The pro answers to a question are simple!

I'm a guy who has been looking for the right kind of woman since my divorce, for a while now. NO I'm not crazy. OK maybe I am a little crazy, but the more I think about the possibilities I think this could be what I've been looking for. But maybe I could be wrong!

First allow we to give you a little history. I was married for a long time.  during my marriage I decided to become a self-employed consultant as an IT-Analyst and Software designer/architect... My wife at the time supported the idea, because I made a lot more money 4 times what she made. But this was not her idea of security. It didn't cause our divorce but it put a heavy burned on it for many years. when I worked on projects that paid very well she was happy but when I sometime took too long (in her mind ) to find a new contract, it caused stress between us. I figured it out maybe to late.. that she liked the idea of me taking calculated risk but she was not willing to take  any... she liked the steady income of a  9-5 even though she never worked those hours, her hours were more like 6am- 3pm.

Reginald F.  Lewis books.

You see my ex-wife did not take the time to  read this book, and I did, this made me take risks she would never take!

Most entrepreneurs are crazy. so why explore the possibility of dealing with another entrepreneur who is also crazy? The pro answer are simple:

·          You are Being crazy together. It's no secret that entrepreneurs need to be a bit cracked in the head; otherwise, why would we start our won businesses when 50% fail in the first year?

·         Networking. Aside from always having a much-needed companion on my arm at networking events, we both benefit from the connections that we make.

·         Piggybacking. Being an entrepreneur means being scrappy and trying to leverage what's at our fingertips. so taking advantage of each other's businesses, can be a big advantage.

·         Motivation. Your motivated and she's motivated You don't let the other one get down if things are going right!

·         A built-in writing buddy. There is no question in my mind that women write better than men. I proved this years ago when My girl friend in College would correct all of my turn-papers and improved then 100 % 

But Maybe the con answers are also simple:

·         slow times  problems: when things are slow for both your businesses it can be tough on your relationships, but if you take time off together and go on vacation it could be sweet, just kick back and forget about your troubles.

Chilling in Anguilla in the winter can be Oooh so good for any relationship

I’ve always been a strong believer in that age-old saying, “What you believe, so you shall be.” One’s beliefs and thoughts about themselves and the world around them can dictate their steps and how they interact with and impact the world.
I was always taught growing up that it’s not about what someone says or does to you but what you think and do for yourself. Thus, if you believe you can do something, and you turn that belief into action, you will do it.
True, there are some things many of us can’t yet fathom being possible or happening in our lives. But having a mindset that welcomes the unknown and laughs in the face of the “You can’ts” and “You won’ts” has gotten me a lot further in my career and life than one that embraces “That’s not possible.”
There are amazing athletes who have trained their minds to believe they can do something and then went further to train their bodies to fall in line. Well, what if you could train your mind to facilitate success?

Female career burnout, what's causing it?



Are you a Gen-Y female who’s already feeling burned out? You’re not alone. Not by a long shot.
Go ahead and add this to the list of reasons that being a 20-something isn’t all that much fun. Turns out Gen-Y women are at a greater risk of developing a host of mental health issues that their male counterparts — and those generations before them. And this may be due in large part to their waning confidence in the workplace.
More than a quarter of Millennial women say they’ve never discussed promotions or career development with their bosses, while nearly half say they feel that there are a lack of career opportunities available to them, according to data compiled a recent study on women in the workplace conducted by Accenture.
This data drives home a common refrain we’ve seen for young women in business — particularly those who are in STEM careers: Gen-Y women see bleak career opportunities, lose confidence and run for the hills. Another recent report showed that while elementary school girls actually tend to outperform boys in math and science, many are weeded out of those classes by high school, with 10th grade girls reporting far lower levels of confidence than they did when they were younger.
The solution? Advocate more for yourself. That is, if you’re not already exhausted.

a quick story: Now things like this might be what adding to your stress......Guy and Ms. Jackson first noticed each other while working for a large telecommunications company in Dallas, Texas. Guy was a mid-level executive in charge of running an IT support team, while Ms.. Jackson  worked as a technology analyst. The two worked together for about two years within the same group, but never in a superior/subordinate capacity.
Guy personally acknowledged his immediate attraction to Ms.. Jackson , but made a decision not to pursue her to be in compliance with the code of ethics regarding workplace relationships. He didn’t want to risk his job and career in pursuit of the unknown, but had a special feeling about Ms.. Jackson .
The two were able to build a solid rapport in casual work interaction, and on special projects within their group. Even through their arms-length relationship, there was an ever-increasing curiosity in the minds of both.
One day, Guy and Ms.. Jackson  agreed to go out after-hours for coffee, which kicked-off the process of developing a friendship. Keeping the personal interaction discrete during the early stages is what Tammy attributes as one of the keys to their success. They were able to learn about one another without the external involvement from others in the department.

Decisions regarding workplace relationships take place every day  in many countries. I can personally think of a number of happily married couples who met in the workplace. Including yours truly. However, I can also think of a number of disaster experiences when two people try to nurture and maintain relationships initiated in the workplace.
Mixing business and pleasure has pros and cons. However, it is up to two responsible adults to make wise decisions along the way so they don’t jeopardize their careers or disrupt harmony in the workplace.
Have you ever faced this situation? Is mixing business and pleasure worth the risk?
It can be complicated but it can be worth it, if you get it right!

So you are looking for Mr. Right!

You might have to settle for "Mr. Right now on the spot  and  available!" he might be righteous

 

A woman posted this picture on  Facebook and it made me think, what are women really looking for these days in a man?

 

 

As we are counting down the days to the end of the year. Many who have had less than fantastic relationships are thinking Where, ooh where  is Mr. Right?

  

 

Here is one mother that is protecting her son from himself and the money loving young women he will meet in the NBA.

Michael Carter-Williams transition into the NBA wasn't  long. In his first game with the Philadelphia 76ers, he finished with 22 points, 12 assists, 9 steals, 7 rebounds and just one turnover in 36 minutes, in the season-opening victory over the Miami Heat. His nine steals were an NBA record for a rookie in his first game. But his transition to making millions is something his mother wanted to make sure didn't take the 22-year-old by storm.

According to the Philadelphia Inquirer, Carter-Williams' mother, Mandy Carter-Zegarowski, along with her best friend, Traci Tracy, who function as his management team, put his entire rookie salary into a trust that he can't touch for three years, ensuring that Carter-Williams will not be a NBA flame-out, at least financially.

Carter-Williams' rookie contract guarantees him $4.5 million over his first two seasons. He could make a total of $10 million if the Sixers pick up the final two seasons of his contract, according to the Philadelphia Inquirer.

But Carter-Williams' wallet isn't empty. The point guard still has Nike and Panini trading cards endorsement money to blow. So he has a few million Dollars and Mom says grow-up before You can spend it. This is exactly how I think parents should protect their talented sons and daughters. 

As New Year's Eve approaches many women will lurking in the bushes like predators waiting for unsuspecting men  who may not see them coming.

Did you ever wish that you had a way of knowing how to get the most out of life?

 The  Man’s Guide to Life.
Check out his tips on how  men can keep it real.
1) Hit The Road, Jack
There’s only one way to become a man of the world. Listen, man: your lack of a passport is not the right business. Neither is having an empty wallet. In fact, for the ultimate lesson in code switching, don’t just get out of your neighborhood; leave the country. Nothing gets your grown-man card punched like venturing so far from home that you need a new language just to ask for toilet paper. It also informs you about the larger World in ways that staying close to home never can. The perspective you’ll gain from say, spending J’ouvert morning dancing through the streets of Port of Spain (that Trinidad if you don't know where that is, look it up) or a few nights in surprisingly modern Tripoli or touring museums in Paris just can’t be rivaled in familiar environs.
 Travel brings other advantages: “If you look at any travel group, anywhere, it’s always 70 to 80 percent women and 20 percent men. I don’t know what the reason is for that, but I know it’d be different if you saw how the women react when they do see men traveling in their circles.”

A righteous man ain’t perfect, but he does his best.

There ain’t nothing like being a righteous man. Not just be a man by accident of birth, pigmentation and gender-assigning chromosomes. A righteous man—unapologetically confident about defining manhood  for himself and never ashamed to claim it in mixed company. He’s OK with knowing that maleness is both hard work and a dangerous occupation in World today.  Manhood knows struggle from birth to the campaign trail, public school to the Ivy League, from ashy to classy. It is also knows the triumph in getting’ over, busting loose, and in becoming. It means that even as the rest of the world steals our flow, we can and will always just create the next new thing, because by the time the larger culture sees fit to co-opt our trend, we were already done with it anyway. On to the next.

So Who is your Santa?

2) Cash Rules
Every man needs to keep his money on his mind. There won’t be any weekend jaunts to St. Tropez if the money’s funny. Staying on top of your finances is what makes everything else around you tick; after all, what’s the point of working every day with nothing to show for it? Although a Pew Research study stated that as many as 40 percent of mothers are now the breadwinners in their households, that doesn’t mean men or women have let go of the idea that we need to be able to hold our own at the bank to be worth our salt.
Put another way: A fringe benefit of making sure your financial house is in order is that it gives you a leg up with ladies who are interested in working with a brother to build something for the future. But whether you’re single or partnered, you need to know how to budget, save and invest. Tips on how to get your financial house in order can be found in the November issue of EBONY.
So you see ladies Mr. Right might be A righteous Dude, but you might have to go and find him on the beach somewhere other than where you live.

Watch out for the EYE of the tiger.



It takes a Village or at least 10 advisors to assist a good woman

Several years ago a woman asked my advise on some issues. I gave her my B.A.D advise, then I started thinking... She needs  more way to get advise than what I can give her... because I  can only give her advise from Man's perspective.

so here is my top 10 problem solvers:

1.      The "elder" Stateswoman. she's got 7 to 10 years on you, and those few years give her an insight to your life that is priceless.. However she's young enough to remember how she was at your age, and old enough to help you sidestep unnecessary drama, especially when it comes to dealing with work and/ or men. whatever advice she gives, 99% of it turns out to be right on time.

2.      A Lady Problem Solver. You have a good reputation and some common sense, but every now and then a situation occurs when using them doesn't solve a problem quickly. You can't be caught acting a fool, but she doesn't care and is willing to take the heat. When you're at a party , if another woman is flirting with your date, she will handle it. When you find out your man is cheating. She's  willing to confront the woman  (even though it's not really the woman's fault.)  Do you have a beef, she will ask, " Do I need to come up there?" (the correct answer is NO.) Whenever there is drama. she's got your back.

3.      The  "All the way Turned  UP" Friend. She's not your day-to-day friend because you're grown with a real job and, let's face it, too old to be in the club every night with her. But when you need to plan your birthday party, your bachelorette party, your get-over-an-ex-party, she knows where to go--- and she knows the doorman and the manager, whenever that is necessary. She's never a dull moment on vacation, but you can't talk those details- what happened in Vegas  (or on the beach at Orient Bay in SXM) stays your and her secret.

4.      The "To the Lord in Prayer" friend. You remember her when she was " all the way turned up," but now she can't finish a sentence without  referencing the Bible. And despite her past, she can be really judgmental. that combination drives you crazy when you're just trying to " do you." But when you're down and out and have nowhere else  to turn, she will pray with you and of r you. And surprisingly, it helps.

5.      A Platonic Male Friend. Sure, you could just go to a blog and get male insight, but a lot- not all- of male dating and relationship bloggers are just in it to meet more women, or are just plain trouble makers. You need someone who is, a.) not trying to see you socially b) and is going to analyze your problem and give you the insight he would give his sister or his daughter. This is where you will find  genuine advice.

6.      The "keep it 300" Friend. She's the friend people are referencing when they see a woman looking crazy in the street and say ."Dang she don't have any friends?" If you're not sure about your new hair color, you send her a pic and she'll tell you if it works. You want to know if you should give a guy you're dating another chance? She'll break down the relationship history. You want to know if you look fat in your dress? She'll tell you the truth. Utilize her liberally.

7.      A Happy Married Friend. If  you want to be married, and especially if you didn't grow up with married parents, you need to be around someone who can keep it real with you about ups and downs of modern relationships and how to make one work. It requires patience sacrifice and a whole lot of communication, and even goes dancing with her husband on weekends, which is easier in theory that in application. she shows you how to do it right.

8.      The VAULT. If she wasn't with you on that vacation with the " all the way turned up" friend, you broke the rules and told her about the trip. She knows your deepest, darkest secrets, including that one time you did X,  Y and Z that you would take to your grave, except you already told her because she's the exception to the  rule. You trust her because when you ask about other people's business, she shrugs and says, "I don't know." When the secret comes out years later, you found out she knew the day it happened. She might even have been there.. But never talked about it.

9.      The Instigator. She's unapologetically messy, but it can work in your favor. You have too much pride to follow your ex on social media, but this friend will gladly do so and report back what he's up to. she knows all the gossip, from who said what about you to who has " a beef" with you. You think you know, but only she has any idea.

10.  The" I know Someone (who Knows someone)" friend. she 's similar to your "all the way turned up" friend, but with much better connections.  You apply for your dream job- she knows someone (who knows someone.) You need to hook up your dad with floor seats to a game for his birthday? she knows someone (who knows someone) on the team.  You need a hookup for a last-minute vacation? she knows someone (who knows someone) who can get you and upgrade at the hotel.

Okay I might have a few more friends who serve other purposes , but 10 is enough friends... Trust me The BAD friends I've had over the years have good and Bad  habits I can talk about in other blog posts in the future.