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I was amazed that suddenly I was getting FB friends request from beautiful African sistahs all of a sudden. Well I did become friends with a younger woman from South Africa, who had lost her parents in a violant robbery. We communicate for a few months. But then her attitude became annoying to me. Why? I'm a Western Black man who do not trust easily her stories about he father's last will and testament concerned me as she was obsessed with getting her hands on the money her parents had left her. My attitude was your father's will states clearly that you can wait until you turn 40 years old (she is currently 35) and you will get it all without any assistance. And it also stated that she could get it sooner if she was married. this puzzled me.... I thought she was trying to pull a scam of her trying to get me for some money, not this dude. Needless to say she was not happy with my response and she stopped communicating..... since this was not anything I was going to get involved in I just shrugged it off and said goodbye. this also made me think about cultural differences in these countries. South African

The problem of gender inequality in africa Gender inequality is not new in traditional African society. This is in fact, not very much than it is now asserted in different countries. At present, in Africa mostly violated and then comes the rest of the world where gender inequality is perceived to bloom. Injustice given to the women seems to be increasing. In Africa, the most commonly occurring of rape in each three to six seconds. Considering the U.S., women are physically abused every 9 second, whereas in India, five thousand women are murdered approximately each year through the ceremony of dowry murder. In any case, this tragic event is the top of iceberg. However, Customs such as female genital mutilation continues as to be devastating many communities of practice; the British medical authorities and doctors warned that the first few weeks, in a recent immigrant to look at it. Gender Roles The activities of gender responsibilities, roles, and rights in a society of normal men and women appropriately follow. In Africa there is no single model of gender roles. Different cultures on the African continent, the role of men and women, many different ideas, although in general women are subordinate in public life and family life of the man. Such as gender roles, sexual behavior and sexual attitudes of different standards of conduct extensive in Africa. For generations, however, regardless of gender roles in Africa and sexual attitudes have changed, especially in the cities and in the West’s influence have been the strongest region. African traditional culture has been clear that men and women have different roles in society. Girls and boys grow up; they know what kind of society they are growing in. Because of their livestock to boys, girls will be responsible for the firewood and water, while children hunting, girls will improve the strength in mainly the cooking. Then coming towards the marriage, the young men finds himself into a husband’s placed one of the leader of the community. Same goes to the women. Therefore, their life will want to live in this old model is more based on social norms and less based on personal desire. Women’s and children’s vulnerability To HIV/AIDS Worldwide, HIV / AIDS are the reason of death for many. The proportion of HIV and AIDS, led to women’s reproductive age. This caused by the change between the various regions of the world significantly. Women account for a lower proportion of people living with HIV. However, Caribbean and sub-Saharan Africa are the main regions, where this ratio is quite high. Sub-Saharan Africa 1985 led the sub-Saharan Africa with most of the HIV-infected people, because of their female. However, infection rates increased over the years and HIV and AIDS has surpassed the number of women and infection is still more than men. In 2009, some 12 million in the sub-Saharan, most of the women infected with HIV and AIDS patients compare to about 8.2 million citizens. UNAIDS estimates, about three women of all the contaminated with HIV lives in sub-Saharan Africa. Sub-Saharan Africa is the world where the majority of heterosexual HIV spread occurs during sexual contact areas. Since women are double, they are more likely to obtain than from a man of unprotected heterosexual intercourse in HIV-infected partner, women disproportionately infected in the region. Women and children Mother to child transmission (MTCT) is a problem, directly affecting women. Women when documents in pregnancy, childbirth, or breastfeeding the baby of the virus. UNAIDS said that in the last of 2009, an estimation of two and a half million children (15 years old) infected with HIV, most of them will be infected if not treated their mothers. They could live up to maximum 27 years of age; the high numbers of children would possibly not live to their adult life. Drugs can minimize a gain of about 40% of the HIV virus from mother to child less than 2% chance; they cannot be used in different areas of the world. In the ongoing years, pharmaceutical companies have been substantially lowered, such as AZT and nevirapine drug, which in developing countries to prevent mother to child spread of HIV to help prices. However, due to limited human resources and poor infrastructure, many women still do not get these drugs. Women who are victims of sexual violence were at higher risk of HIV infection, and lack of condom use rape and forced nature means that more women vulnerable to HIV infection immediately. A South African study concluded that their partners who are beaten or dominated by women more vulnerable to HIV infection, a woman who was not. Another couples in India found that the spread of HIV, not only in a very abusive relationships largely occurs, but abusive husband. HIV infection is more likely than non-abusive husbands. Social difference in Africa Social and economic policies favored by the colonial state men generally. Since independence, the role differences in men and women, and even the laws as a result of greater. Thus, women lag behind others in education, literacy, and in getting good jobs. In the current world women, the third world especially, has given an unfair treatment. No wonder the major international issue has been the gender inequality. In Africa, the gender inequality is worse than the previous few decades ago. Obviously, the West may bring a lot of benefits, but gender equality is not one of them. Economists have generally focused on the per capita income as the main indicator. In mainstream economic theory, education is often represents a key aspect of human capital, with a positive factor into the production function. Men and women with lower education, lower level of human capital transformation. Therefore, in theory, have a direct impact on women’s education from the income (or growth). There are also some strong arguments to support economic growth beyond the direct impact of female education more positive impact. These measures include the mother’s health, children’s health and education, and fertility effects. In general, support the existence of such indirect effects, higher female education to make women more informed mothers, thus helping to reduce child mortality and malnutrition. Increasing the proportion of educated women may also help to reduce fertility. In general, female education is negatively related to low fertility and low birth rate is related to dependency ratio. Conversely, low dependency ratio is associated with higher income. Power relations between men and women in Africa In many of the African countries, men have been given the part to be the political and business leaders, community development and women at the forefront of the leadership of the family. Women’s groups, thousands of people scattered all over. These people have proven time to time, that unity is real power. Always being the sources of economic power, which in turn makes them much-needed self-esteem. In China, many people were unable to provide the leadership was mainly due to the requirements of professional and downright laziness and apathy. This has left de facto decision-makers in the home of the woman. However, women’s economic barriers greatly limit the decision to leave the economic power of the people as decision makers. Those who are decision-makers do not have time or inclination to make informed decisions. Today, it is not uncommon for teenage girls to be married, widow inheritance by force and with other ‘property ‘ along. Wife-beating is a very part of our modern life too. The impact of this violence seems unstoppable. However, this is just despicable violence against women, many of the unjust. The United Nations estimates, in each of Africa’s farm sixty-six Eighty percent is borne by women. Many girls in these areas had to drop out of school, because priority is given to boys. Reason for its existence is that the meager resources should take care of children, because they are the ones who will always be with their parents. Gender role effecting African women Learn how the people of different gender are expected to act as a growth in any important part of society. In Africa as elsewhere, men and women have traditionally been in the family and the community and the work they do different roles. Africa’s first economies were based on hunting and gathering wild food. Some societies, such as in the Kalahari Desert! Sai Kung and in the Congo (DRC) of tropical rain Linmubati, survived to modern times is almost entirely unchanged. Through them, scientists have been able to study the ancient hunting and gathering way of life. On the biological and the theory of the early development of human society and hunting meat emphasized the importance of the role of men. Today, however, researchers know that women in many of the early social major economic producers. Between 60 and 80 percent of the outcomes of the existing hunting and gathering societies, calories consumed by people, roots, grains, nuts, honey and other food collected by women. This pattern did not change after caught agriculture, much of Africa. Today’s women about 60 to 80 percent contribute in agricultural labor. In most rural areas throughout Africa, the role of agriculture in different men, one is by a specific gender-related tools and methods that the truth. Ax is considered a tool for men, because men clear and ready to land. They also plow the fields. Hoe is reserved for women, who grow, harvest, processing and storage of crops. Women also used for the production of the family, including access to water and firewood, food is often involved in the most remote tasks, responsibilities. Shift in the colonial period generally cash-based economy to benefit more men than women in Africa. In most cases, the colonial officials have acknowledged the authority of men, not women, they were men of business. Women are still an important producer, but often they are produced by her father, husband, brother or sale. The men enjoy women’s work from the belief that income has not completely disappeared in modern Africa. As colonialism continues to consolidate its land in Africa, women’s contribution to family farming that is less important, because the importance of their role in food production is more lucrative cash crops controlled by men, cast a shadow. Second, by introducing the negative effects of colonialism, women’s labor wages directly affect women, because they must be legal in certain circumstances, for the European plantation economy of wage labor. While forced labor, physical and sexual abuse is often committed by African women for their crimes. Therefore, further damage to plantation work and the ability of the well-being of women, for productivity, because they previously had in the past. It is clear that colonialism has led to women’s economic independence and their social and political decline in a certain social status. Colonialism in Africa, despite the successful pre-colonial men taught the centuries, this feeling is generally unfounded sense of superiority in non-Islamized women of African countries do not have a strange sense of superiority. Obviously, even today, in modern Africa, women still want to continue with the life of slavery and abuse, because they are women. However, I with great pleasure, once again, we have witnessed a rise in female consciousness and self-confidence for women to say no to social contempt and disrespect. Today’s women, as they have refused to accept the colonial era prison, regardless of their racial injustice. Conclusion As Africans strive to restore respect and dignity of African women’s position, even more than she enjoyed in the past, depending only when a country allows respecting the dignity of women and treated fairly. The real development, may occur when we consider women as mothers and primary caregivers in the human front. Therefore, they are nurturing and building, we are building throughout the country and continent. There is a gap between men and women to fully appreciate the far-reaching; we must acknowledge this basic fact. Gender inequality is not a pain, but many women and men have different life on the range of the girls and boys. It also needs to revisit and closely scrutinize some of our lessons from past experience tend to work. There is no good reason to give up understanding that women’s empowerment to improve the impact of the voice and influence of women does help to reduce gender inequalities in many different types, can also reduce women to conquer men suffered from indirect punishment. However, the growing inequality in the birth rate, basically to ask questions, much more complex. When women in some areas like the boys and girls have their own strength, the resulting inequality on the correct call for the broader needs of the birth rate of women’s organizations comes it would be the addition to at least consider other possible effects. Somehow in dealing with some of the new – “high tech” – face of gender difference, in the form of inequality, there is a need to go beyond just the agency of women, but to look also for more critical assessment of received values. When anti-female bias in action (such as sex-specific abortion) reflects the hold of traditional masculinity values from which mothers themselves may not be immune, what is needed is not just freedom of action but also freedom of thought – in women’s ability and willingness to question received values. Informed and critical agency is important in combating inequality of every kind. Gender inequality, including its many faces, is no exception. these women are all very attractive. Kenya

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Even though I like the Afrocentrice attire. I will be very careful and avoid being scammed

Final thought we men whose forefathers that were brought to the West on slave ships really were not allow to give us much in terms of history lessons about the many African cultures. we as their offsprings were taught the white man's stories. So we have mayor trust issues. Chances are we will not change anytime soon.

Compliment a woman on her dress choice, color/style.... and see if she wears that color again the next time you see her

Women often enhance their attractiveness as a way of competing with other women to gain the attention of desirable men. This phenomenon may extend to color displays, as the color red appears to be one feature that enhances perceptions of a woman's attractiveness. Red has long been associated with love and passion. almost everyone around the world equates red with love. Part of the reason we make that connection may have to do with the fact that red is related to blood, which is related to the heart, which has become a symbol of love. There doesn’t appear to be a specific moment in history when people began thinking of red as the color of love. Over time, red has become a signifier for various aspects of life. Red means fire. Red means blood. Red means heart. Red means love. When we get passionate, we get hot, so we think of red. And when a woman wears red, the color can affect the way people perceive her. If you want to be perceived as sexy, red is “the color to wear. That seems to be especially true if you’re a woman trying to get a man’s attention In one study, discussed in an old blog post at Psychology Today, I read what researchers showed men an image of a woman and asked them to rate her attractiveness. Some of the men saw a photo in which the woman was wearing red, while the others saw a photo of the same woman wearing blue. The men rated the woman in red as being more desirable. In that same study, men were also shown images of a woman against different color backgrounds ― red, white, gray or green ― and asked to rate her attractiveness. Men found the woman standing against the red background to be more attractive. In another study, researchers found that men prefer blue-based reds, whereas women prefer yellow-based reds. “The study went so far as to say if a woman [wanted to get a guy], make sure your lipstick is blue-based, not yellow-based, said. (Just Everyone should just wear whatever lipstick shade they like best. Or no lipstick at all. Ladies always do You. There are a number of different shades in the red spectrum, many of which connote different ranges of emotions. Pink, for example, might represent the love one has for a girl child. It’s sweet and innocent, the “softer side of red. Meanwhile, a more vibrant, traditional red may be indicative of the type of passionate love you share with a spouse or romantic partner. Red also has some X-rated associations, as with Amsterdam’s the famous Dutch Red Light District, known for legal prostitution, sex shops and brothels. Red, though, represents more than just love. As many people associate it with anger. (Even the angry emoji is a red face.) “Red literally has a love/hate relationship with itself. The fiery shade is also associated with power. If the president wears a red tie, for example, it is likely intended to convey power rather than sex appeal. It has that domineering, confident, don’t-mess-with-me kind of strength to it. Historically red was worn by the wealthy and the elite, as it was one of the most expensive colors to produce. researchers explain that, from a physiological standpoint, when people see the color red, their bodies have a physical reaction that mimics the feelings one experiences when falling in love, such as an increased heart rate. It’s an emotional and physiological connection that happens. The other colors aren’t quite as lucky as red to have this really strong connection to things. At the end of the day, the color red, like women themselves, contains multitudes. In some ways, it’s cute, but it can also be powerful, sexy, sensual and erotic. And, of course, it’s bold and beautiful. one of many songs featuring Lady in red: Final word: I've not always fallen for women in a red dress but I have always noticed them, and I always remember seeing them in a red dress...let's just say it left an imprint in my brain. Yup, I saw what other guys also saw, but I didn't always chase after the woman. She would have to do more than wear a red dress to grab my full attention long term. Now if she has dimples and is wearing a red dress she might have me under her spell.

Wine choices of preference may say a lot about who you are.

For quite some time, people have compared a woman’s wine choice to her personality. Almost every person has their preferred label or variety that she prefers more than others, and matching personality to varietal has been a test for people around the world. Though there’s no exact science—as wines are just as unique as each woman—there are some qualities that embody one’s personality to a T. Learn more about what your wine choice says about your personality below! when your date ask some of these questions. What type of wine is your personality? What does pinot noir say about you? What does liking red wine say about you? What's the classiest wine you've had? What does a "woman''s choice of wine mean? Here are few things I have learned over the years: Champagne Of course, the bubbles in this wine match your bubbly personality. You’re the life of the party—the person people go to when they need to celebrate and have some fun. But you’re not just the party type; you’re the person people love to celebrate with for all sorts of affairs. You strive to make people feel special and adored for whatever the special day entails!

Sauvignon Blanc If you ooze sophistication, then Sauvignon Blanc is definitely your wine personality. You command attention with your powerful air and put-together attitude. You thrive off of success—whether it’s a planned event or a calorie-burning workout, you want the best. You like having a full social calendar, but you also know that you’ll lose it if you don’t have time to relax with some wine. Cabernet Sauvignon The rich flavor and high tannin content of Cabernet Sauvignon perfectly match your bold yet refined personality. You are very detail-oriented, classy, and love to explore the world. When you need to, you can command the attention of the room, but you don’t mind sitting back and watching life flow along. When necessary, you’ll step up and get everything back in order. The best part? You only get better with age! Rosé Since everyone loves Rosé, there are a few different personalities that can fall under this varietal. First, you’ve got the girly-girl: the one who explodes with feminine charm and style. But the other Rosé personality may not be a girly-girl, but she is the person everyone loves to be around. Your own personality is beautifully authentic and easy to enjoy, making everyone else around you fill with joy. Riesling As a Riesling lover, you are the sweetest of the sweet and the kindest of the kind. You’re so genuine that people feel comfortable opening up to you after only a few minutes. You’re the person everyone goes to when they’re having a problem but can often feel under-valued when your friends leave you hanging for the bubblier friend. Don’t let your nice personality make people think that you can’t be just as fun at a party! Pinot Noir Oh, Pinot Noir—the elegant red and the graceful friend. You have a fresh, elegant, and graceful attitude that everyone craves in their lives. You’re sweet when you want to be but can challenge when you want to get your way. You’re friends with a variety of people, but only a few are close enough to know your true self.

There are so many different wine varietals that, if the options above don’t match your personality, there’s surely one out there that does. You can find more about what your wine choice says about your personality by understanding wine—you just have to know where to look.

She know she is standing behind her man but she is not in his shadow.

A man can stand tall making his his-tory while the woman in his life stand behind him steadily moving forward with her-story. Without her motivating him he might not amount to much. as she pushes forward she stands beside him completely out of his shadow. She may even passing him in accomplishments. He may acknowledge her accomplishment but still insist that she got where she is because of him. Forgetting that she was the one who pushed him and helped him get as far as he did. Men often want a Michelle Obama like woman beside them for photo shots, but could they handle the debates she might bring to the table. I remember the many conversations I overheard between my (RIP) parents. My father never started anything without my mother's approval. I'm writing this post on Mother's day. Honoring all mothers. Because I know the many sacrifies women make, to this day I know the value women bring to the table. Men can deny what women do and have done. Men think that we provide the seed (sperm) and think that woman could not have children with the man. but can a man create a child without women. the LBTQ society might have something to say about doing things withouth the oppocite sex. But they will become extict without the opposite sex. We can have a large debate about who has the greatest value. And who really set the height of the bar. But we will have to agree that without the opposite sex we all with become extinct in due time. thank you ladies for greatest contributions. None of us will be here without your sacrifies. Mother’s Day is all about celebrating the woman who raised you and shaped who you are as a person. From all the packed lunches, to the bandages and kisses after falling off your bike, to being the first one to cry at your graduation– your mom was there for it all. It’s important to thank her for all the love and work she put in through the years. There are plenty of things to say in a Mother’s Day card such as reminding her how much she’s loved, how thankful you are for all her work, and more. Write your mom a special message she will remember forever and feel how appreciated she is this Mother’s Day.

a BET movie I watched last night brought back so many emotions I have been supressing. I am the son of a mother who gave birth to me when she was 44 years of age. She never gave up even after a still birth child crushed her hopes and dreams of havinga child. I'm here as a father of two strong loving sons because my now ex-wife was willing to have a second child after a difficult pregnancy with our first born. Having the knowledge of what my mother went through I have to thank her a million times. and My ex-wife for bringing ,our two sons into the world, while putting her life at risk. I was in the delivery room both times and witnessed what she endored. I even almost pasted out while watching the epidural needle go into her spine. before having a c-sectection to give birth to my second son... I knew that she sacrified her body after I negotietated with her that I did not want just one child, as an only child I wanted them to have each other when their parents are gone. Final thoughts Let's not try to compete with each other as to who is more valueble between the sexes. Women, these days want a "high-value man" and a man these days want a woman who might make them a "power couple..." we get stuck on superficial nonesense. Let's start appreciating eachother for the many contributions each gives.

We Need To Stop Expecting Too Much From Others

She may not look like one but she might be a Hobo-sexual So how do you recognize a Hobo-sexual? Our first impression and thought would be that hobo-sexuals are grungy men, but there are females who want to be with a man who has a washer/dryer... in his house. she comes over and says "do you mind if I wash a load of clothes while I'm here?" Extraordinary qualities are unappreciated by ordinary people – an unfortunate truth is evident throughout life. Happy people are despised by the unhappy folks. The quiet are mocked by the loud. The overachievers are detested by the underachievers – and so forth. Exceptional women are no different in this regard. However they need to check themselves too. 1. they need to STOP EXPECTING FOLKS TO ALWAYS DO THE “RIGHT THING” BASED ON their STANDARDS. People’s morals and ethics differ based on a lot of factors, like their upbringing, culture, spiritual beliefs, etc. For example, in some Asian countries, dog meat is considered a delicacy?? Moreover, these folks don’t feel wrong for eating animals we view as pets because it’s what they’ve been accustomed to. Or, let’s say you never swear, but your friend curses like a sailor. Does that make him or her wrong? Well, to some it does, but expecting them to do the right things in your eyes will always end in frustration because right and wrong aren’t clearly defined. Just focus on adhering to your own morals, and let others live as they choose, as long as it doesn’t hurt you or the people you care about. 2. STOP EXPECTING PEOPLE TO BE PERFECT. If you view imperfections as perfect, then you won’t ever feel disappointed. However, a lot of people still give others a really hard time when they BELIEVE that someone else slip up, and it makes them feel like a letdown, plus it can seriously strain relationships. If anything, you should actually discourage others from becoming perfectionists, because this obsessive compulsion to have everything just right can lead to depression, anxiety, chronic diseases, and a higher risk of suicide. 3. STOP EXPECTING OTHERS TO AGREE WITH EVERY WORD YOU SAY. Even the best of friends don’t agree on everything, so don’t get upset when people challenge what you say, or simply have a different opinion. The world would be quite boring if no one ever disagreed; our unique perspectives and beliefs allow the planet to keep evolving and moving toward better solutions. Think about what would happen if we all agreed with continuing to use fossil fuels to power our cars, houses, and just about everything in our lives…we wouldn’t have solar panels and electric cars if no one challenged the mainstream! 4. STOP EXPECTING THEM TO READ YOUR MIND. Some people have a more finely tuned intuition, but others just can’t read the missed spelled sentences in your text, or feelings and faces as well. Just because you might be more sensitive and understanding of how others feel doesn’t mean other people are on the same wavelength. Not everyone wants to become a psychic, so express yourself clearly so others don’t have to guess your thoughts all the time. Honest, open communication builds stronger relationships. 5. STOP EXPECTING THEM TO PICK YOU UP EVERY TIME YOU FALL. Of course, good friends and family will help you when you need it, but don’t count on them to brush the dirt off your shoulders every time. Maybe they have their own internal struggles and can’t carry the weight of both your problems and theirs at the moment, so try to understand their point of view. They want to help, but just can’t for the time being. That doesn’t mean they don’t care, it just means you have to channel your inner warrior and fight your own battles sometimes. 6. STOP EXPECTING THEM TO UNDERSTAND YOU. “Not everyone will understand your journey. That’s fine. It’s not theirs to make sense of – it’s yours.” – Unknown As long as you understand you, you won’t feel the need to gain acceptance from others. Then, the fact that they just don’t “get” you won’t really phase you anymore. 7. STOP EXPECTING THEM TO TREAT YOU HOW YOU TREAT THEM. Ideally, everyone would follow the golden rule, but we don’t live in a perfect world. Until everyone becomes more conscious, we will just have to accept that people will still treat us poorly because they lack a true relationship with themselves. Every day, people fight a tough battle that no one truly understands but them, so keep this in mind when you get the urge to judge them. Love everyone no matter what or who they’ve become, not just if they meet your ideals or standards. 9. STOP EXPECTING THEM TO ALWAYS HAVE EVERYTHING TOGETHER. Life throws everyone a curveball from time to time, and it may take people longer than expected to make it up to the plate. Have compassion for others, and understand that everyone is just trying to do the best they can. Focus on bringing more value to the world and into your relationships, and don’t try to control or chastise others for how they handle their lives. 10. STOP EXPECTING THEM TO GIVE YOU LOVE IF YOU DON’T FIRST OFFER IT TO YOURSELF. All relationships start and end with you, so truly have to cultivate love within yourself first if you want it to make that full circle back to you. Using others to shower you with the love you refuse to give yourself will only lead to strained, insincere relationships. Developing a more loving attitude toward yourself, however, will bring about beautiful, thriving relationships.

Why Younger Women Often Prefer Older Men.

Why is it that older men love dating younger women, and many people don’t think much about it? It doesn’t require any research to realize that they love someone who makes them feel young at heart. However, why is it that the younger women who love to date older guys are often stereotyped? While the research we cite specifically deals with younger women-older gentlemen attraction, some could argue that younger men-older women relationships flourish, as well. However, we will leave the second topic to a separate blog post! ATTRACTION TO AN OLDER MAN Some say that these younger women have daddy issues when they want someone older, but that’s not always the case. Others say they are just interested in money. You must put stereotypes aside and realize that some women love the senior guy because of his maturity. They also crave the worldly wisdom they’ve obtained as well as the financial stability they’ve acquired. Keep in mind that financial stability doesn’t always mean wealth. It just means that they’ve made their blunders at a young age and have already learned the hard financial lessons. Society tends to accept a small age gap, which is anywhere from 5-10 years difference. However, what about the women that date men that are old enough to be their fathers? Is there a limit on age restrictions, and how do you know if the age gap is too much for a relationship? There are both evolutionary and social motives behind a woman wanting an older man. Irrespective of the motive, both parties will have to overcome much stigma and many stereotypes to be together. Many people will stop and gawk when they see an older man holding hands or kissing a younger woman in public. It has to do with cultural norms and what society expects. People passing have no clue about this couple, yet they are ready to make snap judgments on what they see. Psychology Explains Why Younger Women Often Prefer Older MenPSYCHOLOGY EXPLAINS WHY YOUNGER WOMEN OFTEN PREFER OLDER MENyounger women prefer older men Why is it that older men love dating younger women, and many people don’t think much about it? It doesn’t require any research to realize that they love someone who makes them feel young at heart. However, why is it that the younger women who love to date older guys are often stereotyped? While the research we cite specifically deals with younger women-older gentlemen attraction, some could argue that younger men-older women relationships flourish, as well. However, we will leave the second topic to a separate blog post! ATTRACTION TO AN OLDER MAN Some say that these younger women have daddy issues when they want someone older, but that’s not always the case. Others say they are just interested in money. You must put stereotypes aside and realize that some women love the senior guy because of his maturity. They also crave the worldly wisdom they’ve obtained as well as the financial stability they’ve acquired. Keep in mind that financial stability doesn’t always mean wealth. It just means that they’ve made their blunders at a young age and have already learned the hard financial lessons. older men Save Society tends to accept a small age gap, which is anywhere from 5-10 years difference. However, what about the women that date men that are old enough to be their fathers? Is there a limit on age restrictions, and how do you know if the age gap is too much for a relationship? There are both evolutionary and social motives behind a woman wanting an older man. Irrespective of the motive, both parties will have to overcome much stigma and many stereotypes to be together. Many people will stop and gawk when they see an older man holding hands or kissing a younger woman in public. It has to do with cultural norms and what society expects. People passing have no clue about this couple, yet they are ready to make snap judgments on what they see. Many studies have been conducted on these types of relationships, and science has come up with a few answers. THE APPARENT UNFAIR BENEFIT OF AGE In 2018, a study examined why there are so much prejudice and stereotypes when people are involved in age gap relationships. The bias rate was much higher in a relationship where the woman was younger and the man much older. Many think that the man has the upper hand in these unions, which equals relational inequity. Older men that enter a relationship with younger women are often called “cradle robbers,” but the women are called “gold diggers,” both of which are derogatory terms. Other women see the younger lady with an older gentleman, and they perceive that they want a comfortable lifestyle that money and this guy can offer. In other cases, they may insist that it’s the connections and resources they wish to gain to help further their career or obtain a certain social status in life. Not all relationships are about money or influence. In fact, many people are together because they love each other and nothing else. True love doesn’t look at the chronological age and see any difference as it’s more focused on the heart. INTERPERSONAL CONNECTION AND AGE In 2016, a study was done on why some women wanted the older man as a partner. When the age gap is more than ten years, people think it’s an unhealthy relationship with the father. This study wanted to prove or discredit this theory, and they found that it’s not a fair stereotype because there’s no truth in these claims. Of the 173 participants in this study, 44 were dating men at least a decade older than themselves. Most of these women had good relationships with their fathers and did not need to seek solace or a father/daughter relationship with an older man. About 75 percent of the women said that they weren’t looking for a father figure, but they preferred the company of an older man to make them feel secure. If the father had been a great role model for the younger woman in life, then the maturity level they observed growing up brings them comfort in their relationship. YOUNGER WOMEN WANT PLEASANT, AND STRONG RELATIONSHIPS–REGARDLESS OF AGE A couple with any sort of age difference can enjoy a healthy, satisfying, and loving relationship. Regardless of whether there are ulterior motives or one of the parties suffers from past childhood issues, many have strong unions that can stand up against the scrutiny of society. Sure, there are couples where a younger woman wants to date the older man due to ulterior motives or because they are looking for a marriage of convenience. However, it’s unfair to lump all relationships with age gaps in this category. More often than not, people come together because they love each other. FIVE REASONS WHY YOUNGER WOMEN LIKE OLDER MEN It’s easy to see that many women who like older men often do it out of love and not selfish motives. However, what are the reasons why these women prefer someone with a significant age gap between them? Here are the top five reasons why the older man is more appealing. pop meme SAVE 1. STRONG GENETIC PROFILES It’s assumed that younger women are still in their childbearing years. When looking for someone to be the father of a child, you would want someone who ages well, is financially secure, and has his life together. It sure makes it easier than being with someone young who has nothing to offer. They need to feel secure is one of the biggest reasons for the attraction to an older man, though it’s not about how much is in the bank. 2. OLDER MEN HAVE CONFIDENCE An older gentleman has already been through many storms in life and has developed an aura of confidence. They have a great deal of experience and are wise beyond their years. To the young lady who has much to experience in life, it can make things better to be with someone who is well seasoned. It’s hard when you are younger and worry about money. Though the older man may not have great wealth, they probably have a home and a car, which is quite appealing to someone just starting in life. It takes time to really build your career to be able to afford such things. 3. THEY KNOW HOW TO TREAT A LADY Perhaps one of the most appealing things about the older gentlemen is that they know how to treat a lady. Going back even two decades ago, men still opened the doors for the women and treated her like a queen. The older generation lived in vastly different times. Sure, they expect a meal on the table when they get home from work, but they have no problem pampering their princess. The guys these days have a different set of morals and values that is nothing like those born before 1980. A few men show that chivalry is still alive, but it’s very few who practice it. 4. OLDER MEN ARE INTERESTED IN THE MIND TOO These days, people become intimate on the first date. Unless you have something that goes beyond those one-night stands, the relationship may fizzle. Women love intimacy just as much as men, but they want someone interested in their minds too. The older man enjoys good conversation and companionship. While they are interested in a sensual relationship, they are more about finding someone they enjoy talking to over coffee and bonding. 5. THEY’VE GOT STYLE What happened to the days when men knew how to dress like a man? Few women find it attractive when males have their pants hanging two inches below their underwear or holes all in their clothes. Some of the styles of yesteryear should make a comeback as they rival any trend of today. The older man knows how to dress down for a day at the park or a beach, but they also know how to get all fancy for a night on the town. If younger women want the feeling of being a princess, she wants someone who will be her equivalent of a prince. FINAL THOUGHTS ON YOUNGER WOMEN DATING OLDER MEN True love isn’t about age, skin color, wealth, or religion. It’s about a mental, physical, and spiritual connection between two people that conquers all obstacles in their way. Who are we to judge these couples? When it comes to love, variety is the spice of life. One woman may prefer a man in his 50s who loves animals. The next lady may want someone in their 70s with a big bank account that can spoil her. There are all sorts of reasons why people fall in love. But society likes to typecast the traditional relationship and judge those that don’t fit into that mold. If you are lucky enough to find someone in this life that makes you feel better about yourself, gives you a reason to smile, and holds your hand through the darkest days, then you have found a treasure that is far greater than any labels society may give you. While many younger women love men, most do it for the right reasons with no ulterior motives. After all, true love is timeless.

Privatecy VS secrecy

Are you a private person, or are you, a person who is keeping a secret? You're in a relationship, but you have a crush on someone else. for example: -Your religious parents would disapprove of your spicy sex life. -You're struggling financially, but you don't want your friends to know. Each of these scenarios involves sensitive information that you may not feel comfortable — or safe — sharing with others. You might choose not to divulge such information because you fear being judged or exposing yourself to reprisal. But when is staying quiet a matter of your personal privacy and when is it secret keeping? And does it matter? Hiding versus being unobserved You would think secrecy and privacy are essentially the same.. Hiding versus being unobserved You might think secrecy and privacy are essentially the same, however the difference is much more than a matter of semantics. Secrecy is actually not even closely related to privacy. They just get confused by some people Secrecy is the act of hiding information. Privacy is about being unobserved — being able to have my own experience of life without the eyes of anyone else on me. Regarding privacy, the right to be left alone. Secrets break trust, whereas privacy is simply not sharing certain parts of your life. Everyone needs privacy! Just as humans need social interaction to stay happy and healthy, we also need a certain degree of privacy to function well in society. We are compelled to seek privacy so we can balance out our communal life. We can't fully know ourselves without being alone, for period of time. Individuals who try to limit privacy in relationships are often doing so under a guise of intimacy. Really, it's just an attempt to assert control. Privacy ends up causing trouble with people who are insecure. They see privacy as a threat to their direct access to their spouse or their partner. According to psychotherapist , privacy is actually very healthy in relationships, and oversharing can be a boundaries issue. It's important to establish healthy relationships with people before revealing too much private information with them," she said. Secrets are motivated by fear and shame Whereas privacy feels like a choice, people who have secrets often feel compelled by fear or shame to keep them hidden. When you keep something secret, it's because of fear. Perhaps you're afraid someone won't like you or that they'll shame you. Or maybe you think revealing a secret will have serious consequences, like you might get fired or a relationship might end. Unfortunately, keeping secrets tends to make problems worse. Secrets lead to more fear and shame. The longer people hide them, the more difficult it is to reveal them. People often keep secrets to protect themselves. Many believe that if their secrets were revealed, they would be exposed and people would leave, or worse. The word we use is 'compartmentalized' — one part of their life is over here and one part is over there, and they don't meet. Secrets are harmful to your overall well-being While the act of keeping a secret can be generally unpleasant, it may also have a negative impact on your daily life. keeping secrets can lead to increased fatigue, decreased task persistence and performance, and an overall lower level of well-being. Another study led by Michael Slepian has found that the act of suppressing, harboring or being preoccupied by secrets can even feel like a physical burden. As the researchers succinctly conclude, "secrets weigh people down." Intimacy requires trust The average person holds approximately 13 secrets at any given moment, five of which they have never revealed to another person, Slepian's research has shown. People who keep profound secrets can have a hard time feeling close to anyone. "They always have a reason to doubt that anyone really cares about them or whether they are worthy," Weiss said. A deep friendship is about being known. When I keep a meaningful secret, I am cutting myself off from intimacy in the relationship. I'm saying I don't trust the relationship enough to let you in. Opening up So, should you share a secret with someone? If the person would be angry or feel betrayed having discovered the information from some other source, go and share it with them. That secret is damaging your ability to relate and to connect. However, Weiss advises you to use caution and not rush out to tell your secrets. Seek guidance from a professional first — a lawyer, therapist, accountant, or whoever. I don't think if you have a secret you're in a position to do it by yourself. If you decide to open up, be prepared for a long road ahead. Once trust is broken due to the keeping of secrets, it's not easily rebuilt. It can be repaired with reliable, honest behavior over time. If you can do that, you demonstrate to me that you want to restore my trust.

Final thoughts 1. Privacy is a right; secrecy is not. 2. Secrecy undermines relationships; privacy enhances them. 3. A lack of privacy makes us uncomfortable; a lack of secrecy sets us free. 4. Privacy establishes healthy boundaries; secrecy builds walls. 5. Secrecy generally has an unhealthy motive; wanting privacy does not. 6. Secrets lead to increased stress; privacy can be a stress reliever. 7. Secrets, if discovered, may result in a negative consequence for another person. for the sake of your relationship... Let’s be sure to pay attention to the difference between privacy and secrecy in our relationships. And let’s do our best to be kind and compassionate to ourselves and others as we reflect on what we may be able to do to nurture relationships with those we hold most dear, always remembering, we are so much more than enough.

Never question a woman's motives during an argument

Let’s face it—if you’ve been married long enough, and even if you not married, you’re bound to argue with your woman about something. And it doesn’t matter how big or how small the disagreement is. It’s not a question if it will happen, but when, but how you choose to argue that can prevent a molehill of a disagreement from turning into a Mount Everest of an argument. Here are some things you should never do during an argument with a woman—especially your wife. 1. Hit her hot buttons. The reason little disagreements with our wives easily escalate into full-blown arguments is we both know how to hit each other’s hot buttons. These are buttons that usually trigger a negative emotion. And we know what they are because we know our wives’ secrets, struggles, and scars. To push her buttons is like “hitting below the belt” in boxing, and in boxing, it’s illegal. So the last thing a man should do in an argument with his wife is sucker punch her by touching on her fears, doubts, insecurities, father wounds, or trauma from past relationships. 2. Involve the innocent. One of the easiest mistakes we can make in an argument with our wives is to involve innocent bystanders. This means you should resist the urge to tell the people closest to you, especially your parents (or siblings), about the argument—at least until you’ve had some time to cool down. This is important, because if you let your emotions get the best of you and you accidentally tarnish your wife’s reputation, the people you tell may not be as willing or ready to forgive your wife as you are. When you run to the people you love, their first reactions, typically, are to protect and defend you, not to protect our wives’ reputations. Remember, that’s your job. 3. Share it with immature friends. The only thing worse than jeopardizing your wife’s reputation by telling innocent bystanders about your argument is sharing your argument with immature friends. And when I say “immature,” I’m not talking about age. I’m talking about friends (especially other women) who don’t have your wife’s best interest at heart. My rule of thumb after any argument with my wife is only to share our conflict with people who are part of the solution and who will fight for our marriage as if it were their own. Also, being careful and discerning about who you share your arguments with also can prevent unnecessary arguments in the future. 4. Raise the dead. When you’re in the middle of a heated argument with your wife, resist the urge to drag an old issue into your present discussion. Yes, I know she may do it to you, but like Gandhi once said, “Taking an eye for an eye will leave both people blind.” In other words, two wrongs won’t ever make your relationship right. Bringing up past issues from past arguments potentially can trigger emotional wounds in your wife that may not have fully healed. This is especially true if she’s still feeling the guilt and shame of a past mistake. Instead, try to keep the current issue the main issue and let the past issue rest in peace. 5. Sit and save. One way to avoid bringing up past issues in an argument is to avoid sitting on the issue and saving it for later. Men who are conflict avoiders or “people pleasers” usually struggle with this the most. Ignoring, wishing, and hoping an issue with your wife conveniently goes away is a recipe for a relationship disaster. “Fight for your relationship, not with each other.” Avoiding tough conversations only will lead to escalated arguments because of the tendency to stockpile anger, bitterness, and frustration toward your wife. So instead, wisely confront the issue early, because if you don’t, that proverbial elephant in the room potentially could turn into a lion and devour the both of you. Arguments, disagreements, and conflicts are inevitable in any relationship, but they don’t ever have to destroy your marriage. So, fight for your relationship, not with each other.