Let’s Be Real: Sex Is Very Important to women also!

We men need to understand that women can change their minds on a dime. So always be ready for the unexpected.

In my view women are divine creatures with the power to manifest new realities all the time. A woman’s intuition and understanding of her sexual powers allow her to tap into her creativity and manifest new realities, endless smiles, and an abundance of confidence.

Now this might be surprising:
I was searching for a foot massager for someone who spends a lot of her work day on her feet, and  while googling...I stumbled on some interesting links so I clicked on a few.


Coming home from a long day of work and cuddling up with your partner is always ideal. And in the words of En Vogue, giving your partner something they can feel, is so empowering for a woman
According to a Huffington Post article, Researchers found that 59 per cent of women said they wanted more sex from their relationship, compared to 41 per cent of men.

Today's women have higher expectations about their sex life than 40 years ago, they want to experiment and are generally more independent.

Many feel undesired, unheard or just unhappy, so they might start looking for excitement.



As women’s empowerment begins to take on a new life in 2018, more women are owning their space and saying what they want. There is no room to feel unsatisfied and powerless. And as the world gets crazier and crazier, women are taking back their voices and saying yes to more sex and intenser orgasms.

There are women who understand the power of Women’s Sexual Health and satisfaction. The 5 products featured in this post were created by women to help other women find fulfillment in their sexual activities.

If you are one of the many women who just love sex, then you will love these 5 products that were created to enhance your sex life.

We need to do better than this!

1. Ashley’s Naturals “Organic Sweet Pussy Syrup” ($22) – Give your partner something sweet to eat with this sweet yoni elixir. Adding it to your daily self-care routine will help you make sure your vagina is always receiving the love and care that she deserves. Not only that, but you will be preparing her for the next time your partner wants to nibble  on  your  lower lips.

“Our organic herb + fruit house made liqueur lovingly crafted to give you the sweetest yoni ever. Delicious + Beneficial.

Mix it into your favorite drink, water or take it straight.”

Should I tell him that Im not happy or not?

2. Chakrubs “The Heart” ($125)– Crystal dildos are starting to emerge as a popular favorite. With the right intentions, adding a crystal dildo to your routine will allow you to practice mindfulness while you orgasm. The ancients believed that crystals held special powers, and this particular piece from Chakrubs is charged to help you open your heart and be filled with the love you have been seeking.

“Reawakening the heart to its own innate love, it provides a deep sense of personal fulfillment and contentment, allowing one the capacity to truly give and receive love from.

3. Sutrology App (Free)–  Before you blow your partner’s mind, make sure that you two are compatible. The Sutrology App wasn’t just designed to help you understand your relationship through astrology, but it was designed to help you understand how astrology can better serve your relationship and sex life. We all want better orgasms, yet we have to make sure the right person is giving them to us.

Does she want service
 tonight or not, hard to tell.

Did I mention??
They Were All Created By Women.

“You can look at your love compatibility, how to attract the other person and keep them interested, and be the perfect partner between the sheets!”

There no greater love
Than self love.

4. Dame “Eva II” ($135)– Self-love just got a lot more personal with the Eva II. Its small size lets you know that it was created to provide you the intimacy that you’ve been searching for. And it’s waterproof and great for travel.  Orgasms-on-the-go!

“With flexible wings that tuck under the labia while Eva II sits on top, you can have clitoral stimulation during penetrative sex.”

5. Bedroom Kandi “Bewitch Me Plus” ($99)– This isn’t your normal vibrator. It was designed to give women bigger and better orgasms. Great to use with a partner or alone, the Bewitch Me Plus was made to make you shake your climaxing moments......

They just can't get along!

For Some reasons women hate each other

These are the most common reasons why women don't get along. This was News to me(smirking.)


It is often said that women don't get along well with each other. While it may not be true for all women, there are of course some women who just can't get along well with other women. On the other hand, women can also have female best friends who would be closer than their sisters but if one leaves this particular relation aside, these are some of the reasons why they don't get along (please note: this is not true for all women).

#1 Your/ their popularity may not go over well


Some women are indeed more popular than others and they do get all the attention from men, friends, and even strangers. Not all women can take someone else's popularity in good spirit and they may even hate the fact that someone else is getting more attention than them.

#2 Judgments gets in the way

Women, not every female, may get really judgmental at times. They may judge each other's lifestyles, clothing choices, and behavior etc. The fact that they do judge does get in the way of their understanding another woman and this may contribute to the fact that they don't get along.

#3 They may feel threatened

Women prefer enjoying a certain position in their social circle. If they are in a group of friends, they take this group as their own. Given such a situation, they may very well feel threatened if some other woman tries to occupy that same position, like the queen bee being replaced by another one.(Alpha females VS Betha)

#4 Jealousy may play a big role


Jealousy is not a woman only thing and men get jealous all the time but some women do tend to take jealousy to higher levels. It may be something as simple as the other woman's waistline but once jealousy seeps into their minds, they can really take it to heart.

#5 Gossip matters

Women do love gossiping and as they do they end up focusing more on the negative aspects of others (as that is spicier). This focus on the negativity and the pleasure derived from the talks tends to make them dislike each other more. If you are gossiping about someone, they may be gossiping about you. When you are present you are part of the conversation, when absent you are the  subject of the conversation!

#6 They may want to be like you

One woman may have the perfect body or the perfect smile or the perfect attitude which the other may not.Mind over matter. While most women may try to learn, some do get jealous as they want to be like the other. This feeling of inadequacy, when compared to the other woman, does result in strong dislike.

#7 Being center of attention

Women like being the center of attention and they like it when people pay attention to them. So if there are two women competing for attention, there is bound to be some level of difference and with time, this difference may easily turn into hate.
Aw. Aw. Now that is so over the top.

Can you trust her/him based on their eye colors?

Ooooh you have brown eyes,
is that a good thing?

Why Are  People With Brown Eyes  Trusted More?



The eyes, instantly, have your attention from the moment you meet someone, but how much you are trusted may be as simple as being born with brown eyes. Research now reveals the reason behind our bias toward trusting brown-eyed people more than those with any other eye color.

WHY WE ASSESS TRUSTWORTHINESS

Trust is huge when it comes to human daily social interactions. Whether or not we can extend our trust to share personal things about ourselves in conversation is something we assess in the first moments we meet another person. Will this individual be an ally or an enemy?

As our early human ancestors struggled for survival with limited food and resources, knowing who would help or hurt you could make the difference in being able to raise a future generation. Quick assessments of trustworthiness based on visible appearance were important to cave-dwelling warrior hunters, and snap judgments continue to be a social habit that we use in each interaction in modern society today.

But why would eye color affect whether or not we are trusted? If you yourself have a light eye color that was always previously complimented by others, do you now wonder if you are trusted less often than your dark-eyed peers or family members?

HERE’S WHY PEOPLE WITH BROWN EYES ARE TRUSTED MORE

Researchers in an Australian study used personality questionnaires in their work, which revealed that dark eyed Northern Europeans are more agreeable and less competitive than their light-eyed counter parts. “The darker a North European’s eye color, the more likely they are to be altruistic, sympathetic to others and eager to help. Conversely, lighter eyed people are more likely to be observed as competitive, egocentric and skeptical of others intentions.” This bias toward brown-eyed people being trusted more may be simply a tendency toward being a more cooperative personality type than those who have light-colored eyes.


BLUE, BROWN, GREEN AND EVERYWHERE IN BETWEEN

So why do you assume
Im not a warm person

It is noted from the moment we are born; eye color is one of the ways that government officials use to recognize distinguishing facial features. For example, they use eye color to identify us on state and federal photo ID cards and birth certificates.

In general, people with lighter colored eyes seem to be thought of as colder emotionally and less sociable than those with brown eyes. Blue and green are cooler colors compared with brown, which is a warm, earthy tone. People with lighter colored eyes are more genetically rare, so they tend to stand out, and as a result, they may be the victims of harmless staring.


Men with brown eyes have a tendency to also have these facial traits:

• Wider chin shape
• Wider mouth
• Mouth has upward-pointing corners
• Wider, larger eyes
• More prominent eyebrows
• Eyebrows are closer together, may have connecting hair between brows

In general, the facial characteristics that were shared by men with brown eyes were considered to be more masculine and were rated more trustworthy.
 women with brown eyes... are also very sexy in my view.

I a big fan of brown eyes, I never really lost my mind over any other eye colors, like some of my friends, who fall instantly for "bue" or "green" eyes. If she has big eyes and they are brown I can see right into her soul,  not really but I think I can recognize sincerity, right away. If she has smaller eyes then I have to look closer up to see what I want to see.                   Quit, breaking my heart, pretty brown eyes!

Try To Avoid Being Unhappily Married.

Relationship Experts Reveal Secrets to Happy Marriages
Since I'm divorce I was more than just a bit curious, as what these experts have to say. Here goes:

May I crown you?
Only if you allow me to crown you.

"The secret of a happy marriage is finding the right person. You know they’re right if you love to be with them all the time.” – Julia Chi
ld (this is a female's perspective)

Research psychologist and relationship expert John Gottman explains over 40 years of research in his book ” What Makes Love Last ,” that trust and commitment are the two biggest secrets to happy marriages. (a male perspective)

Anyone who is married will tell you that it’s very hard work. Wanting to be with someone most of the time is a good thing all of the time can be an obsession issue.....It’s a commitment that requires more effort than simply long-term dating. When you bring someone into your life in a permanent way, you’re going to have a few bumps along the way. Just because marriage can be difficult, doesn’t mean that it isn’t worth it! Marriage can be  a blissful time in someone’s life, filled with all of the best memories, and a positive outlooks for a future together.

Marriage can bring couples strength and support that they may not otherwise have. Not all marriages are successful, actually more than half fail. Those that are require effort on the part of both parties to make sure that the marriage stays healthy and successful. Relationship experts have revealed exactly what it takes to make sure that a marriage stays strong.

HERE ARE SOME SECRET INGREDIENTS TO HAPPY MARRIAGES

1. BE KIND

According to relationship expert James Preece, “The biggest gift you can give your partner is the chance to miss you.” After the honeymoon phase has ended, you may not find that you want to be around your partner 24/7 and that’s okay! Being around someone all the time can cause annoyances, or make one person or the other feel smothered.

It’s important that each partner have time to themselves. It’s also important that your partner has a chance to miss you. A marriage is bringing two lives together, not living one life. It’s important that each partner have their own friends and interests in addition to the ones that you share together.

While this may seem easy when dealing with someone you love, we all have had moments where we say things that we don’t mean to say (out loud), or adopt a passive aggressive manner to display our displeasure. Focusing on being kind will strengthen any marriage. This includes conceding to your partner’s thoughts, feelings and opinions and validating how they feel, even if you don’t agree.

2. COMPROMISE

We can work it out, just as long as
 we have each other''s back

Being able to have arguments or disagreements and come back with a compromise will make the relationship and the marriage ten times stronger. People think love is just about connection, but what’s equally important is to have good relationship skills. And the most important one is to be able to negotiate with one another.

Being able to negotiate with your husband or wife on even the smallest things can build up both trust and confidence in your ability to communicate, so that when something big happens you’ll be able to dive head first with open communication to solve the problem.Arguing until one person gives in will only cause resentment to grow and fester in the marriage, which will weaken the bonds of the relationship.

Now is your turn to listen....

3. LEARN TO LISTEN

Give your partner time to speak what’s on their mind. Even if the argument seems to be going nowhere, it’s important that both partners have the space and time to speak. Focus on the stressful things or events that are important to your spouse. Listen. Help your spouse express his or her feelings. Empathize. Show support. Don’t problem solve or fix. Most women just want to be heard.

We, as humans, have a tendency to try and bring in a counterpoint against every point made before the other person has an opportunity to say everything they need to say. While it may be tempting to interrupt, it’s important that everyone has an opportunity to speak. And even more essential: both partners have to learn to actively listen. Instead of thinking up a counter argument.

Don't argue about the painting..... above the bed... when you are single it's your bed but when married it's both your bed. (So she picks the paintings, and the bed)

Practice saying "Can I"

To be or not to be in a good love relationship

You know that tickles!

Understand How Your Relationships Flow Take Knowledge.


I first discovered the  Love Languages in college. As a man walking into adulthood, I was eager to understand how I could be a better lover to "the one" who came my way. From my first interaction with the Love Languages Quiz, (my then girl friend had me take) I realized that the underlying message was always centered around self. Upon taking the quiz, I was asked a series of questions that probed me about how important affirming words and help from my lover was. Not only did I have to consider the myriad of unsuccessful relationships I had been in up until that point, but I had to really assess if I was providing myself with the same love, devotion, and understanding that I expected from my lover.

Once I was able to understand my own love language, I was willing to be a better lover in all of my new relationships. Through the quiz, I learned that my main love language was quality time.

After getting a fair understanding of your love language, you should  begin to practice your love language more. You’ll begin to enhance your own self-love, which will be reflected in the relationships in your life.

In any relationship, patience is needed. When you make an effort with yourself, you will be more willing to tow the line with your lover.

So why do you need to understand your love language for a more satisfying partnership?

Understanding the way you communicate your love, will help you be more willing to understand your lover's way of communicating theirs.

There is an ebb and flow to all relationships. If you are really in tune with your lover, then you know when the energy of your relationship shifts. Sometimes the shifts we experience in relationships are momentary and sometimes they are so long-lasting they create unmendable rifts.

The rhythm of relationships is unique because of the specific energy each person brings.

Knowing the shifts of your relationship goes beyond knowing what makes your lover mad. You both must understand how you give and receive love. And before you can understand the love of another, you must know the language of your own love.

In the 5 Love Languages Gary Chapman writes, “In the area of love, it is similar. Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English. No matter how hard you try to express love in English, if your spouse understands only Chinese, you will never understand how to love each other.”

Love will never be a one-size-fits-all deal.

The five love languages – affirming words, receiving gifts, physical touch, quality time, and acts of service (definitions below provided by the 5 Love Languages site)- are all unique to the individual.

Quality Time: Nothing says “I love you” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes you feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed activities, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Whether itʼs spending uninterrupted time talking with someone else or doing activities together, you deepen your connection with others through sharing time.

Words of Affirmation: Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important— hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. You thrive on hearing kind and encouraging words that build you up.

Physical Touch: A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, and thoughtful touches on the arm—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love.

 Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Appropriate and timely touches communicate warmth, safety, and love to you

Acts of Service: Can helping with homework really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most wants to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter. When others serve you out of love (and not obligation), you feel truly valued and loved.

Receiving Gifts: Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures. Gifts are heartfelt symbols to you of someone else’s love and affection for you.

Just make sure she wants to run to you!

I often question the attraction people have to me.

Researchers Explain Things That Make You Feel Attracted to Someone.... hmmm!

So I remind you of someone, I hope it somone you like!?

“Every single second is an opportunity to change your life, because in any moment you can change the way you feel.” – Rhonda Byrne

Attraction is more than just gut feelings. While that’s part of it, the reasons why we find someone attractive tend to be much more scientific that we give ourselves credit for. When we see someone who we find attractive, we may not be thinking of all the reasons why, and especially not the scientific reasons.

There are plenty of reasons that we find some people more physically attractive than others. If you’ve ever had a hard time putting it into words why you find someone so attractive, this list of science-based reasons might be of use to you.

1. FACIAL SYMMETRY

They say that over time we start looking alike.
YIKES  how is that a good thing?

Multiple studies have found that how attractive someone is to you can often depend on how symmetrical they are. This means that people who are more attractive tend to have both sides of their faces or their bodies closely matching. Of course, no one has a perfectly symmetrical face or body. But the closer that one side of their body and faces matches the other, means that they tend to be more attractive. The next time you look at someone’s face and can’t seem to place why they’re so attractive, consider their symmetry!

2. LONGER LEGS IN WOMEN, STRONGER LEGS IN MEN

Funny enough, the perception of leg length is different between men and women. Women with longer legs are perceived as more sexy, while men with legs that are roughly the same length as their torso are considered more attractive. The reason for men’s ideal leg length, is that shorter legs tend to make men look more muscular, which is seen as a more desirable trait to some women

3. THE SHAPE OF SOMEONE’S FACE

Estrogen and testosterone, the hormones found in more abundance in women and men, respectively, are responsible for forming our bone structures in our faces. The shape of someone’s face can be very indicative of their hormone levels, and thus their fertility and virility. Women with smaller chins and brows, coupled with wider eyes, are perceived as more fertile, while the same goes for men with stronger jaws and brows. These features are a perfect cocktail for physical attraction.

4. “SEXY” VOICES

The sound of someone’s voice is determined by hormones, and this can really affect how attractive you find another person. For men, a lower voice is seen as more attractive, which means that they have a high amount of testosterone. For women, a higher voice is associated with femininity. The quality of the voice affects attractiveness as well: having a breathy voice is considered attractive in both men and women, while a monotone voice is found to be more attractive in men.

5. SELFLESS BEHAVIOR

Finding someone physically attractive is, more often than not, based on more than just their physical appearance. Science has shown that people with kind and compassionate personalities are found to be much more attractive. Altruism is something that shows that a potential partner will be invested in your well-being. It also shows that potential partners will be good parents, which is something that people often subconsciously think about when assessing the attractiveness of a potential partner.

6. COMPLEMENTARY GENETICS

Ooh my goodness he is so my type!

Couples who look alike are much more common than one might think. Science explains that you’re often drawn to features that are much like your own because people are drawn towards things that are familiar. This means that you and your partner may have a similarity in genetics, from skin tone, to h
air color, to even your heights! As well, complementary genetics are beneficial for potential children. When picking a partner, you may find that your “type” tends to be someone who looks a lot like you, or someone close to you. Like a family member?

Don't skate on very thin ice.....

Some lies, complimentary, are acceptable,
don't confuse them with
the ones that are NOT!

The Following Are The Top 10 Lies People Tell Their Partner


Unless you’re the human embodiment of perfection, you have probably told a lie or two. We all have. It’s human nature to fib a little or omit the truth in order to save yourself from an uncomfortable conversation, embarrassment, or backlash.

In all of our relationships – whether romantic, friendly or in the workplace – trust is a very important issue and necessary for a healthy relationship dynamic. Until you are in a genuinely committed relationship with someone you know well, and know has your best interests at heart, the only person you can really rely on is yourself.

People tend to lie to one another more than you might think. Here are some of the most common lies that people tell their partner.

“A single lie destroys a whole reputation of integrity.” – Baltasar Gracian

1. “I’M JUST FINE.”

Have you ever heard this phrase? Maybe you’ve uttered it yourself once or twice. This little lie is one of the most told lies in a relationship. But it has sarcasm in the tone!

The one thing couples should never lie about is how they feel… Whether you are replying to the actual question or showing that you’re fine or good based on your verbal or body language, you must be truthful and open with your partner about how you feel.

Maybe you didn’t want to get into how you were feeling, or maybe you just wanted to avoid an argument. Either way, most people tell this lie once or twice (or more!).

2. HOW MANY PARTNERS YOU’VE HAD

Most people tend to fib on the lower side of how many partners they’ve had. Even if the number isn’t particularly large, or the list particularly long, we always want our current partner to feel special. If you’ve fudged the number of people you’ve been with, don’t worry. Everyone else is doing it too. Well except a Virgin. They will tell you the truth.



3. YOU LIKE THEIR PARENTS

Not everyone gets along with their in-laws, or future in-laws. People tend to lie about how much they actually like their partner’s parents. They either do this to keep the peace, or because they really don’t see the point in telling the truth about their feelings. After all, for some people, blood is definitely thicker than water.

4. HOW MUCH MONEY YOU SPEND

Couples should never lie to each other about finances. There should be an open discussion, agreements and transparency between the two of them when it comes to finances.

Have you ever gone out on a little “treat yourself!” shopping spree, and then had to hastily hide the receipt and make up a lie about how everything was on sale? How much money that gets spent is one of the most common lies couples tell one another.

Debt and spending habits are dealbreakers, they often lead to breakups.

5. “YOU LOOK GREAT.”

This little white lie is something we sometimes have to break out in order to not hurt our partner’s feelings. Whether you’re lying about the suit that looks totally hideous, or the dress that accentuates all the wrong features, lying about how your partner looks in something is probably the most common lie told in relationships. But if they really really want to know, then avoid the embarrassment they will suffer if others look at them funny and chuckle. So tell the truth...

6. YOU NEVER THINK ABOUT YOUR EX

We share our love and our lives with so many different people in the past. Even if your last relationship ended mutually, or even if you were the one to call things off, your feelings don’t just disappear. It’s not a bad thing to think about your ex sometimes, and to remind yourself of the feelings you had. But, it might cause jealousy, so that’s why some people choose to fib about it to their current partners.

7. YOU LOVE THEIR COOKING

If your partner isn’t particularly skilled in the kitchen, you’ve probably mastered the art of chewing with a straight face … or getting to the kitchen to start dinner first. Most people lie about the skill of cooking that their partners have. After all, if they never try, how are they going to get better at it.

Many of us do not want to hear the awful truth every time. Say someone asks you how they looks. They probably wants to hear that they look great. If they don’t look great, and we tell them the truth, we create a conflict and have to deal with the results sooner or later.

8. “I AGREE WITH YOU.”

Being in a relationship is about having each other’s backs. If your partner gets into an argument, or disagreement, with someone else, you’ve probably stood up for them. Even though people may not particularly agree with their partner in the argument, they’re probably going to lie and say they do. After all, solidarity in a relationship is important.

9. “YOU’RE THE BEST.”

When it comes to being physically intimate, people tend to lie to their partners about how good they are in bed. That isn’t to say that people don’t enjoy the things they do with their partners. They just tend to fib about  just HOW good, and whether or not they’re the best partner they’ve ever had. There’s no reason to make your partner self-conscious or jealous about relationships in the past. So, people tend to fib. If you don't want to fib. Just say: " I just know how you make me feel" which you imply is "Great"

10. WHAT YOU REALLY LOOK LIKE

Unless you live together, and your partner sees you every day, you might be lying (just a little!) to your partner about how they really look . Maybe they've only send their best-looking selfies, or maybe they only see one another when they’re done up and looking their best. This is one of the most common little lies that folks tell one another.

Final thoughts

Lying isn’t a good practice in any relationship. In fact, the best thing to do is to try and omit these lies without being hurtful with your honesty. But no one is perfect, and most of these are lies that help keep the peace and avoid hurting your partner’s feelings. If you find yourself telling these lies in your relationship, don’t worry. They've lied to you too.