Don't let it happen if you can prevent it

You Should Recognize The Signs That Someone Is About to Leave The One They Love

This is not going to work for me,
so I'm jetting

“The wrong person isn’t breaking their back to make you happy. So, stop breaking your back for them.” – Sonya Parker

In this day and age, we all know that marriage isn’t always the beginning of a long life together.

“It’s important that both the husband and wife work together to satisfy the needs and feelings of each other. Too much conflict in a marriage is one of the most common reasons men walk away from failing relationships. When couples are caught in cycles of criticism and defensiveness, this erodes their ability to feel safe, secure, and love,” says marriage counsellor Clinton Power.

Therefore, sometimes, marriages end. This isn’t a fun thing to think about, but the end of a marriage can sometimes be the best thing for both parties involved. Marriages don’t fall apart without warning, however. There are signs that people want to make sure they don’t miss when it comes to the potential end of a marriage. But why are people ending their marriages? What causes marriages to fall apart? Here are the main reasons that marriage falls apart and leads to divorce.

1. UNRESOLVED CONFLICT

How do we fix what''s wrong,
 if you don't talk to me!?

When men and women cannot resolve their conflict, it becomes a problem within the marriage. This can lead to all kinds of issues, while being a major issue in and of itself. Author Marcia Naomi Berger says, “Simply put, it is not the presence of conflict that stresses the relationship; it is the manner in which the couple responds. Positive, respectful communication about differences helps keep a marriage thriving.”

Long-term and unresolved conflict can lead to cycles of defensiveness and a breakdown in communication. This can also make it hard for both men and women in the relationship to feel safe, secure and loved. When these things fall apart, the marriage falls apart as well. Being able to repair emotional conflict and communicate will make it less likely that conflict remains unresolved, causing rifts in the relationship.

2. LIVING PARALLEL LIVES

What does this mean exactly? When you become a marriage and partnership, you’re taking two lives and creating one. This doesn’t mean that you don’t have your own life outside of your spouse, but simply that you now have a life together. When partners start to live parallel lives, it means that they’re drifting apart and not sharing their lives together.This can cause the intimacy and partnership in the marriage to fall apart. Working on keeping your friendship and intimate relationship with your partner strong will keep the relationship from falling apart and leading to divorce.

3. SEXUAL BETRAYAL

When you slept with her,
you ended what we had..
 there is no more Us.

Cheating is something that tears apart relationships and breaks down families. It’s something that happens more often than we like to believe, and it can be one of the main reasons that marriages fall apart. The betrayal of a loved one, especially sexually, can cause a drop in self-esteem, trust, and communication. Sexual betrayal doesn’t have to be the end of a relationship, however. Couples can, and often do, heal from the betrayal.

“Many people think that affairs signal the end of a marriage. This is simply not true. Although healing from infidelity is a challenging endeavor, most marriages not only survive, but they can actually grow from the experience. This is not to say that affairs are good for marriages — they aren’t. Affairs are very, very destructive because the bond of trust has been broken,” says author and TEDx speaker Michele Weiner-Davis.

Remember, it takes a lot of work, and owning up for accountability. Couples therapy can really help put sexual betrayal in the past and heal a marriage.


4. FEELING UNDERAPPRECIATED

It seems almost normal in relationships that women work, take care of the house, and take care of the children. This workload can often lead to women feeling like they’re extremely underappreciated in the relationship, which can lead to contentions. Men can also feel underappreciated as well, especially if they’re the sole breadwinners of the family. Feeling underappreciated is what can cause people to start to look outside of their relationships for people who will appreciate them. This can cause sexual betrayal, which only worsens the relationship.

5. IGNORING THE ISSUES

Marriages don’t just fall apart if there are any problems between the couple at all. Problems often arise within a relationship, because two people sharing their lives come with a lot different opinions and personalities. But, when there are issues within the marriage that just get ignored, it can cause resentment and contempt.

“The opposite problem of having too much conflict in the marriage is not having enough. Couples that avoid conflict are in real danger of their relationship not surviving in the long-term. Women and men that leave these marriages have often been silently fuming inside for many years,” .

Therefore, avoiding conflict will just make a relationship fall apart quicker. It’s important to address any problems that arise before they get out of hand so that a marriage can stay strong.

6. LACK OF EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL CONNECTION



When you get married, it doesn’t mean that you no longer have to put effort into being emotionally connected with your significant other. In fact, it’s the beginning of a whole new phase of emotional connection. It is also the beginning of a whole new phase of physical connection. When you get married, being with your partner physically and emotionally is one of the best ways to nurture the relationship. If there’s a lack of connection, the relationship starts to wither. Partners can feel neglected and unloved, which can lead to all kinds of problems.

Final thoughts

Marriages can, and do, end in divorce    (mine did,) but a relationship on the rocks doesn’t have to end. When your marriage is starting to show these signs of falling apart, there are ways to turn it around and make your relationship stronger than ever.
I got a hold of my family tree dating back to the 1800s all of  my forefathers on my father's side were married. That told me something... I may have been the first to  have ended mine in divorce... I know my parents and Grand parents didn't, so I broke a succesfull pattern.

When can you count on it being TRUE LOVE?

I  know that showing Love isn't easy for a man..  thank you! 

Some Behaviors Men Show When They Are With Their "True Love."



“Behavior is what a man does, not what he thinks, feels, or believes.” ~ Emily Dickenson

Men and women display their love and affection in different ways. Besides the rare ultra-sensitive male type, this truth is near universal.

It can be confusing for her at times. “Yesterday, he was the nicest guy in the world. And today he’s a complete jerk.” She’s probably right too! What a man says and does can be quite perplexing.

The truth is that men and women think differently. Generally, women tend to be more sensitive and accommodating – two areas that hinder many males.

That said, men do exhibit a common set of behaviors that demonstrate their love for a woman. The following  are a few that comes to mind:

1. HE LISTENS TO YOU (CLOSELY!)

Generally, women are much better listeners than men. To be frank, some men have absolutely atrocious listening skills.

The curious thing is that men will always intently focus on things of interest. So, when a man not only hears you but actively pays attention and intelligently responds – a skill called active listening – you can have confidence that he’s paying attention and is probably smitten.

2. HE ISN’T AFRAID TO MAKE SACRIFICE

Making personal sacrifices is much easier when doing it for a person we love. In fact, men who are in love will feel tremendous discomfort at the thought of their woman being unhappy – especially if there’s something we can do about it.

As such, making sacrifices for your happiness is one way a man demonstrates his love for you. He will almost always put you first, even if it means changing his plans or stepping out of his comfort zone.

3. HE SHOWS VULNERABILITY (THIS IS AN IMPORTANT ONE)

Men being men, we’re cautious about showing any behavior that can be perceived by others as a weakness. In love, however, this deeply ingrained attitude often falls by the wayside – and we don’t care.

If we’re in love, we’re far more comfortable with feeling and acting vulnerable. Vulnerability will assuredly make several appearances throughout a relationship – especially if we’re with you exclusively.

4. HE LOVES HOW YOU LOOK ON YOUR “WORST DAYS”

The first image of you..... in that sundress
Is stamped in a man's brain forever!

Remember how much effort you put into looking your best during those early dates? Of course. All of us want to look and feel good when meeting up with a potential partner.

Then there’s the actual relationship. As we spend more time with each other, comfort levels build, and our need to impress declines sharply. We’re free to wander around in our pajamas, stain our shirts, and forgo the hair gel.

When men love someone, we’ll think a woman looks beautiful no matter the situation. We might even say it.... when you least expect it.

5. HE’S PROUD OF YOU (AND ISN’T AFRAID TO SHOW IT)

In love, a real man isn’t shy about saying how proud he is of you.

Whether you’re a fantastic mother, a hard worker, or reaching your career goals, you can rest assured that your efforts don’t go unnoticed. In fact, all of the admirable things you’ve done and are working towards brings us a great amount of pride and joy.

On a related note, we’re not (too) upset about losing to you in a video game contest. If you’re both very competitive people, he’ll probably feel a bit less crushed following a swift defeat! (Well done!)

6. HE FIGHTS FOR YOU

Okay, quick  story. A guy was visiting a hospital when his girlfriend was being harassed by a security guard and a couple of his ilk. When calling to ask where she was, the panic was evident in her voice.

He was absolutely furious. After calming down enough to navigate the hospital, he came upon said dirt bags, rolled his sleeves up and unequivocally lit into them. (Mind you, this happened in a foreign country – so some restraint was in order.) Following the girlfriend’s pleas and arm tugs, they both left unscathed.

What ignited his rage? The hurt in his woman’s voice. The stomach-dropping, gut-clenching hurt that can only be felt by someone who so dearly loves another.

Sundress by Coco Brown

Fellahs don't blow it with your dream Lady

THINGS An  A+ Strong Woman Will Never Tolerate In A Relationship

I'm an A+, you better recognize 

You’ve managed to create a relationship with the strong woman in your life who loves you, but you might be wondering how to keep her buff heart bonded to yours.  It can be a daunting task to allow a strong woman all the freedom she needs to spread her wings, while making sure that her heart belongs to you alone.

This challenging balancing act is easier than it sounds as long as you can avoid some seriously unacceptable behavior. Let’s discuss 7 things that your strong woman will never tolerate in your relationship.


1. DISRESPECT

Disrespect is a very broad category of behavior that a strong woman will not tolerate in a relationship. You may be worrying, but how will you know if you’ve disrespected.

Disrespect for a strong woman could be anything from telling her that she throws ‘like a girl’ to disagreeing with her opinion in a belittling way. It could be your disagreement that women deserve equal pay for equal work to your tone when you say something you thought was a compliment.

Following the Golden Rule is to treat her the way you would want to be treated. Even better than that is to treat her the way she wants to be treated. You aren’t a mind-reader, most likely, so the easiest way to avoid treating her disrespectfully is to ask her how she would like to be treated.

2. DOMINATING THE RELATIONSHIP

Control can be kinky at times in the bedroom, but when one partner totally dominates the balance of power, it puts a strong woman in a position of powerlessness, which she will never tolerate in a relationship.

Strong women know how to take the lead, when to be in control and when to be vulnerable and they can do all of it without you telling them what to do. To be in a relationship with a strong woman, you have to let her be in the drivers seat frequently.

3. TREATING HER WITH INEQUALITY

I know how use this,
 don't push your luck

Treat the strong woman in your relationship as your equal in every way, and if she needs your help, trust her to ask for it. Make your relationship a level playing field, regardless of your income, education, ethnicity, gender, political affiliation, social status, etc. and your strong woman will appreciate the respect that you’re giving her.

4. BREAKING HER BOUNDARIES

If a strong woman has already told you ‘No’ or ‘Don’t do that again’ once, you’d better be sure not to break her personal boundaries again. Women have been repressed as the weaker sex for a long time in our social norms, and as a result, strong women everywhere have had to stand up and demand that you do not tread on them.

You've been warned once,
 dont blow it by being typical.

A strong woman knows her personal limits, values, morals, and beliefs and she knows where to draw the line. Don’t push her boundaries or you will feel her anger.

5. A NEGATIVE ATTITUDE TOWARD HER SUGGESTIONS

Everyone can have periods of negativity and they will reject their partner’s ideas, but a strong woman will never tolerate someone who is always negative about her wonderful suggestions.

6. NOT SUPPORTING HER DREAMS OR HER HEART

‘There may come a time when a lass needs a lawyer’ – Marilyn Monroe

Do not think that a strong woman will continue to tolerate a partner who has no interest in helping her achieve her dream. For that matter, she doesn’t want you to stomp on her heart either. Be supportive of her desires or a strong woman will be looking to leave the relationship.

Researchers studying the psychological well-being of men and women in relationships found that supportive relationships are less psychologically distressful while strained relationships are associated with anxiety and distress.

Not being supported is stressful for both men and women, however, researchers also found that the strong women were more socially active than men,

There are things that you should consider first

 Signs He Is Not The One For You

Guess what..... I'm still not sure!

You haven’t made up your mind yet, and the uncertainty makes you wonder if maybe he is not ‘The One’ for you.  In this post I will look at 5 deal-breakers that could be the reason you haven’t made a commitment yet.

Your man is probably looking for someone who is attractive, healthy, intelligent, kind, honest, has a sense of humor, is dependable, and someone who has good communication skills. In fact, these were the traits that most men and women looked for in a study of over 200,000 men and women.



Researchers also say that heterosexual men and women both also ranked religion, fondness for children, and parenting abilities higher than homosexual men or women did. They also say that the biological drive to have children is what leads men and women to search for a partner who is attractive, young, and healthy.

I mention this here because you women search for the guy who is ‘The One’ may be very different if you have a specific goal in mind, like raising a family.

1. HE’S NOT THE ONE FOR YOU IF HE HASN’T FINISHED GROWING UP YET

Selfishness, being an egomaniac, outdated values, and jealousy are just a few of the psychological problems that he might still be dealing with. Most adults mature and learn lessons about these negative personality traits because society disapproves of childish behavior.

If your man is still learning what it means to be an emotionally mature person, he may require too much retraining to make it worth your time. It is still possible that he is The One, but it may involve a little change on your part. Keep reading to the end of the post.

Dude you are a player to the max...
Check out all these love responses....from all these women.

2. HE’S NOT THE ONE FOR YOU IF THE FUTURE IS ALL ABOUT HIM

Do your goals, dreams, and ambitions all take second place to his? Traditionally, the higher income earner is the one making decisions in a partnership, but that doesn’t mean that you have to be second.


Ask your man to give you a voice in the decision-making process. If he doesn’t want to share the power to control your future, feel free to let him know that he’s not The One for you.

3. HE’S NOT THE ONE FOR YOU IF HE DOESN’T UNDERSTAND EMOTIONS

We understand that there is immense cultural pressure for men to be tough and not show emotions, but The One for you needs to be able to express his deep love and connection with you.

4. HE’S NOT THE ONE FOR YOU IF HE SHUTS DOWN COMMUNICATION

Another cultural guy-trait is not being able to talk through problems. Your man can jump into action when you need him but if you ask him to explain why he chose to spend $6000 on Superbowl tickets, he gets defensive and shuts down or worse, he justifies his purchase based on how much you spend on your work clothes.

Communication is so important for a lasting, long-term relationship, which is what you are hoping for with The One. Talking is how couples express their needs, make sure their needs are met, and make sure that they feel supported emotionally, mentally, and sexually.

5. HE’S NOT THE ONE FOR YOU IF HE’S BROKEN YOUR TRUST

Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. Unfortunately, if your man has broken your trust in the past, it means that he is more likely to do it again. You can choose to live with that uncertainty in your lives together, forever, because let’s face it, ‘The One’ is your forever mate.

Unfortunately, the stereotype of promiscuity for men is actually true. Researchers say ‘Men may possess three adaptations that make it seem as though they are generally more ‘oriented’ toward short-term mating than women: (1) Men possess greater desire for short-term sexual relationships than women; (2) Men prefer larger numbers of sexual partners over time than women; and (3) Men require less time before consenting to sex than women.’ This doesn’t mean that your man can’t commit, but you should be aware of his tendencies anyway.

She may say "Don't touch me" but does she Really mean it!?

A few Reasons You Need Physical Touch Daily.

I'm glad you didn't listen to my
"don't touch me" comment!

We use our senses of vision and hearing more than we do our sense of touch, but humans may have a very real need for physical touch every day. Touch is a part of the physical closeness of two people that we cannot achieve at a distance. For this reason, touch gives us the sense of connectedness with people and with our environment.

Children require loving touches in order to develop socially and physically. Depriving a child of loving touch is seen as neglectful. Psychologist Harry Harlow famously studied baby monkeys who were deprived of both food and the touch of a mother and then had the choice of food or touch. The poor, lonely, baby monkeys chose touch over food. Humans are no different in our need for touch.

THE FUTURE OF PHYSICAL TOUCH

Technological advances have enabled even people at a distance to experience the touch of a loved one over the internet. This is possible through ‘haptic’ feedback connections. The receiver wears a device that mimics sensations on the skin. When the message sender starts a haptic conversation, the receiver can feel the touch from the sender with the help of the device that they wear.


In the future, you might not need a touchy partner to get your fill of positive feelings from physical touch daily. But until haptic devices become more common, you need to find a willing friend/ partner to let you enjoy their physical touch. Here are 5 reasons you need to have physical touch every day.



1. YOU NEED PHYSICAL TOUCH EVERY DAY TO COMMUNICATE

Humans are social beings and touch is a natural part of how we communicate with each other. Touch is usually used to communicate a shared meaning between two people. Think about the last time you put a hand on someone’s arm or shoulder. Were you sharing a joke?

The use of touch communicates a mutual bond over your communication and it usually happens when you use language to mean something other than its intended use. When we use innuendo, tell a white lie, exaggerate or joke around, we use words as a symbol of a different meaning. These are the usual times, other than when we are showing affection, that we use touch.



2. YOU NEED PHYSICAL TOUCH EVERY DAY TO CONNECT YOU TO OTHER PEOPLE

Our sense of our physical being is what gives us emotions. That tightness in your gut is anxiety, the feeling of chills down your spine that you call fear, etc. The sensations we feel inside and on the surface of our own bodies help us to connect to people and the world around us.


Think about a great date that you might go on. If you spent the entire time smiling and having a great conversation but there was absolutely zero attempt at touching your knee, hand, or more, you would feel pretty certain that they weren’t interested in you because they did not initiate touch. Touch tells us that you like us.

Researchers in the journal Virtual Reality studying the future of human touch say ‘A short touch by another person can elicit strong emotional experiences; from the comforting experience of being touched by one’s spouse, to the experience of anxiety when touched by a stranger. Indeed, human touch bears the capacity for very personal and very intimate interpersonal interaction, and can potentially evoke a sense of ”proximity and establish the human connection.”



3. YOU NEED PHYSICAL TOUCH EVERY DAY TO GET WHAT YOU NEED

Touch is an effective tool to convince people to do what you need them to do. Touch communicates the importance of your words and commands the other person’s attention. You are basically saying ‘Pay very close attention to me right now’ as you touch someone’s arm and speak to them.

4. YOU NEED PHYSICAL TOUCH EVERY DAY TO GIVE AND RECEIVE POSITIVE ENERGY

Your touch is powerful and it can be thought of as a way to transmit and receive energy from one person to another. When your touch conveys affection or happiness, you give positive energy to the person you touch. You can also feel the positive energy coming from another person who touches you when they give love and happiness to you.

5. YOU NEED PHYSICAL TOUCH EVERY DAY TO HEAL YOUR WOUNDS

Therapeutic touch has been used for centuries with acupressure, massage, chiropractic practices and such. These types of touch therapies focus on healing our bodies, but therapeutic touch can also be used to heal our minds.

Licensed psychologists can work with people to provide a variety of types of therapeutic touch. Therapists use touch to help de-condition people who have experienced physical abuse, to communicate caring and calm energy to people during a suicidal crisis, to guide partners during sex therapy, to facilitate bonding during group therapy sessions, and more.

You see it often..... male celebrities with younger women

You have my attention!

Okay I'm No celebrity ..... but a few younger women have said "Yes" to me asking them out on a date!

Here are some Good Reasons why younger women like dating older men
As much as it is a taboo, it is no secret that women prefer dating older men over their younger counterparts. Here is a list of reasons.


Older men have always been and will always be fascinating to women. That's a fact there's no running away from, boys. Of course, Im generalizing here, and it is possible to find idiots in the older age group too. Likewise, it is also possible to find wise old souls in younger bodies.

Young fellah, you think you do everything right when it comes to wooing women - you manage to look presentable, you crack witty one-liners (stolen from Oscar Wilde's quotes), you text just the right amount, and make the right noises when she speaks. But somehow every "woman" you like ends up picking your senior instead of you. Pay heed and you might be able to grasp where the problem lies.



Here are some reasons why women go for older men.

1. They Don't Play Mind Games



Now, this is not to say they are boring. They can be witty and interesting as hell. Just that their idea of fun does not include sitting in front of their phone and not picking up their woman's calls.


2. They Have Old-World Charm

Not many women fancy the idea of hearing a "Heyyy whaddupp babesss" on their first date. Whether it is pulling chairs, getting flowers, or simply giving a peck on the cheek instead of shoving your tongue down her throat, nothing melts a woman's heart more than keeping things old school.


3. They know what they are doing in bed
Older men believe in ladies first – and often work towards that.

The goal isn't to get one orgasm out of her and then have sex. Oh no. While they're getting her hot and bothered during foreplay, they're working hard for her orgasms — plural. They see it as a source of pride when they can cause big, badass orgasms that leave you shaking and weak. It's always a good night when she loses count of her orgasms. Just sayin'.


4. They are smarter and wiser

With all those years in their system, they have to got to be smarter than their younger counterparts busy guzzling pint after pint of beer. Let's face it, boys, older men are wiser and more mature. People are silly when they are young. And women don't like waiting for the boys to grow up.


5. They don't try to change a woman



While everyone likes a stylish and pretty woman, older men don't beat themselves too much over a girl's nail polish or that single strand of white hair. They are more concerned with what lies inside, and are more accepting of a woman's imperfections. Unlike younger boys, they don't attempt to change the woman they fall in love with. They are not judgmental, period.


6.They take charge

Older men often hold an image of authority in a woman's mind. Whether it's deciding which place to eat in, or booking that holiday package, they know when to take charge, and do it without being overbearing. Now it is a truth universally acknowledged that women tend to date daddy figures. Somebody who reminds them of their fathers (hmmm,) and assures them (if only subconsciously) of a protected and safe environment. The unsaid promise that they will be there in times of trouble is enough to make a woman's heart melt for them.


7. They aren't broke

The older men are often well established in their careers; they are financially more stable, and the promise of a calmer life is something no woman can say no to. It might come across as shallow, but women looking to settle down often tend to go for the nice guy with a stable job and a house.

Rules are seldom followed by couples these days!

Rules Every Marriage Should Follow.

There are plenty of theories on what creates happy relationships, and how to have a happier marriage. You don’t have to look far to find a plethora of quotes by scientists, authors and many others who have advised us on how to create our very own happily ever after.

Ive have gathered some of the best bits of advice around to help you live your happiest life together…



FIND THE GOOD

“A happy marriage doesn’t mean you have a perfect spouse or a perfect marriage. It simply means you’ve chosen to look beyond the imperfections in both.” ~ Fawn Weaver



It is easy to overlook the little annoyances of our partner when we’re focused on the good qualities that attracted us in the first place. Stay focused on the good.

FIND YOUR HAPPY

“Marriage doesn’t make you happy–you make your marriage happy.” ~ Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott

Do something daily that makes you happy and your relationships will benefit. You can’t be happy in a relationship, if you aren’t happy with yourself.



FORGIVE THE IMPERFECTIONS

“A successful marriage isn’t the union of two perfect people. It’s that of two imperfect people who have learned the value of forgiveness and grace.” ~ Darlene Schacht

Forgiving is such an important ingredient in relationships. Holding on to things that make you angry keeps you in a negative space and prevent you from being your best self.

IT BEGINS WITH YOU

“Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.” ~ Barnett R. Brickner

Trying to change your partner will only backfire so focus on your contribution. Tackle only what you can handle.



MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE A PRIORITY

“Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get. It’s something you do. Its the way you love your partner every day.” ~ Barbara De Angelis

Stop looking at marriage as a thing and start thinking of it as part of you. Take care of it, nurture it and let it grow.

EXPRESS YOUR LOVE DAILY

“The greatest weakness of most humans is their hesitancy to tell others how much they love them while they’re still alive.” ~ Orlando Battista

Be open with your expressions of love.

SAVOR THE GOOD

“Marriage is like a fine wine, if tended properly, it just gets better with age.” ~ Unknown

Appreciating and enjoying the good in your relationship attracts more good and your relationship becomes stronger and better.

MAKE SELF-CARE A PRIORITY

“One of the greatest gifts you can give your husband is your own wholeness.” ~ Stormie Omartian

You can’t take care of your relationships if you aren’t taking care of yourself. Make it a priority.

LEARN FROM THE PAST AND DREAM OF THE FUTURE

“Marriage. It’s like a cultural hand-rail. It links folks to the past and guides them to the future.” ~ Diane Frolov

Find the lessons from the past and use them to help you shape your future.

LEARN SOMETHING NEW EVERY DAY

“A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.” ~ Pearl Buck

Learn to love learning. Learning is the key to growth and evolution. And growth is the key to strong relationships.

LIVE IN THE NOW

“Love like there’s no tomorrow, and if tomorrow comes, love again.” ~ Max Lucado

Stay focused on what really matters and don’t let life’s distractions keep you from living in the moment.

CELEBRATE THE BEST OF EACH OTHER

“In marriage, when we honor and celebrate each other, we’re freed up to be the best people we can be.” ~ Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott

Make every day a celebration of the good in your relationship and in each other.

BE KIND AND GENEROUS

“A good marriage is a contest of generosity.” ~ Diane Sawyer

Do something special every day. A little note, a surprise cup of coffee or simple phone call just to say hi, will go a long way to showing your partner how much you value them.

ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS

“Married couples who love each other tell each other a thousand things without talking.” ~ Chinese Proverb

Make sure your actions show your love. Often times what you do and how you do it says more than expressing your love with words.

INVEST YOUR TIME

“The more you invest in a marriage, the more valuable it becomes.” ~ Amy Grant

Nothing takes the place of spending time on the relationships that matter most.

GIVE A FREE PASS

“Make a list of ten of your spouse’s faults, which, for the sake of your marriage, you will always overlook. You can live with those ten.” ~ J & G Murphy

There are bound to be things that annoy you about your partner. Make a commitment to accept them and let them go.marriage-quote

IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS

“It’s the little things that keep us together. Those little things will make me love you forever.” ~ Sonia Schaad

It’s isn’t the grand gestures that say love, it is all the little things we do every day.

BE SUPPORTIVE

“Lean on each other’s strengths. Forgive each other’s weaknesses.” ~ Unknown

It is easy to be in a relationship when things are going well but it’s the tough times that strengthens the bond. Remember to be there, be supportive and ask for help when you need it.

MAINTENANCE MATTERS

“A relationship is like a house. When a light bulb burns out you don’t go and buy a new house, you change the lightbulb.” ~ Unknown

Making sure your relationship gets a regular care. It becomes more costly if you wait too long.

THINK FREELY

“If you want to know where your heart is, look to where your mind goes when it wanders.” ~ Unknown

Fostering your creative, thinking mind will keep you happy and thriving in your relationships.

BE COMMITTED

“Marriage succeeds only as lifetime commitment with no escape clauses.” ~ Dr. James Dobson

It’s simple really, you have to be in willing to go through the valleys as much as you are willing to go through the peaks. Put yourself all in and stay in it for the long haul.