"LOVE" is a 4 letter word...just think about it!

There are several Reasons folks  Suddenly Stop Falling In Love

That door is ajar but not fully open. 

Many people have their happily ever after,  but do they Really? while others  will not come to that point  and by their own choosing. Approximately half of the adult population is currently single. If this is  not the case where you reside, you should consider yourself very lucky.... Many  people have simply stopped falling in love, I repeat by choice. There are a myriad of reasons people stop falling in love, below are a few of the most common reasons.

• Love leads to vulnerability

In order to love someone, we have to leave ourselves open, and vulnerable. This means we risk the possibility of being hurt. Some are not willing to take this chance or see vulnerability as a weakness. 

• Love opens old wounds

OK, Casper stop following me! 

Sometimes when we open ourselves up to love and new relationships, it may force us to relive or deal with old hurts. It may also force us to take a look at our emotional history and if we don’t enter new relationships we won’t have to visit our old ghosts. If you think of an Ex as a cartoon character it might not be as painful....reliving the experiences.  

• Unwillingness to Compromise

I'm not ready!

We’ve all had that list of traits our dream partner would have, but for many of us we’ve compromised when we’ve found our special someone. Others have continued their quest and have passed on people who might be ideal because they lacked something on perfect person list.

• Waiting on the Fairy Tale

Some have a certain fairy tale in their head. Life is not a story book, nor a television show; it is messy and unpredictable – embrace it! Think how boring life would be if we already knew the ending. Little Girls  played  this game " he loves me, he loves me not"  but in the end they always imagine the end result.... being what they want.
"He loves Me !"  

• Feelings are not Equal

Some fear that the other person will love them too much or that they will have more feelings invested. Feelings are rarely equal all the time and it is something that develops throughout the relationship for both partners. There will be conflict, but there could be overwhelming, life-long happiness at the end, but maybe  never continuous. Here we go again  hitting that  "E" zone this is an. equation of a circle, designed to never be balanced. 

• It Interferes with the Plan!

Many have a plan in their heads of where they will be in life at a certain stage, and love just does not play into that plan. They plan to be Director or Head of the Department at a certain age and in order to do that they have to be focused on their goals. Romantic entanglements and love do not become a part of this plan.

I chose not to love, but now I'm very lonely!

 love is choice; a choice to love and be committed to an imperfect person. Falling out of love with someone differs from choosing not to love. Those who fall out of love are still open to love and may still seek out new relationships.

If you are choosing not to love, you may recognize yourself in one of the above 6 scenarios. If so, you may want to ask yourself if this is truly what you desire or are you blocking yourself from finding your happily,in the  current  tense and maybe ever after?

In a world where men and women have so much to offer each other... we should just be  trying to tap into what we can share... these lyrics are  so on point. Friendly Pressure. "I don't wanna be weak. I just wanna be strong. Don't wanna make you uncomfortable. Every time I'm wrong. I don't wanna be rough. Just wanna be sweet to you, baby. I wanna be your everything. Boy, you mean every little thing to me. Friendly pressure. From midnight into the sunshine  ~Maysa Leak