Nonsexual Things that Turn Women On

　
Letting her be (leaving her unmolested) is also "cool." So be the fan she needs you to be.  
I'm Not going to lie, 10 years ago these points would never have crossed my mind. But at this stage in my life I think more than I did 10 years ago. If I haven’t been feeling it all the time lately, I can relate to why women don't' get turned on like a light switch.  I'm More down-to-sleep (DTS) than down-to-sleep-with-you (DTF). It happens, let's face it. While I still just need to see my girlfriend’s lips or cleavage or inner thigh to get turned on*, a woman’s needs to see her man's other qualities. Other than his unit standing at attention.
Here’s the truth: They don't think your unit is attractive. (because their mother told them it is nasty and stay away for it At all times.) Nor does it draw her to you in the way you wish. If it did, you could just toss it on the table during the appetizers on the first date, and she'd going home with you.**
So what are some of those other qualities that turn a woman on? I can’t speak for all women, but here are five that do it for a young lady I spoke to not to long ago—and, according to my friend.she sirprised me with some of these....
My Handwriting
What? Are you kiding me? Handwritten notes are so rare these days, which only makes them more of a turn on. Doesn’t matter if you’re using a pen, pencil, or crayon—they love it! Not only is it awesome to see effort beyond the four-word text, but a handwritten note is literally something she’ll treasure , I think that women think it is very sexy to see words such as beautiful, smart, impressive in your chicken scratch as you describe her, I don't have  great penmanship. Something about sensitive words in rough manly handwriting makes her swoon, just a little bit.
Our Clean Smell
Emphasis on clean. Some women are into the sweaty man scent, but most are all about the right-out-of-the-shower smell. A little Irish Spring and she could be yours. Just don’t go overboard. With most soaps and body washes—from Axe to Gillette—a little goes a long way. Don’t show up at her door smelling like you have pine cone hanging around your neck.



You Saying her Name (make sure you remember, before saying it)
Get your mind out of gutter, not  just during sex! I mean when you say her name out of the blue***. When you’re with someone all the time, you rarely call them by name—or you use a nickname. There’s something very sexy about hearing you say her name, in a Barry White voice (LOL, I havea deep voice so I had to add the deep voice part.) Just throw it in there once in awhile to show her you still remember it—and still respect her as an individual.

You Focusing on a Project

Women love to see a guy working on a project—from building the fence in her backyard to cleaning the oven or planning a trip. Whatever it is, seeing raw dedication, focus, and ownership never gets old. (Need ideas? Don't start building a boat, she will think you are trying escape. Or paint yourself into a corner.. She will think you are an  idiot, nothing sexy about being and dud, instead of a dude!


Your Blushing ( this is tough for a man like me)
So okay, I am way funnier than most of you, I realize that****. But she might love it when she can zing ya with a great comeback and you know it was hilarious. But you don’t want to back down, so you blush or frown with a tad bit of embarrassment. Or if she says something totally unexpected, and it makes you happy, you have a certain smirk. It is fantastic to see that vulnerability every once in awhile. Some women love that....
Here are a few extra points to the above (refering to the *s):
* Just for the record, there are plenty of nonsexual things about women that turn them on too. ( I wish I knew more of them) When you hit her with a razor-sharp comeback. When you put up a great debate. When you ask "How can I help you?" When we say "We're a really great fathers" or "You’re an amazing at your job." When you just say "Thank you" after any of the dozens of times they' ve pitched in to help you during the day. In other words, when you engage them beyond your usual do-this, go-here, pick-up-this, why-don’t-you-listen-to-me blather.
** Does this mean tossing the salad right there at the table is out of the question? NO, it shows you have skills at handling vegetables, so she thinks you take you time and do things right and that is a turn on for her bif time.
*** This definitely isn’t a turn-on for guys. When we hear our name, we assume we’re in trouble. Growing up, that was the only time our mothers called us anything but "honey." And today, it’s the only time our bosses call us anything but "dude." or "Dumb-ass"
**** Be More humble, too! "Actually, you’re very funny,"- Katie, - Nakeshea or Joan- "Almost as funny as a guy with B.A.D initials.." with a a certain wicked smirk.