Ladies! Get a little Kinky or lose out!

Get Kinky with it!
“I have seen people struggle with their desires for kinky sex, BDSM and all manner of fetishes. And as tough as it might be to be honest with others, you first have got to be honest with yourself. Know that is is absolutely OK for you to have kinky desires or outré fetishes, and that you are worthy of having your needs met in a loving and consensual setting.
You and your  husband should  have a consensual ‘Power Exchange’ relationship. He shouldn't have to waited until he is 60 years old to seek out his true desires. He should have  a lifetime of fantasies , even if his upbringing labeled such things forbidden. Then adulthood sealed his fate as a guilt-ridden, secretive dreamer. He should be  happy, fulfilled, kinky as hell and loving the explorations of your new life together.
Dare to get what you want! One of men's few regrets is that they denied themselves this dream for decades. women  on the other hand, have been a hedonistic explorer since high school and had no qualms about telling my partners what they wanted and, in turn, finding out what turned them on.
It can be really scary to tell your beloved that you have desires outside of so-called "vanilla" sex but you'll be happier if you're honest about your desires. Be honest with your partner(s) and honest with yourself and let your freak flag fly, in a form of a whip!

Learn to RECEIVE pleasure in more ways than one.

“In the past I’ve had lovers say that they  were afraid of  orgasms. MY question was: " Have ever really had one?? Or were  you conditioned to fake it, for so long that you actually believed you had one??  You could have the best lover in the world, who knows all the ways to please you with an unlimited supply of energy, stamina  and sexual curiosity. But ladies,  if you’ve been taught or accepted that you’re only allowed a certain amount of happiness, joy and bliss, you may intentionally be limiting your capacity for pleasure.
Some women  allow past lovers to get to a measured point and then they would pull away, that carries over int new relationships..... Try learning  how to actively work on being a pleasure receiver. Much of this deals with shame, guilt and social expectations on what you  were allowed or not allowed to feel. Eventually you will learn, what you are  supposed to FEEL, especially pleasure and bliss! In order to grow in closeness with yourself or your partner, you must actively live in a place of vulnerability.”

Talk Dirty to ‘Em.
“Sex is supposed to be fun so get even more adventurous by talking dirty. Tell your partner how you like it. Share with him where you want it. Use your imagination and voice all of your dirty desires. Sex talk helps to stimulate your sexual partner’s major senses -- so imagine how hot and bothered he’ll be once you tell him how horny you are.”
When it comes to dirty talk,They are the best EVER when you are your partner are not together!  However, have you tried this when both of you are in the same home, at work, or while lying next to one another?”



 Stallion Him, Baby!
“Ladies, this is the secret to your orgasm and to getting whatever you want. Put on a large white t-shirt and a sexy pair of heels! Oooh Yeah!
Now, command your partner to lie on his back. Climb on top, facing him, and go for a ride. Take 10 LONG thrusts -- or however many you like. Control your thrusts, turn around, grab his ankles and continue riding.   This position will keep him from climaxing before you and possibly get those new pair of heels for your next ride. I’m just saying.”


 The Largest Sex Organ?
The Brain
“Many believe the genitals run the show when sex is about to take place, but it is actually the brain that is the center of command in every sexual experience.  The brain is responsible for releasing the hormones. The brain is responsible for the signals and chemicals necessary for the body to prepare for sex, and when the mind is clouded intercourse can become difficult.
Weakened erections, lowered libido, inability to orgasm and vaginal dryness can all be caused by the mind being preoccupied by emotional and psychological factors. Relaxing the mind and becoming one with the body before sex is critical for optimal sexual performance and pleasure.
Release inhibitions by talking before the act, participating in couple's erotic massage, playing music or lighting candles infused with lavender or jasmine essentials oils for relaxation. For more complicated emotional or psychological factors such as depression, low self-esteem or anxiety, seeing a doctor will help in restoring balance within the mind, body and eventually sexual energy.”

Stop with the Jabbing Already!
Tip  for men, so you may want to share it with someone you love.
“Guys, we get it. women warm vaginas are extremely mesmerizing. We know you want to be all up in it but please remember... It's a gentle place and she requires gentle strokes and caresses that make our toes curl up.
Women like a man to rub them gently and turn them on without leaving carve marks on their treasure chest with sharp unfiled nails! Calm down and just stroke with your hands. Don't attack the vajayjay.”
“Neither of you are mind readers. Talk transparently about your likes, dislikes, wants and needs. To have a truly intimate experience, tell your partner where you like to be touched. The more comfortable you are communicating your sexual desires, the better your sexual experience will be.
Focus on pleasing each other. Sex should be a time of selfless connecting with your love; a time of making sure your partners needs and wants are met. If your focus is pleasing him and his focus is pleasing you, both of you will be pleased in the end.” -- Yvonne Chase aka The Single Woman's Cheerleader is a dating and relationship coach to singles and pre-committed couples. Find her at YvonneChase.com mixing her Christian faith with pop culture.

 Remember Making Out?
I hope that you’ve enjoyed all of the steamy tips from my sexpert besties. Here’s one to keep your long-term relationships hot. It is simple, but far from basic.
Remember when kissing each other felt so erotic that you wanted to rip each others’ clothes off ASAP? It was so hot and sexy when you first got together! You would put your lips together and let your tongues explore. Now you just automatically repeat the same formula, night after night.
The lips are an incredible erogenous zone. Bring kissing back to your erotic repertoire. Touching lips and tongues can enhance the bond with your partner like none other. Sex workers will do everything else except kissing because the act is so intimate. You’re not just swapping spit!
Sexy romantic kissing gets your feel-good love hormones like dopamine and ocytocin flowing. Your heart rate increases. Your pulse quickens. Your partner feels the hotness. Yes... If kissing has escaped from your bag of sexual tricks - bring it back, fast! Extra points if you can build anticipation by kissing in a place where you can’t readily get naked.