12 Kinds Of Sex experiences Every Woman Needs To Have Before She Settles Down

Lets face it women in the 21st Century want to have the same experience as men before they settle down.

 

We men are sick of all these so-called relationship experts telling ladies the way to snag a man is to keep it in your pants, ( keep your skirt hem on your knees or below.) Listen, you prisses, not only are you way too old to be virgins you need to stop  acting like you are still one,  you sure as hell are glad you're not, aren't you? Holding out for some kind of commitment only makes you gals feel like your vagina is your primary value, not your self-worth as a person. Lame! (my version of  'act like woman and think like a man.') And what about your desires? Doesn't that matter? Frankly, you have to test-drive some cars, and ride a horse  before you know which one you wan to buy, if you know what I mean. No matter what kind of sex you're into, there are certain experiences I think every woman needs to have before she settles down. Go through the following to see what sexy stuff I suggest you get around to doing before you decide to buy the bull,  El Torro or whatever other names you want to call the dude you settle down with.


OK here goes my top 12:

1) Foreigner Sex (Every dude I know have tried this one, so why don't you women do the same thing.)
You can barely pronounce his name, but boy oh boy does he talk pretty, Right? Perhaps you’re traveling and he came over to you in a club and asked you to dance. Either way, don’t let the chance to have a fling with a foreign stud pass you by. Hey, it might just be your only chance to see an uncircumcised one. Being able to say "you are beautiful" to a woman in 4 different languages and being able to dance to various styles of music helped me impress almost every woman I introduced myself to even now (no longer in my prime.)  So test ride a foreigner, you like foreign cars better than domestic cars don't you?

2)“The One” Sex
You thought he was 'the one", but he isn’t. He broke your heart and you wonder if you’ll ever have sex this good again. I promise, ladies, when you do meet your match for reals, you’ll know this guy was a test of faith that made you (and your future orgasms) stronger.

3) Big D*CK Sex
You must hunt down and slay.... lay the mythical dragon penis.  Meet Mr.Big Willy 6'5" and well hung. if you don't hit it, you’ll always wonder how big is too big. You’ll have that gasp moment when it’s revealed to you and then you get to remember what it was like to be a virgin when he sticks it in. Afterward, you get to brag to your girlfriends. But, finally, you can put the fantasy that a huge manhood has magical powers to the rest. It’s just a Johnson, attached to a man, like all the others. And sometimes that man is an even bigger prick.

4) Not good  Sex.
The kind of sex so mortifying that you want to take a shower after, immediately. It’ll help you appreciate good sex and even mediocre sex when you have it.
Angry Sex/Hate Sex/Breakup Sex
Whether you’re angry because he’s a Republican and you canvassed for Obama, or you're totally mad at your BF and want to call it off, anger is one potent aphrodisiac. It certainly starts the sexy time off with a bang! It’s like naked wrestling where everyone wins.

5) Rock Star Sex
Which woman doesn't fantasize about being someone's muse? When you’re with some guy, you feel like you won a million sexy bucks. And then you feel cheap, like, two seconds later. But it always makes for an interesting story! So go for it, be someone's inspiration ... in bed.

6) Booty call Sex
You should know if anal is your thing before you settle down. Test it out with someone you trust, preferably a mild-mannered dude who will not Kiss and tell, who is gentle in the sack and who's also dispensable in case you don’t like it and never want to do it again. Because for dudes, once they pop, they can’t stop. And for some people, that  could become a  deal-breaker.

7) Girl On Girl Action
You don’t have to go all the way, but you have to at least kiss another girl, try it when you are on vacation, where no one knows you.
 It doesn’t count if you’re doing it for male attention; every liaison is best in private. There is a level of understanding yourself and your sexuality that comes from sexing it up with another woman, no matter how straight you think you are. OK author's fantasy overboard here.!

8) Age Gap Sex
Jump the age gap's bones. Bag a younger man and an older man. Especially when it comes to dudes, you have to comparison shop. I could make some sweeping generalizations here like your older man will lavish you with expensive gifts and attention, and the boy toy will have you screwing like bunnies, but in my experience that can be a load of bull. Test out men at least three  age groups, and you might just be surprised by what you find out about guys in general.

9) Being A “Top-customer”

Put the dom in dominate. Three words: woman on top. You totally dominate this sexual experience. It’s you, in control, doing and getting what you want. Bonus points if it involves leather! LOL.


10) Can’t Keep It Up Sex
Sometimes he drank too much whiskey; sometimes he just did it solo— whatever the reason, sometimes you can’t get him up for the night and you have to accept that. No hard feelings, no pun intended. You have to figure out how to handle your insecurity over the situation in a way that doesn’t make a man feel worthless. It happens to every dude. Let’s just be grateful all you ladies have to do is show up, spread ‘em, and party on!

11) Self Love
Sistahs are doing it for themselves! There is nothing more empowering and easy to do when it comes to your own pleasure. Masturbation is important for learning what you like and how to get all the way home. And it's extra fun to get the job done with a vibrating play thing. You just can't miss out on what technology has to offer your lady-flower! But with or without batteries, thanks to masturbation, you'll be able to help future partners give you what you want.


12) Browse through Niche Dating Sites You Didn’t Know You Needed

Now that Valentine's Day is on the horizon it's time to look forward, to shed past heartache and focus on finding someone special this new year. Maybe you've tried online dating? But perhaps the sites you're using are too general, and aren't helping you meet the right people. What if you really want to shed your city living and move to a Caribbean Island? There should be  a site for that. Or what if you're Jones-ing to meet a real life member of the geek squad? I can't help you find one of those, but a geek site might. Click through  your list of specialty dating sites that could bring you closer to finding your perfect match.
For Those who find Tony Hawk Attractive and Think it’s totally Okay that a Grown Ass Man. Has devoted his life to skating on a skate board. and doing flips on ramps.
 If that's what you're into, be my guest.

Fellahs!
In the end we fellas need to realize that Women these day are ready for almost whatever comes their way. So if you want to be knocked down and laid out  get in the path of her exploring years. Who knows she might make you "the ONE" she tries most of  her experiments with.

Dude! You don't need to know everything about her.

Are you dating a stranger? According to a new survey conducted by a British beauty retailer, 54 percent of men couldn’t rattle off their partner’s cell phone number, 12 percent didn’t know her D.O.B., and one in 10 didn’t even know her job title. Ouch. Maybe because in today's World you can have technology help with instant access to info, you don't need to remember some of this info. The simple truth is, keeping the names of her coworkers and her hair stylist straight isn’t always easy (or even necessary). There’s such a thing as TMI (too much info)—as well as a handful of non-negotiable(s). That’s why I determined 10 things you simply don’t need to know about her, and 10 things you better have memorized or easy access to.

(And don’t worry—I don’t know anyone who memorizes phone numbers these days, either!)

"I always wonder if the adviser takes his/her own advice.... Is the author if this blog in a relationship?" Just wondering ~a secret admirer.  FYI, here is what I've learned  these are lessons from my own successful relationships and one marriage, which ended in divorce. But we remained friends afterwards until we both moved on wishing each other well. That's what you do when you truly love someone. You want them to be happy, with or without you. But like most people it was the failed relationships that hurt the most that taught me the greatest lessons.

10 Things You Don’t Need to Know About Her:

1. Her Favorite Designer
Can’t tell the difference between Tory Burch and Rag & Bone for the life of you? That’s OK: Recognizing a new dress or top (and complimenting her on it) goes a lot further.

2. What Her Perfume’s Called
That’s why she has aBFF—and if the perfume bottle’s running low this holiday season, just call her for the name.

3. Her Favorite Makeup
Sometimes a little mystery is good. Wouldn’t you rather believe she looks and feels awesome all the time because that’s just the way she wakes up looking and feeling every morning?

4. When or What She Gets Waxed
Same deal—a trip to the “spa” is all the information you need.

5. Her Hair Stylist’s Name
Part of being together means having your separate interests, too. Some names are must-knows; others leave you sounding like a character from Legally Blonde. This one falls in the latter category.

6. Her Best Friend’s Latest Boyfriend Drama
If she’s venting to you about her BFF’s latest crisis, listen. But know that by no means are you required to remember this information—or cut ties with the guy because of it.

7. If It’s That Time of the Month
Unless you’re trying to get her pregnant—or worried she might be—don’t worry about her cycle. If she’s in a bad mood, you’ll blame that weird thing called PMS, and she’ll lose it.

8. Her Ring Size
If you’re at the point where you need to know, you probably already do. Otherwise, there’s no need.

9. The Names of All Her Exes
Knowing she’s got an ex-husband or was in a 10-year relationship can be useful information—and explain a lot about why she is who she is. Details about the DJ, the guy she met on spring break, or the Pro athlete she dated simply aren’t necessary or wanted.

10. Her Salary
Until you’re serious—splitting finances, living together, paying for kids’ education—knowing the number of zeros on her paycheck shouldn’t matter. And remember: Picking up the tab should never be a matter of who makes more.

. . . And 10 Things You should know:

1. Small, Medium, or Large
You’re signing the two of you up for a race, and the free T-shirt section needs her size. If you order a small and it’s too small, she’ll feel—well, large—but if she thinks you think she’s a medium (when she’s clearly a small), you’re in the doghouse. Just ask.

2. Where She’s From
Whether she’s a born-and-bred St. Martiner, a New Yorker at heart, or a small-town European, her hometown matters. It probably says a lot about how she grew up—and how she’ll continue to grow.

3. Where She Went to School
Same reasoning: It’s important to her. Plus, it was four really fun years of her life that you may or may not have been present for. Mix up the University of Kansas with Kansas State, and you’ll never hear the end of it.

4. The Names of Her Parents, Siblings, and Best Friends
She talks about them enough, so you should be able to remember their names. Bonus points for coworkers and bosses.

5. How to Cheer Her Up
Knowing the quick fix for a bad day is good for both of you. If a pack of Oreos, Homeland on DVD, or takeout from her favorite Chinese place can brighten her up, you’ll see the rewards, too. The little things show you notice—and care.

6. The Signs of a Bad Mood
Being able to pinpoint bad mood warning signs she doesn’t even notice—ie: her voice when she’s hungry, or a less than enthusiastic response to a text—relay that you’re learning about her . . . better than she may even know. Plus, you’ll be better equipped to handle what could be coming your way.

7. Her Middle Name
If her doctor, employer, and credit card company know it, so should you.

8. Her Favorite Music
And make it an option on long car rides.

9. What She Doesn’t Eat
Take her to a steakhouse when she’s told you twice that red meat’s not her thing, and you’ve signed yourself up for an awkward date and a “do you even listen to me?” conversation.

10. Her Favorite Flower
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Fight with a woman the smart way!

Truly passionate sex beats obligatory makeup sex any day. Maybe men don't know the difference, but  women do. They say they hate fighting—it makes them feel alienated, confused, and downright disappointed.

So Fellas, the next time she  bite your head off, don't rush to pack up your CDs. Experts insist that squabbling (but not screaming) is a healthy sign. It's silence that should scare you. We guys might think everything's okay since they're not arguing much, but that can really mean she's over the relationship and planning her exit strategy," How do I know? Trust me I know this,  because it happened to me..

You need to know what her fighting words mean. What follows is 'classified intel from behind enemy lines' code breakers that can lead to a cease-fire, they pay off in a peace treaty that will make everyone happier. If they feel closer and more intimate after each resolution, that's more nakedness for you.

Take notes: or just save this blog in your favorites. It will come in handy in the future. break it down so that you can see which is which.

1.) The Attention Fight

Opening Volley: "We don't go out anymore."

It Means: She's nostalgic. She wants her husband to sit across from her, thinking she is attractive, share her food, and realize she still feels what she did before  she became a wife and mother

Battle Tactics: Once a month, surprise her with a real plan. If you've gone a whole month without proffering flowers, compliments, or a special date, you'll have a problem. What's Personality Got to Do with It? Do something she'd like, but give it a spontaneous twist. Go for a walk, but take her to a sight she's never seen. Or book a babysitter, then lead her through a night of surprises—without prompting
Men like familiar places, but women respond best to novelty"

What You Win: Dinner counts as foreplay. Really?? Women like to be shown off.,Men should hear this as a compliment. Avoid getting defensive, and realize she needs attention or loves PDA with you. You'll come home and have a great evening.


2.) Your Friends Fight

Opening Volley: "What's with the morons in your fantasy baseball league, anyway?"

It Means: She's questioning your judgment. Criticizing how men spend time with their friends implies that they're irresponsible in making choices. meaning your partner is nervous about your decision making with regard to the two of you.

Battle Tactics: When she disses your buds, it feels like a personal insult, because friends are directly tied to identity and ego. Hold your ground and try this sneaky attack: Invite her to an event with your friends,. She doesn't really wants to spend time with your friends, but a lot of this has to do with her not wanting to be the invisible girlfriend or wife, and knowing you're not cheating on her.

What You Win: Peace. Once she's out, she'll realize your friends are harmless geeks, and she'll never want to join you again.  Include her in one of your regular pool or bowling nights—and let her pick her team. Competition—either with or against each other—is well established as an aphrodisiac.


3.) The Money Fight


Opening Volley: "Do you really need another gadget?"

It Means: She's implying a lack of responsibility on your part. This raises issues of control and insecurity, and highlights both partners' need for order. Women tend to be more security-minded than men, so you probably have different tolerance levels for spending.

Battle Tactics: Schedule budget talks. Have a sit-down with paper and pencil (or computer and software) to go over spending and debt levels. Negotiating lets her discuss the issue—but as you sympathize, make your case. Use "and" statements rather than "but" ones. "I understand you're nervous, and I also want to buy this new plasma TV. Lets  figure this out together."

What You Win: You get the TV—as long as you set aside a few hundred for something she wants. a big purchase as something that will compete for your attention. If ever there were a time to splurge on a pair of $200 jeans for her, this is it. She'll think of you every time she wears them,, which lets you make love to your plasma all you want.


4.) The Intimacy Fight

Opening Volley: "Why does everything have to be sex, sex, sex all the time?"

It Means: It's not about sex. She's lacking intimacy, excitement, novelty—all those things that made your early days so darn exciting. She may feel that sex is now more about your enjoyment than something mutual.

Battle Tactics: Research shows that the female snuggle impulse is also her aphrodisiac, so take an honest look at your attempts at intimacy. Do you assume that a shoulder rub must always lead to the bedroom exercises? Ask what she needs from you in order to feel close—it could just be more snuggling or listening.

And leave sex out of the discussion. Don't assume you know what 'affection' and 'love' mean to her,"  "Simply say, 'What do you want? Please tell me, because I want to give it to you.' " Find out what intimacy means to her, then provide it......


5.) The Kids Fight

Opening Volley: "Why can't you spend more time with the kids?"

It Means: She feels like she's doing all the work. The typical scenario is that the woman feels as if she's lost her wits dealing with the kids all day, and her husband comes home from work at night and shuts down, He removes himself from household responsibility and doesn't understand she's been working all day, too.

Battle Tactics: If she's punchy from a long day, don't plant yourself in front of the Pistons vs Lakers game. Nothing will change until you help with dinner, laundry, or homework. When it comes to chores, both of you should act the way you would at your jobs: Delegate, budget, and set deadlines. "Men have the ability to prioritize like this at work, so why not apply these sensibilities at home? "If your report isn't handed in on time, the boss will ask for it. If you aren't contributing to a meeting, your team will be livid."

What You Win: A calmer home, kids who actually like their father, and, after they go to bed, watch the last quarter of the Pistons vs Lakers game. Which is the best part anyway.


Last: Start by Defusing an Explosive Argument

Don't ask "why" questions. This creates an emotional response and puts her in fight-or-flight mode,
 Other questions are fine, especially if they show an interest in "how" or "when" the two of you can solve the problem together.

Don't assume she's basing her decisions on emotion. There may be plenty of logic behind her reactions, though these reactions may be charged with stress and contention. And for goodness' sake, don't tell her she's being emotional.

Don't cross-complain. Countering her bickering with your complaints won't work. If you're fighting to be heard, someone's bound to lose. It might as well be you.

Don't interrupt. Actively listen to whether she uses kinesthetic ("I feel"), auditory ("I hear"), visual ("I see"), or cognitive ("I think") terms—and respond in her language. She'll hear it more clearly.

Use body language. Touch her, lean forward, and maintain eye contact to show you're in the moment with her. 

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The best gifts.for the season is expressing Gratitude

With budgets pinched this holiday season, many people are thinking of cutting back on  gifts–to,friends, partners, co-workers, clients, or customers. If you’re one of them, consider making a gift that doesn’t set you back to much, but could advance your working relationships—either near-term or over time. Here are some examples.

1. Say “thank you.” Expressing gratitude to others for the things that they do for us makes them feel appreciated and validated. That makes them more likely to do good things for us in the future. We then know we can count on them. It’s a win-win. So make a New Year’s resolution to actively thank people for a job well done – no matter how busy you may be.

2. Give out compliments. When we compliment others, we can build rapport and create a meaningful connection with them. But they won’t have this effect unless they are genuine. If we actually feel jealous, for example, our compliments will fall flat. Others will notice, through our non-verbal communication (such as a fake smiles or lack of eye contact), that we don’t mean it. Remember that elevating others does not mean bringing ourselves down.

3. Celebrate successes. Take the time to learn about accomplishments and special moments. Then offer hearty congratulations. We all like to feel important.

4. Share information. Give people information that helps improve their health, finances, relationships, spirituality, or other areas in their lives. You will have the satisfaction of doing a good deed, and someday you may receive one in return.

5. Offer recommendations. Putting in a good word can help people in their personal or professional lives. Be willing to recommend others, and they will likely speak highly of you, too.

6. Show you care. Communicate to others your concern and support. Sometimes we may not have relevant information or resources to help them, but just showing that we care can be a valuable gift in itself.

7. Be respectful. Showing respect for others is a great gift. When people feel respected, they become engaged, open and receptive to what we have to say, rather than getting defensive. And chances are the respect will be mutual.

8. Smile with warmth. The first thing we typically hear when someone takes our photograph is, “smile.” That’s because a genuine smile has extremely attractive properties that people want to preserve and treasure. When we smile with sincerity, we transmit a visual image associated with kindness, warmth, happiness, approachability and trustworthiness. When we frown, we transmit an image associated with coldness, sadness, anger, discomfort and discontent. While a smile attracts others, a frown makes them want to run the other way. So we should all smile more often.



9. Make people laugh. Humor is a great gift for several reasons. It gets attention–people like to be entertained and naturally gravitate toward whatever entertains them. It causes people to laugh and relax, and someone who is relaxed is more physically capable of understanding us. And using humor can make the things we do and say more memorable. People tend to remember things that make them laugh.

10. Pay attention. Many of us listen to others, just waiting for our turn to speak. It’s a gift to focus exclusively on the needs and interests of the other person. In fact, it’s the ultimate example of giving without expecting anything in return.

When I was married a learn some very valuable lessons, do things early and prevent having to go crazy because you procrastinated and can't find the gift you wanted to buy for your significant-other. Alicia Keys sings "this Girl is on Fire

" now I can sing " This dude is on fire" because I'm ready for Christmas, my shopping is done. Signed sealed and will be delivered on time. The bubbly will also be chilled in advance.

How To Heal Broken Dreams in the New Year

We’ve all been ‘broken’ at one time or another. Relationships have fractured, hearts have been dislocated and even our feelings have been sprained. Often it is the internal wounds that take the longest to heal. In those times where the pain seems too much to cope, keep these keys in mind and embrace the healing process. Dreams may break, but we don’t have to remain an every day experience. This guy finished the race  with a broken leg. He was determined to let his dreams propelled him to continue to complete his leg of the race.

As we come to the close of another year, those on social media, like Facebook, know all too well what is about to take place. You’ve seen it, those grandiose posts declaring what the next year will bring for them. Some say prosperity, some put the friend list on notice that it’s time to ‘clean house’ and get rid of the negativity. Unfortunately, most of the chatter will never be followed up with actions. (I've seen my youngest son do this.) For whatever reason, we all seem to be fascinated with big promises, but know little of what to do to make it happen. try practicing yoga and breathing for mind and body healing.

Several years ago while playing football (soccer) I took a messy fall because a defender slide tackled me , that left my right knee in need of much rest. The doctors told me I was fortunate that I didn't need surgery. My knee was not  injured in such a way that time would not heal it, but if I did not rest it I only would make the process harder. As I begin to see the rumblings of the new year approach, I can’t help but think that some are just frustrated because somewhere along the line, they suffered a ‘fracture’ and it was never treated properly.
In life, just like in medicine, we need a professional to get us back on track. Here are a few things we all can use to speed up our recovery:

    When you’re injured, get a professional diagnosis immediately: Often we feel we are strong enough to fix ourselves. While that is admiral, it is also foolish. We are surrounded by people who have the qualifications to address our issues. The problem is we don’t show up. When I hurt my leg, all my friends had their own ideas of what was wrong. But when the pain is personal, you have to get it right.When it comes to relationships its a matter of Healing broken dreams you had with someone you thought was the "one".. how you deal with it should be finding ways to heal what's inside.Learn to relax and avoid having angry thoughts whenever something about that person creeps into your mind.

    Remember, treatment will hurt but it is necessary: Until the medications kick in, every little thing the doctor did hurt badly, and when ever the weather changed I was reminded that I hurt my knee. (Like now whenever the Christmas holidays roll around I'm reminded that i will not be sharing my holidays with the family I spent years building) Even the brace that was supposed to stabilize my knee was unbearable at times so I didn't wear it unless I  needed to do something that could make it hurt. It’s funny how the things that hurt us the most are really setting internal things right. Don’t let the process and occasional pain deter you from getting what you need. Do the little things constantly, its just like practice drills. work on  your self healing drills mentally all the constantly.

    Utilize your support system during rehab: Only a few days after my injury I watch my friends play the game I loved since I was 6 years old , I was irritated to say the least. I was forced to stay on the sideline and rest my knee . What I found in rehab was a group of people who had suffered many variations of injuries just like mine. We had a common bond and when one of us was in pain or discouraged, there was a network of people cheering you on. In life, you need to be connected to people who’ve suffered, but are ready to make a comeback! But be careful they might be cheering you on to commit murder.

    Your biography doesn’t have to determine your future:  Little by little my knee gained strength. I was having fun with new peeps at rehab and even found I needed the pain medications less. Then as quickly as it began, my rehab visits were done and it was time to put it all to the test. I will admit, that first full day out of my apt. back unto the busy streets of NY city was scary. Would I make it  up the stairs if the elevator was not working again? Would my knee just give out? I had to gear up mentally and remind myself I was totally healed and ready for action, if i just believed. Remember that whatever happened in the past is over, and you can now paint a brighter future.

Just Listen to what she has to say!

LISTENING is the simplest relationship booster on the planet. Be a better listener, be a better friend. I did some research and found five pillars in a book Power Listening. It  may have been written for the board room, but I think the tips work just as well in the bedroom or at the dinner table.

1. Show Respect
With business, you won’t get the information you need if you don’t show a little regard for your conversation partner. With women, she simply wants her point to be acknowledged. She knows you may not be interested in what she has to say or will follow her suggestions, but simply lending an ear (especially to the pointless stories) is a sign of appreciation and attentiveness.

2. Keep Quiet
With business, if you can keep quiet 80 percent of the time, you will be surprised by what you learn. With women, try to avoid “fixing” her problems. It’s a man’s instinct to be a problem solver, but most of the time women talk to vent, not to find a solution. She may just want you to sympathize with her.  “It is very difficult to listen if you are talking.” my new favorite slogan is: "You learn much more by listing, than you do by talking." let her feed you, she will appreciate the trust, and if your mouth his full you can't talk.

3. Become the Master of the Question
With business, leading with your opinion or stressing your point of view won’t make you better informed. With women, asking questions proves you’ve been actively listening instead of simply hearing what she said. You don’t have to ask a lot of questions, you just have to ask the right ones. Like: "So what are you going to do?"

4. Be Prepared to be Surprised
With business, a good listener is open to challenging their firmly held beliefs so they aren’t blindsided by something new. With women, a man can never assume anything either. What holds true for one of the women you know doesn’t necessarily apply to the rest of the pack. Preparing for a a unique point of view can prevent a lot of foot-in-mouth action on your part.Trust me I have tried to fit my size 11.5 in my mouth so often that I have learned my lesson, that it is the most uncomfortable exercise.

5. Keep your focus
In business, emotional distractions can derail a productive discussion and can keep you from getting the job done. With women, your attention is their only leverage. When you’re distracted they don’t feel like a priority. Devoting your energy to listening proves they can still make your head turn, even if it’s just with conversation.

I hope as the Holidays are here we men learn that a happy woman, to exchange gifts with is far better than one who is thinking about  dumping you before the new year, simply because you are not the attentive type she wants in her life.

Happy Holidays everyone!

Want to be HAPPY? Learn to shut-up!

When it comes to relationships, do you find yourself constantly saying the wrong thing at the wrong time? I've learned this the hard way, I'm now sharing my simple solution: Just shut up.

According to new research from Emory University, meditating can help you appear more understanding and calm her down. Best of all: You don’t need to cross your knees, raise your arms, and say “om” to make it work.

The trick is zipping your lips and focusing on her body language. Meditation increases activity in the part of your brain responsible for empathy by releasing oxytocin, or “the love hormone,” and looking at her body language also does the trick. She’ll perceive your focus as empathetic interest—and that could be just the thing to calm her nerves. She might stop Yelling at you, Fellas

Here are three ways to win her over without saying a single word.

1. Stare at Her (Without Being a Creep)
Every woman has her own ticks. The key is figuring out her normal body language so you can tell what isn’t normal—Is she about to go off on you -- a surefire way to pinpoint when she’s upset or stressed: is she  blinking: If she normally doesn’t blink much but you notice she’s suddenly doing it twice every second, you know she’s under stress. the tease are welling up and she does not want to cry.

 Some other things to watch for:

    Her voice: Pay attention to the pitch. It might be subtle, but when she’s stressed it’ll change.
    Her posture: If she moves her hands to cover her breasts or neck, she’s feeling vulnerable.  It’s her way of taking cover.
    Her lips: She’ll likely bite her entire lower lip when she’s upset. (On the flip side, you know you’ve won if she nibbles at a corner—a sign she’s aroused .)


2. Mirror Her Movements
You’ve probably heard that when people are in love, they tend to mirror the other persons movements. The trick works for arguments, too. Don’t go "Simon Says" style, but subtly start copying her—say, cross your arms if hers are crossed—so that puts you on an equal footing to talk. At that point, start de-escalating things. Slowly uncross your arms and after a minute or two, bring your voice down. If she doesn’t respond right away, slow down and try moving in closer to make eye contact. Once she follows your lead, briefly touch her arm or thigh to reinforce your physical connection. The slow de-escalation can be contagious—she’ll likely cool off with you.

3. Touch Her—But Don’t Overdo It
Get all touchy-feely when she’s in one of her moods and you’ll receive a swift slap. But if you sit close to her and face her, you’ll remind her of your intimate connection. Men and women see intimacy in different ways—women through being face to face, men through doing things side by side,  Make sure that your legs or hands touch, too:


Had I paid this close attention to these simple solutions and acted on them with precision, maybe -just maybe , I could have saved a few relationships that failed. "Experience usually comes from BAD experiences"  GHM (God Have Mercy) I've had my share. I hope I can remember all of them and avoid repeating them .
Remember these quote and you might remember key things in how to handle  conflict with the love of your life.
LOVE PROVERB
"Love me when I least deserve it, because that's when I really need it."
Swedish Proverb  

THE LENS OF LOVE 
"Love looks through a telescope; envy, through a microscope."
Josh Billings

WHEN LOVE BEGINS OR DECLINES
"We perceive when love begins and when it declines by our embarrassment when alone together."
Jean de la Bruyere