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You wanted a ring to show that We are in a committed relationship. I HOPE YOU are Happy!

 many couples  are struggling with differences in their personalities and values.

Opposites may attract initially, but over time it may become more of a problem.


The beginning stages of a relationship are all about guesswork: Is she into me? Was that a flirtatious text, or just a friendly one? Is he still seeing other people? IS She seeing someone she is not satisfied with?
AM I her type?
As the relationship progresses, the guesswork continues, but in a slightly different capacity: Will she still be into me in 20+ years? Will I still be into her? And those type of questions are a lot harder to answer. So hard to answer, in fact, that many couples guess wrong and wind up seeking out professional help for their problems.

Often times the problems that you start to have early on when you're dating that you might not pay attentiofI'n to, or you might brush them under the rug or say, ‘Oh, that's not so bad; we'll get through that,' then add 10 years of marriage into that, and all of a sudden all those things that were bothering you when you were dating seem to be major deal breakers … where you are considering: Do you want to go forward? Do you still want to be with this person?"

The way I see it is, opposites attract and with the passage of time, a lot of couples tend to resent the things that are opposite.

Allow me to use a hypothetical example of a couple in which one partner is highly social and outgoing and the other is more of a homebody. Initially those tendencies might complement each other, the couple might even say, "we balance each other out."

The problem is, over time "people get more set in their ways" and there's less opportunity for compromise or mutual understanding.

Pay attention to the differences between you and your partner, especially  when you first start dating

My B.A.D. observations echo those of Gretchen Rubin, an expert on happiness and habits and the author of, most recently, "The Four Tendencies." she explained that people with opposite personalities may initially gravitate toward each other, only to clash later on.
I think that there is importance to having similar personalities in a romantic relationship the outcome could be.....  mixed. One study, for example, of middle-aged and older couples, found that while personality similarity wasn't related to initial marital satisfaction, it predicted a downward trend in marital satisfaction over the next decades.

I  would ask if most couples who split because of clashes in personality or habits are aware that that's what they're fighting about — if they're aware that the very behaviors that drive them mad today are the same ones that drew them closer  decades earlier.

"Sometimes yes; sometimes no," Sometimes  one partner will say, "Yeah, but it's gotten worse over time," while the other partner says, "No, it hasn't."

As is typically the case with romantic relationships, there are no definitive answers or solutions here. But perhaps the greatest takeaway is not to ignore or shrug off your differences, so many couples do. It's not necessarily a sign that you're doomed to divorce, but it's worth paying attention to and having a conversation about these issues.

 Please note these days;

Young couples are fighting over  topics their parents never did. So you cant think my parents made it work.. why can't we? Times are different and you are NOT  your parents!