Tell her your truths.

A lot of times, men experience shame and shame is a part of disconnection. When we men feel that we are not good enough, which is an illusion, the idea in order for connection to happen, we have to let ourselves be seen. So vulnerability is scary, especially when we feel like you’re going to judge us. Let me repeat this. Shame is a part of disconnection. When you feel that you’re not good enough, the idea in order for connection to happen, we have to let ourselves be seen. So, vulnerability then becomes scary because underneath you being seen means that they’ll see thatwe are not good enough. They’ll see that you believe that you are not good enough. So then that shame causes your disconnection. So then that shame is the mask of inauthenticity, so we follow tactics. So we follow things that are going to be on the surface level, but don’t get down to the root, to improve who we are overall, so we can be the best person that we can be in our lives. but not showing our truths. The ability to feel connected is why we’re all here biologically. Life shows this. The ability to feel connected is why we are here. It shows. .wwomen often talk so much about conscious vulnerability and vulnerability. as a man I've not talked a lot about conscious vulnerability , especially with other men. I’m not going to say “talk sbouy all your feelings, show the girl how you romanticize her, bring her roses, bring her this,” heck freaking no. But what I will tell you is that if you have that underlying feeling of shame as part of your disconnect because of some trauma, failure triggers, things that you have hidden because you don’t feel good enough abou them, but it is alright to admit that your previous relationships have bombed but yet you think you have to shine, bling, get a great car, get a great job, be seen with these really great women and show off. If something inside of you is still not connecting because you haven’t been able to let yourself be seen because vulnerability seems scary and you are afraid you might come off as needy. So, what makes someone become vulnerable and connect to you? You may ask, and again,The courage to be imperfect, you have compassion to be kind to yourself more than others. The truth is if we can’t be compassionate towards ourselves, we can’t be compassionate towards others. There’s no way. So, I ask you today to choose courage to be imperfect and to figure out why you are hiding behind this? Especially if it’s hard for you to connect and be vulnerable, especially if we’ve already made the decision to think that vulnerability is a weakness.... because it’s not. Actually, vulnerability is a strength. I’ll tell you one thing here. I know what vullnerable feels like. You will feel relieved when you tell her what she should know about your secet pasts