You are who you THINK YOU ARE!

The following quotes are a collection that helps me smile (internally) daily:

• I still find each day too short for all the thoughts I want to think, all the walks I want to take, all the books I want to read, and all the friends I want to see.~John Burroughs
• We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far.~Swami Vivekananda
• Change your thoughts and you change your World.~Norman Vincent Peale
• A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes.~Mahatma Gandhi
• We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves. ~Buddha
• As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.~Henry David Thoreau
• Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well. ~Mahatma Gandhi
• All intelligent thoughts have already been thought; what is necessary is only to try to think them again. ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
• Our life is what our thoughts make it.~Marcus Aurelius
• We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the World.~Buddha
• The good times of today, are the sad thoughts of tomorrow.~Bob Marley

This last one by  Bob Marley makes me think about this other qoute by him which is so true.

"Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you riding through the ruts, don't complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy. Don't bury your thoughts, put your vision to reality. Wake Up and Live!"
~Bob Marley

My thought are often influenced by  what happens to me during the day, I'm working on thinking about the days I want to have instead of dealing with the day that life puts on my plate from time to time.  Feeling like you are in the toilet, can be changed by just how you think about the situation you are in. If you are thankfull that it isn't worse, you will feel better right a way. It works for me, most of the time...
I'm known as the guy who is always talking about choices, deciding to choose what you really want is a matter of  controlling your thoughts. Positive thought are far better than negative thoughts. You can except a situation but move your mind forward and don't stay stagnant in it.
I love looking at beaches as a scenic mind changer. I remember a professor who told me in my Public speaking 101 class. "Just picture everyone naked and you will start smiling right away as you step on stage."

I must admit it helped, but some of the images in my head of my class mates naked were horrible. So now I picture people at the beach having fun as the surf rolls in and out. Soothing and refreshing.

 
                            Take life in stride and try to move  forward to better thoughts,

good visuals help.

                       

Try this while you read this post or after..... click on this Youtube video and listen to the surf
( I did it when I was typing this blog post.)

You are not her " first choice!"

Who stands a better shot at entrepreneurial success - the young and fearless 20-something or the seasoned 40-and-over executive? Take a wild guess.

Just like business and in  personal situation, if you feel like you not someone's "first choice" you will struggle with your confidence in dealing with him or her. 

“ The tools to him who has the ability to handle them. ”~ French Proverb

 If we define “success” as still being in business after 5 years, which do you believe is true: pick what your think  below:

Founders under 30 have the edge (they’re relatively poor and hungry, can work long hours and are willing to break the rules to achieve a breakthrough)

Founders 40 and over are stronger (they have greater financial resources and are a better bet for raising funds, have more business experience and a vast network of connections) 

Age doesn’t matter (a founder who has run at least one prior business has the greater advantage)

Success stands a better chance when a young founder partners with a highly-experienced and older cofounder

  

Many folk treat the risk taking in business the same way they take risk in their personal life. so let's ask the same type of questions about ones personal lives.

If we define “success” as still being in together after 5 years, which do you believe is true: pick what your think  below:

Guys under 30 have the edge (they're relatively poor and horny,  they can have sex for longer hours and are willing to break all the rules to achieve a breakthrough and capture your heart.

Guys 40 and over are stronger (they have greater financial resources and are a better bet for raising kids, they have more experience in relationships and are ready to commit)

Age doesn't matter (a man who has been at least in one prior relationship has the greater advantage.)

Age and experience does matter ( a man who has been in at least 10 prior relationships has the greatest experience advantage)

Success in a relationship stands a better chance when a younger woman partners with a highly-experience and older partner.

***Now I will not be able to see what you picked only you will know what you believe to be true as it applies to you.

So here are a few things to consider. Most of the times you don't find happiness with your "first choice," now the "second choice" can be who you settled for. But only you will know if it was the right choice. over time it will become apparent that you  can't change the choice and go back and have a do over. 

That's right as time passes, lets just say a  year or two, do you think that your choice is someone you want to go on an exotic vacation with.

As you stroll together on the beaches of the Caribbean shorelines, do you have a good time naturally with this person as you are  holding hands? Or are you asking yourself the question: Is this all there is or will we be become happier the longer we hold on to each other?

We all believe that paradise is the most romantic when shared with someone special. It starts with  your first honeymoon (you don't need to be married to have one.)

The more your repeat honeymoons the more chance you will have at making it last.  Why?  Have you  ever played the same song over and over for a few days and then you play it again after a long time? Do you still like the song or does it loose something?
 Repeating honeymoons work the same way. You get in the right frame of mind to go away together, you pack based on what you dream will be happening. You find yourself dreaming ahead of time the anticipation makes your pulse race.  OK let's assume he is "Mr. Right" or "Right for the moment." Then your mindset will make all the difference as to how much you enjoy the experience. So here is were you have to do the little things to make the exiting things happen and last for a few days.

This  test will confirm your good or BAD choice.

Will he continue to be exiting and a Gentleman who will protect you (using his jacket)  from the elements as the breeze cause a chill to come over you?  Women always want a man to be gentlemen but do you pick a gentleman from the very beginning, because men who have habits don't break them, Good or BAD he will do what comes naturally to him. So your choices will tell you over time if it was an act or  was he  for real all along.

Now I know you might be thinking: What if you don't want a permanent relationship,you just want a travel buddy you can have fun with. Enjoy those things that you only do when you are traveling and are less inhibited 

 The possibilities of finding that type of guy is rear unless you are Kim K. so chances are you might wind up traveling alone.

Now if that's "your thing" then you are not alone. There are many women doing the  travel alone bit (maybe to meet someone), either on vacations or for the rest of their lives simply because you picked the wrong choices above. So do you think you should read the choices over again and see if  you might pick differently this time.

Like the persistent turtle in the race, you will get there.–your major competitor is you.    

Did Your know that you were my hero?

On your 28 Birthday, I just want to dedicate this song to you, my fist born son. The lyrics in this song is a perfect depiction of our relationship.

It must have been cold there in my shadow
To never have sunlight on your face
You were content to let me shine, that's your way
You always walked a step behind

So I was the one with all the glory
While you were the one with all the strength
A beautiful face without a name for so long
A beautiful smile to hide the pain

Did you ever know that you're my hero
And everything I would like to be?
I can fly higher than an eagle
For you are the wind beneath my wings

It might have appeared to go unnoticed
But I've got it all here in my heart
I want you to know, I know the truth, of course I know it
I would be nothing without you

Did you ever know that you're my hero?
You're everything I wish I could be
I could fly higher than an eagle
For you are the wind beneath my wings

Did I ever tell you you're my hero?
You're everything, everything I wish I could be
Oh, and I, I could fly higher than an eagle
For you are the wind beneath my wings
'Cause you are the wind beneath my wings

Oh, the wind beneath my wings
You, you, you, you are the wind beneath my wings
Fly, fly, fly away, you let me fly so high
Oh, you, you, you, the wind beneath my wings
Oh, you, you, you, the wind beneath my wings

Fly, fly, so high against the sky
So high I almost touch the sky
Thank you, thank you
Thank God for you, the wind beneath my wings
 

Father's and sons are suppose to have special relationships. I feel truly sorry for all those Dads who fail to have that good relationship with their sons. I'm truly blessed to have two sons to carry on my last name. I love then both dearly.

When a man first becomes a father something special happens he realizes at that point that he is responsible for making this young life someone special. And when that young life grows up, you then realize that you had a hand in molding this person into the image of what your view of the future was.Someone special to past the torch to. No matter how high you reached in your life, it is not worth much unless you can pass it on to someone or in my case to two sons. They can treat it as a relay or they can rebuild what you built if it is out dated and make  it better for their off-springs. To not realize that, is to live life in a truly selfish state of mind. As I  listen to the above video by Eddie Lever who  is a father who had two sons, Gerald his eldest die a few years ago and as I look at the pride on his face, here on the Album cover, I know he feels a real deep  loss in loosing his  eldest son so early (who was so very talented)  you may not know much about his second son. I'm sure that Eddie is praying very hard that nothing happens to him.  I can't even begin to tell you how I would deal with what Eddie Levert may be feeling.

Just the other day, my youngest brother in-law tweeted that his eldest son was in a serious car accident and that the car he son was driving was totaled... but his son was OK.... thanks to the seatbelt and airbags. When I read that my heart sank, because fathers like my brother in-law and I share the same values of being there for our kids, our eldest sons are one year apart and they are close cousins. Both of us are very proud of having kids. This is the most important job a father can have, it's  having a great relationship with his kids. We should never let our kids grow up wondering why their fathers are not their heroes. This is what I know,  your sons become your Hero in due time. My dad was my hero, and he past on these values to me, I in turn try to instill the same values in my sons. We can only pass on what we know. Not that a son who grew up without a dad can't grow up to be a great father, but it is easier for the sons who have a good dad to learn from... that is what being a hero is all about not leaping tall buildings or walking on water. It's being important in your kids lives.

The movie John Q was a sad movie with Denzel Washington who showed that he was willing to give up his life so that his son could live. In the end he only had to do some jail time. Which is a small prize to pay to ensure that his son could live a fruitful life for years to come.

His son said "thanks Dad"  and One of the guys who was a hostage played  by Eddie Griffin a comedian even in a serious movie  .. said these words in the end " you are my hero." 

If your sons are your Hero let them know because that will make them act like Heroes.  

They are the wind beneath your wings, and you will fly higher than an eagle, as they will in time.

 

Father First Became Bigger than Basketball

Here again a super hero dad Dwayne Wade writes about being a proud dad.

check out:

Two Stories for all Dads!

 

The shoulder you choose should be warm and comfortable

There are pillows that can look like your dream comfortable strong man. The usage of these pillows may be  beneficial to  those who's significant other is  away for a few days, or maybe weeks and months but if it is a permanent substitute then it may become a problem. 
I remember a  Jennifer Lopez movie, where the roll she played as and independent female,  who had trouble sleeping without one of these body pillows.

Zoe (Jennifer Lopez) is well aware that her biological clock is ticking, but she just can't find the type of guy she'd want to settle down and start a family with. Eventually, she makes the decision to become a single mother ( by artificial insemination.) The very same day that Zoe follows through on her plan, however, she meets Stan (Alex O'Loughlin), a single charmer whom she thinks would make a great father. While at first Zoe struggles to hide her condition from Stan, before long there's no denying the truth and she decides to spill the beans. Much to her surprise, Stan responds enthusiastically, announcing that he's in it for the long haul. Over the course of the next nine months, Zoe and Stan enter into a whirlwind romance, begin drawing up wedding plans, and mapping out the rest of their lives together. But will their burgeoning relationship collapse under the stress of all this weight, or was it simply meant to be that Zoe and Stan would both find each other at such a crucial turning point in each others lives? 
Of course this is a movie, and movies almost have a happy ending.
So let me ask the questions to most women that are in this same mindset  right now. What choices are you making? Are you closing the door to happiness with someone because you have a career,or maybe still not over a previous BAD relationship?

When was the last time you felt the warmth of someone strong and gentle hugging you and telling you, you are' amazing...?' 
To feel this you may have to change a few things:
- Maybe letting down your guard a little.
- Maybe becoming less combative
- Maybe acting like you did before you became jaded
- Maybe actually letting someone come close to you
- Maybe becoming that woman that a man will see past the mask.

OK maybe I should tell you what  guys like me  are looking for. Listen this is just my B.A.D version, not every man thinks like me.

I'm creating a "Special Lady" cake recipe, because I have a sweet tooth.
Let me reach into my spice rack to see what I need to get it just right.
To make this mix, I need:
- 2 cups of intelligence (she has to be smart)
- 1 cup of sugar brown (Because she has to be sweet, mental, sound and deep)
- Cinnamon is always good to accent the taste and balance the sugar
- A few cups of culture, so she's in touch with her roots
(You see I want to enhance my connections with my own roots, that's why I will stick to Special brand of chocolate)
- I am adding butter cause she must be smooth
- Raisins for the "dimple" will be cool and accent her beauty
- I think I'll add a little salt, to balance her out
- And a dominant profile, to show she has clout
- For a responsible woman, I'll throw in some baking soda
- I'll add 7 cups of courage (you need to be willing to take a chance)
Turn her 360 degrees,  so that I can ADMIRE her beauty...... fully.

She needs to be Un·Pre·ten·tious
1. Not attempting to impress others with an appearance of greater importance, talent, or culture than is actually possessed.
2. without ostentatious display; plain: her unpretentious demeanor.
3. naturally modest: not putting on a false or showy display of importance, wealth, or knowledge .

Grant me One moment to admire your beauty. One moment is all I ask. One moment is all I need.
Because that one moment will last me a lifetime!

the next time you meet someone, who caught your eye, try to think about these things:

Let us never forget that we learn in moments of enjoyment!

People will do more of what they are praised for!

Attainable goals are those you can reach but that make you stretch!

Nothing is a waste of time if you use the experience wisely!
“ The secret to success is the consistency to pursue. ”
~Harry F. Banks 

Leave it on the bedroom floor

 

Don't ask, because I will not tell.

What's with the questions about the Number.... of sex partners?

Revealing the number of women you’ve hooked up with is fine when you’re throwing back brews with your buddies. Otherwise? Avoid the topic like the plague.

Here’s why: A majority of women will lose respect for you if they believe you have   too much casual sex.

But let’s say your new fling won’t stop badgering you about your number. What do you do? Do you dish, regardless of whether the tally’s 5 women or 50, or do you keep your mouth shut like a steel trap?
My advise is Mum is the word!

Deliberate no more. Here’s your step-by-step plan for attacking the decision—and leaving your girlfriend’s place in one piece.

1. Figure Out Your Stance
If you really don’t mind discussing the matter and you’re not ashamed about  your sexual past, then talk about it. I don't suggest you give a number under any circumstance. But if her persistent curiosity rubs you the wrong way, there’s nothing wrong with keeping it a secret. Sharing meaningful, even powerful struggles from our past can be a great way to bond. But I’m not one to believe that we need to share everything in our past just for the sake of sharing

2. Avoid the number entrapment trick!
Suppose you’re in the middle of post-sex pillow talk when she randomly drops her number: 7 guys. Don’t panic. Don’t feel the need to automatically spill your side of the story. And definitely avoid lying or dropping a number that’s close to hers, just because you think it’ll smooth over the situation. Making up an “acceptable” number isn’t just dishonest; it buries the real mystery at hand, which is why she’s interested in the first place. If you don’t understand the fairer sex. You’re not alone.

3. Uncover Her Motive
So maybe she’s just curious—and that’s completely fine. But usually there’s something more to her probing,  Tell her you don’t mind having some discussion about it, but ask her why the number really matters: Is she worried about whether or not you’re carrying an STD or an STI? Is she concerned that she’s being compared physically and sexually to your past hookups? Is she scared you’ll see her as   too inexperienced?
What it really boils down to is, talking about the number is an unproductive conversation to have. It can raise jealousy and insecurity, which is normal, since it’s hard to think about your partner being with other people.  So put the number to bed, and get deep. The goal is really to stick to the productive conversation you need to be having.Your  best bet is try to set her at  ease by saying something like: "Honey, a gentleman never ever talks about another woman to his LADY........ Don't worry about anything you are the only one for me."


Since this subject  is really taboo, I will end this post by saying no more!

I'm just a man that believe that Love can heal the soul.

I'm currently dealing with writers block..LOL this is funny because I'm not a writer.... So I will do another musical blog of  video of an artist I believe who brings it strong.

Here we go, Tuesday is a day we just try to get through because it is not Wednesday of Friday. So I'm kicking it off with a little music from my dream girl Toni Braxton.

If you have a broken heart this one is for you. Find a way to un-break your heart.

                                 A little tenderness can go a long way to healing what ails us.

I love a  the sound of an acoustic guitar as well as the  figure 8, so if you have ever held a guitar figured female you know what I'm talking about. 

Dream moments that live forever in you memories.

Don't you just love it when a woman challenges you  to "a Man" about something? I do, because that mean she believes that I have the right stuff to do the right thing.

  

If you started  watching these videos when the blog was posted and watched a video per day you would be watching this one on a weekend day. So if you have not heard from someone in a while let them know that it's been at least "Seven days."

To best understand what "Love" is you need to be home with the one you Love.

 Maybe Halle Berry says it Best. "Love should have brought you home last night."

I believe that the message here, is  that "Love" is what will heal what ails the heart in need!         A little Trey SongZ combo with Toni Braxton is right on time.

 

Feel the feeling and enjoy life the way it was intended with "Love" at the center of you existence!

 

Music can calm the furry that builds up inside!

I decided to do something a little different in this post... What's so different this time ?you ask.... I'm going to introduce you to two artist that I've come to  love their music one Male and one Female.

Here is My  play list. 

I will kick it of with  Anthony Hamilton- Woo

 :http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wau7jqDHZ5c

Too often lyrics can make you think about someone that it didn't work out with. 

Anthony Hamilton - Charlene

 

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=endscreen&NR=1&v=QUmxh7H8vok

Vows these days mean nothing, if you believe in Vows you will be disappointed, simply because they are just lip service of the moment that are being re-sighted, no thought put into them therefore no real commitment, at least not long term.. 

                                                       http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=endscreen&NR=1&v=qlJtQLg4bpU

 

What is really "the point of it all." If you can't say it, she does not hear it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=endscreen&NR=1&v=jyW6w

 

  I'm just coming From Where I'm from

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wau7jqDHZ5c

Just Pray for me!

 

Switching to my girl

A little Ledisi is right on time to brighten up the mood.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=McUj4t3TkPA

 

If you are not going through "changes" you are standing in stagnant waters.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?NR=1&feature=endscreen&v=kHXmBP-_ztA

 

Make the "changes" and make things work for you:BRAVO

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FREXte0wwqM

 

 

Seeing the sun in the morning is a blessing that it will be a brighter day for you to enjoy: 

It's Alright.

 
                                                                           http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aqsc3ih3_Po

 

I will conclude my playlist with this one: Stay together if you can.

                                                                http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b-xwzgdZ-xY

 That's all folk I hope you enjoyed my playlist.