If you are holding the right cards..... you just might find your match that you are looking for.

Most of us are seeking that "Queen" that matches us perfectly because we think we are a "King" of spades, hearts or which ever.
The vast majority of guys these days, think is is very easy for women to pair up. women just need to able to cook and take care of themselves and a mate... But yet there are so many beautiful, intelligent, kind  women out there that are UN-attached and are often alone!
Why is this, you would ask!

1. These women know their value and are not willing to give up those values to just mate with just anyone. they have high-self image, they know what they are worth, and also know what they want and what they don't want. their standard of living and careers don't permit them to just rub shoulders with just anyone.
2. They intimidate men who are insecure. some men prefer not to approach these types of women out of fear of being rejected.
3. They do not have time to envy other women.. they applaud their girlfriends who have found their happiness in marital relationships and have families etc... 
4. They are self assured and very independent. Not seeking to model their lives after anyone they know. 
5. But they are also afraid of failure. Which means they would rather wait for the right situation to present it's self than being a victim of a hit and run... joker ( yes, these are also in the deck of cards)
6. They are mostly focused on their careers. The man that steps up to her better understand her main priority is to be a Partner in her company and not to be tied down until she has made to the level she wants. 
7.  They are demanding...  Some men do not handle that kind of pressure well.. this is the shoe being on the other foot. 
8. Their priority in life.... is not necessarily to be found by someone.  They would rather be the one doing the choosing.
9. They may not care about their biological clock. They are not going to hook up with some dude just because they are moving past their best  years to have children.
10. They are confident that their time will come! They keep the faith that right moment will arrive, where the right card will match up with theirs and all will be just right.

Good wives are always fixing their husbands.....

You are always fixing me!

Being in a marriage is about more than a shared Netflix account. Pairing up is actually good for your mind, bones, and heart (literally!). Here’s how a healthy relationship can affect your physical health and happiness.

Marriage may mean stronger bones.

Research suggests that marriage could affect you to the bone—literally. A paper published in the journal Osteoporosis International showed that married men tend to have higher bone density than unmarried ones. The University of California, Los Angeles researchers also found that, while marriage itself didn’t necessarily have a major impact on women’s bone density, being happily married did. Female study participants who reported being coupled with a supportive spouse also had better bones.

Pucker up—kissing may activate chemicals that bust stress. Researchers at Lafayette College had couples kiss for 15 minutes while listening to music, the Associated Press reported. Both women and men saw a decrease in cortisol, the stress hormone, after the smooching session. The bottom line? Lip-locking with your loved one may just be the cure for a rough day.

Your spouse can make you more successful at your career.

Hitching up with a reliable partner might help you perform better and stay happier at your job. Researchers at Washington University in St. Louis found that conscientiousness partners led to higher salaries, more promotions, and overall increased satisfaction at the office for their mates. “Our study shows that it is not only your own personality that influences the experiences that lead to greater occupational success, but that your spouse’s personality matters too,” Joshua Jackson, PhD, lead author of the study said in a statement.

Women in happy relationships tend to have a more positive body images, according to research from Tallinn University in Estonia, Women’s Health reports. The survey concluded that no matter how close a woman is to her target weight, being a part of a self-reported satisfying relationship was linked to having a higher self-esteem about one’s body.

Your partner may make it easier for you to adopt healthier habits.

Your romantic partner may be able to help you change your bad habits into good ones. A study published in the journal JAMA Internal Medicine found that men and women were both around 40 percent more likely to increase how much physical activity they got when their partner did. Smokers were also about 40 percent more likely to quit smoking when their partner quit as well. In other words, if you want to jump on the health train, get your romantic partner on board, too.

Marriage can be good for your heart.

And not only in a romantic way. Research shows that married people seem to be less likely to develop heart disease than unmarried people. Researchers at NYU Langone Medical Center looked at surveys of more than 3.5 million people and found married couples had a five percent lower chance of having cardiovascular disease. Divorced couples could face health risks of their own. The surveys also showed that divorced people are more likely to smoke, a habit that raises the risk of cardiovascular problems.

These findings could change the way doctors treat patients. “If one of my patients is recently widowed or divorced,” Jeffrey Berger, MD, MS, director of cardiovascular thrombosis programs, said in a statement. “I’m increasingly vigilant about examining that patient for signs of any type of cardiovascular disease and depression.”

But that’s no reason to stay in an unhappy marriage, which research suggests can lead to an increase in heart issues, including heart attacks, rapid heart rates, and strokes. The results hold true even for those who have been married for decades, so only stay in a relationship that truly makes you happy!

"Endless Love!" 

We often see what the other person wants us .....to see about them, in the beginning!

Only people who are having an affair (co-workers usually)  look this much into each other in public...She is hanging on his every word.. Couples don't need to be this attentive they are going home together in a little while.....

The statistic that 50% of marriages end in divorce has been highly debated and disputed over the last few years, yet that number just keeps swirling around. It often prolongs younger generations' decision on when or whether to marry. Although the divorce rate varies depending on demographics, it can happen to any couple, and wanting to prevent a permanent parting of ways is a very real concern for most couples. While finances and communication have been cited as some of the most common causes for divorce, let's look at what happens the most

We all know financial problems and poor communication can cause marital problems, but what other threats are lurking in the distance?  

Lack of Investment

We think of investments in regard to money. But we forget about the time investment and education investment that we need to have in learning how to maintain successful marriages. Why do we think we don’t need any skills when going into a marriage? What other job do we sign up for without any training?  Include simply investing time in each other that may include 2-3 hours of your undivided attention for your partner and even  seeking out couples’ counseling and/or books to help you navigate the obstacles of a marriage (before the dominoes start falling.)

Un-willingness to forgiven                     

Our inability to truly forgive our partners in marriage is one of the major reasons that they fail. True forgiveness is when we are able to treat our partners as if the offense never happened which proves to be very difficult for couples. We are constantly reliving the trauma of past experiences which never gives the wounds the opportunity to heal.     

Not Showing Up for Your Spouse                  

So many things can happen in the course of a marriage. As we experience the ups and downs of life, it’s important that our partners “show up,” in some of the most difficult experiences whether that’s losing a home, the death of a child, or a sick parent. The importance of being able to ask your partner “What is it that you need?” instead of making assumptions. A major issue as the tendency we have to simply want to fix the problem (we men). Every situation doesn’t need to be fixed. Sometimes you just need to show up. Showing up includes being able to communicate that you may not know what you need at the time, but finding the opportunities to talk through these tough situations and be honest with your partner.    

Forgetting the Friendship                     

Somehow the terms “husband” and “wife” add so much more pressure than we’ve experienced in our relationships prior to the marriage. Often times, without realizing it, we forget about the friendship that was formed in the dating process and get so far away from it after the nuptials. that we approach marriage with friendship at the forefront and learn to be able to communicate with our partners from a friend perspective without always being so easily offended.     

Catch me if you can!

Unspoken Expectations                    

This is definitely an area that seeps into our ability to communicate  (or lack of)  but is a very specific part of the puzzle that is often missed. Not only do we ignore an opportunity to communicate our expectations, but we also begin to act on those expectations not being met “We come from different backgrounds and expect different things and never communicate that to our partners. Women never let men know how crucial security is to them. Women think men should know to provide, protect, etc., but it’s rarely discussed in detail. Some Men are being brought up in single parent households and have no examples of what it means to be that security!

There are many reasons why many ladies are still single!

Here are the common ones:

1. Search for the perfect man

Most ladies who end up becoming older single women must have waited in vain for Mr. Perfect and while the suitors kept coming, no man was ever good enough for her.

It was either the men were not rich enough, handsome enough, not tall enough, was not romantic enough or was not good enough in bed.

They build castles in the sky on the kind of perfect man they want, becoming choosy and dump the serious men that came their ways and in the end, the search would continue into their old ages.

2. Miss Independent

Many ladies will usually have at the back of their mind that career comes first in an effort to become independent. and do not have the time to get married when their mates were doing so.

They pay more attention to their careers and neglect their private lives but by the time they realize, time is far gone and they start running from pillar to post looking for any available man.

Some of them who managed to get into relationships fail to balance their affairs and professional time, paying little or no attention to the feelings of their partners even when their partners complain bitterly.

They are quick to tell any man that they are independent and can stay on their own without any man dictating to them.

3. Feminism

Most ladies have taken feminism to another level with their constant advocacy for women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.

They feel they have equal rights with men and as such, no man can tell them what to do. By so doing, they place themselves on a pedestal that makes it difficult for the men to approach them.

Some of them do not know where to draw a line and keep saying they do not need a husband to be fulfilled. This may be true but everyone needs a companion in their old age

He can leave now, I've been serviced!

4. The eligible men are not ready for marriage

Most ladies will quickly say that the eligible men are not ready to get married as some of them are either jobless or struggling to make ends meet.

5. Experience of past heartbreaks

Some women are very emotional when it comes to relationships and when they are hurt, they find it difficult to get past it and move on with their lives.

This goes to show that some ladies who have gone through several heartbreaks find it very difficult to ever give men another chance in their lives as they always tend to think that all men are the same.

They put on a very strong front once their relationship becomes a disaster, especially when they were expectant of marriage in the relationship.

6. Laziness

Some ladies are so lazy that they do not want to be involved in domestic chores. Many of these are either caused by their parents who either over-pampered them or refused to allow them to take part in household chores.

No way am I doing anything today!

Most of them forget they are women and believe as the world has moved on, men should also move on and not expect them to stoop so low to do the domestic chores.

7. Impudence

Some women are so difficult to manage that it becomes virtually impossible for any man to keep them in check, 

Such ladies believe they are always right and no matter what a man does, she would want to let him know she knows better than him.

Men want women they can control and not the ones that would challenge them in their homes every minute of the day. and night <smirking>.

8. Double dating

Most women who indulge in keeping many men at the same time find it difficult to settle down with one of the men because there are things they are attached to in each of them.

They erroneously believe they cannot put all their eggs in one basket and as a result, they get confused and end up losing the one person who was ready to take the relationship to the next level.

Many ladies spend most of their youths indulging in frivolities like partying non-stop and flirting around and when they are ready to settle down, the men would stop coming.

9. Family expectations

So families indirectly make it difficult for their daughters to get married with the high expectations they put on them and their husbands-to-be.

In some societies, it is known that getting married can be very expensive ans as such, men dread getting married from such places and in such a situation, the ladies would end up without a husband for many years.

10. Pressure from family

Some families also put undue pressure on their daughters/nieces to get married and take up some responsibilities in the home. The ladies in turn put pressure on the man they are dating to come home and do the right thing.

Some men would not like to with stand such pressures and for themselves, the sensible thing to do is to get out of the relationship fast so as not to be bogged down.

Unconventional Habits That Supersede All Others in keeping a happy partnership.

We’ve all read a hundred and one posts on habits of happy couples. The lists look pretty much the same and talk about similar ideas. This list I have for you is very different. It’s the habits I’ve compiled from many married people who are still married and that I’d practiced and executed myself  for about 25 years, so I know they work. No rah-rah, quit expecting to get what you will not give  and look-at-how-awesome-your-life-is with-a-spouse. Just cold, hard habits that will hopefully scare the pants off you and make you take action, to avoid getting divorced! 

Adopt one of these habits, and you’ll see a significant change. Adopt them all, and you’ll probably join the club-of-most-happy-couples at some point in your life. Read the list of habits, laugh, and say maybe next year, and I’m willing to bet you will remain unfulfilled. The choice is yours. I’m here to inspire and guide you; the rest is up to you. 

If you walk in and she looks like this,
what do you do?

Here are  unconventional habits that supersede all others:

1. Believing in the impossible, regularly. (dream big together)
2. Doing what you say you will do.
3. Waking up and doing the things that need to be done.
4. Chipping away at your dream (hers/ yours).
5. Giving for no good reason. (flowers are cool, but be more original when ever possible)
6. Solving the communication problems. ( never stay mad)
7. Recharging with a trip to somewhere you've never been before.
8. Meeting for lunch once a week.
9. Coming from a place of love, always.

What you believe will determine most of how your life turns out. The number one habit you want to practice to be happy, fulfilled and successful it to believe that anything is possible. Drop the pessimistic mindset that society has ingrained in us and have hope. Have faith that anything that may seem impossible initially only needs a few, smart people and time to solve. I mean, if you are going to read at night, then this habit is kind of non-negotiable. (your partner should be doing their thing and give you your space) 

Lock eyes during orgasms!

What have you got to lose? The impossible is where all the joy lies, and it’s what 99.9 percent of people are not prepared to do. Do you want the results of the percent who believe in the impossible, or do you want to be like everybody else? The choice is yours. 

Everyone talks a good game, but doing what you say you will do is also rare. The habit you need to practice from now on is to talk only about things that you are actually going to follow through on. If you want to go even further and become a happy couple then add this simple habit on top: don’t just do what you say you will do, do more than partner expect you to deliver. 

Have you ever noticed how the things that will change your life  the most are so very straightforward? That’s because success and achieving your dream together isn’t as complicated as you may have thought. There’s plenty of hard work involved but not a lot of complicated unknowns that require rocket scientists to solve. 

put in the work before you have to deal
with all the other stuff the new day brings

Get your partner on the same page as you are. 

You’ve all seen the ‘early to rise’ tip on some list of successful habits, written on some website, somewhere in the world. Let’s drop the half-ass-ed approach though and get specific. Yes, you need to wake up early and service your partner. The question is, are you prepared to do something crazy, like wake up at 4 am? Four in the morning is when nobody else is awake and when you can do three times as much work. But it’s not about working harder. It’s about capitalizing on the time when you can be most productive and satisfy her/him before you do anything else that day.