Do Nice Guys Finish Last?

Toast to  the lucky guy who get's lucky tonight!

For too many nice guys, it’s the same process over and over again. You meet a woman you’re interested in. She insists on going out on several dates to get better acquainted, at his expense, of course. And for the next two months he takes her out to dinner, buys her clothes, pays to get her hair and nails done, and helps her move five rooms of heavy furniture across town. And what does he get for his trouble? A well-fed, well-dressed, unappreciative woman living in a well-furnished new apartment. When he suggests getting intimate, she drops the bomb on him. “I just want to be friends.”
After so many of these emasculating experiences, the nice guy begins to see the light. Although he has been raised in a home where women were put on a pedestal, he becomes fed up with these continuous assaults on his manhood and his wallet. At last, his innocent eyes have been opened to the cold world of the material girl. Now he must take a stand and look out for his own interests.
By Michael Baisden

I can't make you  l-o-v-e me if you don't

Here is  my perspective:  Why do I somewhat disagree with the above: An intimate relationship with someone is not payment for good deeds. If a man wants to get paid for his kind deeds, tell her up front "I will need compensation, in currency, but because I like you so very much I will give you a discount."  Wining and dining a lady is a choice we men make. If you don't want to do it, then don't do it.. Oooh wait....!  then you loose  (by default) without competing for her affections. But what does that tell you about the woman you are attracted to. Gifts are gifts, don't give a gift while thinking I want something in return, then you are batering.  dining with someone is not a lead-in to having sex with that person. Would you buy your buddy dinner or a drink  to have sex with him? Oooh wait!  don't answer that! this topic is not about down-low-actions. We all have skills that we have perfected, show the person you are attracted to....... your attributes  and then let her decide if you are the person she want in her life. If she sees you as the guy she wants, and she still insist on having you do all the things Michael Baisden described above, then as a man, you  should understand what she is about,  you need to be able to navigate those waters. But you better  get you nautical captains license.  Women are very  deep... to understand a woman you have to go to the cosmos and back ... and even then you will not.  Because no two are the same not even twins. Hmmm! I JUST GOT AN IMAGE <smirking>in my head.

 Why not just except that your  motives( as a man)  are not  exactly pure or honorable. So we  as  men are playing the game, but when you don't get to run the bases. if you think you have played nine innings and have just hit  an in the park the home run, but got thrown out.  We  want to cry foul. She may want you to do  all those the things she want as a prerequisite, but the Choice is always yours. If you make the right choices for the Right reason then you will have less regrets. We  all want something from the other person, that is  just human, but waiting to get  paid back and not getting what you want makes you a very bad negotiator.
And BAD negotiators start out without leverage to make the deal work.compromise is part of all negotiations If someone  tells you different then they have  never sat across from a touch female negotiator. 

It becomes an Emergency, when you loose!