warning A Cheater Will Always Cheat

Are we exclusive or are creeping?

Have you ever been cheated on? Know someone who's been cheated on? Chances are, the answer is "yes." In this day and age, cheating is more common than ever. With hookup apps like Tinder and hundreds of online dating sites, it's never been easier to cheat and get away with it.

If your partner has a smartphone, or even just access to the Internet, they could be sneaking around behind your back and you'd never even know it! If you think it could never happen to you, think again. It is estimated that 30-60% of all married people in the U.S. cheat on their spouse, and this number is even higher for people who are dating. This means that if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, statistically they're more likely to cheat on you than they are to stay Faithful.

Since online affairs are so easy to cover up, how can you know for sure that your partner is really loyal? You can't. But fortunately there are new online tools, that may expose the truth about what your significant other is really doing online.

If you're dating or in a relationship, you should search your partner on this site before it's too late!

Here's How It Works.

 that can instantly uncover public records and online profiles on just about anyone in America. You just type someone's first and last name into the search box, and it instantly scans millions of public records and online sources to uncover sensitive details about someone's past. Then it compiles that information into a personal background check report that you have the option to save so you can access it at any time. So, you can confront your lover with the hard evidence of their cheating ways.

How Do They Do It?

Cheaters might be good at covering their tracks, but everything a person does online leaves a digital trail that can't always be covered up. This site searches thousands of websites such as social media platforms and online dating sites to give you a better picture of what your boyfriend or girlfriend is really doing online when they think you aren't looking.

That means this site can instantly uncover forgotten accounts and online dating profiles your partner may have created behind your back. You could find embarrassing or incriminating photos and videos of your boyfriend or girlfriend that normal search engines can't find. It would be almost impossible for you to search for your partner on all these websites yourself, and even if you had that kind of time, would you even know where to start??

But Wait, There's More. . .

In addition to uncovering private social media profiles and forgotten online dating accounts, Truth Finder also conducts a comprehensive criminal background check on the person you're looking up. This site may reveal crucial details about your significant other's past that they've kept hidden from you.

Cheaters Never Win
The amount of personal information you get back in one of these reports is almost scary. If you want a fast, easy way to get the scoop on your partner's past and uncover shady online profiles to see if they're cheating and search their name ASAP!

I would definitely recommend this tool to anyone who's married, in a relationship, or thinking about dating someone new. If you've ever let yourself open up and trust someone, only to get hurt, you know how painful the sting of betrayal can be. Don't let yourself get burned by a lying, cheating partner. You don't have to get your heart broken ever again. Protect yourself and search for the truth today!

his hand on my thigh in this picture is dead giveaway,
 as to what we are doing.

If you think you're ready to try it for yourself. Go ahead.

What is her story that we don't know anything about, and should it even matter

 

Your unconditional love is like my coffee. I need it daily.

Many years ago, I met a lovely woman, she was from the same area as I was from, so we had an instant connection ..we spoke the same language. living in Brooklyn N.Y. But neither of us were originally from Brooklyn N.Y. I was already dating another young lady who lived in Queens N.Y. at the time. the train rides to Queens was starting to get old, how do I end the relationship with this lady without hurting her. Just because a new woman caught my attention all of a suddenly.. My new friend was not involved at the time with anyone. This made me think that I had a shot, had I not been involved with the  lady from Queens that we could possibly have a romantic relationship. We began a friendship that has lasted decades, the lady from Queens and I lost tough a long time ago.  My friend  later got involved with a dude that I did not like at all, even though I did not really know much about him. Maybe I didn't like him because I wanted her for myself.  In my mind she fit with  me perfectly we had so much in common, but I messed up.... my timing was very off. She became pregnant with the other dude's child. I was so hurt, but I love her child, she needed me as a friend to be there for her, through the Nine months and beyond. I was there for her. she never forgot it. She even comments on it that my face showed that her pregnancy showed her how I felt about her. I was present in her life when she needed me most. 

We did not tell each other about our true feeling for each other, for years.  I left N.Y. moved from state to state, got married, until finally leaving the USA to settle down on an Island in the Caribbean after a divorce. She also left N.Y and moved to Ga. We stayed in touch no matter where we lived. She  stamped her image, and our history in my mind. I was not able to forget her.

Needless to say. We had a connection that neither of us could deny or break. Time and distance did not matter. the important things matter. we love each other unconditionally.

To define unconditional love is to say that a person loves someone unselfishly, that he or she cares about the happiness of the other person and will do anything to help that person feel happiness without expecting anything in return. 

To put a definition another way, unconditional love is the type of love that exists between a parent and child usually, or even between a dog and his master. It is a love that is given without expecting or even really caring if that love is returned. You love this person wholeheartedly, and nothing is going to change that. Unconditional love means that you accept one’s faults without judgment. While romantic love between two people is a means to love unconditionally, the concept of unconditional love refers to one or both individuals loving the other and expecting nothing back. 

Final thoughts

Conditional Vs. Unconditional Love

You may have heard of unconditional love more often than conditional love. So what is conditional love? An example of conditional love would be loving your car because it's reliable. You love the car because it runs well. But if the car had major mechanical issues, you may no longer love that car. Your love for your car is conditional upon it working well.

Conditional love, therefore, is more about control than real love. You love someone or something because you are under the illusion of control. However, once that person or thing can no longer be "controlled," you no longer love it. This is why conditional love does not make for a healthy relationship whatsoever. If your partner is trying to control how you dress, act, and feel, then he or she is trying to make you live up to their ideal of you in their head, not the person you are. Accepting you for who you are is unconditional love. If there are strings attached to your relationship, such as a certain job, look, or status, then this love is not unconditional.

Passion is conditional love. This is why, when the passion runs out, sometimes hatred takes its place. Both are incredibly strong emotions, and when someone we're passionate about does something to hurt us or otherwise change our opinion of them, that passion can turn to hatred. This is why passion and hatred are both sides of the coin that is conditional love, and this is why neither emotion can nor should be present in a mature, long-lasting relationship. That is not to say that your passionate love for your partner is a bad thing. It is important to have a stable, consistent, unconditional love underneath the passion so that the passion does not turn to hatred if they do not meet your expectations. Falling in love is often not an overnight process, nor is growing hatred towards another. Love without conditions is a selfless act where passion and hatred are more self-centered emotions. The limitation or love that are involved with passion and conditional love is a neural basis; they are interconnected, yet separate at the same time. 

If he turns out to NOT be the guy you dreamed about. Blame your disappoints on your dreams, not on him.

 To dream that you are in volved with a prince, suggests your need to feel important and need to be with someone who can make it happen. You may be admiring him and his accomplishments. To see a prince in your dream, signifies honor and recognition will be bestowed upon you too. Alternatively, it indicates your wishes (as  a woman) for romance and accidental meeting and get involved with that Prince Charming. The esthetics can entice you, but is it real? His personality might become a turn off

The dream seldom matches reality because the person will think they can control the narrative.

Prince charming is not always going to be as women expect 

If you get to know the man in a suit you are going to find out he is not as you have imagined him. He dresses for success but when he goes to happy hour removes his tie. 

I have often said that men are like cars in a public parking lot.... many are not the same. and have individual ways of thinking.
Women have always had expectations connected to their imagined prince charming to be filthy rich, good looking and charming. Please note it's not about how much money a man makes, but how much he keeps. If he spends money recklessly to impress a woman, he will not be able to do it or be willing to do it forever. 

Am I really her dream guy

The esthetics can entice you but is it real? His personality might become a turn off

the dream does not ever match reality because the other person will think they can control the narrative.

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Have you ever dreamed of aYou know, that imagined place or state of things in which everything is perfect. Where the people are perfect, where even the relationship that is perfect?

Well, this is exactly that paradise that Sir Thomas More so mundanely exaggerated in his novel Utopia in 1516. He stated and I quote: "Instead of man being worried about food and supply, the Utopian can feel absolutely sure that he, his wife, his children, his grandchildren, and his great-grandchildren as long a line of descendants will always have enough to eat and enough to make them happy.” This was a man who was so rooted in his belief that one could actually achieve this “utopian” place; that one could so desperately work to produce affluent results.

you are looking like the Prince I've been looking for, just right
 for me, you could become my prince I've been searching for.

Final thoughts.

This is the very essence of the romantic dream.

You know, that belief that one can settle down in the perfect relationship, receive opportunities, work hard at keep it perfect and can eventually live the success of a relation working out.  

Women need to be able to read the signs that men show

 

Men and women display their love and affection in different ways. Most women say, “I love you,” profusely and often, while most men show their deep affinity in their day to day actions.

It can be confusing at times, but that’s because the truth is, men and women think differently. So, I decided to research for you and come up with a list of a few common sets of behaviors that directly demonstrate that he is in love with you, even if he doesn’t say it.

We truly believe that love is in what you do, not always in what you say. It’s easy to say, “I love you,” but true love is demonstrated in action. 

She wants me to wear this so I will.

He isn’t afraid to make sacrifices for you.

 care about. It takes selflessness, maturity, 

and most of all love.

Making sacrifices for other people is easier to do when its for someone we Relationships need a balance of mutual sacrifice or one party is left unhappy.

Men who are in love feel tremendous discomfort at the thought of their lady being unhappy, and if it’s something they can prevent, they will. Sometimes they will even go above and beyond to make something work out, just because it’s really important to their partner.

If your man can make sacrifices for your happiness, that is just one way he is saying, “I love you”, without actually saying it.

He listens to you.

Studies have found that women are much better listeners than men.  So, when a man not only hears you but actively pays attention and responds – a skill called active listening – you can have confidence that he cares.

Taking it a next step further, if he acts on your conversations, he’s smitten.

He shows his vulnerability.

Men are generally cautious when it comes to showing any behavior that can be perceived by others as a weakness. They feel that they need to keep a perfect facade of strength.

But when a man is in love, he begins to let his guard down. He becomes more comfortable and allows his real feelings to show. Vulnerability can take time, but if he’s shown even an ounce, he trusts you enough to let his guard down around you.

If he likes my hair like this then I will wear it like this

He loves how you look on your “worst days”.

Most people put effort into looking their absolute very best during those early dates. We want to look and feel good when meeting up with a potential life long partner.

But, once the actual relationship spawns and we spend more time with each other, comfort levels build, and our need to impress declines sharply. We’re free to wander around in our pajamas, no makeup or messy hair.

The big take away here is that when a man loves a woman, he’ll think she is beautiful no matter what she looks like. 

So when he tells you, “You’re beautiful,” when you feel like a mess, take it for what it is and remember that is the equivalent to saying, “I love you.”

He’s proud of you.

When a man really loves a woman, he shows it by bragging about you. Yep, that’s right a real man isn’t shy about saying how proud he is of you.

Whether you’re a fantastic mother, a hard worker, or achieving your goals, you can rest assured that your efforts don’t go unnoticed to the man that is in love. So when he tells you, it’s his way of saying, “I love you.”

He sticks up for you.

This one’s obvious one, but very important. First lets be clear, if he doesn’t stick up for you, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. This is a hard one. Most of the time drama and controversy can arise with a close family member or friend.

Most men like to avoid controversy, so if he defends you, that’s big and it’s definitely his way of saying, “I love you.”

There are reasons why men leave a high valued woman

Ooh HELL where did he go?

Love is tricky. Why do men leave women when it takes so much courage to get with her in the first place? For men, it might be more difficult to deal with falling in love than for a woman. When a man falls in love, he must take into account the suffering that might occur by opening up all of himself to her. Is the risk worth it?

A man rarely dives in fully but steps little by little into the world of second-guessing and ups and downs. Men know they are not born with an innate understanding of how women operate.

He feels that she’s trying to fix him.

When a man starts to feel that he’s not enough, that his flaws are huge, or that he cannot be himself without judgment, he starts looking for the exit. Women, often without realizing it, tend to emasculate men by making them their projects and by trying to change or “improve” them.  Albert Einstein said, “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.” What a man really needs is a woman who offers wholehearted encouragement so a man can discover who he truly is.

He is threatened by the woman’s success.

In a study conducted by the University of Florida, men experience a huge blow to their self-esteem when their female partners experience success, even when they are not in direct competition.

A woman’s success also negatively impacts how the man views the future of their relationship.  If the man has not been able to attain the success he feels he deserves, this is often a pivotal reason he might leave a relationship. He cannot join her in her success or support her because he is inwardly comparing her success to his failures.

 He feels bothered too often.

Men can zone out sometimes, but not more often than when a woman is saying the same thing to him repeatedly. Constant bothering and belittling can destroy a relationship. Men may play like children, but they are not kids. They rarely tolerate constant whining and complaining. Men need to feel appreciated and uplifted. They will ignore and avoid this type of ‘nagging’ because it adds to negative reinforcement, or even passive-aggressive conflict.  If he knows she is going to give him grief, he will not respond well to requests or comments. If he feels she will complain no matter what he does, he realizes there is no satisfaction in doing what she wants. To a man, a nagging woman is not a supportive or enjoyable partner to have.

she needs to STOP bugging me, I'm out.

 

He suffers a lack of intimacy.

Believe it or not, men crave intimacy just as much as women. If a man has to beg for it while the woman withholds it to get him to do things, he may leave the relationship to seek that connection with someone else.  

Her emotional co-dependency.

Men need their space. Men also need their friends. A man doesn’t want to be treated as a possession or feel like he is a babysitter. When a man begins to feel that he has lost his freedom to participate in sports, outings, or social gatherings with his friends, he just might choose to leave. A healthy relationship requires that both parties have their own set of friends and hobbies. Co-dependency tarnishes the spark of a relationship. Men don’t over-analyze this feeling of being imprisoned. The moment they feel their lives have drastically been high-jacked,  that’s when they break up. Men deeply fear losing their freedom.

Final Thoughts 

Men fall for a woman with the expectation of being appreciated, respected and supported. If a man no longer feels like he is the hero of the story, he will naturally face a serious decision in whether or not he should change his relationship status.

Your life will change when you stop dreaming about what you want in another person

 You haven’t made up your mind yet, and the uncertainty makes you wonder if maybe s/he is not ‘The One’ for you. In this post, I will look at a few deal-breakers that could be the reason you haven’t made a commitment yet.

Warning: I'm more than the photo, I'm flesh and blood
with a mind that that can be a challenge
for you as a man to understand 

Your man is probably looking for someone who is attractive, healthy, intelligent, kind, honest, has a sense of humor, is dependable, and someone who has good communication skills. In fact, these were the traits that most men and women looked for in a study of over 200,000 men and women.

Researchers also say that heterosexual men and women both also ranked religion, fondness for children, and parenting abilities higher than homosexual men or women did. They also say that the biological drive to have children is what leads men and women to search for a partner who is attractive, young, and healthy.

 mention this here because your search for the guy who is ‘The One’ may be very different if you have a specific goal in mind, like raising a family.

I'm a stud who will blow your mind,
if we have a relationship.

S/He’s not The One for you if they haven’t finished growing up yet?

Selfishness, being an egomaniac, outdated values, and jealousy are just a few of the psychological problems that he might still be dealing with. Most adults mature and learn lessons about these negative personality traits because society disapproves of childish behavior.

 person, he may require too much retraining to make it worth your time. It IS still possible that s/he is The One, but it may involve a little change on your part, too.

My final thoughts

women and men who pick a life partner who gave up and demanded a divorce could start to see that a divorce is breaking a vow/promise. many folks these days lip sync their vows and pack it all in as soon as things get tough in their union. 

Partnerships do not last these days mainly because splitting up has become very easy.