The second time around is never like the first time

I would like to start this post with a little story (joke)

A man walks out to the street and catches a taxi just going by.
He gets into the taxi, and the cabbie says: "Perfect timing. You're just like Frank."
Passenger: "Who?"
Cabbie: "Frank Feldman. He's a guy who did everything right all the time. Like my coming along when you needed a cab. Things happen like that to Frank Feldman every single time."
Passenger: "There are always a few clouds over everyone."
Cabbie: "Not Frank Feldman. He was a terrific athlete. He could have won the Grand Slam at tennis. He could golf with the pros. He sang like an opera baritone and danced like a Broadway star, and you should have heard him play the piano. He was an amazing guy."
Passenger: "Sounds like he was something really special."
Cabbie: "There's more. He had a memory like a computer. He remembered everybody's birthday. He knew all about wine, which foods to order and which fork to eat them with. He could fix anything. Not like me. I change a fuse, and the whole street blacks out. But Frank Feldman, he could do everything right."
Passenger: "Wow. Some guy then."
Cabbie: "He always knew the quickest way to go in traffic and avoid traffic jams. Not like me, I always seem to get stuck in them. But Frank, he never made a mistake, and he really knew how to treat a woman and make her feel good. He would never answer her back even if she was in the wrong; and his clothing was always immaculate, shoes highly polished too. He was the perfect man! He never made a mistake. No one could ever measure up to Frank Feldman."
Passenger: "An amazing fellow. How did you meet him?"
Cabbie: "Well, I never actually met Frank. He died. I'm married to his widow" 


I'm reminded of this song that I grooved to back in the day. I never really listened to lyrics until now.

 As we move on from a previous relationship it is very important to 'close the door' first before stepping through another door. Why is this important? Our memories can screw-up the new relationship Royally.

• We compare everything our ex did with what our current does. Sometimes the current is better but by doing  the constant comparison we make them feel as if you regret leaving you old situation. Or worst yet you miss that person so much that you can't ever move on and deal with the new experiences... Life is about 'change.' Only Adam had a perfect mate. She was hand made for him.

Adam and Eve had an ideal marriage. He didn't have to hear about all the men she could have married, and she didn't have to hear about the way his mother cooked.

• For those who want to build  their new relationship as if the previous was the worst relationship ever, be-careful. No one new can live up to your fantasies. He or she will make you feel good  for the moment, saying and even doing the right things but they will screw up at some point in time, so if you build the pedestal too high they will tumble off and shatter into pieces.

• for those who believe it can get better than the way it was with your ex. You are also missing the point that 'Change' is the best thing that the world has to offer.  Use good logic to make a  sound decision : 

example: You are in a pickle. You are trapped in a 3-way hallway. Down one way is a room of ravenous crocodiles. The next hallway has a room of lions that haven't eaten in a year. Down the last hallway is a room of gorillas that have been trained to find your face and pound it.
Which way is safest? The lions. If they haven't eaten in a year they're dead. 


Don't trouble "trouble"

A couple had just been married. After arriving home the husband picks his new bride up and carries her across the threshold. Once inside, he pulls his pants off and throws them on the floor. Then he says to his wife to put those pants on. The wife says to him: "You know I can't fit those pants." He then says: "Now you know who wears the pants in this house." 

The wife looks at him then she reaches down and pulls off her panties and throws them on the floor. Then she says to the husband: "Honey, put on those panties." The husband says: "You know I can't get in those panties." The wife says: "And you won't until your attitude changes."