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 Mistakes Men Make In Relationships


We men are simple creatures, or at least in our own minds. We want to Fix, Fight and F— and not necessarily in that order. We have a hard time processing our own emotions, much less the emotions of others. We tend to chug along like a train moving down our selected path, steadily and pulling a lot of weight behind us. Women, on the other hand, are pilots in their acrobatic aircraft. While they are not the most efficient mode of transportation, the ride is thrilling and exciting, to say the least. They are all over the place and revel in the twists and turns. We men revel in our strength and work while they zip around driven by their passions. Our biggest mistakes are in not understanding our partners and what they need from us.

MISTAKES MEN MAKE IN RELATIONSHIPS:

1. WE THINK WE’RE THE SEA AND NOT THE MOUNTAIN

Women are drawn to men who are solid, stable and safe, like a mountain. You can shelter under a mountain against a storm. The mountain is seemingly forever. ( I live on a hill with a view of the sea) The sea, on the other hand, is unpredictable, dangerous and constantly changing. Women tend to be like the sea in that it has depths are unknowable and their emotions are as ever-changing and irresistible as the tides. That is probably the reason women are drawn to them mountains and men are enchanted by the sea. When men act like the sea and not themselves, it throws women off and scares them with our dangerous unpredictability.

2. THEY TRY TO CONTROL THE WIND

Sea states are driven by the wind, and women are driven by their emotions. When you are on a ship at sea, you cannot control the wind, and when you are in a relationship with a woman, you cannot control her emotions either.... The best thing you can do is ride out the storm as best you can. If you try to sail against it, you will get pounded and broken. When a woman is in the throws of powerful emotions, it is best not to try and stop them or control them, but ride them out with her. Provide a sheltered harbor where she can seek refuge from her storms.

3. THEY ARE AFRAID

Women like to have safety and security. When men are afraid or insecure, they (women) can smell it. Whether we  (men) are afraid of commitment, afraid of trying new things, or afraid of her, they will know and be turned off by it. Everyone is afraid of something, but the key is to not let the fear show through. Courage is not the absence of fear, but the act of overcoming fear. If we are courageous, they will see it and be comforted in that. Women want a hero who will fight at their side, not a coward who hides behind them.

4. THEY SUCCUMB TO TARGET FIXATION

Men tend to focus like a laser on their objectives. We find a target, hunt it down and take it. We do not multi-task very well. We tend to fixate on that target to the exclusion of everything else. Whether that target is work, sports or something else, we can take our women for granted by not acknowledging them. Spread your attention around and make sure you are finding a balance between work and your partner. They need attention too, and if we don’t give it to them, they will find someone who does.

5. THEY INVEST TOO HEAVILY IN ONE PLACE

Similar to target fixation, we men tend to invest in the places where we will see the biggest payoff. That may be work, hobbies or something else. We need to have a diverse portfolio, if you will. We need to invest time and energy in our partner as well as our work and recreational pursuits. If women feel that we are too interested in work or hobbies, they will feel neglected and unwanted. So, spread the love around.

6. THEY ARE INDECISIVE

Be bold and decisive. Women love a man who can make a decision. To them it is a sign of strength and responsibility. When we refuse to make a decision, we are avoiding responsibility for that decision. Don’t put it off; make that decision and live by it. Being decisive is a sign of stability and responsibility. Both of these things are desirable by women because it means a safe heaven in their storms. I'll finish with this statement:

When a home is filled with love....

We are in calm waters together!