You are in sync with her/him, and you are wondering why!?

These are signs You’ve Met Someone From A Past Life!

Have you ever met someone who you had an instant connection with, and you just intuitively felt that you had met them somewhere, somehow, before?

If you’ve experienced this feeling before, then you have likely met someone from a past life who you have run into once again on your current journey.

You might not immediately think “Hey, I knew them from a past life” when you meet them, but you just know that their soul and yours have crossed paths at some point in time before. You might not have even believed in reincarnation or past lives before this experience, but something so powerful and intense can easily open your mind to other possibilities.

Meeting someone from a past life usually feels amazing, but sometimes, bad memories or feelings could come up due to your past relationship together.  Just be mindful of how you feel, and trust your intuition. Not all relationships last forever, and some of them teach us painful lessons. However, if you’ve met someone in a past life, it likely means you have unfinished business with them here on Earth.

HERE ARE  SIGNS YOU’VE MET SOMEONE FROM A PAST LIFE:1. YOU FEEL AT HOME WHEN YOU LOOK IN THEIR EYES.

You finally feel as though someone understands you. You don’t feel judged or uncomfortable in their presence, and it feels like looking into their eyes is like looking into your own. You feel one and the same with them, like you have connected with someone who knows your soul to the core.

Meeting them feels like coming home, and you could talk with them for hours on end. Contrarily, you could sit in silence for a long time and not feel awkward, like you have to fill the empty space. You can be totally yourself, and they just get you. The relationship with them feels easy, not strained or forced.

2. YOU FEEL OVERWHELMING EMOTIONS UPON MEETING.

The person you meet draws up a wellspring of emotions within you. You can’t place it exactly, but something about the encounter felt incredibly powerful and life-changing. You feel you haven’t seem them in ages, and have suddenly crossed paths in such a surprising way. You probably didn’t even know the person lived in your area, or maybe you met on travels to a foreign place.

Whatever way you meet them, you know it’s more than just a coincidence. You might cry, laugh, or fall into a warm embrace when you see them, because you just can’t hold back your emotions. This person means a lot to you in your heart, so seeing them again for the first time in months or years will inevitably stir up some powerful feelings.

3. YOU HAVE PLENTY OF MEMORIES WITH THEM.

I feel like you've lifted me up before!

You don’t know how or why, but you both share memories of past lives together. You might recall living in the same place, having the same occupation, or crossing paths along travels in a foreign country. You just intuitively know and remember these things, and the memories have carried over into all the lives you have shared with this person.

4. YOU CAN READ THE OTHER PERSON LIKE A BOOK.


Even if you don’t say it, this person can read your mind. They know your thoughts and emotions without you having to explain, which makes having a relationship with this person feel easy, for once. Nothing feels strained, and you can read them just as easily as they can you. You both have a telepathic connection, and cherish it greatly.

5. TIME MEANS NOTHING IN THEIR COMPANY.

This feels so familiar!

You sort of forget about reality around them – time doesn’t mean anything when you have them at your side. Upon meeting them again, you two might spontaneously decide to catch up, and before you know it, five hours have passed. You feel so in tune and engaged with them that you easily lose track of time, space, and all of reality.

6. YOU HAVE A STRONG CONNECTION EVEN WHEN YOU’RE APART.

Even if you didn’t know it at the time, you and this person have probably communicated before. You may have gotten powerful messages before that seemed to enter your consciousness out of  just talking to them. The connection is telepathic.

Are You a Self Assured Woman?

Things Some Women Do Differently In Relationships.


I call these women SELF ASSURED women.

Self assured women don’t need a relationship to validate their self-worth, and can get by on their own in this world. However, in relationships, this type of woman brings her own positive traits into the partnership, and acts as the glue holding everything together. Some women seem to get mislabeled and improperly judged in today’s world, but they have a place in society and don’t back down just because other people feel uncomfortable with them.

Even though they have a tough exterior, these women know how to express their feelings and love deeply, and they make wonderful partners in a relationship.

HERE ARE  THINGS SOME WOMEN DO DIFFERENTLY IN RELATIONSHIPS:



1. THEY TAKE OWNERSHIP OF THEIR FEELINGS.

These women don’t blame their partner for how they feel; they take charge of their own emotions. Of course, this doesn’t mean they allow their partner to walk all over them, but rather, these women don’t play victim. If they have an argument with their significant other, this type of woman will sit down and have an open, honest discussion without causing more turmoil. They don’t run from their feelings, but they don’t wallow in self-pity, either. They’ve dealt with many challenging situations in their life, and therefore, know how to handle the roadblocks in relationships.

No matter if their partner made them feel a certain way or not, they check in with their emotions first before they lash out at their partner unnecessarily.

2. SELF ASSURED WOMEN ACCEPT THEIR PARTNER WHOLEHEARTEDLY.

A self assured  woman doesn’t try to change their partner – they love and adore them just as they are. Self assured women love themselves, and therefore, can love others just as easily. They feel comfortable with themselves, so they allow their partner to have that same sense of self-assurance. A self assured woman likely went through hell and back learning how to feel at ease with themselves, and realize that their partner deserves someone who will love them despite their flaws.

Self assured women recognize the beauty in everyone, and see someone’s self-worth even if they don’t always see it themselves.

3. THEY EXPRESS THEIR FEELINGS OPENLY.

A self assured woman feels comfortable sharing their deepest secrets and darkest emotions with their partner. In a relationship, expect a self assured woman to ask you about your feelings regularly. Not only does she pay acute attention to her own feelings, but she keeps her partner’s emotions in mind as well. A self assured woman realizes that for a relationship to work, both people must feel totally comfortable communicating openly and honestly about their feelings, as this builds trust in the relationship.

4. THEY DON’T RELY ON THEIR PARTNER FOR ACCEPTANCE OR VALIDATION.

Most importantly, self assured women don’t need anyone else to accept them in order to feel happy with themselves. This kind of woman already has done all the inner work necessary in order to feel complete within herself, and she understands that self-development never ends. She practices self-love and self-care every day in some way, because she realizes that in order to have a successful relationship, she must clear out any negative energy in her life first. A sels assured woman validates herself by doing everything in life out of love and compassion for both her and others.

Because she accepts herself so thoroughly, she can easily accept others as they are, too.

5. SELF ASSURED WOMEN TAKE CARE OF THEIR PARTNER. (HE DOES NOT NEED TO BE THE PERFECT GUY, JUST HER GUY)

This type woman puts her partner’s needs first, no matter how busy life gets. She cares deeply for her significant other, and will do anything to make him happy. Self assured women don’t consider it a weakness to enjoy taking care of someone or letting someone into her life in such an intimate way – they crave a deep connection with someone, and actually love having someone to look after.

Self assured women don’t care about the stereotypes associated with being a different person from the crowd of women.

***A final note... I'm a guy who recognizes these self assured women, because I grew up with these women.... Mother, Aunts. Cousins.... they all have had one thing in common........ they stood out!

Is it your issues? Why are things just NOT working out?

 Behaviors That Keep People From Finding Relationships That Work.


Is it possible that your own behavior might be something that is keeping you from finding a relationship that works? Although you might think you are ready for love, there are some ways that we self-sabotage our own desires when it comes to relationships. Let’s look at 10 behaviors that keep you from finding a relationship that will work well for your needs.



1. YOU’VE YET TO HEAL FROM THE HURT OF YOUR CHILDHOOD

Psychologists call your adult relationship style your ‘attachment style’ and they say that the way you bond with a romantic partner is based on how you learned love as a child. If your childhood years were not happy ones, it takes a lot of healing before you can find a relationship that works.

Psychologists at Texas A&M University who looked at 144 dating couples found that those with anxious or avoidant attachment styles had more negative emotions and fewer positive emotions in their relationships. The partners with secure attachment styles were the ones who had the most positive emotions and the least negative emotions during their relationships.



2. YOU APPLY THE DEAL BREAKER RULE TO EVERY DATE


Man Hands, Close Talker, and the Double Dip were all reasons that characters on the TV show Seinfeld had to dump their dates. If you give your dates deal-breaker status based on their negative behavior, that is totally unfair. Sure, we all have deal breakers that will just get under our skin so we know to avoid those types of people, but you’re not perfect either. Labeling your partner’s negative behavior while ignoring their positive traits is not giving them a fair deal. It’s possible that this is one behavior that is keeping you from finding a relationship that works. Try focusing on the positive aspects of your next partner.


3. YOUR STANDARDS ARE A BIT TOO HIGH

You are looking for the never-married lawyer in his 40’s who graduated from Yale and has a mansion, convertible, and perfect abs? Looking for someone who is either out of your league or who would have no reason to find value in you as a partner is one possible reason you haven’t found a relationship that works.

4. LOVE HAS MADE YOU JADED

You are stuck in the negativity, regret, and resentment about your past relationships, which is keeping you from finding a relationship that works. Who wants to be with someone who is only focused on the negative? No one you should want to be with, that’s for sure. Try to find the lesson from these past loves, let go, grow, and open yourself up to only positives.

Remember I've been married before
so this time it had  better work well!

5. LOW SELF-ESTEEM

Low self-esteem is one possible trait that keeps you from finding a relationship that works. It’s hard to love someone else fully until you can say the same about your relationship with yourself. Let’s focus on you for a while and then look for romance.

6. YOU’RE AFRAID OF WHAT WOULD HAPPEN IF YOU DID FIND THE RIGHT PERSON

Fear is not uncommon for those who are single, and in this case it’s the fear of finding a relationship that works. Sometimes you fear losing your freedom, or losing the potential for another romantic partner who could be even better and who might come along when you aren’t available. Sometimes, it is a fear of success that keeps you from true love.

7. YOU’RE PURSUING SOMEONE WHO ISN’T SINGLE

Maybe he or she will leave their spouse, but in the meantime, you’re tying yourself up with someone who isn’t available, which means you are also not available to find someone who is looking for you.



8. YOU THINK YOU HAVE TO GIVE UP WHO YOU ARE TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP

You should never have to sacrifice your personality for a romantic partner, so resolve to never let that happen and be ready for the possibility of a love where you can still be yourself AND be in a relationship that works.

9. YOU KEEP REPEATING THE SAME PATTERN IN RELATIONSHIPS

Similarly to your attachment style, if you are repeating old patterns of unhealthy relationship behavior, you may have some personal growth to do before you can be in a relationship that really works. Living in the past just will not work for you in a relationship. Your partner wants you to live in the here and now with them, and if you can’t let go of old, negative habits that don’t serve you, you can’t have a healthy relationship.


Researchers at the University of Rochester and the University of Georgia looked at mindfulness and relationship satisfaction and found that ‘greater practice of mindfulness on a given day predicted improved relationship happiness, stress coping efficacy, and lower relationship-specific and overall stress.’ Letting go of the past, and avoiding worrying about the future, keeps you mindful and aware of the joy that is found in each moment with your romantic partner, and that is a great way to have an emotionally healthy relationship that works well for both of you.

10. YOU FIND IT HARD TO TRUST

I get it; putting yourself out there to potentially be hurt can be emotionally scary, but you have to take a risk if you want the big payoff. It’s better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.


In order to have a deep love, you first must have trust, because that vulnerability to being hurt is a requirement of love. Otherwise, you are just sharing a closed heart with someone, which will keep you from finding a relationship that works.

They cant hide their selfishness!

Behaviors Selfish People Display In A Relationship.

Recognizing if and when someone is being selfish in a relationship can be difficult, especially when it’s someone that’s close to you. Most people are good at heart, and I’ll give others the benefit of the doubt. People known to use others for personal gain are leeches, and they don’t care who it is they hurt.

Nobody deserves to be taken advantage of (unless you’re a leech, of course. It’s called karma.) Now, what sort of subhuman sycophant would intentionally mooch off of their partner? Not out of need, but out of greed; not out of inability, but out of laziness; indeed, it takes a *ahem* “rare” type of individual.

It certainly may just be love and devotion that makes you vulnerable to such a person. Additionally, these same feelings could make it difficult to discern your partner’s trickery; hence the reason for this blog post.


Here, I point out five probable signs that your partner is taking advantage of you. Should you relate to one or more of these signs, it’s past time to reconsider your relationship.

THE SIGNS I CAN THINK OF......OFF THE TOP OF MY HEAD.

1. EVERYTHING HAPPENS ON THEIR TERMS

Is it alright to kiss you in public?

If you’re with someone who rarely lets you make plans, you’re probably being taken advantage of; if you’re with someone who doesn’t value your time, effort, or emotional needs, you’re likely being used. A relationship without sacrifice or compromise is not a real relationship.

Do you notice any of the following behaviors?



– Time spent with your partner almost always requires their “approval”

– Decisions regarding places you go, people you see, and things you do are too frequently theirs

– Your ideas are quickly rebuffed or blatantly ignored

You get the idea by now. Can you relate to one or more of these examples? If you can, the odds are that you’re being taken advantage of – and probably in more ways than one.



2. MOST COMMUNICATION FROM YOUR PARTNER IS NEGATIVE OR NEUTRAL


Many relationship experts (e.g. scholars, therapists, counselors) have conclusively cited individual or mutual contempt as the best predictor of relationship failure.

Contempt is defined by Dictionary.com as:

“the feeling with which a person regards anything considered mean, vile, or worthless; disdain; scorn.”
“the state of being despised; honor; disgrace.”
In other words, contempt is the opposite of respect. In a relationship, contempt reveals itself through “negative judgment, criticism, or sarcasm regarding the worth of the individual.”

As you assuredly know, communication is everything in a relationship. Now ask yourself, how does your partners communication make you feel?

3. YOU PUT FORTH MOST OF THE EFFORT

Why am I even here?
You are all about you!

In a relationship, a lack of effort is often a sign of disinterest or disengagement. If you’re pouring a disproportionate amount of time, money and energy into the relationship, something is wrong. Monetary expenditures are much less important than the emotional investments you’ve made. Money comes and goes; but if your partner isn’t willing to put the effort and time into making a relationship work then, why would you?

Abdicating responsibility in a relationship is immature, careless and selfish. No reasonable person would do that to someone who they love. It just may be time to exit stage right.

4. THEY DON’T “LABEL” YOUR RELATIONSHIP

They’re uncomfortable with the word “girlfriend,” “boyfriend,”  "ladyfriend" or any other terminology that describes your relationship as anything but casual.

When you attempt to initiate a conversation about the relation (e.g. making it official or exclusive) they’re quick to tense up or are rendered speechless. The simple reason for this reaction is that they are not ready to make your relationship a priority. In fact, they may not want a relationship at all.

Time to muster up some fortitude, stand your ground, and consider your other options.

5. YOU’VE CAUGHT THEM (NON-HUMOROUSLY) FLIRTING WITH OTHER PEOPLE

Do you like what you see?

take responsibility for actions

I won’t spend too much time explaining the problem with flirting. Why? Well, I don’t want to insult your intelligence.

Some people use flirtation as a means of making people laugh – the person dating them usually knows this and is fine with it. This is the sole exception regarding flirting with other people. Otherwise, flirting is a behavior that stems from  habits of infidelity.

How do you make a good first impression on someone you like.

It was good meeting you!

Consider These Ways to Make A Great First Impression


“You never get a second chance to make a first impression.” ~ Will Rogers

There exist certain rules of engagement when it comes to making a solid first impression.

Let’s consider a job interview – a situation where first impressions are critical. You already know what to do: dress the part, watch your body language, and hold some knowledge about the company and job role.

But there’s a difference between  – not only making a good impression – but keeping it.

Let’s visit the dating interview from a different perspective – the interviewers (female.)

After a while, interviewers must “get smart” when it comes to doing away with the B.S. men throw at them – or risk having their judgment called into question.

They’ve( women) had to learn the hard way; namely through getting duped by people making a “great first impression” only to be disappoint.....in the long run.

The point is if you’re going to keep a solid foundation of people at your side – friends and colleagues, intimate Partner, and others –  then you must understand and put into practice something called “impression management.”

"Impression management" is defined as “a conscious or subconscious process in which people attempt to influence the perception of (others) … by regulating and controlling information in social interaction.”

In this post, I'm going to narrow down some of the best advice from impression management experts that can help all of us in our day-to-day relationships. If you commit to – and properly execute – these methods of impression management, you’ll enhance your ability to both impress and influence people in the long run, as well as avoid being duped by con men.

1. MIND YOUR BODY LANGUAGE



We are always communicating, whether or not words are being formed by our lips. Has anyone ever asked you “what’s wrong” when there was nothing? That’s a perfect example.

We’re always sending messages. From the words we speak and our tone of voice – to our body language, such as posture and facial expressions – communication is continuously sent and received.

ALWAYS Mind your body language.

2. BE RESPECTFUL

Respect goes a long way, especially in a society where everyone seems to be looking out for numero uno.”

Being disrespectful always comes back around. Look at the proliferation of sexual harassment claims against politicians and actors to see this karma in action.

At work, failure to be respectful can get you fired. In your relationships, disrespect can get you dumped.

And so on.

The bottom line: when it comes to impression management, r-e-s-p-e-c-t is the fundamental building block.

3. BE OPEN-MINDED

Despite all of the world’s problems, we’re living in perhaps the most learned age in history. The democratization of knowledge and education has led to people the world over being more informed.
Studies have repeatedly demonstrated the link between education and a more egalitarian view of the world.

Be fair, even-minded, and mature. Listen to others’ perspectives even if they don’t align with your own. Instead of ridiculing an idea you interpret as unworkable, take the time to listen and understand.



4. EMBRACE HUMANITY

Listen, we’re living in some troubling times. North Korea, climate change, Russia investigations,  nuclear proliferation… all of these things are bothersome.

But there’s a whole lot of good going on in the world, too.

Why doesn’t the media talk more about these things? Because human beings possess something called a ‘negativity bias,’ where we pay more attention to bad events than good ones. More viewers = higher ratings = more advertisements = more money.

So just when you’re about to fall into a rabbit’s hole of negativity, do a bit of searching and find some good in the world!

5. KEEP YOUR WORD

Remain true to your word unless there’s an excellent reason. People who say what they mean, mean what they say, and let their actions do the talking always seem to remain in the good graces of others.

And always be on TIME!

Who is really happy these days? Way less people than you think!

Things You Need To Do To Keep Your lover happy.

I WIL do my best to make you happy!

So, you’ve found a new lover, and he or she makes your heart soar. In this world, finding someone who complements you and just gets you isn’t easy, but keeping them around can be even more of a challenge. Relationships do take effort, and communicating with one another to figure out what you both need to remain happy in the partnership is essential. You might have found someone who takes your breath away, but if you want them to stick around for a while, make sure to make these things an integral part of your relationship.





1. MAKE SURE YOU WORK ON YOURSELF JUST AS MUCH AS YOUR ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP.

In order to have a successful relationship in your life, you need to make sure to honor and develop your personal relationship with yourself, too. All of the love we experience in life starts from within, and flows outward toward others in our lives. The more love you have cultivated within yourself, the more you can experience and share with others. Working on yourself might seem like a daunting task, but the rewards you’ll experience make it totally worth it. Nothing feels as satisfying as growing beyond what you thought possible, and your romantic partner will appreciate and love you that much more for becoming a better, more whole version of yourself.

2. KEEP THE LINES OF COMMUNICATION OPEN AT ALL TIMES.

Relationships can’t thrive in an environment where open, honest communication doesn’t exist. A successful relationship requires both partners to share their deepest thoughts and feelings with one another regularly, and not feel that they have to hold back to keep one another comfortable. If you have a problem with your partner, share it with them before it becomes a bigger issue. The longer you hold something in, the more it will eat away at you.

Your partner should be the one person in your life that you feel you can talk to about anything, so if you want to keep your partner, make sure to open up your heart and get comfortable with vulnerability.

3. EXPLORE WAYS TO BECOME MORE EMOTIONALLY INTIMATE.

Of course, physical intimacy matters greatly in a relationship, but make sure you nurture the emotional side of your relationship, too. Ask your partner how they feel, text them throughout the day to let them know you’re thinking of them, and have deep conversations with him or her often. Pick their brain, and make them feel as though you care to know every thought and emotion running through their veins.

Relationships require a deep bond in order to last, so make sure you get to know your partner inside and out, and remember to fall in love with their soul as much as their mind and body. According to a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, the most successful adult relationships consist of a feeling of closeness as well as the ability to depend on others for emotional support.


4. LISTEN, ALWAYS.

Let me make sure I get
what you are saying

Perhaps one of the best ways to keep your partner around is to commit to listening to whatever they have to say at all times. Once you can learn to quiet your mind and really pay attention to every word someone else says, you can truly connect with them on an intimate level. Listening requires you to drop your ego and remain fully present in the moment; it requires patience and care; it requires unconditional love and understanding. In our society where everyone wants to make their voice heard, the art of listening has fallen to the wayside.

If you want a successful partnership, never forget the power of truly listening to your loved one.

5. ACCEPT YOUR PARTNER UNCONDITIONALLY AND WHOLEHEARTEDLY.

Also, don’t ever try to change your partner. You fell in love with them in the first place, so you obviously admire certain qualities about them. Change will happen over time...it's a natural thing... but forced change will result in push-back, resentments.... and that will not be a good thing!

So how does a good man live with B.A.D. initials?

Let's  just say the initials  force my good behavior and overall good habits...

So, Ladies Here are Some Good Signs You Are (or were) With A Good Man.

Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one. – Marcus Aurelius

As men, one of our duties is to be gentlemanly to those that we encounter. There is perhaps no person that this pertains to more – and to a higher degree – than your partner. Women expect to be courted by, and potentially married to, a man of high character.

Most people would agree that good men encompass certain behavioral traits throughout the duration of a relationship.  This leads to the next question: what character traits make up a “good management ”? Well, there are indeed many of them. I’ve managed to narrow the “signs” of a good man down to 11.

IN NO PARTICULAR ORDER, HERE ARE 11 SIGNS THAT YOU’RE WITH A GOOD MAN:

1. HE MAKES YOU FEEL BEAUTIFUL ( INSIDE AND OUT).

This feels so right!

As his partner, a good man won’t forget about making your feel beautiful. A good man is not content with just saying the words, but is successful in manifesting feelings of beauty within your heart. This includes in the way he interacts with you physically and mentally.

2. HE EVOKES A SENSE OF INSPIRATION.

A good man will always possess a strong and unshakable character. As such, by default, the man is inspirational in his words and deeds. He never ceases to evoke feelings of inspiration. A good man will inspire a woman to be the best version of herself.

3. HE IS SUPPORTIVE MORE OFTEN THAN NOT.

A good man understands the importance of remaining supportive and accommodating to a woman’s needs. This doesn’t entail being a “Yes Man,” but being a man that can offer support and accommodation when the situation calls for such.

4. HE ALWAYS SEEKS SELF-IMPROVEMENT.

A good man never really gives himself too much credit. Though he may be intelligent, a good man seeks to always self-improvement; whether this is through learning something new, taking on added responsibilities, or getting into better shape, a good man prides himself on becoming better.

5. HE MAKES YOU FEEL SAFE AND SECURE.

Ladies first!

Feeling safety and secure is a vital component for any woman in her relationship. It is the man’s duty to ensure that such feelings are present. In the event of something unfortunate, a good man will always stand up for and defend his woman.

6. HE ALWAYS SEEMS TO DO THE “LITTLE THINGS.”

Holding the door open, pulling out the chair, feeding the kids, etc. are all trademark actions of a good man doing the little things. He is never too busy to stop what he’s doing and offer a small gesture of assistance.

7. HE IS HONEST AND FORTHCOMING.

A good man will not lie, cheat, or steal, especially to the person he loves the most in the world. A good man should not feel any hesitation in telling it like it is, whether what he has to say be good or bad.

8. HE IS NEVER ABUSIVE TOWARDS YOU OR ANYONE ELSE.

A good man will never be physically, mentally, or emotionally abusive to his partner. Ever. Also, a good man will not instigate an abusive episode with anyone else under any circumstance. Instead, a good man will use the strength of his character and intellect to resolve conflicts.

9. HE STANDS BY YOU WHOLEHEARTEDLY.

When a good man expresses his love AND ADMIRATION  this love remains through thick and thin. Under no circumstance will a good man neglect you, even in the more challenging situations. A good man will not abandon his duty to stand by you.


10. HE WORKS TO EARN, AND KEEP, YOUR TRUST.

I trust you to pull this chair out for me to sit!

A good man understands that trust, like love, cannot be forced; it must be earned. After earning the woman’s sacred trust, a good man will take such a blessing for granted. Furthermore, a good man never leaves his trust in-doubt.

11. HE WILL MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU ARE NUMBER ONE!
This doesn’t mean that he keels over and appeases to a woman’s every whim. It does mean, in most cases, that a good man will be selfless in his words and deeds. It is a man’s responsibility to put his woman first – a good man does this much more than not.

Try and pay attention to how he/she was raised...

The Link Between Verbal Abuse And Anxiety That No One Talks About...........
Maybe that in its self Speaks Volumes !

Anxiety and long-term mental abuse are closely related. When someone goes through a lot of stress and trauma, over time, they develop a mental disorder, and anxiety is the most common.

There is disgrace concerning verbal abuse, so why are there  a lot of people that see it as something that is okay to do!

You need to know that yelling, insulting, and disrespecting someone may lead to harm to that individual who is being affected. In fact, verbal abuse is as harmful as physical abuse.

The Worst Form of Abuse is Verbal

When we are talking about verbal abuse, we are talking about both real-life and cyberbullying. Any form is damaging, and science says that it has an impact on both hemispheres of the brain.

When a person is verbally abused since they were a child that results in a lot of problems.

Verbal Abuse is the Same as Mental Abuse

Since someone is abused their emotional state verbally is being affected, harming their self-esteem, both mental and verbal abuse is the same thing. Sadly, these traumas have a negative impact on person’s overall mental health, and this thing no one wants to experience.

If you have experienced, you know that it can totally influence your life, and it can interfere with your relationships as well as work. Below we offer you some symptoms you should know, and if you notice that someone is experiencing them, you should help them.

1. Short-Term Symptoms, Overthinking. Low self-confidence, and lack of enthusiasm Unable to make decisions
2. Long-Term Symptoms AnxietyPTSD Depression Chronic pain Eating disorders Suicidal thoughts. Digestive problems, Migraines. How to Notice Verbal Abuse

1. Where No One Can See

Many people are being abused where people cannot see. This can happen at home, at school, or even at work. Thinking that no one can know, people choose these places to abuse other people. And this may lead to serious trauma and harm to a person’s health.

2. Unappreciation
People who abuse other people tend never to appreciate what others are doing. Abusers never think that whatever someone does is good enough. And, when a person is abused this way, they feel the emptiness and feel like they do not h7ave a purpose.


3. Name Calling
Abusers tend to use name calling in order to manipulate with other people and give them orders. As others abuses, this is also a harmful one.

4. Mood Killer
When someone feels good, abusers feel like they are losing the control. So, they choose that moment in order to make that happy person feel bad again. They feed off of the unhappiness of others.
If you have a person like this in your life, you need to be careful and never let them achieve their aim.

5. Attack Someone’s Interests
People who abuse usually attack someone’s interests, hobbies, and other things they like. When someone experiences this kind of attack, they begin thinking they are not good enough, they feel worthless and may end up lying about such things.

6. Abusers Are Always Right
Unfortunately, abusers tend never to apologize or admit they have done something bad. They think of them as the best of everyone, and they are the ones that are always right.
If you know someone who you cannot talk with because they do not want to discuss things that person may be an abuser.

7. Isolation
People who are being abused usually avoid social situations in order to keep themselves safe from abuse. If they are around people, they feel uncomfortable and feel anxious. The root of this probBlameomes from low self-confidence.
You need to talk to this person and ask them how they are feeling. Also, remember that you would make a big difference if you notice someone with this issue, and talk to them. You may help them a lot.

8. Blame
People who abuse, usually blame others for everything. So, the abused individual begins to think they are worthless.

9. Shaming.

When a person has low self esteem as a result of verbally abuse... they are often put in positions where the power of choice is taken away from them.

Never loose your power of choice... you should always have the right to say
 "No, STOP.... NO... STOP!"

Lessons learned from loving the wrong person!

Must you do that everywhere we go?

Some Major signs You Could  Love The Wrong Person... for a period and learn  valuable lessons.

Many people think they know what it takes to maintain balanced, happy relationships in life: love, trust, compassion, compromise, laughter, a deep connection, and respect, to name a few.  However, a lot of us don’t even recognize if we love the wrong person…

To cultivate supportive, healthy relationships in life, you have to first find out what you don’t want, and sometimes that involves being in the wrong relationship for period of time. Here’s how to tell:

1. YOU AREN’T COMFORTABLE SPENDING TIME APART

In the beginning of a relationship, you naturally want to spend as much time with the person as you can since everything about it feels fresh and new, and you absolutely think you love the person you’re with. Of course, you still feel the same about your man or lady after a few months, but you might crave some time away from them occasionally to continue your own personal growth.

While your partner should be a big part of your life, it’s important to make sure they’re not the only part of your life. Research shows that once a relationship becomes stagnant, people start to forget why they’re in the relationship to begin with, and look for a way out so they can feel that initial spark again with someone new. To avoid having this happen, hanging out with friends or spending time alone is important in keeping the spark alive in the relationship and being able to grow evenly during time spent apart.

If this time apart doesn’t feel comfortable, there is an underlying trust issue, and since trust is a cornerstone of any relationship, you may want to reassess your relationship.

2. YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND EXACTLY HOW TO MAKE THE OTHER PERSON FEEL TRULY LOVED.

Just tell me what you need!

We all have different preferences when it comes to receiving, and givinh love. In the wrong relationship, one or both of the partners fail to understand the others needs. If you want to care for them in the best way possible, but don’t know how, remember that something as small as a cup of coffee in the morning or a warm dinner at night can be just the right touch to fixing a wronged relationship. This is effectively done through the right communication. You don’t expect the other to read your mind. You learn, get to know your partner and act in a way that makes them fall in love with you even more. If that is even possible.

3. LIVING IN THE PAST. LET IT GO.

Focusing on the wrongdoings and mistakes that people in your past made will only make you feel negative about your current relationship. Let go and leave those relationships where they belong – in your past-  fixating on prior pain will only cause more to appear…what you resist persists.

4. SOMEONE IS WITHHOLDING THE TRUTH.

When asked about the most important quality a person can possess, most people quickly say “trust.” If two people don’t have that, the foundation of the relationship will quickly crumble once the truth finally comes to the surface. Healthy love requires two people committed to sharing their darkest secrets and most authentic self no matter what.

5. YOU CAN’T HANDLE PROBLEMS EFFECTIVELY.

In both relationships and in  life in general , problems inevitably happen, and knowing how to deal with them and figure out solutions together can strengthen your relationship – and keep it running smoothly. If you or your partner are having a hard time tackling problems as a team and talking things through to solve the problem, it may mean that there’s a happier and longer-lasting relationship elsewhere.

A couple,married for 75 years, said that the key to make love work long-term is communication, even if that means arguing in order to solve a problem. Whatever your style of problem-solving may be, if you and your partner can resolve things quickly and easily without too much conflict, chances are you have the ability to make things work in the future. According to Dr. Preston Ni, “Successful couples have the ability to solve problems and let [them] go.”

If both you and your partner have similar problem-solving stressful situations... you can't solve them.

Don't be surprised by her walking away!

The following are  things modern day strong women don't accept in a relationship...
(Fellas this is experience talking here!)


Strong women are those who have a very clear idea of who they are as a person. They are highly self-aware and they know exactly what they want and do not want in their lives. They are driven, ambitious, and they are the ones to fight their battles alone. They do not expect a lot from their partners in a relationship apart from trust, loyalty, and honesty but there are certain things they absolutely detest. Here, I have a few things that strong women find absolutely unacceptable in relationships.

#1 Overly Jealous


Strong women are highly self-aware and hence, they are extremely assured of themselves. This is exactly what they expect from their partners as well. Jealousy, on the partner's part, is something they hate as they are extremely loyal. Trust matters to them and they don't like it when their partners don't trust them.

#2 Deceptive Manipulation

Deceit and manipulation are somethings that no one likes but strong women are capable of seeing through these. They understand the tricks and the techniques of manipulators and hence, they prefer staying away from them. Don't try manipulating them, they have a nose for detecting bulls*it.

#3 Excessive Tardiness

Strong women are extremely particular about time and organizations. They are punctual, organized, and meticulous. It is fair for them to expect the same from their partners. Tardiness, therefore, is something that annoys them a lot and they prefer staying away from the same.

#4 Cheating

We are done!

No one can accept a cheating partner, least of all the women who like building a relationship based on trust and loyalty. Strong women are generally highly accepting of others and non-judgemental but cheating is crossing the line. Never cheat on a strong woman, she is more than capable of repaying in kind.

#5 Waiting


Strong women are highly motivated, driven, and ambitious. They hate waiting for things to happen and they hate waiting for decisions. They need people who are quick to decide and do not take their own time coming to a conclusion. They do not like waiting for better things in a relationship as they want them immediately.

#6 Settling

Strong women are never the ones to settle in life. Be it their jobs, their family, or their relationships, they only want the best and they work towards it tirelessly. They hate mediocrity and nothing but the best would do for them. So, the person in their lives has to be the best, relative to the woman's expectations, for her to have them.

#7 Domination

I wear the pants in this house!

Strong women have a high sense of individuality and are fiercely independent. They are reasonable and prefer discussions over debates. They may seem domineering to those who don't understand them but they value equality the most. Since they do not dominate, they hate being dominated, in turn. They would never stand for a partner who looks to undermine their individuality.

#8 Continuous Disrespect

Respect is a two-way street. Being honest and sincere themselves, strong women are highly respectful towards others. This is exactly what they want from their partners as well. Give them respect and they will respect you in return. Disrespect them and they can unleash a fury unknown to you.

Okay I'll say 'I Love you.' Are you happy now?

Watch out for their choice of words!


Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many different kinds of love that people can experience. But the most specific type of love that most people seek is a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some people, a romantic relationship is the most important and meaningful thing in their life. For others, it’s just another relationship. In many intimate relationships, women get hurt because men either didn’t love them or stop loving them. In order to avoid that, there are phrases that will show that your man doesn’t love you. His actions speaks volumes!

One of the hardest things to do in a relationship is to notice when it’s starting to take a nosedive. There are always signs that are present, but some people just don’t want to open their eyes. When you get comfortable with someone, you become blind to the warning signs because you’re too focused on how much you love them. In other scenarios, people don’t want to leave the relationship because they don’t think they can do any better. They know that it’s not perfect, but they don’t want to risk losing that person and being alone.

In my opinion, no one should ever settle. If you hear the following phrases, it could be a sign that your man doesn’t love you anymore,or never did. It’s alright to cry and be emotional if the relationship ends, but it’s not the end of the world.

"I Really Love You:" This might sound a bit ridiculous, but there is a certain way that men will tell you they love you that could mean they’re manipulating you. If the man says “I love you,” chances are he means it. But if he says “I really love you,” the “really” usually means that your partner feels guilty for something he did and is trying to prove to you that he still loves you. If your man has nothing to hide and has treated you with the utmost respect, there is no reason why he needs to add the “really” into “I love you.” This is a hidden sign that your man doesn’t love you anymore.

"You know I love you"
(Shaking his head side to side)

"Do Whatever You Want:" Your man doesn’t care anymore if he starts telling you to do whatever you want. This signifies that he has become distant and indifferent to you. By saying this, it shows that he doesn’t care what you are doing or want to do. It also shows that he doesn’t care if you’re able to get out of a difficult situation or not. If your man really loves you, he will help you with difficult situations and will never leave your side at a crossroads. But if your man doesn’t love you, he won’t help you when you need it the most

"You’re Overthinking It:" If your man is trying to make you feel guilty, he may tell you that you’re overthinking things if you complain about a problem. It is possible that you may be overthinking things. But, if this situation occurs on a regular basis, it could be a red flag. The best way to deal with situations that end in “you’re over thinking it” is to sit your man down and explain to him what is worrying you. Just remember, the statement “you’re over thinking it” is not an answer to your question and could signify that your man doesn’t love you anymore.



"Find Someone Else If You Don’t Like It:" If your man says this statement, it means that he’s never going to change and expects you to live with his flaws, or bounce. It also shows that he cares very little about your opinion and also about you. It’s important to remember that a successful relationship that is full of love is also full of compromise. Both parties need to respect each other and their opinions. But if your man doesn’t love you, he won’t care if you leave and find someone else.

Maybe you should be trying to

 find out what "Love is!"

Just refer to me as a knight without the armor!

All true gentlemen should be knighted.

What should I  blog about next?

The idea of the Gentleman grew out of the traditions of knighthood in a very dangerous period in history. While, these days the concepts of knighthood and honor have long been out of fashion, some of the behaviors from that time still have meaning and purpose. The core concepts of the knight and the gentleman are similar: Protect the weak and defenseless, show compassion and mercy, speak the truth, and be courteous to others, especially women and children. So what are some of the actual behaviors of a true modern day gentleman? 

HERE ARE 20 BEHAVIORS OF A TRUE GENTLEMAN, the B.A.D. version

We Opens Doors

A gentleman holds the door for others to go in. He definitely opens the door for women and lets them go through first. Its no a big deal to be curtious... Actually it seperates us from the everyday crude, rude, and self absorbed dudes.



We're Always On Time

A gentleman shows up when he says he is going to show up and doesn’t leave others waiting. It is rude to show up late and waste other people’s time. Not only is being on time courteous, but it shows that you value their time, and yours.

We walks closest to the Curb!

Walking close to the curb and putting yourself between a woman and any potential danger is what a gentleman does.

We Offers our Jacket when she is cold?

If a woman is cold and doesn’t have a jacket or coat, and you do, then you sacrifice your personal comfort to make a lady more comfortable. 

We Helps her be seated

Have a seat my first lady

A gentleman pulls out a woman’s seat for her and helps her move the seat in closer to the table.

We are Courteous

It seems like a small thing, but saying “please” and “thank you” to people shows courtesy and respect for others. It is a minor thing and costs you nothing, but can earn you valuable points with most people.

We Offers our Seat

If you are on the bus/subway/park bench and a woman does not have a seat, then you offer your seat. A gentleman sacrifices even small things like personal comfort for a short commute.

We Offers our Arm

When out on a date, and you and your date are walking, offer your arm. It is classy, and women like to walk arm-in-arm with a gentleman.

We Have Table Manners

You are such a gentleman,
Thank you! 

Appropriate table manners mean a lot and show that you are not some uncouth barbarian. If you are at a BBQ joint, then by all means use your fingers and get a little messy. But, if you are eating at a restaurant with silverware, then use them; that knife and fork are there for a reason. Also, put your napkin on your lap. It shows refinement and class.

We are Not Rude to People

Even if the service is horrible, take the high road and be polite. It doesn’t cost you anything, it shows you can restrain your emotions, and it shows empathy and basic respect for others.

We offer to Picks up the Check

A gentleman reaches for the check, and in most cases should insist on paying. The rare occasions when a gentleman doesn’t pick up the check, he at least makes the attempt to get the check and puts up a token struggle before conceding. When he picks up the check, whether for a date or for friends, he never expects something in return.

We are Attentive

When someone is talking, you should be listening and listening closely. Don’t fiddle with your phone or watch the TV in the background. Look at the speaker and listen to what they are saying. A gentleman also notices how others look. Complement a woman sincerely. “You look stunning” is an appropriate compliment and will always make a woman smile.

We Keep our Word

If a gentleman says he is going to be somewhere or do something, he does it. It is that simple. Do what you say you are going to do.

We Keep a Secret

If a gentleman is told something in confidence, then that information goes into the vault. He doesn’t blab it to others.

We Do Not Kiss and Tell

Nobody needs to know what your significant other looks like without clothes, how good they are in the sack or what freaky things they like. Keep it to yourself.

We Do Not Hit Women

A gentleman’s role is to protect women even at the cost of their own life. A gentleman never hurts a woman. The only exception to this is if a woman is trying to kill an innocent person. Outside of extreme circumstances, a man should never lay his hands on a woman in anger.

We Waits For Others to Get Their Food Before Eating

When at a restaurant, a gentleman waits until everyone has been served before starting to eat. It shows patience and courtesy.

We are Honest

A gentleman tells the truth even if it hurts him. Honorable people tell the truth, always. A gentleman is trustworthy.

We Get Stuff Done

A gentleman knows how to do stuff and gets those things done. A gentleman can fix the car, splint a broken limb, change the baby’s diaper and cooks dinner. Gentlemen know how to do things and can get those things done. He is a jack of all trades, a Renaissance man, or the most interesting man in the world.

We Protects the Defenseless
A gentleman, at his core, is a warrior and stands ready to jump into harms way to protect the innocent. Bravery, courage and fearlessness are the hallmarks of a gentleman. We stand up for the downtrodden, he protects women and children, and he risks his life to save the day! It was " Mighty Mouse" who said: "here I come to save the day," not Superman, or any other Superhero....

That's MIGHTY NOT mickey mouse!

So, how do happy couples do it?

Rules Every Marriage/Partnership Should Follow.

There are plenty of theories on what creates happy relationships, and how to have a happier marriage. You don’t have to look far to find a plethora of quotes by scientists, authors and many others who have advised us on how to create our very own happily forever  after.

I've have gathered some of the best bits of advice around to help you live your happiest life together…



FIND THE GOOD

“A happy marriage doesn’t mean you have a perfect spouse or a perfect marriage. It simply means you’ve chosen to look beyond the imperfections in both.” ~ Fawn Weaver



It is easy to overlook the little annoyances of our partner when we’re focused on the good qualities that attracted us in the first place. Stay focused on the good.

FIND YOUR HAPPY

“Marriage doesn’t make you happy–you make your marriage happy.” ~ Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott

Do something daily that makes you happy and your relationships will benefit. You can’t be happy in a relationship, if you aren’t happy with yourself.



FORGIVE THE IMPERFECTIONS

“A successful marriage isn’t the union of two perfect people. It’s that of two imperfect people who have learned the value of forgiveness and grace.” ~ Darlene Schacht

Forgiving is such an important ingredient in relationships. Holding on to things that make you angry keeps you in a negative space and prevent you from being your best self.

IT BEGINS WITH YOU

“Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.” ~ Barnett R. Brickner

Trying to change your partner will only backfire so focus on your contribution. Tackle only what you can handle.



MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE A PRIORITY

“Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get. It’s something you do. Its the way you love your partner every day.” ~ Barbara De Angelis

Stop looking at marriage as a thing and start thinking of it as part of you. Take care of it, nurture it and let it grow.

EXPRESS YOUR LOVE DAILY

“The greatest weakness of most humans is their hesitancy to tell others how much they love them while they’re still alive.” ~ Orlando Battista

Be open with your expressions of love.

SAVOR THE GOOD

“Marriage is like a fine wine, if tended properly, it just gets better with age.” ~ Unknown

Appreciating and enjoying the good in your relationship attracts more good and your relationship becomes stronger and better.

MAKE SELF-CARE A PRIORITY

“One of the greatest gifts you can give your husband is your own wholeness.” ~ Stormie Omartian

You can’t take care of your relationships if you aren’t taking care of yourself. Make it a priority.

LEARN FROM THE PAST AND DREAM OF THE FUTURE

“Marriage. It’s like a cultural hand-rail. It links folks to the past and guides them to the future.” ~ Diane Frolov

Find the lessons from the past and use them to help you shape your future.

LEARN SOMETHING NEW EVERY DAY

“A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.” ~ Pearl Buck

Learn to love learning. Learning is the key to growth and evolution. And growth is the key to strong relationships.

LIVE IN THE NOW

“Love like there’s no tomorrow, and if tomorrow comes, love again.” ~ Max Lucado

Stay focused on what really matters and don’t let life’s distractions keep you from living in the moment.

CELEBRATE THE BEST OF EACH OTHER

“In marriage, when we honor and celebrate each other, we’re freed up to be the best people we can be.” ~ Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott

Make every day a celebration of the good in your relationship and in each other.

BE KIND AND GENEROUS

“A good marriage is a contest of generosity.” ~ Diane Sawyer

Do something special every day. A little note, a surprise cup of coffee or simple phone call just to say hi, will go a long way to showing your partner how much you value them.

ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS

“Married couples who love each other tell each other a thousand things without talking.” ~ Chinese Proverb

Make sure your actions show your love. Often times what you do and how you do it says more than expressing your love with words.

INVEST YOUR TIME

“The more you invest in a marriage, the more valuable it becomes.” ~ Amy Grant

Nothing takes the place of spending time on the relationships that matter most.

GIVE A FREE PASS

“Make a list of ten of your spouse’s faults, which, for the sake of your marriage, you will always overlook. You can live with those ten.” ~ J & G Murphy

There are bound to be things that annoy you about your partner. Make a commitment to accept them and let them go.marriage-quote

IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS

“It’s the little things that keep us together. Those little things will make me love you forever.” ~ Sonia Schaad

It’s isn’t the grand gestures that say love, it is all the little things we do every day.

BE SUPPORTIVE

“Lean on each other’s strengths. Forgive each other’s weaknesses.” ~ Unknown

It is easy to be in a relationship when things are going well but it’s the tough times that strengthens the bond. Remember to be there, be supportive and ask for help when you need it.

MAINTENANCE MATTERS

“A relationship is like a house. When a light bulb burns out you don’t go and buy a new house, you change the lightbulb.” ~ Unknown

Making sure your relationship gets a regular care. It becomes more costly if you wait too long.

THINK FREELY

“If you want to know where your heart is, look to where your mind goes when it wanders.” ~ Unknown

Fostering your creative, thinking mind will keep you happy and thriving in your relationships.

Yes I'm your ride or die, honey!

BE COMMITTED

“Marriage succeeds only as lifetime commitment with no escape clauses.” ~ Dr. James Dobson

It’s simple really, you have to be in willing to go through the valleys as much as you are willing to go through the peaks. Put yourself all in and stay in it for the long haul.