Behaviors Men Show When They’re With Their True Love

Conner office...! What is success if you have no one to share it with?

Maybe, these are B.A.D. behaviors, you will not know unless you are "the one!"

Men and women display their love and affection in different ways, besides the rare ultra-sensitive male. So, love can be confusing for a woman at times. That’s because, the truth is that men and women think differently.

“Yesterday, he was the nicest guy in the world, and today he’s a complete jerk. I just don’t understand,” is a common, legitimate statement that is heard all too often from women.  That’s because men are only human, so their emotions can go up and down too. It doesn’t mean they don’t love you. The important part is that what a man says and does should be in alignment.

With that said, men do exhibit a common set of behaviors that demonstrate their love for a woman.

1. HE LISTENS TO YOU (CLOSELY!)

Generally, women are much better listeners than men. To be frank, some men have absolutely atrocious listening skills.

The curious thing is that men will always intently focus on things of interest. So, when a man not only hears you but actively pays attention and intelligently responds – a skill called active listening – you can have confidence that he’s smitten.

2. HE ISN’T AFRAID TO MAKE A SACRIFICE.

Making personal sacrifices is much easier when doing it for a person we love. In fact, men who are in love will feel tremendous discomfort at the thought of their woman being unhappy – especially if there’s something we can do about it.

As such, making sacrifices for your happiness is one way a man demonstrates his love for you. He will almost always put you first, even if it means changing his plans or stepping out of his comfort zone.

3. HE SHOWS VULNERABILITY (THIS IS AN IMPORTANT ONE).

Men being men, we’re cautious about showing any behavior that can be perceived by others as a weakness. In love, however, this deeply ingrained attitude often falls by the wayside – and we don’t care.

If we’re in love, we’re far more comfortable with feeling and acting vulnerable. Vulnerability will assuredly make several appearances throughout a relationship – especially if we’re with you only.

4. HE LOVES HOW YOU LOOK, EVEN ON YOUR “WORST DAYS”.

Remember how much effort we put into looking our best during those early dates? Of course. All of us want to look and feel good when meeting up with a potential partner.

Then there’s the actual relationship. As we spend more time with each other, comfort levels build, and our need to impress declines sharply. We’re free to wander around in our pajamas, stain our shirts, and forgo the hair gel.

When men love someone, we’ll think a woman looks beautiful no matter the situation.

5. HE’S PROUD OF YOU (AND ISN’T AFRAID TO SHOW IT).

In love, a real man isn’t shy about saying how proud he is of you.

Whether you’re a fantastic mother, a hard worker, or reaching your goals, you can rest assured that your efforts don’t go unnoticed. In fact, all of the admirable things you’ve done and are working towards brings us a great amount of pride and joy.

On a related note, we’re not (too) upset about losing to you. If you’re both very competitive people, he’ll probably feel a bit less crushed following a swift defeat! (Well done!)

6. HE FIGHTS FOR YOU.

Okay, personal story. This writer was visiting a hospital when his girlfriend was being harassed by a security guard and a couple of his ilk. When calling to ask where she was, the panic was evident in her voice.

He was absolutely furious. After calming down enough to navigate the hospital, this writer came upon said dirt bags, rolled his sleeves up and unequivocally lit into them. (Mind you, this happened in a foreign country – so some restraint was in order.) Following the girlfriend’s pleas and arm tugs, we all left unscathed.

What ignited my rage? The hurt in my woman’s voice. The stomach-dropping, gut-clenching hurt that can only be felt by someone who so dearly loves another.

7. HE FIGHTS WITH YOU (YEP, YOU READ THAT RIGHT!).

This one’s obvious, but just to avoid offending anyone – we’re not talking fights of the insult-throwing and drama-inducing variety. We’re certainly not talking about physical altercations.

That said, if a man loves you and is emotionally invested in his relationship, he will initiate a “fight” to avoid losing you; even if that means fighting with the woman he loves.

Why? Because we’re afraid. We love you, and we the slightest threat to our relationship is the equivalent of a punch to the gut. If we’re fighting with this purpose in mind, we want to make things work and demonstrate our commitment.

8. HE TREATS YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS WITH RESPECT.

If we know that someone is important to you, by default, they become important to us. The reason is simple: you cherish family and friends, and the last thing we want is to hurt your feelings.

While we may not like one of your family members (see: “in-laws and husband”) or one of your catty friends, we’ll zip it because we know how much they mean to you.

Final thought:  “Behavior is what a man does, not what he thinks, feels, or believes.” ~ ~ Emily Dickenson

Ladies.... headsup... yes there still are guys like this!

I can't believe you brought me here for a vacation!

Being in a relationship is wonderful, however we are often not sure whether the person we are with is the right one for us. It is difficult to determine how much our partner cares about us, but the following things are done only by men who truly care about their partner.

1. He introduces you as...
 When introducing you to someone he will try to make you seem like the best woman in the world. He will tell everything about your talents and achievements and he will let you know how much he appreciates everything about you.

2.He has been attracted to you for awhile...
 He is attracted to you and you can clearly notice that. Whenever you have dinner with friends or family you notice him looking at you and giving you a smile that he only keeps for you.

3.He thinks you are smart...
 He asks you for advice about things he knows you are more familiar with. He will also continue asking questions because he wants to learn from you and appreciates your opinion.

4. He is humble about what he know...
He will never be arrogant when you ask him something from his area of expertise. He will neither act pompous because he would be very happy to share his knowledge with you.

5. He will be there for you...
He does not consider your struggles as your weakness. Instead, he thinks of them as ways to help you get out of the difficulties you are in.

6. He will try to help you improve....
He will always feel happy when he manages to prove you wrong because he will try to make you be right 80% of the time.

7. He will be there with you,every step of you journey
He will always support you and will encourage you about all your goals. He knows how important that is for you and he will be there next to you all the way.

8. Ladies first....
He will be more into giving you a better orgasm than giving one to himself.

9. He practices service-leadership....
He will focus more on your pleasure in your bedroom instead of just doing things he likes.

10. He has healthy jealous insecurities 
He will let you know he is a little jealous if you start talking about someone else. This doesn’t mean he does not trust you, he is just scared of losing you.

11. He will tell how beautiful you look....
He will give you his honest opinion about an outfit he does not thing is flattering to you. However, he will never do it in a way to offend you.

12. He is creative in his complimentary expressions 
 He uses a lot of words when he wants to give you compliments. This does not mean he is trying too hard; he wants to show you how he truly feels.

Are you Spoiling me or what?

13. He will admit you are special....
 He will always remind you how much he loves you and that you are his significant other.

14. He has his priorities in order....
<smirking> He would rather help you around the home instead of watching TV. He will support you and be there no matter what you do.

15. He knows you picked him, to mold him
He will always be willing to hear your opinion about everything he does such as his outfit or his career strategy and even small talk about celebrity gossip.

16. He knows debates are constructive and arguments are not.... 
If you don’t share the same opinion he will never be afraid to tell you he thinks otherwise because he will never turn that conversation into an argument, instead he will try to create a constructive debate.

17.Sharing is part of his nature 
He will share links from articles you like reading even though those are not the things he is interested in.

18. You have your cheerleader on your sideline
 He will always be your number one fan.

19. Fear not! He has your back....
He will never stop trying to be a better person just so that he will be able to help you out whenever you are facing difficulties. He doesn’t want to see you struggle.

20. He will say 'I apologize'
 He might hurt you sometimes but he will always recognize and admit his mistakes. He will never do it on purpose and will apologize with a promise not to do that again in the future.

Finally thought
Long story short: he may have never thought he’d find someone like you – the thought hadn't even crossed his mind. And he was entirely at peace with it... but once you step in and filled that void in his life these 20  things become second nature. Auto pilot!
A gentleman start sentences with " Can I"

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When it's over let them go!

How to rid yourself of Emotional Attachments to Someone Who Stopped Loving You, and you've stop caring about them.

Yeah..... this is a kissoff!

“Nothing in the universe can stop you from letting go and starting over.” – Guy Finley

I’ve heard of falling in love, but hardly have I come across people who have fallen out of love. Is this even possible? Can your partner suddenly stop loving you? Before  answering that question, you must know that there’s a huge difference between ‘loving’ and ‘being in love’.

“Falling out of love is one of those awful parts of life that we don’t want to think about until we sense that it’s happening to us. At first, we think we’re imagining things, it’s rare we stop and ask ourselves, “does s/he love me?” But pretty soon it becomes clear that something is really, really wrong,” says dating coach Elizabeth Stone.

Letting go of someone that you never thought you would have to let go of is a difficult thing. When someone has stopped loving you, it may feel like the world won’t continue spinning. However, we all know that isn’t true. Letting go and moving forward with life is entirely possible, and it’s the healthy solution to having to say goodbye to someone you once loved.

When it’s time to let go and say goodbye, we are often left wondering how to go about doing that. After all, it’s not something that’s taught to us in school. Here are the best ways to let go of someone who’s stopped loving you, and move forward to a better and healing tomorrow.

UNDERSTAND WHY YOU BROKE UP

What was it about the relationship that wasn’t working? What caused the rift that had the both of you part ways in the first place? If you can’t pinpoint the exact reason, you may want to do some thinking as to what went wrong in the relationship. This doesn’t mean that it was your fault, or their fault, or anyone’s fault at all.

Sometimes, people just don’t work out in a relationship. That doesn’t mean that there has to be a good guy and a bad guy in the break up story. Even if it still hurts, understanding why the relationship ended is a first step to allowing yourself to let them go and learn to say goodbye.

According to Wiki How, “If you’re still on speaking terms, see if your ex would be willing to talk to give you closure. If things are still awkward, try talking it out with a friend. Keep in mind, you may not always understand why. Human emotions are complicated, and the reasons for a breakup may be hard or impossible to understand.”

TAKE YOUR TIME

You don’t need to get over your heartbreak right away. There’s a reason that the phrase “time heals all wounds” is as popular as it is. While it may not be true in the sense that time heals ALL wounds, it is true that taking your time can make healing a lot easier. If you try to push yourself into feeling better and bottle up how you’re feeling, it’s only going to come back ten times harder than before.

“Sometimes time shows us that the feelings we felt were only to be felt in passing — as we passed on by and on to the next individual we love. That’s why you have to give time a chance. Even if it doesn’t do the trick of healing all your wounds, it will most certainly numb the pain. It will turn those vivid memories into blurry renditions,” says entrepreneur Paul Hudson.

The most important thing to do when you’re learning to let go is to let yourself take all the time you need in order to heal. One day, you’ll wake up and realize that you aren’t feeling the same pain as you did when it first happened.

Are you sure you are leaving me? 

UNDERSTAND WHY YOU NEED TO LET THEM GO

Relationships don’t always end completely. There are times where a relationship can be rekindled and put back together. However, when you’re saying goodbye to someone who has stopped loving you, it’s best to understand that the relationship is not likely to be fixed. Sometimes, we need to understand that relationships end so that we can move forward and find that special relationship that we’re meant to enjoy being in.

Final Thoughts:
When you can't figure out how to go "All the way" let go and and go your separate way!

I'm up at bat and I have 2 strikes already...

If the following is true, then I better not strike out.

Eve, we've found our happiness in Paradise.

We Only Fall In Love With 3 People In Our Lifetime—Each One For A Specific Reason.




“Love is just a word, until someone comes along and gives it meaning”. It’s been said that there are only 3 people in our lives that we fall in love with, and each of them for a given reason.

The first one we usually meet in our teenager years, perhaps high school. It is an innocent love, one that sounds like the love stories we read in fairy tales.

This is the love that complies to the expectations of society, and perhaps our families. We enter into it believing that it’ll be our first and only love. Even when, at times it doesn’t seem exactly right, we find ourselves having to censure personal truths to make it work, and this we insist on doing because we believe that compromising our characters is a part of what love is supposed to be.

Because during this type of love, what others think of us is more important of how we actually feel.

This one is a love that only looks right.

The second one is the one that’s supposed to be the tough love: the one that will teach us lessons about who we are and what we’re searching for in love. This is the love that hurts, full of lies, pain and manipulations.

We think we’re making a smarter choice than our first love, but choice, although it might not be the right person, is a necessary evil if we are to discover what we want from love. This second love can become a vicious circle, one that we might oftentimes repeat because we firmly believe that the ending will be somehow different than before. And, nonetheless, every time is worse than the previous.

It can even get nasty, unhealthy and frustrating. Oftentimes there can be physical, certainly emotional abuse, and always an enormous amount of drama. Just like a soap opera, this drama is exactly what keeps us addicted to the storyline. It’s like a junkie trying to get a fix: it’s an emotional rollercoaster of extreme highs and devastating lost. We stick through the pain in anticipation of the high.

During this kind of love, trying to make things work becomes more important than reconsidering whether they actually should.

This is the love that we wish was right.

The third love is the one that catches us off-guard. It’s the one we don’t see coming, because it looks all wrong and seems to be opposed to all our ideals of what love is supposed to be. This love comes by so easily, that at times it seems unreal. It’s the kind of connection that can’t be explained, and it sends us tumbling head over heels because, unlike the others, we never plan this one.

In this love when we come across the right person, it just clicks- there aren’t any expectations of what is supposed to happen or how the other person is supposed to act, nor is there pressure to be someone we’re not.

The person accepts us for who we are, and it shakes us to our core.

It’s probably not what we thought our love would look like, and it’s very possibly against all the rules we set up to protect ourselves. But it still manages to bring down our preconceived notions, and to show us that real love doesn’t have to coincide with the concept in our head in order for it to be true.

This is the love that keeps knocking on our door no matter how long it takes for us to answer.

It’s the love that makes us feel like the best version of ourselves.

Maybe not all of us are lucky enough to recognize, or even meet all his loves in a lifetime. This is perhaps because we’re not yet ready for them. Maybe we need to learn everything that love isn’t, so that we can learn what it is.

Some of us need perhaps a couple of years to learn each lesson, others maybe a lifetime. Sometimes it’s not a question of whether we’re ready for love, but whether love is ready for us.

I've finally found you...!

And there are also those of us, who are so lucky to come across love Nr. 3 first, and find it passionately lasts a lifetime. Those loved-up pictures of 90-year old grandparents acting as if they were teenagers, make us wonder.

There is no STOPPING US.

Let us count a few ways where love is easily identified.

“True love is not the number of kisses, or how often you get them; true love is the feeling that still lingers long after the kiss is over.” ~ Anonymous

Falling in love feels amazing, but relationships are work intensive Especially when a relationship is new, many people often wonder whether or not it’s meant to last. Even the relationships that have lasted for quite some time can have the insecurities of whether or not the relationship is meant to last.

One of the more ridiculous myths about “true love” is the idea of the soulmate – that there is someone out there who is your perfect match. A good relationship is about navigating the numerous differences between you – over politics, food, money, how to raise children. It’s those differences that make life more interesting, as our lover opens up a whole new way of seeing or understanding the world.

Fortunately, many people show some kind of sign that they want to be with their partner forever. If you’re wondering about how long your relationship is going to last, look at these signs that your partner wants to be with you for as long as possible.

1. THEY PUT YOUR FIRST

Of course, sometimes we have to put ourselves first because there are things in our lives that are extremely important. But when your partner wants to be with you forever, they will make sure to put you first when it’s practical for them to do so.

Ok here it becomes gender specific. If he chooses to see you rather than spend time with his friends, you know things are going well. If he’s willing to adjust his schedule to fit in time with you, then that’s even better. He loves being with you and feels most comfortable when you are together.

These guys sacrifice things for you, and put your needs ahead of their own. It shows that they want to be with you, and care about your needs.

2. THEY UNDERSTAND YOU

When your partner wants to be with you, they make an effort to understand you. It’s not that they understand you magically without having to try – it’s that they put in the effort to understand your thoughts, emotions, opinions and desires. They understanding you on a level like no other, and they’re the only person who wants to understand you as deeply as they do. Being understood is a universally amazing feeling, especially by your partner.

3. BEING WITH THEM IS EASY

Your relationship is full of laughter, love and fun. There’s no drama or games. Your partner communicates with you and makes it feel like being with them is easy. While it may almost feel too easy to be with him, you know that there’s no way you would trade that feeling for the world. It doesn’t mean that you never argue – just that your relationship lacks drama and upset.

Dating coach Patrick Banks summed it up pretty well, actually. He notes, “There’s nothing more liberating than being in a relationship where you don’t have to wear a façade every time you meet. I mean, think about it, having to hide an annoying habit or two from your partner might seem like a minor hindrance in the short-term, but in the long haul it can end up driving you mad.”


4. THEY THINK THE SAME WAY YOU DO

While your thoughts and opinions don’t always align the same way, they’re definitely complementary. They have your same way of thinking, and they have the same values that you do. You never feel afraid of telling your partner something or expressing an opinion, because you know that they accept you and understand you. Oftentimes, you can simply give them a look and know exactly what they’re thinking.

Professor of psychology Kelly Campbell, Ph.D. says, “For long-lasting love, the more similarity (e.g., age, education, values, personality, hobbies), the better. Although other differences can be accommodated and tolerated, a difference in values is particularly problematic if the goal is long-lasting love.”

Final thoughts:

For most folks, sex is a part of love. When you love someone you are giving yourself freely and openly in every way imaginable. Sexual monogamy is part of romance. This is just how we did relationships in the last  century, I'm still hopeful for this 21st century.... 
I'm just an optimistic person, knowing and having experienced...... what I have over many decades of encounters with loving and caring women who have taught me that..... what I have to offer someone is so worth it... well at at least this was what was  I told to me by someone I care for deeply.  Too BAD we didn't make it last.  In my adult relationships I’ve fluctuated between times of sexual freedom and celibacy. There have been relationships with passion and late nights and others with none of the above. In other words... there's nothing that works perfectly... unless you are into the other person..... totally.  

Both deserve each other's Love!

Mindfulness Helps To Reaffirm The Commitment.

Doing things together really strengthen our bond?

Being in a strong and healthy relationship means both partners are supporting each other and demonstrate their love every day. Even though it seems easy, achieving this level of commitment in a relationship takes more than  a little work.

I will try to explained how you can make your relationship last. When the experience of nurturing the relationship no longer feels like a MAJOR effort or work, but literally becomes a labor of love that feels more like a gift, a joyful opportunity for which we feel grateful and blessed. You are on the right path.

Every relationship requires emotional work which includes taking care of each other’s feelings. Emotional work is not something we hear about every day; however, psychologists have listed it as a big happiness factor.

According to researchers in the Journal of Family issues:

‘Family members do work to meet people’s emotional needs, improve their well-being, and maintain harmony. When emotional work is shared equally, both men and women have access to emotional resources in their  family. However, like housework and childcare, the distribution of emotional work is gendered most often.

The researchers also showed the importance of emotional work in order to have a healthy relationship. Gender labeled imbalance between partners can destroy the marriage and if the woman is discriminated against she is at risk of psychological distress.

Also, men should be able to identify the emotional cues in order to help their woman release her feelings. If a man supports his partner emotionally, the relationship is very likely to last longer. Well she should do the same if not he will become detached and my not stick to him committed pledge.

1. Solving problems together

We face challenges every day in every aspect of our lives including our relationship. Some couples are not coordinated enough and they rarely discuss their everyday life. This involves minor things such as planning what to have for dinner as well as the future plans regarding finance, health, social commitments, family planning etc.

Couples that look to the future together are contributing to the longevity of their relationship. They are also likely to share the same goals which is even better because then you are both going to be equally involved in achieving it.

2.Communicate openly

This does not only refer to talking with your partner. An open communication included understanding your partner and after expressing yourself you wait for them to tell you their opinion.

Having good communication skills includes being an excellent listener. A misunderstanding in a relationship can lead to anger and tension. To avoid them, always be fully present when your partner is talking to you. When they are done, ask questions so that they know you have been paying attention and you understand them. An open communication also helps strengthen the trust because lasting couples will never hide anything from each other.

3.Create a shared special moment

As a couple you should look back to the day that passed and discuss it with each other. Talk about anything that worries you or ask your partner if there is something you can do to make them feel better. In a lasting relationship it is never difficult to create a special moment. The only thing you need is knowing your partner well and finding the right moment. For example, think of one thing that you can give your partner which they have always wanted. Small and insignificant moments such as giving your partner a backrub or cuddling in bed can make your relationship much stronger and you will feel more connected.

4.Reaffirm the commitment.

Every single day you choose to stay with your partner means you are making a conscious commitment. You have the will to find someone else, and the fact that you don’t is very important by itself.

Be aware of your own will to stay with your partner and think of the reasons why you choose to stay. If you think about the important things that make you want to spend your life with that person you will appreciate what you have... and nurture it.

final thoughts:

So What is mindfulness in your committed relationship ?

How does it work -- and can it really change your life?

Wouldn’t you like to have these questions answered, demistying the secret to living with a clear mind and an open heart i.e. to remove the mystery from it ; make it clear to both partners.  Claim who is yours!

Signs Your Partner Has Lost Interest In The Relationship!

Labels are not enough, to keep it REAL

Too busy to give you time

Giving time is something not many people deserve. However, in a relationship it is a way to show you appreciate your partner and that you love them. If you partner is too busy to spare a few hours just for you it means they have lost interest in you. When they avoid spending time with you and they would rather spend time with a friend than you, it is an alarming sign that your relationship is approaching the end.

Being indecisive

When they are not sure what they want from the relationship they probably are not that into you anymore. If you want to end it they suddenly want to be with you, and if you are trying to make things better, they are not interested. Don’t allow your partner to take advantage of you and confront them about it. In every relationship there are situations when you doubt your partner’s feelings, however if they are always indecisive it is a sign you need to stop wasting time.

They want to be the focus of all the attention

Every person has their own desires and wishes, however if your partner always puts their own wishes in front of yours they don’t care for you enough. This is a sign that your happiness does not mean anything to your partner. Once they stop caring, walk away because they will never bother again.

Blaming you

Regardless of who is to blame, your partner will always blame you even for the smallest things. If they are not open for discussion and prepared to admit mistakes your relationship is no longer healthy. Also, if your partner just walks away in the middle of an argument without even bothering to work things out, they don’t care for your future together.

Treating you arrogantly

You should never treat someone like they are below you no matter which person it is. If your partner treats you this way, it is a sign they don’t care about your feelings and whether you will get hurt. A healthy relationship involves partners that will provide each other a sense of security and stability. If there is a lack of this kind of understanding, the spark between you is probably long gone.

Being disrespectful

If your partner does not appreciate the things that make you happy and that are valuable for you they don’t love you. Also, disrespecting you or the things you have accomplished means they will never be able to treat you the way you deserve.

Being non-supportive

Being with a partner that is not supportive can be very unhealthy. Support is the key for a relationship to grow. Lack of support in any aspect of life is a sign your partner no longer cares for you or your relationship. Being supportive does not just mean you will say the same things, instead it is much deeper force that pushes you to become a better person.

Treating you like an outsider

If you are in a long relationship and your partner avoids meeting you with their parents, siblings or close friends, it means they are not taking your love seriously. This can make you feel like an outsider and the last on their list of priorities, which is a clear sign your partner does not have interest in your relationship.

Making you feel worthless

Everyone needs to hear they are doing okay at least from time to time. If your partner never praises your achievements and they only want to fight, it means they don’t care whether your relationship will end.

Their apologies don’t mean anything

Saying sorry means nothing without meaning it. If your partner repeats the same things over and over again, just saying they are sorry will never change the way they make you feel. A person like this can make you lose your will to fight for your future.

Final thoughts:
No matter all of  the above... the relationship started off on the wrong footing... things don't just turn 180 degrees. the basic foundation was not in place to keep the relationship interesting.  the chemistry was not right to begin with. Think about that next time.

If it's real "Love will find a way!"