News flash: it does not mean all of these things listed below. obviously this what a woman wants to believe is true Love . The truth from a man's perspective is written in Italic. My BAD perspective.
HE CATERS TO YOU.
He makes sure you're happy day in and day out. He listens to your crazy work stories; he rubs your neck when it's sore; he cooks you dinner on the nights you're feeling sleepy. Caring for you is one of his top priorities, and he does a damn good job of it.
The truth of the matter is, the above is just what a woman wants to believe, because it has been what men wanted from women for decades, I can not speak about centuries because I have only lived for decades. No one can make you happy.... day in and day out. A man will try to enhance your happiness but he can't do what you are resisting. If you are unhappy it is up to you to change it. Look at it as he is topping off your glass of your favorite drink, He is adding to what is already what is satisfying your need. his presence is an added value!
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| Lean on me,when you are doing your thing! |
HE WANTS TO HANG OUT WITH YOU . . . A LOT.
If he's texting you every day to see if you'd like to Netflix and chill (I kid, I kid), you mean something to this guy, because, let's face it - they're notorious for spontaneous ghosting.
Hmmm! Yeah he will do these things as long as it does not interfere with the things he loves to do. Just think about it.. you want him to sacrifice, willingly, what he wants to do, to do what you want to do.. which makes him less happy. and to just prove his Love for you while he is unhappy.. this can't happen, it will not happen. Compromise on both of your desires. Do what is fun for both of you. That is what will work best.. you are both happiest when you are both enjoying what you are doing sitting together on the sofa, Try and Netflix your movie on your laptop or Tablet. Let him watch the game on the bigger screen.
SEX ISN'T A HUGE FACTOR FOR HIM.
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| We will remember this moment, every time we are take a shower together |
Sure, he likes to do the dirty here and there, but sex isn't the reason he's with you. Far from it. In fact, he wants to do SO much more with you by his side - travel to another country! Sample beer! Have a half-birthday party! The possibilities are endless.
This get's me every time! Young Men think about sex every 2 seconds...Ohh hell (Mature men are not much different) when a man stops wanting to have you in his arms and wanting to have a physical connection with you , he starts loosing interest...this does not mean he stops loving you... he is just not as crazy about your attributes as he was in the beginning of your relationship. And may need some stimulation, visual as well as physical.
HE KEEPS YOU IN MIND WHEN MAKING MAJOR DECISIONS.
He doesn't take a new job without talking to you first. Or maybe he's thinking about renting an apartment across the city, but he wants to double check that the commute between your place and his will be OK (or perhaps he wants you to move in with him!). Sizable decisions like this have a bearing on your partnership, and he's well aware.
A major factor in every great relationships is joint decisions on major issues. If you can't sit and discuss life's changing decisions and take all the factors into consideration..... then you will want different things. You will not be happy, and he will not be happy if you differ on major decisions. example: he decides to get's a hot tub for both or you to relax in. and you are not a hot tub person, then you will use it to make him happy (maybe even enjoy it for a moment, but you are not happy sharing this with him....( because you are thinking about a possible yeast infection this could cause) Ooops miscalculation.
HE TELLS YOU THINGS HE'S NEVER TOLD ANYONE.
Late at night - which, everybody knows is prime time for life's most meaningful conversations - he tells you things he's never, ever told anyone . . . not even his best bro. FYI: This is the equivalent of a man forking over his heart.
LOL, if he tells you things he would not tell his best bro, then it is just telling you things about you and things that affect you. Guys can keep secrets, and wait until they find that one woman to connect with and tell her this secret, but this is just not likely. How great will you feel about him telling you that he would rather be a woman and that he will start going through a sex change? NOT so cool sharing that secret, now is it.Men seldom have secrets that we keep hidden unless they are BAD secrets, good news are often shared with everyone close to us. You can't have a good exclusive unless it involves you as the main player in the mix.
HE DOESN'T FLIRT WITH OTHER GIRLS.
If he has eyes only for you (seriously - just you!), this guy's a different fish. And you don't have to monitor his every move to see if he's hitting up other ladies - call it a woman's instinct or whatever, but you just know . . . you know?
Oooh stop it! If you have to worry about this stuff. then you better go live on a private Island with no other people around you, just the two of you. Men don't really flirt ( women flirt) men hit on the women they want to have sex with. Women can flirt and have it be completely harmless. Men have no intention to start something with another woman that will not end with him having an orgasm. Let's face the facts, If he flirts and You catch him, he will be chastised for having sexual intention towards another woman, he might as well have engaged in sex with her in his car in the parking lot just before you caught him. Because he is guilty of thinking it and in your mind it's just as BAD as the act it's self. A woman can have fantasies about the male stripper. but Men should never have sexual desires for other women... Just stop asking for the impossible!
HE DOESN'T MIND TALKING ABOUT THE FUTURE.
When you bring up buying a house or getting engaged somewhere down the line, he doesn't flee for the front door. He doesn't have to be 100 percent on board with big relationship steps, but he's totally open to having a real conversation about them.
The Future is just less than a second away. When one brings up major purchases and only one person is on that page.... Your relationship is not READY for the long term commitment. this does not mean He does not Love you, it just means he is not on that page yet.
HE SHOWS YOU OFF.
He totes you around like the flashiest new handbag. His mom, best friend, and a dozen of his cousins know a heck of a lot about you, because he's head over heels and wants to share it with the world.
Seriously? You want to be carried around like a flashy handbag? REAL men do not carry flashy handbags! Here is where woman need to think like a man and start thinking about partnerships. Men become practical about mergers. If a man is seeing you as an acquisition and is telling everyone he is putting you in the same category as a New car, not even a new house. Let me explain. Mature men think about partnerships these days. In my father's day it was about acquisitions/possession of a mate. Women want to be admired/desired respected by the man who loves her, my dad learned that the hard way. A man will boast about your accomplishment your talents your beauty (that is what he see) if he needs the approval of other he is just not sure, yet. let's face it to pass the full test of his family requires time...
HE LOVES MAKING YOU FEEL SPECIAL.
He doesn't just treat you like a queen - he wants to treat you like a queen. Sure, it can feel like a chore in any committed relationship, but for the most part, he's got a smile on his face when he's with you . . . because you're the one.
OK, First he needs to think of himself as a King and not a Prince.. think about these two labels, A Prince goes with Princess, A King goes with a Queen. You can't get a boy to think of you as Queen until he has come to the realization that he is ready to be a King. A Kings will make a princess a Queen. But If he is still thinking like a Prince, and does not see himself as your King in the future.... then you being his Queen is just a cougar/cub relationship. A Queen can not make a man a King! if she does he will go looking for a princess to make her into a Queen.
Last but not least here is a woman who sees things the way I do! So I'm not all B.A.D.
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