Is she or is she not smiling, is it her secret weapon?

Most women shudder at the thought of leaving the house without a carefully applied layer of foundation, lipstick, and mascara. Spending hours in front of the mirror and splashing on expensive cosmetics, as it turns out, however, could all be a waste of time. According to research, wearing makeup does little to boost a woman’s attractiveness. In fact, scientists say that the trick to appearing more attractive to others have more to do with a person’s facial expressions and natural looks—particularly their smile. If they have dimples they look youthful for many years into the future.

Studies show that people think they already know someone if that person smiles at them,from behind a mask, even if it's an absolute stranger. The theory: Scientists believe the need to bond is rooted in our evolutionary past. Survival was more likely when people combined forces, so humans acquired the smile as a way to signal friendliness and to induce an agreeable sense of shared history, whether there was one or not. Today, when someone smiles, a glum mood is lifted, an apology is accepted, a person's shaky self-confidence gets a boost, a deal is struck, a physical attraction is communicated. But change the cast of a smile and the consequences shift. A rival grins to get under your skin; a bully smirks to unsettle his mark. Understanding the nuances helps ensure that you send—and receive—the right mouth message. Here, some intriguing insights about this familiar gesture. Outer Smile, Inner Darkness Ironically, a smile can express contempt. Bullies—whether they're on the playground or in the office—may want the recipients to see their glee and realize their malevolent intent. The result is a conscious disconnect between outward expression and inner feelings. Other times, the disconnect may be unconscious, the result of pushing aside negative feelings. A person may have heard as a child that enraged feelings should never be expressed, so even the slightest inkling of anger is covered with a smile. The Most Powerful Expression Even a fleeting smile has the capacity to burrow deep into the subconscious of the person who sees it and set off positive changes from within. For example, a smile of just a mere four-hundredths of a second (what researchers refer to as subliminal priming) is enough to produce a mini emotional high in others; it makes people see things around them in a more positive light. Boring material becomes more interesting, or a nondescript picture seems to have more flair. Indeed, researchers have found that some foods even taste better when preceded by a subliminal smile. And what's more, these expressions are contagious: In one study, when participants were exposed to these smiles—even though they couldn't remember seeing them—their own faces mirrored what they "saw."

Tell her your truths.

A lot of times, men experience shame and shame is a part of disconnection. When we men feel that we are not good enough, which is an illusion, the idea in order for connection to happen, we have to let ourselves be seen. So vulnerability is scary, especially when we feel like you’re going to judge us. Let me repeat this. Shame is a part of disconnection. When you feel that you’re not good enough, the idea in order for connection to happen, we have to let ourselves be seen. So, vulnerability then becomes scary because underneath you being seen means that they’ll see thatwe are not good enough. They’ll see that you believe that you are not good enough. So then that shame causes your disconnection. So then that shame is the mask of inauthenticity, so we follow tactics. So we follow things that are going to be on the surface level, but don’t get down to the root, to improve who we are overall, so we can be the best person that we can be in our lives. but not showing our truths. The ability to feel connected is why we’re all here biologically. Life shows this. The ability to feel connected is why we are here. It shows. .wwomen often talk so much about conscious vulnerability and vulnerability. as a man I've not talked a lot about conscious vulnerability , especially with other men. I’m not going to say “talk sbouy all your feelings, show the girl how you romanticize her, bring her roses, bring her this,” heck freaking no. But what I will tell you is that if you have that underlying feeling of shame as part of your disconnect because of some trauma, failure triggers, things that you have hidden because you don’t feel good enough abou them, but it is alright to admit that your previous relationships have bombed but yet you think you have to shine, bling, get a great car, get a great job, be seen with these really great women and show off. If something inside of you is still not connecting because you haven’t been able to let yourself be seen because vulnerability seems scary and you are afraid you might come off as needy. So, what makes someone become vulnerable and connect to you? You may ask, and again,The courage to be imperfect, you have compassion to be kind to yourself more than others. The truth is if we can’t be compassionate towards ourselves, we can’t be compassionate towards others. There’s no way. So, I ask you today to choose courage to be imperfect and to figure out why you are hiding behind this? Especially if it’s hard for you to connect and be vulnerable, especially if we’ve already made the decision to think that vulnerability is a weakness.... because it’s not. Actually, vulnerability is a strength. I’ll tell you one thing here. I know what vullnerable feels like. You will feel relieved when you tell her what she should know about your secet pasts

How to Stop Being Needy and Get The Girl You Want by being vulnerable!

There are times where you’re probably wanting to share emotion and you’re scared that if you say something that you’re going to come off as being needy dude and that this is not going to get a woman to like you. In this post, I’m going to talk about exactly how to emotionally connect with a woman and how to really own your masculine power by understanding what conscious vulnerability is and how to not be needy. Because neediness comes from a place of scarcity and conscious vulnerability comes from abundance. I want you to not judge and have an open mind when reading this.

So if she is looking you in the eyes it shows you have her full attention So fellah What vulnerability is not, it is not a sign of weakness, but instead it might be your greatest strength. Now, there is such a difference between vulnerability being shared at someone’s expense or the expense of someone else sharing their vulnerability to be informative. So, vulnerability does not mean that you have to spill all your deepest, darkest secrets. That’s not what vulnerability is. Vulnerability is not that one thing that keeps us out of connection, it’s that we feel that we are not worthy. Vulnerability is that one thing that keeps us in connection. And then the reason why we sometimes feel like we can’t connect is because we think we may come off as needy and then we don’t feel that we’re worthy. We have this facade or this feeling or this dynamic or this mindset that this thing vulnerability will keep us out of connection and it’s not true. When we discuss vulnerability, a lot of times we look at connection as though I want to connect with this person, I just don’t know how, because we try to mask our vulnerability because we believe it may make us look needy. So, if we mask our vulnerability, one thing that keeps us out of connection is that we are not worthy of connection, and we feel that we’re not worthy of connection because it’s hard for us to open up. It’s hard for us to share vulnerability and with my friends, I always tell them, Share vulnerability in minor doses, especially if it’s not something that you’ve done before.

Is She Playing you?

If you find yourself asking yourself, “Is this woman playing with my emotions?” The answer is probably YES. Now, there are times where you can be in a dating scenario and a woman’s not calling you back. She’s saying she likes you, but then she doesn’t show any affection towards you and you’re thinking to yourself, “Is she playing with my emotions?” Well, in this case, she is just inconsistent and she’s probably not ready. The number one key takeaway here guys in regards to a woman playing with your emotions is understanding that you are capable of giving your emotions to the right person. When we start to give our emotions to the wrong person, it’s because we’re not doing the necessary work, because we’re not setting the tone, because we don’t know our standards, because we don’t have boundaries, right? And so we underhandedly try to prove to a woman that we’re the right guy, or we underhandedly try to fix the situations, try to resolve her issues, but yet we haven’t resolved what we needed to resolve inside, which is self-love, which is why are we giving yourself to someone who won’t appreciate us? Right? That’s the question. I Got Played! What Do I Do Next? There’s so much advice out there that’s like, “Oh, she’s playing with your emotions if she doesn’t call back.” Look guys, it’s literally just surface-level stuff. This is real simple shit guys! And I’m telling you this because I don’t want this to happen to you anymore. I want you to be in a vibrant relationship. I want you to be in a happy relationship. I want you to conquer the woman you want, get whatever it is that you want, and be the healthiest person that you can be. Now, if a woman is taking a step back and says, maybe you’re a little bit too much or too… she doesn’t want the same things you do at that moment. If she says something along the lines of, “we’re going too fast”, this is not playing with your emotions. This is being upfront. This is being very deliverable in her communication with you and that’s a sign of something you may need to work on with yourself in order to pull back as well. I’m not saying that you’re always the one to blame here, but the only thing is we are in control of our actions and how we enable other people. If the question “Is She Playing with My Emotions?” has crossed your mind before, and if you find yourself in scenario number one or number two , I challenge you to really dig deep within yourself and figure out if you’re putting yourself first. Or you are putting her on too high a podium.

"Hey beautiful You still look great."

Word to the wise, fellahs,

never use the word "still" while complimenting a mature woman i.e. "Hey beautiful You still look great."SMDH. If you think "40 is the new 20" is merely a cliché or a platitude, think again. At 40, life feels like it's truly just beginning for many people who spent their 20s and 30s mired in relationship and career quagmires. It may be that 40-somethings women find themselves in their sexual and fitness primes. And they may love themselves—and know themselves—better than they ever did before. Since hitting 40 looks good on some people, it's easy to give out sincere compliments that nod to the ways in which they're really living their best lives. Here are 40 totally spot-on things you can say to make a woman over 40 feel good. Being a great communicator requires nuance, finesse, and a gift for connecting with people. You can pay someone a meaningful compliment by telling them that they're great at it—that your words serve as a comfort to mature women. "If someone gives you advice, the best compliment that you can give them back is that their advice has been heard. Saying the right thing, that speaks to women at the right time, is not to be taken for granted, sotel that lady know!" Let a lady know that her individual viewpoint at 40-plus helps you see the world in a new and productive way. It's a well-known adage that great minds discuss ideas instead of people, so when you're able to have a stimulating conversation with someone, let them know, It's a wonderful thing to open your mind to new ideas, and when someone helps you do that, you should thank them for it. Let them know that their knowledge, life experience, and perspective is valuable to you. Just because someone hits 40 hardly means they're no fun anymore—though popular narratives would sometimes have you believe that. So pay them a compliment that shows them you know just how lively and magnetic they really are. Nobody wants to be perceived as the bore of the group. With this in mind, let people know that you enjoy their company. This is a great compliment for all ages because people like to know that their presence is valued. When you tell someone that their spirit is palpable when they walk into a room, you're letting them know they have a powerful impact on everyone in it. Everyone has energy associated with them. And there's a bonus in it for you, too. Complimenting someone on being positive and uplifting has a ripple effect, elevating your own mojo. When you tell a friend or a loved one how much you appreciate them, it can mean more than any material gift. Nothing is more heartfelt and genuine [than this] compliment that can be given in business or in your personal life. Expressing sincere gratitude for someone in your life is powerful at any age. Make your expression of gratitude even more meaningful with this phrasing. The reason I like this compliment is because it is more humanizing than saying, 'I appreciate it,' which just acknowledges a person's actions. Seeing people's intrinsic value is seeing who they are, not just what they do. By 40, people know that friendship is not just a happy accident. Meaningful friendships endure as a result of nourishing generosity, attention, compassion, and mutual love. So telling someone they're a good friend is an acknowledgement not just that you had the good fortune to meet them, but that you know they've worked hard to maintain and nurture an important and long-standing role in your life. Even a small dose of kindness can revolutionize someone's whole world. When many people are (or act) too busy to respond to others with active kindness instead of terseness, let those who are the exception know how much it means to you that they stand out on that front—and that you've always noticed. After 40, many people have finally liberated themselves from the pressures to conform to other people's expectations. Pay someone a compliment that acknowledges just how good they are at being true to themselves. When you do this, you're saying, "You hold no pretenses and I know what I see is what I get with you. This compliment is great because it celebrates and honors them being exactly who they are. In a glittery social media world, everyone at their core wants to know that they shine at simply being themselves." 'You are the whole package ladies.'

So how are we different..

a man might build a sauna just for his woman. Men and women display their love and affection in different ways. Most women say, “I love you,” profusely and often, while most men show their deep affinity in their some days to day actions. It can be confusing at times, but that’s because the truth is, men and women think differently. So, I decided to research for you and come up with a list of seven common sets of behaviors that directly demonstrate that the man is in love with you, even if he doesn’t say it. We truly believe that love is in what you do, not always in what you say. It’s easier to say, “I love you,” but true love is demonstrated in action. at least that is how men think. You know? 1. HE ISN’T AFRAID TO MAKE SACRIFICES FOR YOU. Making sacrifices for other people is easier to do when its for someone we care about. It takes selflessness, maturity, and most of all love. Relationships need a balance of mutual sacrifice or one party is left unhappy. Men who are in love feel tremendous discomfort at the thought of their lady being unhappy, and if it’s something they can prevent, they will. Sometimes they will even go above and beyond to make something work out, just because it’s really important to their partner. If your man can make sacrifices for your happiness, that is just one way he is saying, “I love you”, without actually saying it. 2. HE LISTENS TO YOU. Mmm hmm! Studies have found that women are much better listeners than men. So, when a man not only hears you but actively pays attention and responds – a skill called active listening – you can have confidence that he cares. 3. HE SHOWS HIS VULNERABILITY. Men are generally cautious when it comes to showing any behavior that can be perceived by others as a weakness. They feel that they need to keep a perfect facade of strength. But when a man is in love, he begins to let his guard down, a litle ast a time. He becomes more comfortable and allows his real feelings to show. Vulnerability can take time, but if he’s shown even an ounce, he trusts you enough to let his guard down around you. Taking it a next step further, if he acts on your conversations, he’s smitten. 4. HE LOVES HOW YOU LOOK EVEN ON YOUR “WORST DAYS”. Most people put effort into looking their absolute very best during those early dates. Women want to look and feel good when meeting up with a potential life long partner. But, once the actual relationship spawns and a woman spend more time with her man, comfort levels build, and their need to impress declines sharply. Wome are free to wander around in their pajamas, no makeup and messy hair. The big take away here is that when a man loves a woman, he’ll think she is beautiful no matter what she looks like. So when he tells you, “You’re beautiful,” when you feel like a mess, take it for what it is and remember that is the equivalent to saying, “I love you!” 5. HE’S PROUD OF YOU. When a man really loves a woman, he shows it by bragging about her. Yep, that’s right a real man isn’t shy about saying how proud he is of his woman. Whether you’re a fantastic mother, a hard worker, or achieving your goals in corporations, you can rest assured that your efforts don’t go unnoticed to the man that is in love with you. So when he tells you, it’s his way of saying, “I love you.”

6. HE STICKS UP FOR YOU. This one’s obvious one, but very important. First let's be clear, if he doesn’t stick up for you, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. This is a hard one. Most of the time drama and controversy can arise with a close family member or friend, therefore his loyalty is split. Most men like to avoid controversy, so if he defends you, that’s big and it’s definitely his way of saying, “I love you.” 7. HE TREATS YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS WITH RESPECT. This is the last one, but it is surely one of the MOST important. It’ s a given that in any relationship, a man should automatically show you, your family and friends respect. The reason is simple; he cares for you and he needs to properly treat them with care as well.

They want attention, but from who?

Most women know that the attention they receive has nothing to do with their smarts, education, or good genes... men pay attention to what men want from a woman... he might not like her very much because he sees her as a potention sex partner. However if he would tell her "the truth" that he noticed, and admires all of other beautiful qualities she has.. she might not feel it's the ultimate compliment. She simply might expect her packaging is enough to get her over on him. Women who work toward what they want are never stuck in a rut, because she si ready to go at it on her own. Men who expect women to see men as the next M.J. (money Jockey) and providers and contributor to her desired lifestyle will findout that nothing will last if it is built on "false beliefs" in the superfical wolrd.

Men like to have options to pick what they like, women likes to be picked by the man who has the resources to grant her the many desires she has.... Eve did not expect Adam to give her the World..... women who believes that men will be the ones to provide her with her likes, that he is her "rich daddy," will findout that a smart man, who does not have daughters will not fall for that super fictional charter she is dreaming to become. A man gives his daughter and sons his lastname at birth without knowing if his name will continue in the manner that he will be proud of. Many women want her new lastname will be the name that will Name her Queen, and man as to be a king to make a woman his queen... if he does not already have throwm he can give to her. a Prince can not make a woman his queen unless she is already a queen. A prince (in his mind) might be willing to grant a woman he desires a princess title.. but do not expect to become a queen. He cant give what is not in his power to grant you.

Final thoughts. One of the worst things the world has enbraced is the concept of living in a fairtale world. It's simply not realistic. Utilize your smarts to build what you want, do not expect to benefit from others hard work and efforts... You will become disappointed if the other person cannot fullfill, or is not willling to grant you..... your dreams and fantasies.

Her eyes will tell you the real story.

I used to think that beauty was stricly in the eyes of the beholder, but since almost everyone is wearing masks these days, I see smiling eyes, that are soft as she looks at me, her eyes are not just beautiful her hidden smile is also, we men need to focus on a woman's eyes to see if she likes us or not. Because if she does not it will show in her eyes and the way she looks at you. sometimes you will see a woman looking at you and then turn her head away to avoid eye contact with a man. this could be her being shy or she just does not want to engage in an encounter with that man.

But if she is mad at you she might keep staring at you without blinking and the dislike is instantly evident. Good luck to you if you miss the signs.

The following are a few things guys need to understand:

1. Guys who don't ask any good questions about a woman at all, means  who cares. You are not Halle Berry  and he is  not Denzel Washington. I think that's clear, right? Right! So then why are you answering all my questions like I'm interviewing you about the new Avengers movie instead of you asking her questions because this is a freaking date and ideally you'd care about who she is as a person, why?. 

2. When the woman is in the middle of a conversation and the man looks constantly at his phone. Like, "Oh, I'm sorry. I had no idea you were the King of Nothing and had to respond to "your many subjects" who all desperately need you to respond in the middle of her story about her grandma dying last year from COVID-19. Pardon me!!!"

3. Guys who never really laugh.  well I know some women do this also.... but seriously, what is this??? I swear we guys don't expect every single person on earth to think we are hilarious, but people who don't laugh at all ever or barely laugh like it's a kitten sneeze that escaped their mouth are confounding. Plus, if you never laugh at anything a man says, I feel like you hate me or you hate fun, and either way, that's a total turn-off. 

4. Guys who look anywhere but in her direction when women are talking to them. This would be borderline funny if it wasn't so insane. Like, are you checking out someone behind her? Is one of your contacts acting up and you're trying to move your eyeball around so it adjusts itself? Or are you just unable to look at her for more than 30 seconds at a time? Either way, call me crazy but if you're hanging out, it'd be somewhat chill if you looked at her even once. 

5. Guys who can't stop talking about one thing that honestly doesn't matter to the woman. Like it's great that you(as a guy) love your job or you love Crossfit or you love your WiFi response, but anyone who has one kind of "who cares" hobby and seemingly zero interests outside that one hobby is maddening to a woman. Because if the woman loves Crossfit too, then Wow yay, let's keep talking Crossfit. But if she don't and the only source of conversation you have is Crossfit, she's dying. You are  dead to her.

6. Guys who smell like they gave up on the concept of showering. I know everyone's body smells different and no one's perfect, but women have all gone out with that guy who is like, "Hygiene? What's hygiene? I am too lazy to shower," and women want to run from the table because the guy smells like a feral cat in a dumpster. And then it's also super sad because it's like, "We could've had something if you'd taken five minutes to wash your filthy, dirty body."The best  biggest compliment I received from a woman was that "my natural scent was very sweet" 

7. When he says "You're not like the other girls because _____." Whatever fills in that blank is always misogynist as hell because what are you even saying? "Most girls" aren't funny or cool or smart or into comic books or whatever other thing you're trying to compliment her on? Because guess what? All her friends are pretty much all the things she is, and you sound like a turd right now. 

8. When he asks you to hang out with him and his friends, and then makes no effort to include you. So then you're just stuck wondering if this guy even likes you and trying to talk to his guy friends who have no idea why you're there anyway.

 
9. When he calls his ex "the crazy b!tch." Like, dude, we know that the odds that your calling your ex crazy actually being code for you calling all women crazy b!tches at some point (meaning you'll one day call her crazy and a b!tch) are pretty solid. So women will not mess with you after you say this. 

10. When men give zero care about the way he looks. Okay No one is perfect, but some women  know so many guys who wear stained T-shirts they got as a gift when they were 13 that hold zero sentimental value and say some junk like "Corporate FunRun 1988" when they didn't even run in a FunRun, and it's not worn ironically. It's just a T-shirt and they don't care, which usually also translates to their poor-fitting jeans and janky New Balance dad sneakers with barely tied laces. Again, it's fine to not like fashion or want to just be yourself, but guys who just couldn't care less about being presentable on a date (especially when women are expected to do a ton of date prep) is a no.

 
11. Long, dirty nails. Ooooh HELL No. Not only is it just gross but also your chances of getting anywhere near her body with your dirty animal claws just went down to negative zero. 

12. When he lists all the movies/books/music he likes, and there's not a single woman on the list. Or he lists one woman out of 50 men and it's like, "Beyoncé," and you're 98 percent sure he just threw her on there so it would look like he also likes "girl stuff," which almost makes it even worse. Art made by women is the best and how do you not know this?!  

Unconscious biases can be a greater problem than we think

Unconscious biases are social stereotypes about certain groups of people that individuals form outside their own conscious awareness. Everyone holds unconscious beliefs about various social and identity groups, and these biases stem from one's tendency to organize social worlds by categorizing.

This is the real world... we are part of multi-cultural over laps. Men and women of differenct culturs come in contact with eachother, sometimes we fall for people we have an unconscious biases about. Then we fall in love with the person or maybe we think we do. But it could be so different if society was not caught up in biases and think that these connections are fedishes. These days, you can find numerous dating sites offering you a chance to meet your Asian soulmate.Huh These sites offer different functionality, prices, and variety of women. To make your search for your ideal Asian girlfriend the experience of lifetime.

Let's think about this for a second. Are there many Asian men flocking to these sites or are there more men of other ethnicities flocking to these sites.  so why am I writing about this? since the many attacts on Asians lately I started thinking about why this has become such a thing..... Maybe hearing the former President of the USA blaming the COVID-19  virus on Asian  mainly China.  but then again he blames everything on folks who do not look like him (thank goodness that not many people look like him) he will not wear a mask but he should because he is not that good looking. Just like many who admire him so much they are not the creme de la creme  either.   

Reasons Why Most Men Can’t Handle A Strong Woman These Days

What makes a strong woman in this 21 century? Among many factors, her struggles, sacrifices, and selflessness play a huge part. A strong woman has endured pain, overcome heart-wrenching experiences, and has allowed herself to be led by forgiveness. A strong woman has swam in deep and treacherous waters and held her breath as long as possible. This type of woman is self-sufficient, independent, loving, and has little/no fears of showing her vulnerability. If the woman you love fits the above description, consider yourself very privileged. The strong woman knows that one moment you are the teacher, and the next you might be the student. She understands and is okay with this, but sometimes the man in her life fails to share this understanding. So, how does a strong woman keep a man like this happy? Fellahs can you handle a strong woman in your life? 1. A STRONG WOMAN DOESN’T NEED A MAN TO FIGHT FOR HER. Most men needs to feel wanted. Men need to know that they are battling for the eternal love and admiration of his woman. A strong woman will show you that she loves you, but she’s also independent and can manage on her own. The strong woman is willing to fight for both of you, but she doesn’t need a man to fight her battles for her. If she has a problem, she triess to deals with it. A strong woman doesn’t sit and wait, as a victim, for a man to find the solution. Some men can’t handle this strength. If you choose to remain with this type of woman, be willing to walk beside her . . . not in front of her, pulling her to where you think she should be. 2. A STRONG WOMAN KNOWS WHAT SHE WANTS. Strong women know what they want, how to attain it, and remember all that they had to endure to get whatever they have. A woman like this knows what she wants. If she likes a man, she will go after him. She will not wait for the man to make the first move on future plans. Strong women have tenacious personalities that can be extremely intimidating for some men. They aren’t submissive. They love wholeheartedly and also can continue exploring the world with a man or not. It takes a self-confident man to allow this type of personality to take charge from time to time. 3. A STRONG WOMAN WILL REQUIRE HONESTY AND VULNERABILITY. Many men have a hard time opening up to difficult questions. Strong women dive right into the depth of hurt, traumas, and life-changing experiences. They require a man who can be honest and vulnerable, because they have endured so much in their lives and want to believe they are not alone. They need to know that their mate can be available to navigate the ocean of uncertainties and travel the edges of madness. Strong women don’t fear the past. They excavate and search for those things that make us human. The strong woman will always find a strong man to stand tall with her in the face of adversity. Men tend to avoid vulnerability because it makes them feel weak. If you want to gain the admiration of the strong woman in your life, do not fear moments of vulnerability. 4. A STRONG WOMAN IS NOT INTIMIDATED BY INTIMACY. The strong woman will challenge a man in the most intimate of ways. She will require intimacy in all forms, from conversation to making love. She will hold nothing back. Because a strong woman is comfortable with her femininity, she will expect her man to also be open to all aspects of intimacy. She requires passion and desire; she wants to feel like she’s the one. 5. A STRONG WOMAN CAN SEE THROUGH LIES. Strong women are honest and expect complete trust in a relationship. They can sense lies in an instant, so don’t try to sugarcoat a white lie. Don’t give the strong woman in your life any bogus explanations. She has the ability to act as a human lie detector. Being in a relationship with a strong woman requires no holding back. She will never tolerate a sense of falseness and selfishness. If you can’t be with her completely, she will have no problem moving on. 6. A STRONG WOMAN REQUIRES INTEGRITY AND CONSISTENCY. Women who have inner strength cannot tolerate irregularity or indecisive personalities. They want to know that the man they love has integrity and respect, and is a man of his word. If they start to feel that their man is pulling away, they will react accordingly and have no problem letting him go if they feel they are being played. They want to feel like they are loved unconditionally. If they feel disrespected, they will have no issues setting that matter straight. The worst thing you can do to a strong woman is make her feel weak. 7. A STRONG WOMAN CAN BE INTENSE. A strong woman has endured extraordinary challenges and obstacles in her life. In other words, she is strong for a reason, because she has had to be powerful during extremely dark moments. Having come through, she knows she can endure anything else in her path, but this kind of intensity is oftentimes difficult for a man to understand. It’s intimidating because of all the emotions and thoughts that come with this type of persona. The strong woman is willing to share her scars, and expects you to do the same. There are no secrets in her world. 8. A STRONG WOMAN WILL NOT WAIT FOR YOU. This type of woman will follow you to the depths of hell if she knows you are committed to her. However, the moment you start to pull back, she will let you go. She will not wait for a man to decide if he wants her or someone better. Strong women don’t play little, girly games. You are either in or you are out. They will face hurt, heal from their wounds, and get back up ready to conquer whatever is next. 9. A STRONG WOMAN WILL LOVE YOU UNCONDITIONALLY. The love you receive from a strong woman is faithful. Just like mothers with their children, the strong woman will nurture and love her man fiercely. When she feels that love in return, she will do anything she can to make him feel loved. The strong woman in your life will support you, help you, and fight for you to get what you deserve. Some men can’t handle this kind of unconditional love. They get frightened by the intensity and depth of giving. Many times it is in this stage that men flee from a strong woman. If this happens, regardless of how deeply she loved you, she will also let you go. She knows her worth. 10. A STRONG WOMAN WILL SHOW YOU WHO YOU ARE. It’s hard to accept the things we don’t like about ourselves when someone points them out. A strong woman will speak up about those parts in her man that need addressing. She will also be there to help show you how amazing and powerful you are. She will stand by you and show you pure acceptance and confidence. Some men cannot handle the emotional chaos that comes up with this type of demeanor. For this reason, strong women will find strong men; the weak ones won’t make it past the first few dates. Weak men don’t know what to do with the honesty, strength, intelligence, and independence that is portrayed by a woman of strength. A strong man, on the other hand, was likely raised by a strong woman. He knows how to either deal with the dark nights of the soul that arise in any relationship, or leave. Barry Paul Price writes, “Dating a strong woman is not something every guy can handle. He has to be confident in himself as a person, and as a man. Men must feel capable of meeting a woman’s needs. Traditionally, we did that providing financial security and physical protection. More recently, as women have expressed themselves with more independence and toughness, men aren’t sure how or when they’re needed by their woman. He ends up feeling unsure of his value and significance in the relationship. Many women tell me their man’s emotional support is just as important as financial and physical contributions. Unfortunately, men are not used to identifying masculinity with giving emotional support.” Fellahs...... Do you have the strength to support your woman of strength in the way she most needs it? Strong women have no time to play games. If you can handle the intensity, love, and honesty she will provide, you might just be the man who can complement this type of woman.

Love is tricky.

Why do men leave women when it takes so much courage to fall in love in the first place? For men, it might be more difficult to deal with falling in love than for a woman. When a man falls in love, he must take into account the suffering that might occur by opening up all of himself to her. Is the risk worth it? A man rarely dives in fully but steps little by little into the world of second-guessing and ups and downs. Men know they are not born with an innate understanding of how women operate. Sometimes a few simple factors can go a long way in increasing understanding. This can go both ways. 1. HE FEELS THAT SHE’S TRYING TO FIX HIM. When a man starts to feel that he’s not enough, that his flaws are huge, or that he cannot be himself without judgment, he starts looking for the exit. Women, often without realizing it, tend to emasculate men by making them their projects and by trying to change or “improve” them. Albert Einstein said, “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.” What a man really needs is a woman who offers wholehearted encouragement so a man can discover who he truly is. This is what we all need in a relationships. A man can grow and mature with the help of a loving and supportive partner. 2. HE IS THREATENED BY THE WOMAN’S SUCCESS. In a study conducted by the University of Florida, men experience a huge blow to their self-esteem when their female partners experience success, even when they are not in direct competition. A woman’s success also negatively impacts how the man views the future of their relationship. If the man has not been able to attain the success he feels he deserves, this is often a pivotal reason he might leave a relationship. He cannot join her in her success or support her because he is inwardly comparing her success to his failures. 3. HE FEELS BOTHERED TOO OFTEN. Men can zone out sometimes, but not more often than when a woman is saying the same thing to him repeatedly. Constant bothering and belittling can destroy a relationship. Men may play like children, but they are not kids. They rarely tolerate constant whining and complaining. Men need to feel appreciated and uplifted. They will ignore and avoid this type of ‘nagging’ because it adds to negative reinforcement, or even passive-aggressive conflict. If he knows she is going to give him grief, he will not respond well to requests or comments. If he feels she will complain no matter what he does, he realizes there is no satisfaction in doing what she wants. To a man, a nagging woman is not a supportive or enjoyable partner to have. .4 HE SUFFERS A LACK OF INTIMACY. Believe it or not, men crave intimacy just as much as women. If a man has to beg for it while the woman withholds it to get him to do things, he may leave the relationship to seek that connection with someone else. A man will not stand by too long with a woman who will not participate in intimate encounters with her partner. A man falls in love with a woman for many reasons, but he also needs to feel that he is the most desirable person in her life. 5. SHE COMPARES HIM TO OTHER MEN. There is nothing more annoying to a man than listening to a woman talk about past relationships. When the woman starts to compare him to an ex, that’s the beginning of the end. Men do not want to analyze their partner’s past relationships and intimate connections. A man wants to believe he is the only one that matters right now. He doesn’t want to hear that a previous lover did this or that. He wants to know that what he is doing right now is enough. 6. HER EMOTIONAL CO-DEPENDENCY. Men need their space. Men also need their friends. A man doesn’t want to be treated as a possession or feel like he is a babysitter. When a man begins to feel that he has lost his freedom to participate in sports, outings, or social gatherings with his friends, he just might choose to leave. A healthy relationship requires that both parties have their own set of friends and hobbies. Co-dependency tarnishes the spark of a relationship. Men don’t over-analyze this feeling of being imprisoned. The moment they feel their lives have drastically been high-jacked, that’s when they breakcamp . A Man deeply fear losing his freedom. FINAL THOUGHTS ON WHY MEN LEAVE WOMEN THEY LOVE Men fall in love with the expectation of being appreciated, respected and supported. If a man no longer feels like he is the hero of the story, he will naturally face a serious decision in whether or not he should change his relationship status.