So should she be grateful or thankful

The Oxford Dictionary defines the word grateful as “showing an appreciation of kindness.” This is where the difference lies; being thankful is a feeling, and being grateful is an action. It’s easy for us to look around the Thanksgiving dinner table and say that we are thankful.

 

A woman differs from a man in so many ways. Their emotions are different. The way they react to situations differs from the way men do.

I'm thankful for his attention, that is all!

Often some men complain about not knowing exactly what their spouse wants from them, especially when they have done all they know to do to please her.

Here is a good example:

A friend of mine came to me one day, and he complained bitterly about his spouse. “I don’t know what else she wants from me,” he exclaimed in frustration.

He continued, “I give her more than enough money to take care of herself. Isn’t that enough for her? Yet she complains insistently that I don’t care about her!”

That’s the belief of an average man. An average man believes all it takes to make a woman happy is money.

The truth is, money is important to a woman, but it’s not all there is to have a successful relationship with a woman. Women have other important needs apart from money.

Many times it’s failing to understand a woman's needs that makes some men believe women are the biggest problem of a man. Failure to understand a woman can also result in serious marital conflicts.

1. A woman is like a mirror

A mirror reflects whatever that’s presented before it. Women naturally reflect a man's attitudes and behaviors towards them.

If you treat a woman right, her natural tendency is to reciprocate it.

An Anonymous Author puts it this way:

A woman becomes a reflection of how you treat her. If you don't like how she's acting, look at how you are treating her.

Most often than not, a woman reflects what you bring before her, either good or bad.

• If you love and respect her, she does the same to you.
• If you treat her like a queen, she treats you like a king ( or maybe a crown prince).
• If you dishonor her, she dishonors you, too.

Whatever you want your women to be, live it as an example. If you want her to be respectful, show it to her. If you want her to be submissive, teach her by example and be patient with her.

I have to make sure he rewards me for the attention he gets

2. Women are attention seekers

Women can always tell if a man loves her by how much time he’s willing to invest. Money spent is meaningless, but time spent is priceless. — Tony A. Gaskin Jr.

Many things a woman does, the goal is to secure a man’s attention. Things like the clothes she wears, her hairdo, her makeup, her walking style, etc, are mainly to gain a man’s attention.

"Grateful is the feeling or showing an appreciation
 for something done or received while thankful
is the expressing gratitude and relief. "

Getting a man’s attention is very vital to a woman.

If you truly want to have a good relationship with a woman, you need to be intentional about giving her the attention she deserves. Make her feel important.

• Make it a habit to compliment her new hairdo.
• Always compliment her dresses.
• Learn to compliment her extra effort to look more beautiful. Tell her you believe her middle name should be "beautiful".
• Always remind her she means the world to you.

You must also learn to communicate with her. If she wants to talk, let her talk. It may look sometimes very boring and inconvenient, just enjoy the process. After all, relationships thrive on sacrifice. Listen to her and make meaningful contributions to what she says.

Women love guys who give them attention.

On the flip side, if you’re not giving your woman the needed attention, she may resort to getting it through negative means — by complaining, nagging, quarreling, and anything just to get that attention.

3. Women love intimacy.

It’s not uncommon to see some women complain about their men not being close to them. They complain their partner is like a stranger to them.

Some men, however, can’t understand why a woman should complain about them not being close to her. Men find it difficult to understand the reason because they probably feel, “we eat together, live under the same roof, sleep in the same bed. Why does she still complain?”

The reality is, a woman's definition of intimacy differs from that of a man. For a woman, intimacy goes beyond eating together, sleeping on the bed, and living under the same roof together.

This is what intimacy is to a woman:

• She wants to be your friend, not just a sex mate.
• She wants you to carry her along.
• She wants to feel important and valued.
• She wants you to share your greatest fears and deepest secrets with her.
• She wants you to spend quality time together with her.

The emotional needs of a woman are unique. She wants to be close to you and feel emotionally connected to you.

You need to listen to me

Final Thought

To please a woman and make her happy, you must be able to identify her needs by listening to her and applying yourself to meeting those needs.

Even though you’re unable to meet all her needs, that you’re making genuine efforts to meet those needs makes a woman happy too. I can tell you this, she will love you for it.