There are several Reasons folks Suddenly Stop Falling In Love
That door is ajar but not fully open.
Many people have their happily ever after, but do they Really? while others will not come to that point and by their own choosing. Approximately half of the adult population is currently single. If this is not the case where you reside, you should consider yourself very lucky.... Many people have simply stopped falling in love, I repeat by choice. There are a myriad of reasons people stop falling in love, below are a few of the most common reasons.
• Love leads to vulnerability
In order to love someone, we have to leave ourselves open, and vulnerable. This means we risk the possibility of being hurt. Some are not willing to take this chance or see vulnerability as a weakness.
• Love opens old wounds
OK, Casper stop following me!
Sometimes when we open ourselves up to love and new relationships, it may force us to relive or deal with old hurts. It may also force us to take a look at our emotional history and if we don’t enter new relationships we won’t have to visit our old ghosts.If you think of an Ex as a cartoon character it might not be as painful....reliving the experiences.
• Unwillingness to Compromise
I'm not ready!
We’ve all had that list of traits our dream partner would have, but for many of us we’ve compromised when we’ve found our special someone. Others have continued their quest and have passed on people who might be ideal because they lacked something on perfect person list.
• Waiting on the Fairy Tale
Some have a certain fairy tale in their head. Life is not a story book, nor a television show; it is messy and unpredictable – embrace it! Think how boring life would be if we already knew the ending. Little Girls played this game " he loves me, he loves me not" but in the end they always imagine the end result.... being what they want.
"He loves Me !"
• Feelings are not Equal
Some fear that the other person will love them too much or that they will have more feelings invested. Feelings are rarely equal all the time and it is something that develops throughout the relationship for both partners. There will be conflict, but there could be overwhelming, life-long happiness at the end, but maybe never continuous. Here we go again hitting that "E" zone this is an. equation of a circle, designed to never be balanced.
• It Interferes with the Plan!
Many have a plan in their heads of where they will be in life at a certain stage, and love just does not play into that plan. They plan to be Director or Head of the Department at a certain age and in order to do that they have to be focused on their goals. Romantic entanglements and love do not become a part of this plan.
I chose not to love, but now I'm very lonely!
love is choice; a choice to love and be committed to an imperfect person. Falling out of love with someone differs from choosing not to love. Those who fall out of love are still open to love and may still seek out new relationships.
If you are choosing not to love, you may recognize yourself in one of the above 6 scenarios. If so, you may want to ask yourself if this is truly what you desire or are you blocking yourself from finding your happily,in the current tense and maybe ever after?
In a world where men and women have so much to offer each other... we should just be trying to tap into what we can share... these lyrics are so on point. Friendly Pressure. "I don't wanna be weak. I just wanna be strong. Don't wanna make you uncomfortable. Every time I'm wrong. I don't wanna be rough. Just wanna be sweet to you, baby. I wanna be your everything. Boy, you mean every little thing to me. Friendly pressure. From midnight into the sunshine ~Maysa Leak
Many people prepare for the wedding, but not the marriage. which is "all seasons," one after each other... Here are a few things you need to know BEFORE you say “I do”… you should think about a few, if not all, of these point. I wish someone had spelled this stuff out to me.
I often think back that.. I was more pressured to get married when I did.... because my Mom was not going to be around for much longer. I was right, she died 3 months after we got married. she want to make sure that I had a wife to take care of me. so she died happy to have seen me get married, My Dad felt differently about me getting married.... he never said it, but he did not make the long trip to Chicago to attend my wedding.. so I think he knew these point and did not tell me. he was married to my mom for 44 + years "until death did them part." Then he lived for 20 more years after her death as a widower and a single man, he entertained younger women almost daily Maybe he knew more than he shared, I guess he wanted me to experience married life for at least 25 years therefore to have my own perspective. well here are a few points to think about:
1. Marriage doesn’t complete you.
Contrary to Jerry Maguire and all the Hollywood stories of statements like “finding the One” or “your other half,” a healthy marriage consists of two whole people who partner to create one, new body of their marriage. Even though you love this person and all that, you two are coming together, bringing all your past failures, fears and triumphs together into one marriage. You are building something great. You might benefit as a person while building with your mate, but you two are doing something new.
2. You won’t always feel attracted to your partner.
He could be as cool as (insert cool man like Idris Elba here) or as sexy as (insert sexy woman like Sanaa Lathan here), but there comes a time that even the most loving of couples aren’t “feeling” each other. We see our partners in many different lights — from elegantly dressed for a special event to retching over the toilet bowl. Even over the course of a day or an hour, attraction can fluctuate, and that’s completely normal. Know this going into a marriage. During the courting phase, preferably.
3. You won’t always like your partner.
His jokes will drive you crazy. That thing she does with her voice can irritate the mess out of you. When you spend that much time with one human being, these things can happen. We allow for this when it comes to friendships and family, but with partners, we absorb a fantasy that we’re supposed to like everything about each other all the time. 4. You don’t have to feel love to give it.
…loving feelings fade. Then we balk against advice that says, “Fake it til you make it.” But sometimes, you have to act as-if in a long-term relationship, meaning that even if you don’t feel like giving your partner a good morning kiss, you do it anyway.
the tender tough fades also!
5. Sex is a sacred act of giving and receiving.
It’s sad and often detrimental that we’re offered zero guidance about one of the most complicated aspects of being human: our sexuality. We learn from pop culture, peers, and now, increasingly, from pornography, that sex is something you use to gain approval, validation or security. Healthy sex is none of those things. Loving sex is an expression of love, an act of connection where you practice the arts and skill of giving and receiving. And if you are using it to gain control you will fail royally.
6. Life with young children is stressful.
Everyone says that “children” changes things and they are so right! Don’t get me wrong, children are a blessing, but when they enter a two person partnership they can be stressful, overwhelming, rich, but still beautiful. And it will put a strain on even the best of marriages. I often think it’s a small miracle that any couple survives parenting intact, as there’s such a demand on time and filling needs other than your own that the marriage is sure to suffer.
Knowing this can help you weather these challenging years, while remembering how important it is to find time to nurture both yourself and the marriage, no matter how small.
what are you cooking?
7. Keeping Score Doesn’t Matter
In many relationships, it’s about keeping score–he did this, so you have to do that. Or I did this so how come my mate didn’t do that? But in a marriage–a true marriage–it’s not about keeping score anymore, it’s about being the best person you can be or not despite what the person does or doesn’t do.
Hopefully, you’ve asked enough questions up front so that you will know that no matter good times or bad times, that person is still trying to make you happy.
So you’re thinking about marriage, huh? In all of your wedding planning, don’t forget to make time for marriage planning......
had to play it just right!
Quick final note: I made a mistake when I was dating my ex-wife I told her if I brought her flowers unexpectedly it's because I did something BAD. Then I forgot that I told her that so every time brought her flowers the first couple of weeks we were married... she gave me that took. Then I decided to do something smart I combined the flowers with a gift on every 28th of each month until our first wedding anniversary ( for 11 months) . Then I would do it periodically but always on the 28th. I think she forgot the statement of me doing something BAD for awhile. until she wanted a divorce then I became the guy who "was No longer the man she married." <smiling> I guess I became BAD 2.1 at that point.
So I will keep it REAL and keep on keeping on Barry white style:
Some have a certain fairy tale in their head. Life is not a story book, nor a television show; it is messy and unpredictable – embrace it! Think how boring life would be if we already knew the ending. Little Girls played this game " he loves me, he loves me not" but in the end they always imagine the end result.... being what they want.
Some fear that the other person will love them too much or that they will have more feelings invested. Feelings are rarely equal all the time and it is something that develops throughout the relationship for both partners. There will be conflict, but there could be overwhelming, life-long happiness at the end, but maybe never continuous. Here we go again hitting that "E" zone this is an. equation of a circle, designed to never be balanced. 
