Thoughtful gestures---- are annoying, to her ?

Thoughtful gestures—as long  as your heart's in the right place—will win you points, right?

WRONG!

 In fact, many of the nice things you do for your girlfriend/woman may actually be driving her crazy: Buying her jewelry that's not her style, surprising her with romance at inopportune times, trying to fix her problems (rather than just listening to them), for example. What sweet, point-winning moves are you making that she secretly hates?

It's not quite as tricky as it sounds. The problem mainly happens when a gesture isn't fully considered in terms of how a partner will feel. Thinking of how she'll feel about something is always a safe move to make sure your thoughtful gestures are received in the way you intended.

Okay, consider her feelings and you'll probably do fine—but here are some moves to avoid anyway.

1. Buying her jewelry

She loves jewelry—most women do. So why she almost always disappointed when a guy presents her with something sparkly? "Guys make the mistake of thinking that the broad category of 'jewelry' is enough. It's not. Women are very particular about jewelry, and if you're not paying attention to what she actually likes and wears, your thoughtful gift comes across as a lack of interest.

It looks like you don't know or care about what she really loves. If you're going to buy her jewelry, you'd better know what she likes to wear. You can look for clues—does she like hearts, does she like gold or silver, is she drawn to bigger or smaller pieces?

2. Trying to fix her problems
Unless her problem is a leaky faucet, a hard-to-hang painting, or a spider, she probably doesn't want you to fix it. we Men and women are very different in this regard. When a woman is feeling down, she typically wants to be heard and have her feelings validated.

Translation: If she's having issues with her best friend or a colleague at work, she wants to vent, not have you  come up with a solution. All you have to do is listen to her and (occasionally) agree.

3. Lavishing her with gifts
A pretty necklace here, some roses there—that's fine. But a constant onslaught of clothes, jewelry, perfume, and other "thinking of you" trinkets? Not very smart.she might turn into that female demon with horns and a tail. actually this is a good thing in a B.A.D way.

but seriously!.She might  dislikes your avalanche of gifts for a couple of reasons. Too much masculine care-taking behavior (i.e. buying her things) feels controlling, especially if she's gainfully employed and financially capable of taking care of herself. Also, even if your intentions are pure, she feels pressure to reciprocate—and no woman wants to be in a relationship where she constantly feels one step behind.

4. Jumping in the shower without an invitation
I'm all for sexy shower time—but when she's 20 minutes late and trying to simultaneously shave her legs and deep-condition my hair, you'd better have a damn good reason for hopping in and stealing half the hot water. Physical space is an important component in relationships. Entering another's space uninvited—even if you're trying to be affectionate—can fall flat.

I'm not saying you can't be spontaneous and romantic, just try not to do it when she's pressed for time or in the middle of getting ready: No girl wants to be dragged away for a quickie when she's halfway done with her makeup.

5. Checking in on her to often!
You know the drill: Drop her off, but wait until she's inside before driving off. That's fine—no woman is going to fault you for seeing her safely home. But when you start asking her where she is, or when she's coming back, even if it's just because you care about her and are excited to see her, she'll start getting irritated.

"This is almost always meant to convey interest, caring, and affection. But it can read to her as controlling and jealous. Too much attention can feel invasive. Bottom line: Unless she asks you to, or you need her immediate expertise on how to put out a kitchen fire (or something), try not to check in on her, just because you nothing better to do.

Have we forgotten how Good----- "good" really is?

With word like "Amazing", "Epic", "Exceptional", "Exhilarating" we have stopped expecting that relationship just need to be "Good" to work long term.
Music Artist sing about: "You are amazing, just the way you are" but does not mention that she is only amazing if she stays just the way she is right now---- forever??. So is he talking about aesthetics, here. Her smile, her hair, her great  figure 8 body.  News flash: she will NOT stay "just the way she is right now for too much  longer ". she will change somethings voluntarily, and others will be changed by natural progression.

The statistics are alarming. More than half of marriages  end in divorce everywhere these days. Yet, millions still marry every year and even more get involved in committed relationships by living together. But, are Most  men getting married really willingly or are we doing it because we don't want to loose a good woman... or are we just going thought the motions and  instead of saying "I do" Loud and proud we are saying "Me Too." and making it sound like " I do?"

It’s possible to save a relationship that has  moved toward the alter, but have an expiration date on it. 
It’s up to you, though, to decide whether you want to do that. Is it better for everyone, if there are kids involved or not? Maybe you have  invested so much time in it already that it’s not worth turning back? Do you still really love the other person,  or are you to set in your ways to make a change? If there are more questions than answers, it might be time to move on, or start paying more attention to the little things. Here are some ideas that you can put into motion to help you keep it all together.

Your woman opens 

the door after a spa-and-shopping day, and asks you a loaded question:

 “Well…what do you think?”
It’s a trick! You start scanning her like she’s playing Spot the Different game changer. Did she get a haircut? A manicure? A new purse? Is she wearing a sexy dress? Heels? Red lipstick? ooh a hot pink bikini!

Admit it: We Men aren't exactly known for our ability to notice small (but critical!) details about women. But failing to pick up on what she considers to be a significant transformation—such as when she dyes her hair from black to red, or when she spends an hour putting on fake eyelashes—can land you in hot water. How can you avoid offending her without magically gaining observational superpowers?

It’s actually quite simple,  What she really wants you to notice is the effort she puts into things It’s not necessarily the details, it’s the effort she puts into your relationship, into making herself look cute for you, and into making you happy. If she’s standing there with an expectant look on her face, You can’t go wrong with a comment on how much you appreciate the work she puts into your relationship. Just say something like, ‘I love how you always look amazing for me,’ or ‘Thank you for putting so much effort into our relationship.'

Of course, deploy that line too often and she’ll wise up that you’re perpetually clueless. So here are five details she does expect you to comment on.

Hot lingerie
When women buy lingerie for themselves, it’s fun, bright, and flirty. Think Victoria’s Secret and neon-colored bras, boy shorts with cheeky sayings, and stripes and polka dots everywhere. When women buy lingerie for men, it’s a lot sexier: Black, red, or some deep jewel tone, with more straps, hooks, and lace than is probably necessary. If she comes home carrying a bag from Agent Provocateur and wearing a teddy you’ll probably have to cut her out of, you’d better say something. Luckily, it doesn't have to be very specific—a simple “Damn, you look fantastic,” will suffice.
A trip to the salon can completely change her appearance, so you shouldn't be surprised to know that she expects you to notice her new hairstyle. But this can be tricky, especially if she just got a trim and a blowout, rather than going from brunette to blonde. If her hair looks fuller or shinier,you can cover your bases by telling her that you love how she always makes her hair look amazing.
If she’s been spending a lot of time at the gym—even if you can’t really tell by looking at her—you’d be wise to note how great her body is looking. Not only is noticing her gym time part of noticing the overall effort she puts into looking good for you, complimenting her body will encourage her to keep it up. It’s basic behavioral conditioning. You want to reinforce the behavior you like with compliments. Women do this—behavioral conditioning with their men—all the time.
Men don’t notice shoes. For the most part, that’s fine. She doesn't expect you to comment on her ballet flats or her luxury riding boots (though you may want to pay attention to what she’s wearing if you’re trying to gauge her personality), or the super-cute new espadrilles she bought last week. But if she’s sporting thigh-high boots or strappy stilettos, you can safely assume it’s not a choice based on comfort. Don’t worry about naming the shoes or getting technical. Just say, “I love those shoes on you,” and she’ll know you appreciate her effort.
Is the bathroom suddenly spotless? 

Is the bed made? Are there weird-smelling candles lining the kitchen counter? If your apartment feels strangely hotel-like, guess what: She cleaned up. It’s basically the cheapest maid service ever, because all she wants is a simple thank you,  Just say: 'The house has been looking amazing lately —thank you,'  this  will show her that you recognize her efforts across the board. "Good" is really noticing the little things and complementing on them: 

New Shoes
A new hairstyle
Her body make over...
When she cleans up the house!

these are  little things to you, but are major in her book... so do a  little to get a whole lot!

Stop lying to yourself, Stop mixing sex with love!

, Girls, Women, Ladies. For years I have heard many of you  speak of your desire to be the best woman you can be. which lead to men writing books like "Act like Lady, Think like a man", and others like that .  I have listened to you express your frustrations on understanding what it is you need to do for yourselves to have better and more fulfilling relationships. Today I want to help you move in a better direction so LISTEN UP!! That’s right, I’m talking to you. There are some things many of you need to stop doing if you plan to make your dream of a better you, a reality. As I walk with you on this journey, I want to encourage you to not get defensive and do not start blaming men or anyone else as to why you do what you do. Just take a deep breath and read closely.

1. Stop mixing sex with love

How many more horror stories of traumatized women, hurt feelings, and failed missions do you need to hear about or witness before you stop equating love and sex. Most men don’t do this, so why keep using sex to try to get him, keep him, or justify his existence in your life. This has not worked well at all and it is time to fully accept this fact and stop self inflicting all this damage to your hearts and feelings. I understand sex is also an emotional thing for a woman. I am in no way asking you to separate your emotions if you’re unable to. I’m saying stop getting it all mixed up. Don’t tell me you can’t tell the difference or you’re confused. NO, you are smarter than that and you know exactly what is going on, but instead you choose to do the next thing on this list that has contributed to your heart’s demise. I've heard men don't like to cuddle.... Not true. Men like to cuddle with women they want to cuddle with. So if that is not you, then dismiss him as not the one. Water (rivers flow ) flow over the rock and the rock looses it hard rugged edges and even crumble in time. So if you don't give him the time he needs to get softer when if comes to your need then you are wasting you time. take a good look at the man and ask yourself.. is he the "one"  or his he the "one I think I want" only time will reveal the answer.

2. Stop lying to yourself

Women I know the truth. You ladies are sharp and pay attention to much more detail than most men. You are very smart and very aware of your emotions. You’re always thinking and processing so you’re much better prepared for what is thrown at you because you typically think ahead. So why must you continue this pattern of lying to yourself to justify actions you know are wrong. I am not saying there are not many men that do the same, but I am not talking to the men right now, I want you to focus on you. I can give you all kinds of examples of lies you tell yourself but I will save that for another post dedicated to just that. Either way I don’t really have to tell you because you know. You may lie to your friends, family, that guy, and yourself. No matter how much you do it, you still know the truth, and you need to accept it for what it is. You aren't doing yourself any favors, and when it all hits the fan, you don’t have anybody to blame but yourself. Embrace the truth, it may hurt, and it may not be what you think you want, but it is exactly what you need. He is not the "ONE"  he is good in many areas, but if he is not good in the areas you need most then you are lie and accepting that you will never be totally satisfied. 

3. Stop letting fear consume you

That’s right, stop operating from fear so much. What you call protecting yourself, I call it fear. What you call playing it safe, I call  fear. What you call gold digging, I call a very smart business move. That was a joke, please don’t take that too seriously. Anyway, I really feel that many women far too often make decisions based on the fear of being hurt. Women also sometimes try to disguise the fear and call it love. For example, you are afraid to leave a man because you don’t want to be alone, so what do you do, out of that fear you lie to yourself and others and claim you love him to validate staying. That is just one example. What these women have to realize is that operating from fear is only making things worse for you in the long run. You need to get to a point where you can operate out of faith, and trust you will put yourself in a much better position.

A quote I just read: "If you ignore a part of yourself that is doing what it can to help you live the best life possible, you quality of life will certainly be affected!" 

There is so much more I want to say. If this wasn't a blog post I would get much deeper into this and really get at the root of the issues. You can gain further insight on this by checking out a good book God Where Is My Boaz? These issues not only affect single women,  this applies to many women in relationships as well. I also understand that men have plenty they need to stop doing, and you can check out the link below for that. I just want the women reading this to take heed to the message. Many of you may not be dealing with these specific issues, but if you are it is time to take a stand and make the necessary corrections. You know what you have been doing so far isn't really working for you, so why keep doing it. It is time to break the cycle and start moving towards a better you which will help also open the door to receiving the right person for you.
 I'm told that woman have Female Intuition----> " Intuition is an extrasensory perception or a "knowing" of something you should or shouldn't do, without any substantial proof, which is accompanied by a noticeable feeling in the body!" 

So aren't women using their God given Intuitions to make better choices?

 If I had the answer to that one I would be called Genius instead of B.A.D.

 just remember!

Venus VS Mars!

 If she blows you a Kiss. question her intentions and her motives! read her body language carefully.

I am sure by now most of you have heard that saying. Some of you may have actually read the book. If you have done neither, well let me shed some light on it. “Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars” expresses the belief that women and men operate in two different ways. Men are known to be creatures of logic, and women are seen to be driven more by emotion. So is this really the case? Are we really built differently? My answer is an emphatic YES/NO! We are most certainly two different types of people, and these differences are what has led to the ongoing communication gap that plagues our existence, which therefore hinders our relationships. I know what some of you may be thinking “well, if we know we are different should we not be able to use that to our advantage in creating more harmony and better communication?” If only it were that simple!  But wait, it actually is that simple. We have over complicated these issues for far too long. We continue to have unhappy men and women dragging along in their relationships simply because neither truly understands the other. So how can we begin to put an end to this travesty? How do we take the necessary steps to finally rectify this issue? Well I am glad you asked.  Here are some tips to getting on the same page as your partner, and to begin to have a much more fulfilling relationship.

It’s not them, it’s YOU – don’t get me wrong, I totally understand that your partner has done plenty to make you mad and contribute to a negative situation. I realize that you may have made many efforts to fix things yet they seem to resist them and nothing has worked. Despite those facts, we as men and women will never be able to understand each other if all we do is point the finger at the other person. When you are just focused on defending your actions and pointing out their shortcomings, you have effectively put yourself in a position where you will not be able to properly understand their reasoning, their needs, or their issues. You are simply too caught up in yourself to see things clearly. So, the first step is to focus only on what you can control, which is you. Yes,you may have done plenty already, but can you honestly say you have continued to be the man or woman THEY need you to be? You may have been great as far as you’re concerned, but you need to focus on what they need from you. Hold yourself accountable for your actions, and trust that by putting your best foot forward you will give yourself a much better chance at beginning to understand your partner and giving them the example they need to be a better partner.

Pay more  attention – communication is key, but why do we continue to mainly apply that to verbal communication? Men and women already speak different languages (men speak English or something like it, and women speak “woman-ese”), so we can talk all day and still have a lot misunderstood or misinterpreted. Could you imagine a Latin person and an Asian person trying to speak to each other in their own languages? They could actively listen, they may make out a few things here and there, but at the end of the day they still won’t understand each other. So let’s try to include things like body language more, as well as just paying attention to how our partner handles and reacts to things. A lot of times it is more obvious than we realize that what our partner likes and dislikes can be based on their actions.  Yet, we are so caught up in other things that we simply overlook the obvious. So open your ears and your eyes. Also, realize that both men and women have things that they will just have a hard time fully expressing. Women may not tell their partner everything because she figures you should know on your own, and she shouldn't have to tell you. Men will hold things back because they don’t want to deal with certain backlash they feel they may receive. Actions though, can many times be more telling and we need to pay more attention to all of it.

Be Patient – we live in a time where we like things fast and convenient. If we have to wait too long, we abandon what it is we are looking for and move on to the next. Well, understanding people just does not work that way. You are involved with a person who has been through years of programming (life). To break all that down and truly understand who they are is not race, it is a marathon. We have to realize that these things take time, and it takes even longer the more we do things to damage the situation and create a bigger gap between us. At times, some people don’t even fully understand themselves, so how do you expect to get it right so fast? Be patient and embrace the progress as it comes, which will breed more progress, and before you know it you will be at the finish line a lot quicker than most.

Of course there is more to understanding your partner,(now, I'm being politically correct because  "partner" is a term used in same sex relationships also) but I believe these are some core concepts you have to embrace in order to set yourself in the right direction. Your goal isn't to understand all men, or all women, it is simply to understand the one you are in a relationship with. That is your focus, and doing that will create a relationship so full of love, enjoyment, and fulfillment that every step you take in this process will be well worth your energy, your devotion, your time.  

Women think: sex that last over an hour. Is just boring'

Sex last too long? or it's just for two minutes...., you choose!

this is not. your usual female complaint in the bedroom, but some  women are  frankly bored and frustrated by their  man's constant demands to have sex that lasts over an hour.

 REALLY?

Why do we men  think of lengthy sex is great sex? simple answer  because of Porn! clear and simple.... we want to be "long John" whatever his name is  on the XXX DVD.

Woman can  ask her man why he feels this is ‘normal’ and ‘good’ sex? It may be that he, like many of us, are used to inspirational messages in  the Western media, porn, self help books and magazine sex advice features all telling us men that ‘great’ sex should be something we do as frequently as possible for as long as possible in as many different positions as possible.

Moreover media and medical discussions of women and sex present women’s sexuality as complicated, suggesting that women are difficult to excite and require lengthy stimulation to become aroused – let alone orgasm.

So Why else might this be taking a while?

Men who are struggling to get or keep an erection may need more time for sex in order to get or stay hard. Some men take a long time to come (known as delayed ejaculation). Medications for some physical or mental health conditions and certain recreational drugs can cause problems with ejaculation and erections.

Reviewing how you both see sex and removing his orgasm as the inevitable end goal might allow him to feel more relaxed and under less pressure to ‘perform’. It might be his keenness to enjoy lengthy sex is due to him hiding fear or embarrassment about deeper sexual problems. Particularly if he fears you will judge or leave him if he can’t last for as long as possible (or if you discover he can’t orgasm easily). His GP can assist if he is struggling with erections or he thinks existing medication is getting in the way of pleasure. 

Clearer communication

He seemingly wants to please you but you’re putting to him that this isn’t pleasing you and he isn't listening – why might that be? Could it be he feels this is the right way to have sex and so can’t change the way he behaves? Perhaps he’s unsure what else you might do instead? Maybe this is a big turn on for him and he’s anxious that he won’t enjoy other kinds of sex. Perhaps this is the only sexual script he knows. Finding out about what’s driving this behavior is important.

REALITY check!

  Ladies if the above is your problem, get real and keep reading the rest of this blog post.....

Start by:

Stop complaining! 

Because...... It will take you longer to read this blog post  than it takes nearly half of all men to finish having sex. And this is a fairly medium length blog post.So consider this: If a man and a woman start having sex right now, the man will either be asleep or smoking a cigarette by the time you finish  reading the last word I've written here.

Two minutes, ladies. That’s all you’re going to get from a lot of guys these days. Two minutes.    Wowie, back in our day, fellas over 40, we were not proud of only lasting 5 minutes whenever an accusation of inadequacy popped out it's angry deflating head, and she said with an ugly voice. "Sh!t now what am I suppose to do, now that you got yours... what about mine?"  "You got batteries?"

I imagine a few women just exclaimed, “No sh!tttt, BAD!” The fact that many men don’t last long during intercourse isn't necessarily worth a breaking-news alert. But new analysis is shedding more light on the situation and on men’s sexual shortcomings (pun intended). 

According to sexual-health expert Dr. Harry Fisch, 45 percent of men have an orgasm within the first two minutes of intercourse. He calls that percentage “astonishing.” It’s also devastating for women.  

Dr. Fisch writes: “That’s pretty speedy. Way too speedy for the average woman to be able to have an orgasm. At least five minutes, or more like seven, is usually what’s needed for a woman to be able to achieve orgasm.” 

Dr. Fisch lays out his findings and advice in his book The New Naked: The Ultimate Sex Education for Grown-Ups. In it he explains that the No. 1 question he gets from all adult couples (married and unmarried) is actually the wrong question on which they should focus.

They want to know how much sex is normal. (Dr. Fisch puts the average frequency of sexual activity at two or three times per week for most couples, with younger couples having sex more often than older couples.) But rather than fixate on frequency, Dr. Fisch argues, couples should focus on quality. He contends that if you are having an incredibly satisfying sexual experience once a week, it’s possible that you’re more fulfilled than someone having sex four times a week, if those four times are just so-so. Ultimately, it’s not about how much sex you’re having but how good the sex is that you’re having.

And undoubtedly, duration is a major factor. Even if a man performs admirably for those two glorious minutes, it’s still not going to get the job done for the majority of women. Sixty-seven percent of women in one study reported faking orgasms. The number was as high as 80 percent in other studies. There were varying reasons that women faked orgasms, but the main one was that they didn't want to hurt the man’s feelings.     

Of course, there are also legitimate health issues that can cause a man to reach climax quickly, but many men just get overly excited and can’t control themselves. I don’t care who you are—every man has wanted to take a sexual mulligan at some point in his life for one reason or another. If the first encounter with a woman doesn't go wonderfully, we can’t wait for the do-over. The last thing we want is for a woman to think we don’t know what we’re doing and then, God forbid, she tells her girlfriends. As men, we often and unnecessarily define ourselves by our sexual prowess. It’s crucial to our identity and our confidence. 

Of course, as men get older, more experienced and generally more confident, this becomes less of an issue, and we don’t feel that we have so much to prove. As the late Bernie Mac once brilliantly explained about sex as a 42-year-old man: “Three minutes! That’s all I’m giving you! That’s all the f--k I got! ... And I don’t care about you talking about me!”

Still, it’s ingrained early on and reinforced throughout our lives that our manhood is measured in part by what we do in the bedroom. Women know this and find themselves in the unenviable position of sacrificing their own satisfaction for the sake of salvaging men’s egos. That can eventually lead to frustration and unhappiness both in and out of bed. 

The simple fix: Talk. We’re all adults here, and there’s 23 hours and 58 minutes’ let after sex. worthy  of the opportunity every single day to broach this sensitive subject with your lover. 

So sit on the beach and talk and re-connect! you can over-come most short comings if you just communicate.

Don't do unnecessary comparisons! YOU are "fine" just the way you are!

Too much time on social media may take a toll on a young woman's sense of self-esteem, particularly how she feels about her body, a new study suggests.

One question, for example, asked the women, "When looking at someone else's photos on Facebook, how much attention do you pay to:

1) how they dress, 

2) their body?

some women were also asked about their eating habits and body image, as well as their current weight, ideal weight and class rank.

The average weight of women in the study was 149 pounds, but most wanted to weigh about 20 pounds less than that. On average, they pegged their ideal weight at around 130 pounds.

Most spent about 80 minutes on Facebook every day. The most popular activities were reading the news feed and looking at photos, according to the study.

Spending more time on Facebook was linked to a significantly greater likelihood that a woman would feel bad about her own body, the study revealed. It also was tied to greater odds that she would compare herself to others.

That was especially true if she felt like she needed to lose weight, the researchers noted.

However, women who wanted to gain or maintain their weight did not feel bad about themselves after logging on to the social networking site.

While the study found an association between Facebook use and poor body image, it was not designed to prove a cause-and-effect relationship.

The research was to be presented Thursday at the International Communication Association annual conference, in Seattle. Research presented at meetings should be viewed as preliminary until published in a peer-reviewed medical journal.

Women tend to present their ideal self on Facebook, not necessarily their actual, true self.

Many people Photoshop their pictures before posting or they use an app like SkinneePix, which claims to shave pounds off a selfie.

Women who compare themselves to these idealized photos may come away feeling inferior, adding that she worries that it could set vulnerable young women up for an eating disorder.

"Feeling negatively about yourself and increased body comparison is sort of the first step towards disordered eating. Not in everyone, but that's definitely one of the phases women go through," she said.

This study didn't find a link between full-blown eating disorders and Facebook use, but previous studies have identified some worrisome trends.

For example, you see your friend is going to a party that you weren't invited to or got a job that you applied for, and those kinds of upward comparisons have the tendency to make you feel worse about yourself

Another study found that women who have a tendency to "untag" themselves in photos they consider unflattering could also be suffering from poor body image. So-called "tags" are used to identify by name the people who appear in photos on Facebook.

I think it's really important for young people to try to be conscientious about their motivations for using Facebook -- their motivations for posting updates and pictures, and also how they feel after using Facebook,

Here are some surprising things that can boost her arousal.

Sure, there are obvious things a woman can do to indicate she's interested in more than just your personality, like finding excuses to brush up against you at the bar, and says: so what are you drinking, can I buy you the next one? But what about the more subtle signs that let you know she means business? the following are  five things that can  boost her arousal—and how you can take full advantage of each one.

1. Roller coasters. adrenaline rush!
Talk about being in the right place at the right time. Research from the University of Texas at Austin shows that people who have just stepped off a roller coaster find the opposite sex more attractive. The study found that symptoms of physiological arousal—like heavy breathing and increased heart rate—tend to linger without our knowledge after any adrenaline-pumping activity, intensifying perception of attractiveness.

Make your move: Luckily, you can harness the power of "excitation transfer" without hanging out at Six Flags all day. A simple Netflix binge at home can do the trick. Fire up your favorite, jump-in-your-seat horror movies—and keep some massage oil handy. Add some caring touch into the equation, and the bonding hormone oxytocin also blends into the mix!

2. Your dress shirt. She is seeing red. in a good way!

 In a University of Rochester study, women found men who were either wearing red or surrounded by the color to be more attractive and sexually desirable. Researchers attribute some of the connection to the historic use of the color as a symbol of wealth and power.

Make your move: You probably know where this one is going: Wear red! It's that simple,  Too bold for your button-downs? Consider making it the color of your boxers or briefs,"


3. Your dance moves.

A recent study in Biology Letters found that women consider large, varied, and fast movements like head-nodding and torso-twisting most arousing on the dance floor, because they signal strength, suppleness, and vitality. The study suggests women prefer "vigorous and skilled" males—and dancing ability perhaps signals physical condition. (Hey, I'll take the researchers' word for it!)

Make your move: Shuffling around with your hands stuffed in your pockets won't cut it. Learn to Salsa.
Take her dancing and don't be afraid to let go on the dance floor,  But you'll have to do better than the sprinkler: Take dancing lessons together, and allow the experts to teach you how you can best move together.

4. Your lack of deodorant.

Skip the cologne—NOT.....according to research from the University of California, Berkeley, it's your natural musk she's after. Scientists found that a pheromone in male underarm sweat causes a spike in women's levels of cortisol, a hormone associated with arousal and brain activation. The result? Your pit stains can improve women's moods and increase sexual arousal.
Are you kidding me..... I don't really buy this one.

Make your move: Work up a sweat—together. Plan to go for a hike,suggests Fulbright. If you go in for a hug and she complains that you stink, "it's a good indicator that you may not be the best match, at least reproductively speaking. But if she digs it, consider yourself very lucky.


5. Red wine. woman drinking red wine

If she picks a Cabernet on the first date, it bodes well for the rest of the night. According to a study from the University of Florence, women who drank one to two glasses of red wine a day had higher levels of sexual desire than non-drinkers. Researchers also found a correlation between moderate wine consumption and higher levels of lubrication.

Make your move: Drunk and sloppy isn't the goal, so keep it classy. "Invite her to a tasting at your local wine store. More than two drinks actually constricts blood flow to the genitals. Translation: Leave the box of Franzia at home!