2/06/2020

Men are more likely to say “yes” when they know they have the freedom to say “no”


I can hear the wheels turning in women’s heads: “ What does that above statement really mean”
It’s vitally important that women learn both how to ask and how to accept “no” for an answer.
'So you knew I would say yes'
Women have a sixth sense, it’s call female intuition, so they intuitively feel what their partner ‘s response will be even before they ask. If they sense that he will resist their request, they won’t even bother asking or they will ak just to prove that they were right that his answer will be “no” Bingo! They will feel rejected (either ahead of time) or the answer will confirm what they were already anticipating.  The man who is often clueless about how a woman’s mind works, will have no idea what happened- all this has gone on in her head… and internal dialog that isn’t just a paragraph but can be a book.
In sharp contrast, Men usually know when and what to ask for - and which will result in a “yes” before he puts the phrase out starting with the “will you”  question. A Man listens and hears what she says..... how a woman phrases things that are requests VS demands, and reacts accordingly. the following are some examples.
Wow! by  just changing my request from “could”
to “will we take a vacation this year,”
made this trip to the Caribbean an actual romantic vacation. 

His thoughts are...'she is sitting here next to me and wants me to get up and get her what she wants, interrupting what I’m watching just so she can watch what she wants to watch….
So, Not happening!'


No matter how long two people are together, they will hear one thing and think another, based on the tone of the request.


My thoughts.
The simple explanation is the difference between the “c” words and the “w” words.
For example: she might say, “ Would you take us out to eat tonight?”
She is thinking “I have no time to make dinner tonight”
A man hears the “W” word  and should instantly know what’s the real reason she is suggesting going out to eat, it’s not that she enjoys his company so much that she wants to sit across from him and watch him eat his steak medium rare.
Now if he says “no” he is in a lose - lose position, because her mind is already made up that she was not cooking tonight no matter what he answers. 
Just picture him hearing the “C” words “could you change the channel and “can you, go and get me something to drink?