The do-it-yourselfers can do relationship therapy if they try

 You Can Do Your Own Relationship Therapy?

While most relationships have their share of ups and downs, very few couples are willing or able to invest the time and/or money that traditional relationship therapy would cost. In some cases you may live in place where there aren't any therapist available, period.

So this doesn't  mean that you have to be  less committed to the success of your relationship than other couples if  you don't use therapy, the couples that use one have different limits as to what they find an acceptable intrusion into their private lives (particularly when it comes to a third party such as a therapist).

The good news for those that find themselves in this particular situation - or even when one partner simply isn't willing to go into therapy - is that there are things you can do that can lead to self healing and repairing a relationship that may be damaged.

You can do this as one partner or as a couple, although it's much more effective when both people participate.   We've become a society of do-it-yourselfers, so it only makes sense that we should bring this idea into the more personal aspects of our lives rather than the simple home improvement projects. Now here is where I found success in the past I'm a do-it-yourselfer on home improvement projects, so when my lady is the type that sees things that I can do and request  them, I have something to do that is designed to please her.

One of My other talent is to be her personal-trainer, this promotes contact and setting goals together, in which you are playing a great roll in helping her feel great about herself.

Positive thinking is the greatest place to start. Whenever the roads of romance become a little too rocky for comfortable travel, it's time to take a step back and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place.

So take a moment and take over the kitchen,  this is always a way to connect and make each other happy for the moment you can build on it, because you have set the foundation for the road back to each other.

Try some of these others if you are not a handyman type, or a good cook.
Make a list, write a letter, write a poem,  or take a few minutes to hold each other and dance.-1-2-3- dip, or Salsa for people with two left feet. Funny to look at but very affective because you are laughing with each other while you learn the steps.
Remind each other of the wonderful person you are when unencumbered with the worries of the world, children, finances, and the world outside the circle of your arms.

There are many different styles of self-therapy that you can use. You may want to check out some books on the various styles and read them together for advice, guidance, and perhaps a little insight as to where your specific problems may lie and the best path to take in the future.

Role-playing is another great way to obtain valuable insight as to how you perceive your partner as well as how he or she sees you. Personally I like playing the Butler Benson. which is an old TV show of a smart-ass butler who really bossed his bosses around. But being a server can be a perfect way to make your mate appreciate what you are offering. You may learn a lot about how the English language is woefully inadequate at conveying precise messages. Example: She says "Honey could you bring me a glass of wine" Translation in my mind wine makes her horny... So if I serve it to you in a larger glass, on the patio, you will be giggling in no time. so instead of saying "Get it yourself," I say " We only have red wine, it is just the right temperature, I will be right there, give me a second" and I serve it wearing a waiters vest.
This is better than You  intending to say one thing and your partner may hear something else entirely. It's important to learn how to communicate with one another positively and accurately. Working together through self-therapy and role-playing can help you achieve that.

One highly recommended style of relationship therapy is known as the Imago, which is Latin for 'match' style. You can find many books on this topic either online. The important thing is that you take as many steps as possible together........

Here are a couple of links that can help you reconnect: What sex life? , Infidelity
A different version of unfaithful is when a man does it he is "a cheater" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2BC7hy1ZqJ4&feature=related
Part II ending the marriage and finding a way to reconcile and remarry. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VaNfgvSG73s&feature=relmfu