Is Marriage for you? So what are your options?

If mind-blowing sex was all that you needed to make it works long-term then most relationships would last forever and even until death do you part. Many had  mind-blowing sex but could not make it last.

The divorce rate is almost 50%. So if it is that high,  why would you want to get married at all these days? If you are with the right person, marriage can be wonderful, that’s why! Being married can be like being with your best friend every  day. There are also some health benefits that go along with being married. 

1. More s*e*x: Married people generally have more s*e*x than people who are not married (despite the jokes that state as soon as you are married the s*e*x disappears). S*e*x is great for your health as it burns calories and releases endorphins.
2. Kids: Children see marriage as a solid foundation in which they can build their future relationships off of. Kids from a home where the  parents remain married have been shown, in studies, to have a fare life than those of divorces.
3. Support in the home: When you come home from a bad day at work, or when you have a new dream that you can share. It's the best when you have someone who willl listen to you in the home 
4. You are legally recognized as a couple everywhere not just in your circles, as opposed to people who live together. This makes a difference, at tax time, among other times. you want someone there who will support you or will let you cry on their shoulder. Venting your frustrations is a benefit to your health as bottling everything up can cause depression or stress.


It is pretty nice to have someone to share things with, without having to worry about  being taken advantage of. 
So what are your options if you are between the age of 30 and 48,  and you can't find that ideal person in your age group to walk down the ail with?
Here are a few things to consider: Try a  younger partners or older than yourself.
Warning: if you like the younger partners option you have to prepare by  having an exit strategy,
 Cougars and cubs

 So how often do these relationships really work well enough to  lead to marriage?

In the movies and with celebrities some of these relationships do last for some time. 5 to 10 years on the optimistic side,if you are compatible, (sounds like a jail sentence .)   But in real every day life of most average people, not that long. It can be fun for the Cougar for as long as the Cub is still  interested in herr but before long it might change as the cub grows more mature and becomes a lion.         Don't get me wrong I'm all for these relationships that grants a woman a period of time of happiness and living out her fantasies. We men do it for a life time with younger women, so why should a woman not  have the same kind of fun for a period of time...  As a matter of fact I like to encourage women to do it if they are not married by the time they hit 40. Get it out of your system, we know you are wondering If you can handle the excitement. Hurry up and do it  before you turn 44 and want to get married and settle down with a Lion who does not want to hunt for new prey any longer. 

 

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Lions and Kittens. 

Now here is where I know what I'm talking about. This is a Match made in heaven for us mature Lions. If you don't believe  me...... read the bible.  

 

A Lion will open doors for you.

To the mature Lion, a woman who is at least 10 years younger will always be his young beautiful bride (a special lady.) He will be proud to show her off to his friends, and will be the envy of his male friends. He will have the experience in taking care of a good woman's needs. especially if he was married for many years in his previous life. Just think: the best compliment a woman can receive is being told everyday from her very sincere mate that she is his" beautiful love Kitten." That will not change because he will mean it .... Let say if he is 50+ and the lady is 20 years younger. even when he is 90 she will be the young sexy kitten he fell in  Love with 40 years ago. You really can't go wrong here. If he takes care of himself he will take care of you, age is nothing more than a number to him. if the lady is 30+ and he is 50+ you match up well maturity-wise.... If he is youthful and playful then he will never get to be a boring old man. If he  stays focused on staying in good enough shape to satisfy your needs. So take the chance on a younger cub for the excitement in fantasy and then find the right Lion and settle down with, after, for a life of wedded bliss.   Checkout the look on this older dude's face in the picture. He has no regrets. and will not have any for years and years. A younger dude might be questioning did I make the right choice, he would be checking out your friends out of the corner of his eye.

Don't show that you are the hotest person in the room!

Whether you’re looking for a new relationship  or not, you’ve probably been encouraged to “network, network, network!” more times than you can count. Are all those 'meet and greet events' you’re attending leading to new connections or opportunities?

No? You’re not the only one. Many networking newbies have tendencies that actually inhibit building real relationships with their new contacts.

The good news: it’s not that hard to fix. Here’s what you might not even realize you’re doing wrong—and what to do about it.
You’re talented! some what Eager! you show that  you are Ambitious! You have lots of ideas to share! And you want to make sure that every person you meet at the event knows who you are and what you do!

I get it. And yes, sharing your story with new contacts is important. But sharing your life story is overkill: Nothing can set a person off more than an potentially interesting  person who takes no interest in anything beside his/her own needs and  wants.

The Fix: Take Some Interest. Stop highlighting your latest accomplishment and start listening instead. Find people with similar  careers or interest as you, and ask them questions: How did you get your start? What do you love about your life experiences, and what do you wish you could change? By taking an interest in your contact, you will make him/her feel valued—and hopefully interested in continuing the pursued of a relationship. And you’ll likely gain some new insights, too.

Mistake #1: Expecting a Relationship

You’re looking for a new relationship, so you hit the circuit of 'meet and greet events' every week, asking every person you meet  key questions. Well, yes. But give people some credit: If you pursue networking opportunities purely for the relationship prospects, your contacts will figure you out. You will leave them feeling interviewed, and they will be less likely to recommend you to someone that might be good match for you.
The Fix: Provide Some Value. If you’re looking for a relationship, don’t show  it—work for it. Do some research into what your contact does both in and out of work and find ways that you can contribute your time or support. Perhaps you could volunteer your expertise in social media for the big convention she’s heading up, or offer your accounting knowledge for her non-profit organization. Provide some opportunity for contacts to see you in a working light, and you’ll be that much closer to a good referral.

Mistake #2: Not showing that you are thankful.

You attended a large event last week and grabbed coffee with one of your new  contacts afterward. And then—the week got busy, and you didn’t get around to saying thank you. She’ll understand, right?
Maybe. But if you don’t show gratitude, even in the smallest (or largest) event, you risk leaving a negative impression—probably not the desired outcome of your meeting.

The Fix: Just Do It. Whether you pack notecards in your purse for post-meeting scribbles, set yourself a reminder on Gmail to send off a quick note, or just insert a quick “thanks for taking time to meet with me!” at the final handshake, you must say 'thank you.' Not only will you solidify your reputation as a courteous individual, but you won’t be leaving your contacts with a bad taste in their mouths. Always say thank you, and your good impression will last until your next gathering.

Mistake #3: don't act like you are the hottest person in the room, unless you are a flamenco Dancer.
OK everyone likes a Alpha female but most are intimidated by Alpha anything.
If you look and act too hot then everyone will step carefully towards you and turn right or left because they don't want to be rejected. while you evaluate who is worthy of have a simple conversation with you.

The Fix: Just act natural,

The "Here she comes Miss America song," is not who you want to appear to be  when you are tying to meet someone new. Can you here the trumpets?
So make yourself approachable, smile and shake hands with warmth and smile.