1. A good person never lets you forget how much he/she loves you.
I cannot tell you how many conversations I have had with women who tell me that there is no affection in their relationship. The man or woman in their life does not make them feel loved, wanted, or appreciated. This is a profoundly important piece of the puzzle – a good man or woman will always remind you how much you mean to them.
I understand men can be less communicative or affectionate than women are, but this does not excuse the severe lack of effort put forth by our generation. If someone truly loves you, you will know it and feel it. If they don’t, you’ll be wondering all the time if they do.
*side note: this is perfect when two people are on the same page. here is what nobody tells you, you are two people joint together by commitment and at some point in time at least one of the two will question the others commitment. Why? Because no relationship is 50/50. From the point you start feeling I'm doing more for her or him you will have less show of love and affection. and more questions that will keep you from acting the way you did in very early days of the relationship.
2. A good person always supports you.
Regardless of whether you want to go back to school after 20 years to get your Master’s degree, start a singing career, or stay at home to raise a family, a good person will always support you and what you want out of your life. He/She will never discourage you or make you feel as though you can’t do what you set out to do. He will be beside you every step of the way, cheering on your victories and comforting you during your defeats.**side note: You need to define support in today's terms. This is something that we all need to understand..... things are not like they were when your parents supported each other... roles are still being defined and talked about in similar terms but they are so different these days. Men sometimes stay home as their mates have the better jobs and incomes, but do men do the things the wives of old..... did? Not likely, men feel like less of a man when they are not in control. Women going back to school at the right time can grant the results they want. But when she is 50 she might want to go back and get her masters degree for her own personal self esteem issue. But will she get a job or will she need to start a business to make money? Or he might want to change careers and decides to take a few classes and try something new. this does not grant any of the two the success they seek. this can really stretch the support factor to the limits.
3. A good person will work to gain your trust.
A good man will want you to be comfortable and confident in your relationship. The very cornerstone of this is being able to trust someone, and he will realize that. Without trust there is no foundation for love or respect.He will understand that trust is not just handed over to someone – it has to be earned, and then it has to be kept.***side note: define "trust" here again we are talking about things in terms of "all men are dogs" but when men refer to women as "bitches" it's an insult. "Bitches in heat will attract all the dogs from miles away. this explains the litter have multiple puppy types(unless you control the mating process). But women who are honorable will stick to one man Just as long as that man is acting right.... and even if he step outside of the relationship and flirts with a female who just works all the angles to get his attention. he can be forgiven... but women who were not trust worthy in the past will have a hard time selling their trust worthiness to anyone in the future. Like Men can!
4. A good person will always make you feel beautiful.
He/She will understand that making you feel beautiful does not just mean saying the words to you. It will mean truly making you feel beautiful. In the way he/she looks at you, touches you, and treats you. He/she will notice details when you put effort into your appearance and remind you how attractive he/she still finds you even when you don’t. A good person will understand that whether you are in your sweatpants on the couch or in your evening gown, when you love someone for who they truly are, everything about them becomes beautiful.
****side note: define beautiful.... what or who is beautiful in my eyes is not even real beauty in the person's own eyes if she has self esteem issues. So you are setting your self up for that fall from the grace issues. Define thing that are beautiful that will not change like hopefully her personality the way she handle situations. then define beauty as in the eyes of the beholder. Not the public attention she will attract as she walks down the street wit her mask.
5. A good person does the little things.
*****side note: wow, You know that these points were taken from someone who is female. Men see the little things as a well fixed meal at a nicely set table at 6 pm. Not in terms of going somewhere or running out to pick up what he needs like his dry-cleaning . so think about what the other person really likes and then define the little things from their perspective not your own.
6. A good person never crosses the line.
It is natural to have disagreements and even arguments in a relationship – but there is no reason to make things personal, become insulting, and never, ever to become abusive. A good person will remain calm and stay on the topic at hand. Perhaps the most important point of all. Whether it be mentally, emotionally, or physically, a good man/woman will never even think about being abusive towards you or harmful in any way. If this happens to you – please have the courage and respect for yourself in order to talk to someone or walk away immediately. No good person would ever act like this and it will not get better on its own.
*****side note: Threats are the ultimate sign of immaturity. If your woman threatens to hurt you or herself, she’s a immature girl..... and the same applies if a guy crosses the line he will do it again and again until it’s time for you to walk away..
7. A good person understands actions speak louder than words.
Having the right man/woman in your life will make you understand that people who make promises do not deserve your respect. People who keep promises deserve your respect, and he/she will be one of them.
*******side note: Some of you are thinking you should be giving your all to whoever you are dating and that is all well and good but I ask you to think about how many boyfriends/girlfriends you have had in your life prior to meet this latest perfect person. Truth is many people come and many people go in a lifetime so that is the main reason you should wait until the holy sacrament of marriage to be 100% vested emotionally, physically and spiritually in love with each other with no conditions.
8. A good person will open up to you.
It can be difficult for some men/women to express their emotions, fears, and even inner-most desires – but having the right man/woman in their life often helps to open those doors. A good man/woman, while understanding of course some things are to be kept private, will not hide things from or bottle up feelings knowing it will cause tension and frustration.
********side note:We have all been there guys. You meet a great woman, she’s nice, she’s sweet, pretty and knows just what to do to make you happy. Then you realize that you haven’t been dating a woman; you've been dating a girl. the need for Constant Communication texting all the time.
Women don’t need to call, text or email you all the time. Girls do. Getting ten texts a day is a sign you’re dating a girl.
9. A good person will always be honest with you.
When building a foundation for a happy, healthy relationship, a good man/woman will understand that honesty is always the best policy.
*********side note:This is a big one. Women don’t mind if you have female friends, in fact, they like it because you can get another woman’s perspective on things and grow as a person. Girls don’t like their man to have any female friends apart from them. Again, it’s insecurity that separates the women from the girls. Know the difference!
10. A good person will stand by you no matter what.
When a man commits his love and his time to a woman, there are no stipulations or circumstances required. There will be good times and there will be not-so-good times. There will be challenges and unexpected situations that arise. But he will stay by your side and be your teammate through it all.
Of course, there is an asterisk on this. This does not mean you can disrespect him, lie, or cheat. It does not mean you can betray his trust and expect him to stick around because he promised to commit to you. This point is about things the two of you go through together and him having the integrity needed to not walk away when times get hard.
Any man can be by your side on the sunny days. The real test of character is whether or not he will hold the umbrella over you during the stormy days. And ladies, if the man you are with puts in the effort to be this person for you, please let him know how much you appreciate him. No matter how kind a person is, there is no emptier feeling than giving your heart to someone who you feel takes it for granted.
***********side note: A woman is a Queen but she is not YOUR QUEEN until you are committed to each other. You two should Never get ahead of yourself losing perspective because there is no rush, so be patient. Don’t give her every waking moment you or she has free for that matter. Keep your freedom to do things with your running buddies (boyz),kids and/or friends and she should have her space as well to hang out with her girls, go shopping, etc. She deserves QUALITY TIME but NOT ALL YOUR TIME while dating.
My disclaimer: all of the above and the following are "allegedly true!"
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