A women strength comes from what she experienced!

Ladies ladies ladies.... I have known many strong black women in my life maybe more than many other men, starting with my grandmother, my mother, and aunts. my female cousins they were all married (but yet very strong) because of who they were raised by and married to, a husband/father who made them all self starters. My grand father had 7 daughters. they all have the same type of strengths, even though they are not all by the same woman. I would say many strong black women these days are that way because they have to be assertive...... Men (especially black-men) are now having to step aside because assertive women run things. they are BOSS . 

Look at Jada Pinket Smith, she is a strong black-woman who is not single. She compliments her husband's strengths. she did not have a good father- figure in her early life....so she married one But how many Mr. Will Smith's are there out there with his charm and earning capabilities these days. For black women to not be single they have to make a few choices, either settle for man earning less than them, and lead them (men with great pride might have serious problem with this one). because there are fewer male leaders who know how to treat a good woman, they may have to settle for a whole lot less than they would want. Just look around at who the pack of wolves are following. these are Not men who are setting good examples, period. so unless women are willing to be prey. they will have to avoid the wolf packs....
Father's should be around to help their daughter make wise choices. If your real Dad isn't around then make sure you find a male figure that has a better than average character to help you.
So who really  invented the Games?

the first rule of courtship... Play hard to get? Right! Well that worked in the early years, but as time  floats by like clouds on  windy days. the "playing hard to get" is no  longer a smart move.
the fact that single women have to play in an arena with competition . where the big time games are played, competing with other single women and even married women. this can be best explained in a cause and effect essay.
Start Distinguishing  between cause and effect. To determine causes, ask, "Why did this is happening?" To identify the  effects, ask, "What happened because of this?" The following is an example of one cause producing one effect:

Cause:You are out of gas, because you didn't tank up when you should have.

Effect: Your car won't start.

Sometimes, many causes contribute to a single effect or many effects may result from a single cause.  so a fill up on high octane gas might be your best bet. to be able to  get your motor started again. Like "Stella got her groove back" So when you come  across someone who has all the attributes you are looking for. But then you hit the brakes and your mind starts wondering what is an acceptable number of previous sex partners.    News flash: Counting The number of sex partners is like being at  the age  if  you are  you passed your 20th birthday .... it only sounds like a whole lot if you are  counting  using your fingers and toes. and you are  calling each toe  a piggy. and each finger as a primary  choices based on finger size.  so their stock is dropping with each finger you count.  so the following question becomes the multiple choice answers based on  what you have to  choose between:  

The following 4 issues are the ultimate steps you need to get working......ASAP 

Compromising

Compromising with one another is a key factor in keeping a relationship  happy and successful for all individuals who are involved. Learning to compromise is necessary from both individuals who have decided to get together and committed  to one another. Once you are able to easily compromise with your partner it is much less likely you are going to trigger an argument or conflict which can negatively impact your relationship altogether.

Financial Management

Learning to manage your finances more strictly and carefully is also ideal to avoid potential conflict related to money issues once you are living with  your significant other. Financial management skills come in handy when you want to build your credit, apply for a new credit card or even take out a loan as a couple with excellent credit history. Getting your finances in order is a way to ensure you are moving forward in the right direction even before you are officially married to new your spouse.
  Communication
Communication is one of the most important skills to master before getting married, regardless of how long you have been dating your significant other. Ensuring you are both capable of communicating openly and honestly at all times is a way to work through potential issues or problems you may need to overcome as a couple in the future. Having the ability to communicate your true thoughts and feelings without becoming defensive is also beneficial not only for marriage, but also other relationships in your everyday life.      
Listening Skills


Listening is essential to improve and grow on any type of relationship, including the relationship you want to have with your significant other once you are living together or  married to one another. Having the ability to openly listen while actively engaging in others’ stories and thoughts is a way to build and gain trust while also showing respect to family members, friends and your spouse. Showing your significant other that you genuinely care about their thoughts is possible by nodding yes while listening, making eye contact and asking additional questions relevant to the stories they are sharing.