Sign this contract if you are really committed.

Ladies....
If your soon to be husband went to a lawyer and had a contract drafted that read like this
would you sign it. Remember its a contract and your signature means you agree with every thing in the contract. This is different than a prenuptial... this is really a commitment that will be enforced that has penalties if you break the contract.

Wedding Vows contract.
Male
_____, we read in Genesis, "Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife," and in Proverbs "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing." He has ordained that the husband be the head of the wife. He instructs me, as the one who will be your husband, to love you as Christ loves the Church. It is my desire and delight to follow this scriptural teaching. To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, 'till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.With all my heart, I make this pledge to you.

male signature ___________________

Female
______, the Lord instructs me as the one who will be your wife to submit to you as unto Him. Our Father created woman to be man's helper. It is my desire and delight to follow this scriptural teaching. To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, 'till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.With all my heart I make this pledge to you
female signature ___________________


witnesses ___________________ _______________________________

Thats right your wedding picture goes here with you and your witnesses.

Here is another sample of what a commitment contract can look like.

Male

______, as we stand before both God and man, making public our commitment to one another, I wish to make it known that I recognize first of all God's authority over my life which is exercised from His loving heart. He has chosen me to be one of his own, and He is now my life. I recognize also that He has blessed me and entrusted to me your life as a free gift that I have not earned. In recognition of these things, ____ I purpose to love you with His love, to provide for your needs through His enablement, and to lead you as He leads me, as long as He give us life together, regardless of the circumstances. As Psalm 34:3 expressed my heart when I asked you to marry me, so it expresses my heart now: "O magnify the Lord with me and let us exalt His name together." To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, 'till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.With all my heart, I make this pledge to you.

male signature ___________________  

Female

On this special day, _____, I am reminded of the verse James 1:17 which says, "Every good thing bestowed and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of Lights with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow." With a gift such as you, I know that many new responsibilities face me. In I Corinthians, it explains "It is required of a steward to be found trustworthy." I cannot do this on my own strength, _______, but by God's grace and power working within me I desire to be trustworthy as your wife by following your leading submissively, even as unto Christ, loving and serving you in all circumstances as long as He give me life on this earth.To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, 'till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.With all my heart I make this pledge to you

female signature ___________________


witnesses ___________________ _______________________________  

Take your time don't rush start by     Pushing The Envelope

This was part of the reaction I received from posting the  contract on my facebook Wal

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    Angelique Pourier Yes i will sign it. cause i believe in marraige. It won't be an easy road but as long communication/ love/ understanding/ honesty it will last.
    

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    Bernardo Daniel Wow Angelique Pourier you read that really fast... This makes you wife for life material you move to the head of the class. Any fella thinking about asking you will be a fool if he does not jump to the chance to share his live with you until death do you part.
    

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    Mikkie Clarke-Richardson Will sign in a heartbeat! This should really exist
    

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    Angelique Pourier Well what's written there are more moral and values and i value them instead of material stuff. Material makes ppl greedy and relationship go wrong. If moral and value ain't there what's the sense of getting married any way.
    

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    Bernardo Daniel It might become a new B.A.D contract for the future. Don't intend to get another divorce.
    

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REASONS why getting Married will improve your life conditions

Speaking as a guy, which I often do, I know what men are like. When it comes to romantic relationships, we show about as much enthusiasm as my teenage son did when I ask him to clean his room.
So I get it. We’re emotionally crippled when it comes to forming lasting attachments with women, ready to tell our dogs in public how much we love them but finding any word other than the L one when it’s time to discuss the subject with wives or girlfriends. As I try to learn how to date again, however, I’m starting to have my doubts about these time-honored stereotypes—at least as far as I’m concerned.
Here’s the thing. I’ve gone out a fair amount in these Seven years since my divorce. And out of all those coffee-meets and quiet dinners, there have been a handful of times when a first date led to a second and third. At a certain point with the aforementioned group of women I’d made it to a third date with, I felt like we could legally be considered “an item” if not yet “a couple.” But the more I wanted to abandon all manly principles and settle into dating just one person, the more I found that women had in fact become The New Men and preferred to keep their options open.
It must be because I'm no longer that stud of a catch I was 10-15 years ago.

It was hard not to take all of this personally. I like to think that as a date, I was kind, funny, respectful, smart and at least somewhat attractive. So either I wasn’t quite as irresistible as I thought, or I need to stop taking dating quite so seriously. Or both. Whatever the case, I clearly made mistakes. By being manly and not leaping into love real fast, I ruined what could have been some really great friendships with some really amazing women.I wish I could appreciate the fact that this is a process. Not only does everyone want to have a little long-delayed fun when dating in their post-divorce life, they also want to be cautious about choosing who might become something more than a series of dinner dates. And it wouldn’t hurt me to simply enjoy dinner dates for what they are rather than always insisting they have to lead to something else. That's it, I get it now from fun dinner companion to friend with benefits to soul-mates. That's the order. not the other way around like it was when I got married the first time, women made you their soul-mates first then you were friend with benefits and after marriage you were dinner companions with a little fun now and then... I used to think that this was the shallow guy’s point of view but frankly, given my recent dating history, I can see that I was wrong. Taking time to just go out with many people and enjoy whatever experience they might provide.. I SO wish I had gotten my pilots license after taking lessons a few years ago, to be able to fly to other places like my cousin does who I just flew with in his 2 engine to Nevis and back. This expands your options, meeting new Ladies from other places could be the answer to find 'the one'.
If variety is the spice of life, you should explore your options in a variety of places. Meeting new and exciting people is only possible if you are mobile. Landing gear up and head for a destination that you know will grant you new and exciting options. Man, do pilots have it good.....

So having said all that, one might question. Why not just settle for staying single? Answer: If you want to live a longer life as a man you have a better chance if you are married. the following might explain why I believe this to to be true.

As a man you're susceptible to vice, if you find a wife, she'll save you from yourself—and improve your life—in a variety of ways. Notably, she'll . . .

1. Increase Your Pay

A Virginia Commonwealth University study found that married men earn 22 percent more than their similarly experienced but single colleagues.

2. Speed Up Your Next Promotion

Married men receive higher performance ratings and faster promotions than bachelors, a 2005 study of U.S. Navy officers reported.

3. Keep You Out of Trouble

According to a recent U.S. Department of Justice report, male victims of violent crime are nearly four times more likely to be single than married.

4. Satisfy You in Bed

In 2006, British researchers reviewed the sexual habits of men in 38 countries and found that in every country, married men have more sex.

5. Help You Beat Cancer

In a Norwegian study, divorced and never-married male cancer patients had 11 and 16 percent higher mortality rates, respectively, than married men.

6. Help You Live Longer

A UCLA study found that people in generally excellent health were 88 percent more likely to die over the 8-year study period if they were single.

Is it over or you are just hoping for the impossible?

So how do you make the decision whether or not to pack your bags and head for Splitsville?
 'The Plane is fueled and ready are you ready to leave Sir?'

You’ve Given Up Hope 
Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint. And hope is a like a bottle of Gatorade—it’s what fuels you to do the hard work necessary to keep the relationship running, like having tough conversations, making compromises, and digging up some seriously painful dirt. Without hope, a great marriage—let alone a shaky one—just won’t work. 

You Keep Bringing Up Old Issues
If you keep bringing up ways she’s scorned you in the past, that’s a major sign of resentment, Resentment often stems from one partner or both partners not feeling understood, or as if what matters to them is not valued. In order to begin to move past resentment, each person has to feel that they have influence in the relationship. They need to feel that their dreams, the things that are important to them, have equal value.” Do you hate that she spends so much time with her friends? Ask her why. If you learn that it’s because she wasn’t close to her family growing up and friends became important to her, you’ll understand that it’s not because she’s ignoring you.

She Acts Like You Can’t Do Anything Right
If she’s dwelling on the negative—criticizing, being defensive, or stonewalling—she’s not going to recognize the still-great things about the relationship or your efforts to make things work. There’s even a name for this state—“negative sentiment override.” If she’s in it, she’s 50 percent less likely to notice neutral and positive interactions, further sending the relationship into a tailspin, according to research from The Gottman Relationship Institute. (If you know it’s over, then you need to get back in the game. 

You Think about a Life Without Her   Daydreaming about a bachelor’s life? It could signal the beginning of an emotional divorce, if not an actual divorce. If you find yourself thinking about the alternatives, emotional detachment, negativity, and a loss of hope are setting your marriage up for failure.

She Keeps Things to Herself
Has she stopped talking to you about the small, silly stuff in her day? Successful couples know each other’s inner worlds. Not chatting about the little things is a serious sign of emotional detachment.

Start  Speed-Walking
Check the track for your exit.

Women look first at your attire and second at how you walk. So make sure to start your roll out by test walking. Confident people are not in a hurry. But there’s a difference between meandering and walking slowly with purpose. Always walk as if you know what you’re doing and where you’re going. so if you are ready to leave bring in Your secret weapon next time you go for a walk: Your dog. Not only do you appear more approachable with Fido by your side to the females out there,but it also indicates that you are moving with your best friend and you have made up your mind that it is over. 'Fido come with me.' Your wing man (dog) 

 Learn the word to this John Denver song if you are not sure.

Alpha Female Body Language 101

Here are a few pointer to becoming a confident female. i.e. An Alpha female is a Queen not a princess with silly issues.

Before I get to my points here is what the Alpha animal has that the rest don't...

The alpha animals are given preference to be the first to eat and the first to mate; among some species they are the only animals in the pack allowed to mate. Other animals in the community are usually killed or ousted if they violate this rule.

 Are you an Alpha Female or not? The following will highlight what you need to become one.

She always makes eye contact

First, let’s start with eye contact. Don’t freak him out, but make eye contact, let him know you are confident. In making eye contact, you are not only showing him that you are alpha, but you are making a connection.

Good posture

Keep good posture: In keeping good posture, you are displaying confidence, and health. If you did not have good posture, that would display maybe someone who is a bit older, less confident, or un-healthy. Go ahead and work on that posture!

use space

 Don’t be afraid to grab control of  space. To use the space around you states that you are an alpha female. You can start by putting the hat in the chair next to yours. Show him that chair belongs to you.

stand right

 Stand with your feet shoulder width apart, or more, just try not to look like you are trying to do the splits. You get my drift.

calm

 Alpha females are cool, calm, and collective. They are happy, and confident. Confident is good, but never become cocky. An alpha female doesn’t lose her cool, and is capable of handling the most difficult of situations.

Take center stage

 An alpha female will stand in the middle of a room, and chat with others if she chooses. So, go ahead, and stand in the middle of the room!

Controlled pace

 Don’t make jerky movements; don’t walk fast as if you are in a hurry. Pace yourself and glide across the floor with grace. If you think about someone you know making quick movements, as if they are in a hurry all of the time, it doesn't seem like it’s an alpha female trait, does it?

Don't complain  Don’t complain! An alpha female does not complain about every little detail in their life

keep your head up

Don’t walk with your head down! Keep your head up!

hands

Keep your hands out of your pockets!

speak

Speak at your own pace, and use the right tone of voice. Don’t speak quick, screech, or use gibberish.

Smile often with confidence

 Smile, make sure your eyes crinkle a little, and  show your pearly whites, so it looks genuine. A true flirt smiles naturally but please don’t do it all the time, or you will make us men  wonder.

Traits

Alpha females are intelligent , independent, and happy. They do not get  their feathers ruffled to easy, they don’t slander others, and they are comfortable in their own skin. They attract the right type of people into their life, and are generally successful. An alpha female knows how to be confident, not cocky. She expresses what is on her mind, with grace. An alpha female is on the top of her game, and everyone else's. It is hard to fool an alpha female.

She is someone that can handle herself in any given situation, and knows how to mix compassion into her life, without being weak. She is a true leader. A woman of her word. An alpha female will not break under pressure, and because of her psychological strength, she is often the one others go to for advice and support. She doesn't talk in an awful manner about others. An alpha female is wise beyond her years. An alpha female is true to her friends, and true to herself.

She is well mannered,at peace with her life, and very independent. She has pride, and she is happy with herself.

If you know an alpha female, be glad you met her. Alpha females as friends are true. An alpha female has a bond that lasts in thick, and thin. An alpha female will never betray someone that is close to them. Alpha females are rare, strong, graceful ladies.

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How to Date an Alpha Female, are you scared?

My K.I.S.S approach to meeting and dating an Alpha female. Make sure you are ready by following these 4 simple steps. 

Step One: Show her you’re not intimidated

Two of the main traits beautiful women are attracted to in men are power and self- confidence.So if a man is intimidated by a woman’s looks or status, she assumes he’s going to be intimidated by the world in general.  So you can make a powerful impression on a successful woman by simply approaching her with confidence and treating her as an equal. Make sure you leave a lasting impression. 

Step Two: Avoid clever pick-up lines
The less clever the opening line the better.Why? For starters, pick-up lines are unoriginal and usually pretty corny. Plus—if she’s as alluring as you think she is—she’s most likely heard it all before. Instead, open with a question about anything you can see, hear, taste, touch, or smell in the environment, . If you’re at a bar, ask her about what drink she’s having or inquire about other good spots in the area. Anything that gets her to respond is key because it’ll provide instant conversation. Just remember the K.I.S.S approach, Alpha males are never corny, try making her smile with smooth compliments not corny jokes.

Step Three: Don’t put her on a pedestal
If you’re approaching a woman who’s extremely successful, the last thing she wants is to be treated the way her employees treat her. Powerful women want a partner who is going to challenge them and make them feel like a woman, as well as an equal. Translation: Don’t be a suck up. If you’re impressed by her accomplishments, tell her—but don’t ramble on

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Warning signs to look for.
Even if your date isn’t decked in rouge, there are other dead giveaways that show she’s craving your company. Here are two more subtle signs she’ll drop that you need to pick up on, pronto.
She holds your gaze for a few seconds. Her arms are positioned to indicate that she likes you. If her arms are crossed she does not.

Step Four: Don’t put yourself down
Another thing to avoid in conversation: How much more she has achieved than you. “It’s crucial to keep in mind that relationships do not revolve around money, or comparing successes with one another. Putting yourself down or talking about how much more of “X” she has than you do just makes you look insecure.  Instead, highlight your attributes. Are you a killer runner? Bring up the marathon you’re currently training for. Are you a passionate cook? Then talk about that incredible dish you prepared for your friend’s cookout. (Bonus points if you ask her if you can cook for her.) And if you do in fact get those bonus points. Close the deal with signature dish she will never forget. My grilled spicey-chicken-kebab with green peppers never failed me.It will make her mouth water. 

The second time around is never like the first time

I would like to start this post with a little story (joke)

A man walks out to the street and catches a taxi just going by.
He gets into the taxi, and the cabbie says: "Perfect timing. You're just like Frank."
Passenger: "Who?"
Cabbie: "Frank Feldman. He's a guy who did everything right all the time. Like my coming along when you needed a cab. Things happen like that to Frank Feldman every single time."
Passenger: "There are always a few clouds over everyone."
Cabbie: "Not Frank Feldman. He was a terrific athlete. He could have won the Grand Slam at tennis. He could golf with the pros. He sang like an opera baritone and danced like a Broadway star, and you should have heard him play the piano. He was an amazing guy."
Passenger: "Sounds like he was something really special."
Cabbie: "There's more. He had a memory like a computer. He remembered everybody's birthday. He knew all about wine, which foods to order and which fork to eat them with. He could fix anything. Not like me. I change a fuse, and the whole street blacks out. But Frank Feldman, he could do everything right."
Passenger: "Wow. Some guy then."
Cabbie: "He always knew the quickest way to go in traffic and avoid traffic jams. Not like me, I always seem to get stuck in them. But Frank, he never made a mistake, and he really knew how to treat a woman and make her feel good. He would never answer her back even if she was in the wrong; and his clothing was always immaculate, shoes highly polished too. He was the perfect man! He never made a mistake. No one could ever measure up to Frank Feldman."
Passenger: "An amazing fellow. How did you meet him?"
Cabbie: "Well, I never actually met Frank. He died. I'm married to his widow" 


I'm reminded of this song that I grooved to back in the day. I never really listened to lyrics until now.

 As we move on from a previous relationship it is very important to 'close the door' first before stepping through another door. Why is this important? Our memories can screw-up the new relationship Royally.

• We compare everything our ex did with what our current does. Sometimes the current is better but by doing  the constant comparison we make them feel as if you regret leaving you old situation. Or worst yet you miss that person so much that you can't ever move on and deal with the new experiences... Life is about 'change.' Only Adam had a perfect mate. She was hand made for him.

Adam and Eve had an ideal marriage. He didn't have to hear about all the men she could have married, and she didn't have to hear about the way his mother cooked.

• For those who want to build  their new relationship as if the previous was the worst relationship ever, be-careful. No one new can live up to your fantasies. He or she will make you feel good  for the moment, saying and even doing the right things but they will screw up at some point in time, so if you build the pedestal too high they will tumble off and shatter into pieces.

• for those who believe it can get better than the way it was with your ex. You are also missing the point that 'Change' is the best thing that the world has to offer.  Use good logic to make a  sound decision : 

example: You are in a pickle. You are trapped in a 3-way hallway. Down one way is a room of ravenous crocodiles. The next hallway has a room of lions that haven't eaten in a year. Down the last hallway is a room of gorillas that have been trained to find your face and pound it.
Which way is safest? The lions. If they haven't eaten in a year they're dead. 


Don't trouble "trouble"

A couple had just been married. After arriving home the husband picks his new bride up and carries her across the threshold. Once inside, he pulls his pants off and throws them on the floor. Then he says to his wife to put those pants on. The wife says to him: "You know I can't fit those pants." He then says: "Now you know who wears the pants in this house." 

The wife looks at him then she reaches down and pulls off her panties and throws them on the floor. Then she says to the husband: "Honey, put on those panties." The husband says: "You know I can't get in those panties." The wife says: "And you won't until your attitude changes." 

What Happens when you touch her...... there?

If a man knows how to have an affect on her brain he will have more success in making her happy.

One of women's biggest complaints is that Men zero right in on the goodies and spend little or no time exploring other parts of her body. Which is a shame, because there are plenty of other hot spots you can touch, tickle  to increase her pleasure and yours. Consider her body as your treasure map --- 

Read more: find her erogenous zones

Start with  That Face

A woman's brain shuts down for orgasm. Commence the shutdown sequence by holding her head in your lap and massaging the area above her eyebrows with your thumbs. People carry a lot of tension in the face, and this helps them release and become more receptive to arousal,  Look for her lips to part, when a person is aroused, he or she will relax the muscles that keep the jaw shut.

Those Ears are made for more than listening

These are portals to two forms of arousal: physical  and mental.  Be careful here not every woman likes you playing with her ears. But if she does then Touch or massage the rim of her ear between your thumb and forefinger while cradling the back of her head with your fingers. (Ignore the insensitive earlobe.) As she responds, graze the ridge of her outer ear with the tip of your nose,  "Just hearing you breathe will turn her on,"  

That Neck

Brush your lips between her throat and chin,  mypleasure.com. The skin is thinner where the body flexes. The nerves and blood vessels are closer to the surface—that's why it's also a perfume point. You'll engage sensory receptors and trigger an emotional response. It feels very intimate to let a person that close.

Those Lips

Kissing is your entrance exam for the rest of her body. It tells her that you understand how to be subtle, no matter where you are on her body. You're also giving her a hormonal hors d'oeuvre, flooding her  brain's arousal center with pheromone-laden smells and tastes. Softly lick her upper lip or tug it gently between your lips. (read the signs) Deep red lips indicate arousal.

Her Fingers

During a movie or long flight, tease her palm; hands are dense with sensory receptors. Spread your fingers outward from the upper part of her palm, slowly moving them up her fingers. Do it lightly—touch-sensitive receptors in the skin respond better than the pressure-sensitive receptors inside (whose job is grabbing). It's discreet enough for no one to notice, but enticing enough to awaken other parts of her body.

Her Forearms

The inner part of the wrist is extremely sensitive to temperature. Try licking her wrist and blowing softly to create a cooling sensation—special receptors there are tuned to detect differences in temperature. (It's the site that moms and dads use to check heated baby formula.) And there are sensitive receptors in hair follicles: Any area with fine, downy hair is going to respond best to a light, almost nonexistent touch. Just stimulate the hairs and you'll give her shivers. Remember keep the music flowing...

Those Breasts

Pay respects to the nerve-rich erogenous tissue at the top and underside of the breast before touching the nipple. Your technique should be so light that it barely indents the skin. The nipple (which, like the clitoris, feeds into orgasm-inducing neurons in the brain) contains receptors, cells that adjust to varied stimuli, like the friction of a shirt or the moisture of a tongue. The longer you tease around the nipple, the more intense direct stimulation will be.  

Her Back

Knead the muscles between her shoulder blades and spine, and follow with light fingertip strokes. As you get lower and lower down the back, the nerves become more sensitive. Let your fingers drift to her sides, gently touching the sides of her breasts. During sex, take a back-rub break. Switching to a back rub is like, 'Wow, he's caring and considerate and not just all about sex.'  "Little does she know you are using the technique to last longer."

Head South The Back of Her Knees

Many women find this spot ticklish at first. Just wait. She probably is not aroused enough. Work on erogenous zones first. Cover the entire back of her leg, then trace your fingers down her thigh and calf and graze the back of her knee, using the full length of three fingers. A firmer touch can stimulate the pressure-sensitive nerve endings, in the skin as well, taking away the tickle. 

Those Legs

Researchers found that the mere expectation of touch triggers activity in the planning and motivation centers of the brain, crucial for building arousal. Women want to wonder, "What is he going to do next?"  "That mindset is crucial for psychological arousal and orgasm." Stroke her thighs. Breathe on her or brush your fingers very close, awakening the skin. This will transmit a very different sort of sensation than if you're actually making contact. 

 Okay, if you take the time to understand the effects of the above you will be getting down to business like never before.