What I would not do to make this Love affair go smooth.

It’s heavy on my mind

The love we made

See I being struggling with this a long time, day after day

The fact that I love you but sometimes I just want to be through with you

Chorus I

Baby you the sun that, chases all the rain away

And, baby you’re the gray cloud that, darken a perfect day

Chorus II

What I wouldn’t do to make this thing go smooth (repeat)

Baby, baby when I look in your eyes, I see

That you are afraid, to give your heart, completely

I know that you love me but sometimes I just can’t get through, to you

You say I’m the one who put the smile on your face

But know, I can be the one, that take it all away

Chorus II

What I wouldn’t do to make this thing go smooth (repeat)

Could it be we miss the love songs the radio don’t play

That makes us give up so easy, and throw it all away

Nobody talks about love anymore

Everybody to busy getting paid

Oh, Oh, Oh

Chorus I

Baby you the sun that chases all the rain away

And baby you’re the gray cloud that darken a perfect day

Chorus II

What I wouldn’t do to make this thing go smooth (repeat)

Oh, I think we miss the love songs the radio don’t play

And trying to give up to easy and throw it all away

Nobody talks about love but everybody getting paid

What I wouldn’t do

This song made me  think about so many things that made me wonder if  Men like me will remain single until we get old..  
Why? Well we have the following issues we have to deal with....I call them my  top 7 situations.

1.  We keep meeting women who put us  in the wrong category by writing us off too quickly as not being "their type".
2.  We keep meeting women with unrealistic expectations for what they want in a man.
3.  We're not wanted because we're not needed. Too many women have told men  that they don't "need" a man.-We  keep failing women's Girlfriend Approval Test. If the woman's friends don't like us, then that woman won't give us a chance either.
4. We nobody until somebody else loves us. Not enough women see us as a prize unless they see a lot of other women chasing after us first.
5. We're the right man at the wrong time/ wrong place/ wrong age.
6. We meet too many women who don't recognize a good man when they see one.
7. We don't promote all the great things about ourselves boldly or consistently enough to enough women.

You can't just fake it until you make it!

cloudiness and fogginess lingering for months maybe even years

You may have moved past your issues on the surface, but if they're not truly resolved, then they'll continue to have a negative impact on your life!
Many folks have been through some stuff that leave  lingering scars.... not yet healed... 

I figure environment is probably part of the cause of the lingering cloudiness and fogginess. You may need a change of scenery Try experiencing that  feeling of looking at Love that ended..... from a distance, instead of  experiencing the loss over and over in the same surroundings  this is  doing more harm than you think. 
Here is something I read sometime ago.
Now she's  come to look at love in a new way, now that she  knows she's not standing in it's light anymore. She  want to ask her  no-longer husband why didn't he  love her enough to stay committed to her. But he naturally does not want to talk about it, he wants a stillness at the end of it, and sometimes she  feels as if, it was never real, he never loved her. She's  not here-to stand in his year in plain sight, and not in-love's sight, she  feels an invisibility like a neutron in a cloud chamber buried in a mile-long accelerator, where what cannot be seen is inferred by what the visible does. After the alarm goes off, she  stroked his ego, she feels  like a backup singer who sangs along side  him, as if it is his flesh that's singing, in its full range, tenor of the higher vertebrae,baritone, bass, contra-bass. She want to say to him, now, What was it like, to love me-when you looked at me,what did you see? 

Hmmm! that was a bit deep, I guess.... 

she has grown used to a man hold her up and balancing her,
when he no longer does she falls into a  funk!

I decided to put together a  list of five of the most common insecurities found in women after a failed relationship. What is fascinating is that each of the most common insecurities deals mostly with appearance or implications of appearance on current and future relationships.

• Sexual Desirability – Women want to be sexually attractive and are so driven by this need they find themselves constantly measuring their own desirability against that of other  they view as competition.

• Weight – this is a huge issue for women. They want to be skinnier no matter how beautiful they are and are constantly seeking out the latest dieting or exercise techniques to stay on top of their game, or regain their game.

• Career – Insecurities within the workplace are common as women strive to climb the corporate ladder, competing with their male and female co-workers, they have slightly different view of their female bosses those are just bitches they hate..

• Intellectual Life – Women tend to be very concerned about their perceived understanding of intellects such as social philosophy, math, science, or physics. This can lead to being even more isolation... a woman who believes she is getting a late start  feels that everyone will always be ahead of her.  

• Friends – Women can sometimes be insecure when it comes to their friends. Often they judge themselves based on the income level or appearance of those they are closest to, some of these friends are married)... OK they just envy these friends. In new relationships, sometimes women can be insecure of what their new partner might think about their friends or whether they will be attracted to them. 

One day, after you heal,  this song will sound good to you again as you will feel it in your core.

John Legend - You & I Nobody In The World) 

Things Confident Women Do Differently

We Men who put women on our shoulders......  know that elevating her.... lifts her in the areas that matter most ( mentally). For all the Never(s) in her  life, she now feel like someone "got her" and prevents her from failing!

When empowering questions become second nature, you have no choice but to find confidence-inducing answers.
We all know these women — the ones who stride with an air of grace into a room. They’re not always the thinnest, prettiest, or even book  smartest. They’re not arrogant. They’re the ones who make you want to be around them.
a female friend of mind told me: "Growing up, all I seemed to do was make people run the other direction. My fears, neuroses, and quirks kept me hating myself. They also threw me into bouts of depression, eating disorders, and codependency."
"Why can’t I be thinner? Prettier? Smarter? I continually asked. Then I changed the questions: What creates this aura, this vibe of confidence? What do these women do that I don’t?'



After looking over her questions carefully  and having some  discussions,  I realized these five things are what confident women do differently than women who lack confidence.
These should  become your  must-do’s for confidence Ladies:
Confident women..
1. They live their purpose.
Your purpose is to be authentically you. No more, no less. When you applaud your fears, neuroses, and quirks, suddenly these qualities become your assets.

Insecure about your body? So are millions of other women — embrace your goods and teach others to embrace theirs! Shameful of your intelligence? Forget the degrees and do what makes you feel like a genius! When you’re living your truth, you’re unstoppable.

2. They practice their unique ___ (Fill in: calming, uplifting, etc.) ritual.

Some of the greatest thinkers, artists, speakers, lawyers, and performers of our time have a pre-performance ritual that gets them revved up for show time. While a unique ritual is about doing, it's also about feeling. A ritual creates the feeling you desire before you actually get to the doing.

For example, if you want to have rocking confidence before a date, You should  strut around you home in high heels. If you want to feel calm, you should focus on  exhale breathing, We all have rituals that calm our nerves, that gets us in the game, or prepare our mindset for focused action. Know yourself and what you need to get  you in the zone.

3. Spend (and love) time alone.

A drop in confidence can come when plans aren’t made or fall through and you’re left with time alone. How empowering is it when this time comes as a gift?

There's nothing that revives your confidence more than time alone. Wait, let me clarify: time alone that you occupy with self-love. If you spend  alone time wallowing in misery, You perpetuate your insecurities. When You shower yourself with love, in the form of a bubble bath, rest, or yoga, I realign with my core values.


Know what you need to make this precious time with yourself the best time. There is nothing sexier than a woman who ADORES her own company.

4. Take nothing (or very little) personally.

Do you know any confident woman who takes everything personally? Those with true confidence know that any perceived ego blow is more a reflection of the speaker than of them.

When you’re able to hear criticism and not take it personally, your reactions change. You’re able to feel compassion and love for all, regardless of how they treated you. Life isn’t as much of a drama. Confidence emerges naturally with life-love.

5. Ask empowering questions.

Women are constantly making evaluations for what things mean and what they should do. Such neural associations are initiated by questions. Simply, the more empowering questions you ask yourselves, the more confident you will become.

If you ask dis-empowering questions like, “Why does this always happen to me?” your mind will come up with an answer. In contrast, ask, “What am I happy about now? What could I be happy about if I wanted to?” Or if there is a problem, ask, “What is great about this problem? What can I feel grateful for?” Then you can shift into the confidence required to solve it.