the one thing you know will give them pleasure... so you are asking a woman to grant you the opportunity to do things to her that will make you happy. It's NOT going to happen. UNLESS you offer to do all the things that gives her what, you have not done to her in the past, you acted selfishly sexually .... In that case you better be at your best of making her have 10 orgasms to your ONE in the future. Or you will not have nay Piece or Peace. which ever way you spell the words the sound the same.

When women say: ‘Did you hear that?’

You’re just slipping into a great dream when your girl turns over in bed and whispers in your ear ‘Did you hear that?’ With all your might you try not to wake up, but you quickly plunge back into reality. So, why does your girl ask this just as you are nodding off? She’s bored and fed up that you always manage to sink soundly into sleep before she does.
My BAD perspective: You, fellahs, are supposed to be the one to sleep with one eye open, all the time. How could you shirk your guard duty and fall asleep at your post, she needs to feel like you are there to give her protection, and comfort, not to fall asleep on the job.
There you go again! messing up!

3/30/2015

Good luck Figuring out what keeps Marriages from unraveling these days!

I will change you in NO time!

some cases the stereotype is true-- People get married with the idea of changing the one they walk down the aisle with. And they find that the more they try to change the other person, the less it works! The old adage of: "your can't push a rope!" applies well here.
Instead we can make great strides by offering each other the acceptance we long for in our own lives. And we can realize that somethings a husband or wife is the way he or she is because of the way nature made him and her that way. If the person truly changed the way we wanted them to, it might destroy the essence of who that person is and eliminate the very personality that drew us to him or her in the first place!

vive la difference.

What's that other old adage? "If both of you are exactly alike, one of you is unnecessary!" Our marriages are strengthened as we learn to acknowledge, accept, and even celebrate our differences. Husbands and wives are just intrinsically, in many ways, different. And as the French say, vive la difference.

When couples are first married, they still believe the other person has the potential for dramatic change, But by 50, couples today think: ‘He or she is not really going to change. But I’ll be living another 30 years.’ That’s why so many couples now feel they owe it to themselves to bring real happiness and excitement into their lives, not passivity.
A little personal note: I guess I as the exception, my ex-wife told me during our divorce that I had change I no longer was the man she married... wow go figure!

The statistics help tell the tale: Divorce rates for people 45 and over doubled from 1990 to 2010 ( I know because I was part of that statistic) according to a landmark study by Bowling Green State University in 2013. It’s the highest split-up rate of any age group. But the same study found that the number of unmarried people 50-plus living together tripled between 2000 and 2013—also the highest gains of any group. Translation: People are doing what it takes to be happy, regardless of preconceived notions or traditional rules.

Is this what you had in mind when you told me to get in shape!

We’ve never had such high expectations of marriage before,There is much more potential for people—women especially—to reinvent their long-term relationships. Or to choose not to. She may insist that the husband goes back to the gym and get in shape..... checkout the results. As we hit midlife, we are rethinking just about every part of our lives these days— our careers, our locations, our appearances, our lifestyles and even our favorite pets (welcome I now want a German Shepard and no longer a doberman). It’s all a natural by-product of the anti-status-quo Boomer mentality. So it’s no surprise that the most sweeping reinventions are coming closest to home: our marriages.

we look happy don't we?

The old paradigm: find a mate, procreate, and raise what at least appears to be a happy family. Then, regardless of what’s left of your relationship, stick together until the (sometimes-bitter) end. But now there’s a whole new reality: Put that midlife union under an electron microscope, figure out what makes the molecules collide and dance, and then do whatever it takes to live your next decades in true happiness. It may mean finding new ways to rekindle the initial points of combustion. Or, just as likely, it may mean ditching a lost cause of a marriage or finding highly creative ways to keep a troubled one going. In the end it is always ends in goodbye, see you! But

- Do You Really Mean Goodbye

You’re powerful - is the ultimate compliment?

The Compliment Everyone Loves to Receive (And What That Means About Us)

It’s not “You’re smart.”

It’s not “You’re fascinating.”

It’s not even “You’re amazing.”

"Powerful" is a word that our inner self responds to, because it speaks the deepest truth about who we are.

Becoming empowered is the process of awakening to yourself.

ask yourself – does this person remember how powerful they are?

OK where am I going with this?

Let me just list a few things that will make you go hmmmm!

1. A man has his act together. (he is powerful) He has goals and they usually include finding the right woman and starting a family. A boy just wants to have fun and considers the words “commitment,” “responsibility” and “ambition” as dirty words. Say them around him and he will run like a bat out of hell.

2. Sure, a real man wants an attractive woman(she is powerful) , but her hotness is not his biggest concern – he wants someone with intelligence, compassion, morals and a desire to improve herself. A boy wants that dime piece that is exciting and wild. He’s in it for the hunt.

3. A man is working toward the future (he is powerful) . He has plans to become financially stable and to be able to provide well for himself and his loved ones. A boy isn't thinking about tomorrow, only what the hottest car is and how he can use it to pick up the ladies.

4. A man is conscious of the man he wants to be and he is willing to work at it (he is powerful). He has values and respect for others. A boy is in it for the moment. He doesn't really consider the consequences of his actions.

5. A man will recognize a good woman when he encounters her and he will be respectful and try to get to know her personally(she is powerful) . A boy will look a lady up and down and is only interested in scoring.

6. A man knows when to invest time and more into a woman( they are both powerful) . He is supportive, while a boy may toss money at a woman, but only for his own personal gain. He’s not investing; he’s testing.

If both men and women were aware of their power, would they feel the need to assert it?

3/26/2015

What Personality Type Turns You On?

Understanding your personality type and that of your partner makes it easier for you to enter a relationship and stay in it. Personality types form the core of any relationship and can make you communicate with and understand each other better. These types are based on Myers-Briggs personality typing.

My question became “why?”

Why is that we pick the mates we do?

Why do we have the relationships we have?

Why are we the way we are in those relationships?

As it usually does my questions lead to more questions, but here I hope to answer your questions.

Personality Types

Here are the major types of personality types:

Extroverts/Introverts

Extroverts focus on the external world and other people. Such a personality is energized by stimulating and interacting with others. On the other hand, introverts focus on their internal world and delve into their thoughts and ideas to make decisions.

Sensors/Intuitive

Sensors gather information in a detailed and concise manner. They base on facts and are always practical the way they handle issues. Intuitive individuals are more abstract and base their decisions on thoughts, possibilities and connection.

Thinkers/Feelers

Thinkers base their decisions on facts and data collected over time. Feelers, on the other hand, make decisions based on values and harmonious relationships.

Judgers/ perceivers

Judgers prefer to have a well-defined structure that they follow. They have schedules and plans. Perceivers will prefer to keep their options wide open. They always go for spontaneity and a flexible existence.

Should You go for the Opposite or a Similar Personality?

People are usually attracted to their opposites. This is especially true for introverts/extroverts and judgers/perceivers. Such relationships are exciting to say the least. Many people in such relationships are looking for some form of completion by being in a relationship with someone who has what they are missing.

Being in a relationship with an opposite provides a relationship that is more rounded and functional. This is because the two of you complement each other. You will face the areas of your life that are difficult.

However, two opposites in a relationship will have significant issues with communication. This is because you won’t be communicating on the same level.

People with similar personality types are attracted to each other because they have similar focus in their lives. These types are usually the happiest and last longer in their relationships. For instance, sensors are known to communicate better with other sensors. Intuitives also handle relationships better with other intuitives.

Similar personality types communicate at the same level and will find it easier to solve problems that arise in the relationships. They also understand each other better as compared to opposites.

My Final Thoughts

Personality types allow two people to grow naturally into their relationships. Understanding these types make it easier for you to know why certain people behave the way they do. Go ahead, find the personality type of your partner, and know why certain things happen.

I was told that I'm like a Cameleon because I seem to adapt to my environment and can be one way with one person and different with another. This is Not really true, I am just flexible, this part is true, but I'm always the same deep down in my core. the nucleus of person never really changes. But this isn't about me .... this is really about your choices... Just remember the Choice is always YOURS, choose wisely.

"A man is only as faithful as his options.”

Ok I have to be my BAD-self after all this boys vs Real men stuff. Yes boys and men are different

This caption quote "A man is only as faithful as his options.”is a gross mis-characterization of men, carelessly stroked with a very broad brush. The ill-famed sentiment it engenders gains much ground in the minds of many ladies whose experiences cause those words to resonate with them, like the clashing sound of cymbals struck with the intensity and rapidity of a seasoned rock drummer. Such unfortunate statements make no offer to heal some women. They only provide an opportunity to vent from frustrations that encourage the mistrust of men, at large, and not singularly those who have proven themselves disloyal, therefore unworthy of the very women they pursue.

What's the code word, for getting out tonight?

All men are males, but all males are not men.

Character is a quality that very clearly distinguishes males from men. Integrity is a foundational character trait of manhood. Integrity is said to be “that which a man does when no one is watching.” “Male” is a general category distinction that includes both boys and men. All men are males, but all males are not men. Some are biologically adults, but functionally boys. Being male is purely biological. It is the natural state of being for every baby boy at birth. Boys only become men through proper development and not age alone. This is something only a father might have picture of what he hopes, with his influence that his sons can become one day.

Age is only a measurement in time that has no direct ability to encourage or otherwise influence manhood. Many foreign cultures lead boys into manhood through various ceremonial rites of passage. American pop culture inducts boys into a pseudo, neo-manhood steeped in the objectification of women and the dominance of other men deemed weak. Distinguishing boys from men is a necessary distinction to establish in order to engage in coherent and meaningful discourse that will offer beneficial insight on the subject of male/female relationships. “Men aren't boys.” Too often, behavior that is attributed to men is more characteristic of boys. Boys have no place in a woman’s life other than as sons, certainly not as love interests. Below are two principles that separate the men from the boys:

Abstinence

I can probably guess what some of you are thinking. “A man will play the game long enough to get a woman in bed.” Wrong! A man’s long term goal is never to bed a woman. An authentic man does not compromise the honor of a woman to prove himself a man or for other self-indulgent gains. These are characteristics of boys and not men. When a woman tells a man that she will remain abstinent until she marries, this is not a deterrent. Men date with a much greater purpose in mind; marriage and family, might be the greater purpose......

Exclusivity

“Boys play the field. Men cultivate the field” “A woman’s heart is not a playground to be handled carelessly.” Good men know this and are sensitive in their handling of a woman’s heart knowing that regular interactions alone in close proximity will cause her emotions to engage. Likewise, spreading themselves between multiple women jeopardizes women emotionally. It’s an act of selfishness, irresponsibility, and immaturity of a man’s part. Exclusivity establishes a woman’s place and importance in the mind of a man. She has no other woman to compete with for the place that is with him. That is hers alone.

Men that choose abstinence, honor God and the women they choose to love. Exclusivity, as well, is a sign that a man has honorable intentions, choosing to devote his time to learning one woman to determine their compatibility for marriage which is the purpose of a good man’s pursuit of a woman.

This weekend together was great.....BUT!

But here is the problem..... a burn can heal... but it leaves a mark. Man or Woman.. if you have been burned by someone whom you trusted then no amount of coco-butter will make that mark disappear. We can hide behind all those cliches that we need time to heal and find ourselves, but trusting someone new is so difficult that it often leads to failed relationship after failed relationship. Burns leave a scar. let me just leave you with this.....

3/25/2015

Nine facts that separate Real men from boys!

first allow me to have my disclaimer from the start of this conversation.

I took these points from an article written by a female. Ok, The stuff following each point is my BAD perspective.

#1 Boys avoid uncomfortable conversations – men know how to communicate their needs. - men know how to communicate their needs. Even the best relationships have friction. You’re going to do or say something he does not like—it’s inevitable. Boys are passive aggressive, whereas a mature man will have a productive conversation with you…even if it’s a little awkward.

BAD perspective: I think this is a miss print Boys avoid uncomfortable conversations... because what is comfortable to girls and women are not comfortable to boys or men. You see communication is a two way street. Not an information super high all coming from one female server, there is reason super computers are given female names. there is no disputing that women and girls want to communicate their needs, a man just needs to agree to give her what she wants. the fact that a man can say wait a minute, here are my needs. This will cause an unplug to the incoming communication. Neither women or girls will hear a word he said. Boys do not have the patience to go through all that......boys are to busy looking at other options because they know they can move on to the next female . Men may not have that choice once he has committed to a woman.

#2 Boys only want to hook up – men invest their time and energy in the right woman. - There’s a moment in every man’s life when he realizes that being in a relationship makes him significantly happier than chasing “tail” every night. If you’re only hearing from him at 1 a.m. on a Saturday night, he’s not ready to give up his toys. Move on and find yourself a grown man.

BAD perspective: here again we are under the misconception that men don't want to hook up - Men are like fish caught in a net, taken out of the ocean where he had freedom of choices.... where to go and what to do with his time. Once a man gets caught in the drag net, he is dragged ( no long has the freedom of choice ) to all kinds of stuff... he would rather not do or be part of. to Say that the woman is the "Right woman" is to also believe in an optical illusion. Every reasonably good woman is a potential "Right woman" she is as Right for you as the "Right Man" is as right for her. Just wait until something changes then the word "Right" changes to something else .... i.e. I should have know better ... You were too good to be Really true in the beginning.

#3 Boys will compliment you to get in your pants – men pay compliments because they want you to feel great about yourself. -  When you’re only focused on making yourself happy, you can party every night and be lazy every day. Once you realize that other people are relying on you, you’re willing to make the sacrifices you need to support your family
  BAD perspective: Once again this is matter of perspective. Not every man or boy has the same taste in women or how they want them to look when they are trying to impress a man. A man might say I love you hair like that, while he is thinking ' OMG this not how she looked a week ago.... why didn't I see this coming... I must admit she still has those eyes....I will gaze into her eyes all night long and she will not complain about that.' Case solved, confrontation averted.

#4 Boys live day by day – men work hard to build a future for themselves and their woman. - If he’s insecure about his own intellect, he won’t risk it with a smart girl. The boy will stay in his comfort zone, whereas a mature man wants the challenge of a smart woman.

BAD perspective: It's Safe to say, that boys may still be living at home with their parents, which can be until the age of 35 these days..... Men these day didn't have that option back when they finished school, men could not wait to get their own place to have the women they want to hook up with over, Men want to have a BAD crib which is the ultimate hook to be able to find the "Right woman" to share it with. Girl and women would fall for a guy with his stuff together.... the notion that this man was working hard to build a future for their woman intentionally is a myth.. He did it to impress her then got into a routine of maintaining what he started. When she gets what seems as a future and he can get her wanting to be with him instead of that other dude still partying in the club every night and living at home with his parents.

#5 Boys are intimidated by smart women – men are stimulated by them. -

BAD perspective: All you have to do is think about it..... " smart women" they don't really need a man... do they? They can do so much for themselves... they may want a strong man that is intelligent enough to understand that the money she make is hers, hers, hers, and the money he makes is also hers. just do the math on this..... only older women are willing to pay for stuff, women young enough to be able to attract someone else, is not willing to take you to dinner but once. Because it is still a man's place to pay for everything, even if he makes less money than she does.

#6 Boys make promises they can’t keep – men say it and mean it. - One of the biggest mistakes I’ve ever made was telling a woman I loved her when I did not mean it. I was a scared little boy trying to make a girl happy. A mature man will tell a woman how he feels when he feels it. And if it’s not there, he won’t make it up.

BAD perspective: Promises are those things that is not written in a contract. Tell any woman that you will give her a promissory note on giving her what she want on her 25th wedding anniversary. she will laugh in your face. Unless she thinks about it and realizes that you just asked her to marry you then it becomes a contract and everything you accumulates and save up for will be hers, if she sticks it out for 25 years. Oooh wait! that means she has to give-up her best years to YOU. hmmmm! Now she might want to come up with a new strategy to get, whatever it is she wants from you....... sooner.

#7 Boys avoid any chance of rejection – men face their fears and go for it.- men face their fears and go for it. Here’s the thing, both men and boys hate getting rejected—no matter who you are, rejection sucks. The only difference is that a mature man will push through his fears and go for it anyway because you’re worth it

BAD perspective: <smirking> name one woman who would face her fears and go for it...... if there is a chance that she will get rejected. The fact that Boys are smart enough to so say... there are more fish in the sea and move on..... is not what girls or women want to happen. Women want to be chased, not to do the chasing... If she is chasing a man, you bet she will get something from him that she wants by offering what she knows he can't refuse... then tell him she is 3 months late. Oops . So who playing games here?

#8 Boys don’t set priorities – a man realizes what’s most important and makes you a priority. - A mature man wants to spend his time with the people he cares about. And if he’s dating you, he cares about you. He will want to be with you and only you.
BAD perspective: Whose Priorities are we talking about here? Hers or the guy's, let's face the truth here she is always her top priority.... if a man does not go along with the program she is history... If he does not comply with her needs to be the first, second and third priority he is missing the point of the deal, he may not even be aware that he was negotiating a do or die deal.

#9 Boys put you down – men encourage and support you. - Scared little boys will try to drag a woman down with them as a defense mechanism. A mature man understands that he will grow as a man if his woman is growing as a woman.
BAD perspective: Now I have to admit.... putting a woman down has never been my thing... so I can't disagree with this without having to come up with something totally off the wall.

In the end we know a real Man knows what a real woman needs are , and will determine in his mind if she is worth his dedication!