Does she want to live in a Glass Castle?
Here are four (4) reasons why dealing with women who put up emotional walls is the worst and one that
smart men are openly, willingly and continually working on dealing with.
1. She wants to manage what happens next.
But this sense of control is a myth. Because in reality, things play out like they’re going to
and you have far less power over other people than you imagine (or you’d like).
There’s a sense of If I ___, then she will ___ that’s such a myth. You just can’t predict or control other people’s behavior.
(let that sink in for a minute)
2. She has an easy defense mechanism.
If she cuts you out of her life or deem your relationship not “real,”
you can’t hurt her. Approaching relationships like this means that she misses out on vulnerable,
wild abandon in love. It’s actually not that easy, is it? People are intricately connected and blocking
off one relationship usually affects another. And the pain factor is high on all counts.
3. When women put up walls today, she's acting as the person she once were.
And the reality is, that person doesn’t exist anymore. So your old mechanisms are protecting someone
who doesn’t exist and the today you doesn’t need someone else’s armor.
(And this new person in your life isn’t the one who hurt you. What worked then won’t serve you now.)
4. Emotional walls come from a legitimate place.
The reaction to avoiding hurt — physical, emotional, or mental — can be to shut down and to shut others out.
